Communication Isn't the Problem... It's the Truth That Comes With It | NoAdvisory Podcast

Is communication really the problem—or does honest communication simply expose what's already broken?

In this episode of NoAdvisory Podcast, Charlotte's Most Dangerous Podcast Crew dives into one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships, friendships, family dynamics, and everyday life. We break down why honesty makes people uncomfortable, how communication reveals incompatibility, and why so many people confuse reassurance with truth.

From relationships and accountability to trust issues, trauma, and social media culture, this conversation is packed with raw, unfiltered perspectives that will challenge the way you think about communication.

Whether you're navigating relationships, friendships, family conflict, dating, or personal growth, this episode delivers honest conversations that everyone can relate to.

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What's up, freaks and geeks? It's Lex Rated.

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It's your boy SwishJ C though. What's up, nerds and herbs? If you don't know, now you know. Um, nigga. I do poetry.

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You feel me?

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You said it looked like water, it'd be moving like water, like her shit has been.

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Communication As A Mirror

SPEAKER_03 2:44

Alright, so like I said earlier, my name is Lex Rated. And my segment is called Trigger. So now y'all know I'm not here to tell you what you want to hear. I'm here to challenge your thinking. And I've spent years studying human behavior, and one thing I've learned is people blame communication for problems that it didn't create. Communication is like turning on the lights. If your house is dirty, the lights didn't make it any dirtier. The lights just showed you what was already there. And I think we should use communication issues as an excuse because, or we shouldn't. And I think we shouldn't use communication issues as an excuse for the truth just because the truth makes it a lot harder. You don't I'll get I'm gonna tell you. I got you. So everybody says we just have communication problems, do you? Or did somebody finally tell you the truth? Because those are two completely different things. Communication didn't create the disrespect, communication exposed it. Communication didn't create the inner.

SPEAKER_01 4:15

Come on, Desk. You got it, Des.

SPEAKER_03 4:19

I didn't want to fuck it up. That's why I'm like, wait. No, go ahead. In combat incombality.

SPEAKER_01 4:25

That's definitely not it.

SPEAKER_03 4:26

In combat in a incapability? Thank you. Why the fuck? What? Was that it? No way that was it. No.

SPEAKER_01 4:34

No.

SPEAKER_03 4:35

It's capital.

SPEAKER_01 4:37

Incompatibility?

SPEAKER_03 4:38

Yes, incompatibility. The P is throwing me off. But you could have been ability.

SPEAKER_01 4:42

That's what she said.

SPEAKER_03 4:43

Yeah, but compatible. Yeah, too. No. That's the real word, Jazz. Never mind. Capable. Capable. Okay. Thank you. It's two different ones. Like if you're compatible with somebody, or you're capable of having communication, but that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about you being compatible, compatible with somebody. Communication exposes it. Communication didn't create the lack of effort. Communication exposed that lack of truth. People don't hate poor communication, they hate uncomfortable information. So shut up. I know.

SPEAKER_06 5:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 5:29

All right, so let's talk relationships real quick. I feel like I always bring shit like this up, but how many times has somebody said you've changed? No. I just stopped pretending. Or I never knew you felt that way because you never asked. Or worse, you asked, but you weren't listening. How many relationships ended? How many relationships ended because somebody changed? Or how many ended because somebody finally became who they were? I mean who they are, and they were honest.

SPEAKER_01 6:07

Never liked the bitch from the beginning.

SPEAKER_03 6:09

Really?

SPEAKER_01 6:12

Facts. Just dealt with her.

SPEAKER_03 6:15

But that that sounds crazy. That's like that does sound crazy. That's light. I think for me, well, go ahead. Like if you don't, if you don't like a person and you don't like, like, you would just deal with it. Like, like they change their behavior if you don't like who they are now.

SPEAKER_01 6:29

I love everything you do for me, and I know you genuinely love me, but I don't like you as a person. We're not, we don't mesh.

SPEAKER_03 6:38

So like and love is different for you, of course.

SPEAKER_01 6:40

100,000 percent.

SPEAKER_03 6:41

Yeah. You can still love somebody and not like them. I get that. I get that. Alright, so people say I want to be honest. No, you don't. You just want reassurance. Because sec because the second somebody tells you I don't love you anymore, suddenly honesty becomes disrespect. I don't find you attractive. I don't trust you. I don't want kids. I voted differently from you. I don't agree with your lifestyle. People don't want honesty, they want honesty that benefits them, that strokes their ego. So psychology actually has a name for this, and I feel like I've said it like three or four times on here. It's called cognitive dissonance, and it's when new information clashes with what you already believe about yourself or somebody else. So your brain gets uncomfortable, and instead of changing your belief, a lot of people attack the messenger. That's why people say it's not what you said, but it's how you said it. Sometimes that's true, sometimes, but sometimes your tone just became the easiest thing to criticize in that moment. It's easier to critique delivery than to dismantle the truth. So God. Good job, Chad. So families do this all the time. Somebody says, I don't like coming around. I was treated differently. You were a bad person. And the family immediately says, Why are you bringing up OG? Because communication threatens family roles. The moment somebody speaks honestly, the entire system gets uncomfortable. Everybody has an intricate role in their family. The peacemaker, the favorite, the problem child, the responsible one. And me, the black sheep. So how many families are actually close? How many are just avoiding hard conversations? Like those family secrets, the ones that everybody knows about, but the person that it's about. Friendships. This one is always a nasty topic to discuss because I feel like when people say this friendship is one-sided, instead of asking why, people get defensive. I've been busy, you're tripping, or you're doing too much. So now I'm the bad guy. Notice what happens. The conversation immediately becomes defending yourself instead of understanding the other person. Defensiveness is communication too. It usually tells you exactly how the truth has landed. Whether or not a person is listening, listening to understand, or just listening to respond.

Honesty Versus Reassurance

SPEAKER_03 10:29

And I was, I don't want to do the topics, even though Destiny is not here. I mean, not topics, politics. I'm gonna skip over that. So one of my most favorite things to talk about on the podcast is social media. People always say, Why didn't you tell me privately? Sometimes, that's a fair question, and sometimes it isn't. Because some people only want private accountability so they can ignore it privately. How many apologies are actually because someone is sorry, and how many happen because they just got caught? That that's really big. I feel like if the um if the disrespect was public, the apology, like the apology should be public. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 11:18

Yeah, it should be just as loud.

SPEAKER_03 11:19

Yeah, I feel like it should definitely match energy.

SPEAKER_04 11:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 11:25

And what uh uh I don't really give a fuck either way. This is just make sure it's genuine.

SPEAKER_03 11:31

I get that.

SPEAKER_01 11:32

Make sure if you disrespect me publicly, I'm not tripping if you apologize and and and you feel me, if you don't do it publicly, like as long as it's genuine, like you feel me? Like, I ain't tripping. I don't really give a fuck.

SPEAKER_04 11:45

That's a decent thing. Yeah, and that is how they go about it. Yeah, their words and everything, too.

SPEAKER_03 11:50

But maybe that's because we're women, yeah, and we're a little bit more emotional than men. Yeah, a little. And I'm a cancer. That's accountability.

SPEAKER_01 12:01

I'll try that.

SPEAKER_03 12:02

Yeah, I got to sometimes. So when people say we grew apart, did you really, or did one of your uh or did one of you finally stop tolerating behavior? You used to excuse because boundaries feel like betrayal nowadays, especially to people who benefited from you not having any. Communication doesn't end relationships, boundaries expose the ones that were never healthy to begin with.

SPEAKER_01 12:31

I agree with that.

SPEAKER_03 12:34

Silence also communicates, avoiding the conversation communicates, leaving somebody on red communicates, changing the subject communicates, and body language communicates. If somebody has to keep guessing how you feel, you're already communicating and you're not just doing it to be honest. I think we're blaming communication for things it never did. Communication didn't create liars, it exposed them. It doesn't create incompatibility, it exposes it. It doesn't destroy relationships, sometimes it reveals sometimes it reveals there, sometimes it reveals there wasn't much to save in the first place. So here's what I want to leave everybody with this week and be look pretty much the topic of conversation. If telling the truth destroyed your relationship, did the truth destroy it, or did the truth expose something that was already broken? Because maybe communication isn't the problem, maybe it's like a mirror, and not everybody is ready to look at it all. So that's my conversation that I want to have, or what I want to hear or talk to other people, or my my host this week on communication. If telling the truth destroys your relationship, did the truth destroy it, or did the truth expose something that was already broken?

SPEAKER_06 14:17

The truth destroyed it.

SPEAKER_03 14:19

Why do you think the truth destroyed it when you just said you don't care? Yeah. I think I don't I wouldn't say destroyed it because I'm big on, you know, just being authentic and just, you know, just from the beginning. Um if you're not upholding anything, you don't have anything to fall off from, or be like, oh, damn, I forgot I said this, or whatever the case is, just be honest and forthcoming. But I think that people avoid the truth because of past traumas, and that's a whole nother conversation. But it's like, so you can't be forthcoming because of something that you either went through or a way that someone reacted when you told them the truth, which that shouldn't affect how you go forward, but for a lot of people it has. Like, if I tell you the truth, then you're not gonna move this way or you're not gonna believe me, or you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_04 15:04

Like, mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_03 15:05

I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 15:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 15:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 15:10

Even with what you said, a lot of people are like afraid of the reactions of people too. Like, mm-hmm, like I don't want to tell you the truth because oh, you might get overly mad, or like you might go off, or they just avoid it.

SPEAKER_03 15:22

Yeah, a perfect example of that is when you see somebody's partner is like cheating on them, uh-huh, and you want to tell the person, but you just know that they either aren't gonna believe you to begin with, or they're not gonna leave that person. Yeah, so it's like you're being honest, and you being honest can have your friend looking at you or that person looking at you like, damn, yeah, I never knew you were like that. So honesty sometimes exposes shit that you didn't see to begin with. And I personally I prefer people be honest, be honest up front, please. So I don't have to like sit back and guess and wonder if it's the truth.

SPEAKER_01 16:08

You know, shit ain't gonna come out to the arguments, though.

SPEAKER_03 16:11

That's what yeah, that that is a fact. Or when you drunk, sometimes shit comes out when you drunk.

SPEAKER_01 16:16

Oh yeah, shit gonna come out when you drunk.

SPEAKER_03 16:18

But like, if I if if if I hear the truth up front, me hearing it again isn't going to affect me. I mean, I shouldn't hear it again, but like in the event that I hear it again from somebody else outside of somebody that I have a friendship with, yeah, it won't hurt as much. If it does hurt, because it might not hurt, it might just be like a like damn, I didn't think about that. So I just I wanted to talk about communication this week because I know I've spoken about it in the past, but I talk more about like effective communication. And this time I wanted to talk about communication and trust, primarily because just because you don't want to hear something from somebody doesn't mean that it shouldn't be heard. Sometimes people have to say shit in order for you to realize something. And I know that sounds crazy just slowing it down because duh, but like what I mean by that is sometimes people have to say something a certain way for you to be like, oh, okay. Yeah. And if that person might not have said it as harsh or brought up the right thing, you might have never exactly, exactly. So I'm

Family Roles And Hard Conversations

SPEAKER_03 17:36

always here for communication and be be truthful up front. Don't make me have to guess, don't have me out here struggling. Like it's crazy to watch people struggle just because you didn't want to communicate something to them.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Where's the fun in that though?

SPEAKER_04 17:50

I mean, I get it. Life does get a little hectic. There's fun in being healthy.

SPEAKER_01 17:54

Yeah, there's no fun in communicating all the time.

SPEAKER_04 17:59

Yes, it is. If you like the person you're communicating with, I need some mystique.

SPEAKER_03 18:03

I don't think so, friend.

SPEAKER_01 18:05

I need some mystique. I'm the same for me.

SPEAKER_04 18:08

I feel like you're over there making up words, but I just don't feel like I hate over-communicating.

SPEAKER_01 18:13

It's a childhood trauma thing. I don't I don't like having to tell you where I'm at, where I'm going. I love my independence to the core that I don't feel like I'd communicate. As long as you know I'm healthy, I'm alive, I'm safe, that's all you need to know.

SPEAKER_03 18:27

I think it's like maybe you haven't found a person that you want to communicate with in that aspect. Because it's not about keeping tabs, but I think that if you're with someone that makes you want to be like, let me see what my girl is doing, or just let her know what I'm up to. It's not even about keeping tabs on where you at or what you're doing, but just, hey, baby, I was thinking about you, whatever I'm out with the like, I don't know. It's different for everyone, but don't look at it like that. Obviously, if she's forcing you to do those things, yeah, that bitch toxic as fuck. Nah, somebody that you want to do those things.

SPEAKER_01 18:57

It's not even like relationship shit, it's just with anybody. Like, if somebody coming right now, like, where you at? What you about to do? Like, why? Why you I give a fuck what you got going on right now. I get that. They was trying to sit back and they was trying to chill with you. I get that.

SPEAKER_03 19:14

Somebody done set you up? Because that sounds like some setup backdoor shit.

SPEAKER_01 19:18

Nah, just like just not having, like, just being younger, like as a kid, I was just like, I had no freedom. So I just don't like nobody. Look at these air concessions. Right. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 19:33

This shit works, man. No advice.

SPEAKER_01 19:35

My little Napoleon complex, in a sense.

SPEAKER_03 19:37

Were you like a PK, like a preacher? Like, were you in a real religious?

SPEAKER_01 19:40

My grandmother was just like real protective.

SPEAKER_03 19:43

Ah, okay.

SPEAKER_01 19:44

That just led to me just like.

SPEAKER_03 19:45

I love that for you. I love that for you. But to Jasmine's point, maybe you just haven't found somebody that you want to a thousand percent communicate everything to. Because you either trust them enough to take the truth if you say some shit that's like hurtful or will bruise their ego. And those type of people are like one in a million nowadays. Like, how many people on the planet? Like one in a billion.

SPEAKER_01 20:13

I think back then, people don't want to hear the truth. It was easier to tell your other half the truth back in the day. Nowadays, it's just like it feels like you're attacking them.

SPEAKER_03 20:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 20:22

That is true, but you gotta find your person. Yeah, that's why I keep just saying, You're not planning to date the whole world. You need to find one person that understands you and what you're saying. I get you.

SPEAKER_03 20:32

And if they don't communicate the way you do, you kind of do it.

SPEAKER_04 20:34

You're not gotta communicate with them if they're not hearing you. Go to somebody that was willing to hear you. That's a good point. I mean, you don't gotta keep seeing it through. Yeah, you can just be like, okay, this isn't gonna work for me.

SPEAKER_03 20:46

All right.

SPEAKER_04 20:47

Keep pushing.

SPEAKER_03 20:48

That's true. And that goes for all types of relationships, but I'm gonna close it out. My name is Lex Rated, and this was triggered. Um, if you were triggered, I did my job. You right, you right. I do need guns alone. Wait, wait, wait. Gun sound. We didn't get out of the jazz. I looked last time when now we were. Oh no, wait.

SPEAKER_01 21:13

Shout out to Cleo, just walk in the building.

Public Accountability And Social Media

SPEAKER_03 21:16

Oh, okay. Okay, the light word. All right, you guys, you already know it's the segment where we make you a little bit smarter. The words of the week with Jasmine like the flower. And I don't got CEO over here cheating today, so I could sit comfortably.

SPEAKER_01 21:31

Fair game, fair game today.

SPEAKER_03 21:34

The first word that we're gonna get into today is an adjective. And this word is aristic. Aristic is spelled E-R I S T I C. Aristic. I'm not cheating, I promise. Aristic? It sounds like aristocrat. Aristocrat. And I know, but it's not. Yeah, but it's not it's not the same thing. No, it's so. But what is okay, you said it's a little bit different. What is, come on, y'all. Let's work together. I feel like what is aristocrat mean? What does aristocrat mean? That's like aristocrat? You asking me? Yeah, yeah. That's different.

SPEAKER_01 22:13

Aristic sound like it sounds like somebody that's like, uh it's spelled differently, so it has nothing to do with it. Oh, damn. It just sounds like that.

SPEAKER_03 22:21

E-R-I, S T-I-C. You got root words. It sounds I do, yeah. So this comes from the Greek word iris, meaning strife. So like a bitter conflict, disagreement.

SPEAKER_01 22:36

Bitter conflict, disagreement.

SPEAKER_03 22:38

My guess is it is a type of argument. Okay. What does somebody else think?

SPEAKER_01 22:46

An intense debate?

SPEAKER_03 22:48

It could be. Yeah, it could be. That's pretty much what I said. Kind of disagreement.

SPEAKER_01 22:51

Yeah, I try to reword it.

SPEAKER_05 22:53

Is it somebody that that's ready to be combative? Mmm.

SPEAKER_03 22:57

Yeah, all problematic ass nick. That already comes into the situation. Negative name. Um, yep, in other words, so pretty much the definition to this is relating to an argument for the sake of winning rather than finding the truth. So they're giving you that push. What's that word? Anarchism. This is auristic. So I would say in a sentence, he or she's an heuristic person, never wanting answers, only victory. Mm-hmm. So it doesn't even matter what's said or whatever. I know a bitch like that.

SPEAKER_01 23:30

She just wanted to bait. I said the sky blue, I say it's blue. That bitch is gonna say it's red. I know a bitch like that.

SPEAKER_03 23:35

E Ragnarok, S-T-I-C. Pussy though. You want to use it in a sentence, Seven?

SPEAKER_05 23:41

I don't know. I was gonna say, like, them type of people like only listen to respond. They're not really listening to you.

SPEAKER_03 23:49

They listen, they just they just listen to trigger you. Facts. All these words are having to do with communication in some way. So this other word is Don't look at me. I feel like I misspelled that word. How you spell it? Never mind. E-R-I-E-L, later. I'm not gonna. Yeah, I'm sorry. Apa psiapisis. Uh why am I fucking stuck? I said a match time. No, not applesauce. Appa siapisis. Aposiapisis, which is the nine. Now. Apposiapis. Donna, you treat you. No, she's texting. She's texting. I was being nosy. Apposiapisis.

SPEAKER_01 24:30

Apposiapisis. Three words. Okay. Compound. Triple compound. Triple compound.

SPEAKER_03 24:36

It's spelled A. I think he might be talking about syllable. It's spelled A-P-O-S-I-O. Uh-huh. What's the root word? That's a big thing. The root word. It comes from a Greek word. Applesiapisis. Same shit. Meaning becoming silent.

SPEAKER_01 24:53

Mmm. Say the word one more time.

SPEAKER_03 24:57

Applesiapisis. That means becoming silent, or is that the whole word? That's the whole word. Apposiapisis. I just know. The Greek word is pronounced applesia.

SPEAKER_01 25:08

That's somebody who becomes a mom and he takes a job too seriously. So we leave it as a lifestyle.

SPEAKER_03 25:13

Repeat that one more time for the viewer.

SPEAKER_01 25:15

That's somebody who become a mom for a job and then he liked he likes it so much he ends up doing it as a lifestyle. He takes it too seriously.

SPEAKER_03 25:21

Like a stay-at-home dad? No, I think he's. Are you saying what?

SPEAKER_01 25:26

He become a mime. Like he becomes a mime.

SPEAKER_03 25:29

I thought he was a mom.

SPEAKER_01 25:32

Wow. I was like, he ended up liking it so much, he takes it so serious, he becomes an Ekopala apple apple cider leeches. Whatever you think.

SPEAKER_03 25:42

Yeah, apple cider something. Apple cider pieces. Apple cider pieces. Does anybody else want to take any guesses?

SPEAKER_05 25:48

We got two reasons to be quiet like that. Like, kind of like how you said, like, uh shifting your focus makes you be quiet like that. Or like being sneaky. Being sneaky? Okay. Or that's the only two ways. Like, if your focus changed you to be that, or like nothing I said.

SPEAKER_03 26:08

No, hell no. Either one of those, even still. You said two ways. This word is basically intentionally breaking on, breaking off a sentence before finishing for a dramatic. So yeah, like or if you you know with your mom in the store, and she's like, you know what? Say something else that I'm gonna Oh yeah, that pop. Like you fill in the blank. Yeah, you fill in the blank. Don't play with me. Don't play with me. I love it. Oh, like boy if you don't. Yeah, yeah. I use boy if you don't, yeah. Because every time I say it, I see the meme in my head. I know rappers that do that.

SPEAKER_01 26:45

What rapper do that? I love that word. He'll leave a bar open for you to finish the bar. Type shit.

SPEAKER_03 26:55

P Solo? P Solo, Uncle, whatever the fuck he be saying that one. I like that word. He the bat battle rapper, baby face rapy doing that too. Alright. Apple cider. Yeah. That one. The next word is gonna be a noun, and it's circumlocution. Circle, circumlocution. That sounds like you trim it some lock. Spelled C-I-C-U-M L-O-C-U-T-I gotta guess. Is it when you cut somebody off in the middle of a sentence? Oh, this is communication.

SPEAKER_01 27:30

No. Oh, damn. It sounded like a finisher move.

SPEAKER_03 27:33

I was confident how confident.

SPEAKER_01 27:35

It sounded like a finisher move or Mortal Kombat.

SPEAKER_03 27:37

Circle lucky move. Circum Lucusion.

SPEAKER_01 27:40

Where did my day?

SPEAKER_05 27:42

Sound like remove something.

SPEAKER_03 27:44

To remove something? No. Yeah, yeah, because the circumcision is a good thing. That's why I said cut somebody off because I saw a circum. The root word is comes from a Latin word circum, which is around. Wow. Loqui, meaning to speak. We were way off. Very circumlocution. Um I have another guest. No, when you I think it's it to go ahead, Seven.

SPEAKER_05 28:13

Is it to like give you a runaround?

SPEAKER_03 28:15

Pretty much. Yeah, I was gonna say to talk in circles to say the same thing. Pretty much exactly what it is. So it's basically using many unnecessary words instead of speaking directly.

SPEAKER_05 28:27

Yeah, the circuit mean indirect in this way. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03 28:30

Because you keep going around and around. Oh, like you're going to something like that.

Trust, Trauma, And Over-Communicating

SPEAKER_03 28:34

Yeah. So I would say, please stop decorating your lies with pure circumlocution. Please just stop. Stop. Cut it. We got that one. These are some good words. Like I feel like I can use all of these if I if I remember how to pronounce it. Yeah. If I can pronounce it without fucking it up, I would yeah, I would kill it. I still don't know. I know the first one was like. It don't sound like artistic. So the last word is gonna be a doozy. This is also a noun. And the wordsie? It was? You know what a doozy is? Me too. Me too. Okay, this word is grandiloquence. Grandiloquence is spelled G-R A-N-D-I-L-O-Q-U-E-N-C-E. Grandiloquence. That's in the dictionary? This is in the dictionary. This is crazy. Grandiloquence.

SPEAKER_01 29:39

Is that what you get your words from?

SPEAKER_03 29:40

Grandiloquence. I get them from my brain. No, I'm lying. I'm learning right along with y'all. So yeah, I just do a little bit of research. I got like a list of words that I want to I'm just I'm just amazed at like the type of words that are in the dictionary. I feel like there's no way I've never read a dictionary.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

Of course you have.

SPEAKER_03 29:57

Grandiloquence. I got a dictionary and I got a thesaurus in my face. You got a thesaurus too? Okay.

SPEAKER_06 30:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:03

I want I'm I wanted to have both of them. Thesaurus is worn out, honey. Reading a dictionary isn't hard, but it would be nice to know all the words in the dictionary. I can learn a lot of the words in the dictionary.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

You have to flash cards.

SPEAKER_03 30:15

It's a lot to memorize. Yeah, that that's why it's interesting. It was okay. So listen, the root word to grandiloquence is comes from a Latin word, grandis, which is great, and loqui, which is to speak. Local speak. Uh is it is it like slang? Not really, no. Okay. Important speech. Just think of the grand part of it, grandiloquence. So is it making a speech? Like a grand entrance. No, but the important game? What do you want to say? So what do you want to guess?

SPEAKER_01 30:56

Grandriloquence?

SPEAKER_03 30:59

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 31:00

No, no, what's the word for grandiloquence? Grandiloquence.

SPEAKER_03 31:05

You were like rolled off your tongue. It was it, yeah. It's a noun. No, he said what's the root words again. Oh, the root word. Oh, okay. Grandiloquine. Alright, so basically the word is what the fuck I wrote. Uh oh. Oh, um speech that is speech that is lofty, pompous, or extravagantly impressive.

SPEAKER_01 31:30

That's what I was about to say.

SPEAKER_03 31:31

How did you say, you know, I was about to say that? It's not a speech, but it's basically words. Words that are lofty, pompous, or extravagant. So it's like his grandiloquence fooled everyone until the results were due. I can dig it. Damn, which results?

SPEAKER_01 31:46

She's saying damn.

SPEAKER_03 31:46

Yeah, like flamboyant, like just using big ass words, coming off extravagant and impressive. Mm-hmm. So all right, but I wanted to do something to love today, and I wanted to put this all into a paragraph. Okay, all right. So the paragraph says the meeting wasn't productive, it was auristic. Competition disguised as collaboration. One person relied on circumlocation. What the fuck is the word again? Wow. Circumlocution to avoid accountability. Another filled the room with empty grandiloquence to sound like a visionary. When someone finally challenged them, the response was if you think that that's bad, wait until the sudden apposia pieces left everyone wondering whether the silence was strategy, intimidation, or just the loudest statement of the day. I was dropping. I'ma be honest. After you said uh wait until tonight, I just immediately went to the song. If you think you're lonely. So like I completely stopped listening. Yes, I stopped listening after that. I was I kept singing that fucking song. That was a good paragraph, though, because I feel like you use those words fluently. I guess. Why thank you, darling? Well, that was words of the week, you guys, with Jasmine like the flower. Now go be the smartest at brunch. We'll be we're all if we could remember how to pronounce these words, yeah, we would really be like the smartest at brunch. Absolutely. Every time.

SPEAKER_01 33:29

Yeah. I'm trying to get better at pronouncing triple compound words. I'm trying to get better.

SPEAKER_03 33:34

I don't think it's a triple compound. It's not.

SPEAKER_01 33:35

It was a triple compound.

SPEAKER_03 33:37

Thank you. Everybody. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:39

I love the definitions that it all did. I love I love the definitions and the words.

SPEAKER_03 33:44

You switch. They were all like a theme.

SPEAKER_01 33:46

They remind me of my ex.

SPEAKER_03 33:48

Is that good?

SPEAKER_01 33:50

That's bad.

SPEAKER_04 33:51

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 33:52

But the words was good, though. The ex is bad. But the words was good.

SPEAKER_04 33:58

Okay. Well. It's your girl Diamond All About Me.

SPEAKER_01 34:03

Oh shit.

SPEAKER_04 34:06

And here we are with Unhinged Healing.

SPEAKER_01 34:08

Here we are.

SPEAKER_04 34:09

Um, since we're talking about communication, I did want to kind of jump off of Lex and talk about how clarity does not bring comfort. So somebody telling you the things that you need to hear is not gonna be what you want to hear all the time. So I think a lot of ways we get mixed up in that is in like relationships. And we just tend to get caught up in our words and just whatever we're doing. Um when it comes to somebody telling you the truth, it's their truth, and you don't get to dictate how they react to anything or just how they feel about anything. When you're having conversations with people, it's their truth. So when they give you that clarity, it might not be what you want to hear, but you have to accept it because it's their truth. And even if you don't want to accept it, it's still their truth. Okay, okay. Oh but also I feel like now when we are talking to somebody, we want them to tell us the truth, and we don't want to get mad. Oh, thank y'all. Y'all want me to dare my face on the princess. But you know, when we are talking to somebody, you know, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your significant other, whoever it is, and you wanna have that face-to-face, and you just wanna hear what they have to say, just listen. You can't, you can't don't put too much on yourself to not get mad or anything. You're gonna have your emotions no matter what. You might get upset, you might want to cry, you might not feel away, but understand that once you get the answer you're looking for, it might not be what you want or what you wanted to hear. You don't got a lash out, it's okay, it's just communication. That's all we're doing here. And I also did want to point out that soon we'll be doing um hot topics on my nightcap on YouTube. Um so get ready for that. Um, we will start premiering that on Monday, July 6th. Period. Yeah, yeah. Um, we'll be posting that about 8 or 9 p.m. Eastern time. Um, and you'll just be hearing all the topics that's been going on daily. Like today, how we proposing um what is that building? The Empire State Building. At the top of it? At the top of it. That's fire.

SPEAKER_01 37:14

Shout out to them. It was romantic. They should have gone all the way and just started.

SPEAKER_02 37:17

Oh, that's that's what those two people was up there at when they're gonna do it. Wow. I thought I thought they're a little like a big thing. I thought they were protesting some shit.

SPEAKER_01 37:26

Yeah. I'm sure they said they should have been up there. She should have been up there giving them head of sound. Yeah, they have a little Netflix. They do?

SPEAKER_03 37:34

They came out in 2022. So it was a publicity.

SPEAKER_01 37:38

Would you would you want your pussy on the top of the Empire State building?

SPEAKER_03 37:40

It was Gallum, and they get they get arrested in some of these places because they're getting into places that are. I'm sure they got arrested after this most recent one. And when I'm watching the Netflix, I don't like this like daredevil shit. Would you?

SPEAKER_01 37:52

I don't need a pussy like that, top of the Empire State Building? No.

SPEAKER_03 37:57

Put your harness, goddamn it. No,

Words Of The Week On Communication

SPEAKER_03 37:59

like this.

SPEAKER_01 38:00

Nope.

SPEAKER_03 38:00

Y'all up there? Why not? You might as well be a harness. Hell no. That's romantic. I I do not like heights. Nothing about heights is exciting for me. I would immediately, like, my soul would have left my body and walked down.

SPEAKER_01 38:16

Y'all up there with the vultures. Y'all gonna get pecked and all that. Nope. I can't do that. Horrible.

SPEAKER_03 38:21

Hold up. I can't do it.

SPEAKER_01 38:22

I would have a panic attack. They're gonna get pecked by the vultures.

SPEAKER_02 38:27

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 38:27

I don't think vultures would be up that high. Whatever that bird is that be flying that motherfucking high.

SPEAKER_03 38:32

But like that high to be, yeah, damn. Well, it is it really that tall? How tall is it? I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 38:40

The Empire State Building, my name. Yeah, how tall is it? Stop playing, bro. That's like 40,000 feet.

unknown 38:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:46

Oh, it's 40,000? 45,000.

SPEAKER_02 38:49

14. 14, 15.

SPEAKER_03 38:52

You are way off. So you lie. Yes. He yo, this nigga said it like he knew something.

SPEAKER_01 38:59

I said 14. No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_03 39:01

No, you didn't. No, why are you lying? It's my Brooklyn.

SPEAKER_01 39:04

I said 14.

SPEAKER_03 39:05

14? I didn't say 40. Anyway, that's really high just to propose. It's cute or whatever.

SPEAKER_01 39:11

That's romantic.

SPEAKER_03 39:12

No, it's not. I don't think so. I don't think so. That's dangerous.

SPEAKER_04 39:16

That is dangerous. Imagine saying yes and then falling.

SPEAKER_03 39:19

Oh my god. I can't imagine that. Like I'm gonna have nightmares.

SPEAKER_01 39:24

They philanthropists.

SPEAKER_03 39:25

I'm gonna have nightmares. I do y'all fall in your sleep?

unknown 39:28

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 39:28

Like, and you like wake up. No. You don't wake up. You don't fall in your sleep. No, I'm not talking about like standing up, like sleepwalking. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about like when you dream and you're falling, do you fall out of your sleep?

SPEAKER_01 39:42

No.

SPEAKER_04 39:43

I don't be falling in my dreams. What y'all be doing? I be on the ground.

SPEAKER_01 39:48

Yo. Yeah, I don't have shit happen. That feel real, but nah. Just you never fell out of your dream. You know, they say they say nobody knows what happened when you die. That's why when you die in your dream, you'd wake up.

SPEAKER_03 39:59

Anyways. Well, just K went K have you fell in your sleep and woke up? Am I lying, K? So Jasmine, you did it. K, you did. Seven, have you? Did have you ever fall asleep, like in your dreaming, and you fall off of something and you fall out of your sleep, like you wake up. And you feel like you're falling.

SPEAKER_01 40:21

Yeah, nigga, don't. Ain't nobody asking you about the other stuff, Seven.

SPEAKER_02 40:24

No.

SPEAKER_01 40:26

Is the itch or no? I'm talking about falling. Nigga be right here at the table.

SPEAKER_03 40:32

So only only about I think like three or four other guys been in a grocery store in your dream and then you just see a toilet. What? And you did what? Stay away from the toilet in your dream. Oh my god, because if you pee, stay away from the toilet. Oh no, no. I don't ever. I don't ever pee in my dreams. I be doing too much shit.

SPEAKER_01 40:51

If y'all peed on yourself as an adult in the back. No, nobody will admit to that.

SPEAKER_03 40:56

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_01 40:58

I mean on a drunk night?

SPEAKER_03 41:00

No.

SPEAKER_04 41:01

I'm a laugh to niggas drinking on my cell.

SPEAKER_03 41:03

I was about to lie and say I peed on myself before, but I didn't pee on myself.

SPEAKER_04 41:07

It's really if you can't. I feel like it depends on what outfit you. I've done it.

SPEAKER_03 41:12

I'm really niggas. I just be like, you know it. It gets worse like when you get closer to the toilet. Alright, alright, all right. Swish. You about to turn his mic down. No, let me smoke.

unknown 41:32

No.

SPEAKER_03 41:33

Domin, what what about I know I didn't watch the BT Awards? Did anybody watch the BT Awards? Damn. Nah, I seen Highlights of Justin Juicy.

SPEAKER_01 41:43

I just seen Highlights of Juicey.

SPEAKER_04 41:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 41:45

Wow, that's crazy. So niggas, niggas don't watch the BT Awards?

SPEAKER_01 41:49

I didn't watch the BT Awards in 10 years.

SPEAKER_04 41:51

They just not as loud about it no more. You kind of found out that they didn't promote it.

SPEAKER_03 41:57

I definitely didn't know it was coming up. I know it comes once a year, but I damn sure wasn't looking forward to it. I saw Drewski doing his promotion and stuff. I stopped watching it. So legit nobody watched it.

SPEAKER_04 42:10

Been watching Lil Island though.

SPEAKER_01 42:12

It dwindled.

SPEAKER_04 42:13

You've been watching who? Love Island.

SPEAKER_01 42:15

I don't know who that is.

SPEAKER_03 42:18

Y'all sound like KC. I don't know. I mean, love, I I I've never watched Love Island.

SPEAKER_01 42:24

They just the episodes come out too fast for me. I've never watched it when it's over with at the end or some shit.

SPEAKER_03 42:29

I watch every now and then. I watched up until like the couples moved out in um Love is Blind. I'm not on the first season. I got to that part and was like, nah, fuck this. Yeah, it was different.

SPEAKER_01 42:40

When is Ray J Version coming back? That's what we want to see.

SPEAKER_03 42:43

Love Cabin. I can't agree with you on that one. But I I I didn't watch it, but I know this is like what the second season. It's like the fifth season. Are you guys gonna watch the season that I'm gonna be on with the David Show? We're shooting soon. Yeah, I'm definitely gonna watch it. Damn right on watching it. I'm definitely gonna watch. I I watch it a five. I I I will give you $20 if you just randomly say my name and make it a part of what you're talking about. Just random Lex. Lex. You gotta look dead at the camera like they do in the office.

SPEAKER_04 43:13

Oh my God.

SPEAKER_03 43:14

So I know you're talking to me. I I guarantee you they're gonna edit it out. So what's the but it would be really funny if tell me about the dating show.

SPEAKER_01 43:21

I want to hear about the dating show.

SPEAKER_03 43:23

I don't want to say too much, but it's just basically like me meeting a couple different guys and then choosing who I'm interested in, letting the other go, and then going to dates and stuff and getting to know someone.

SPEAKER_01 43:35

For the love of jazz.

SPEAKER_03 43:36

Not really, but yeah.

SPEAKER_01 43:38

That's what it's sounding like. I mean, no.

SPEAKER_03 43:41

It's other people gonna be there. Yeah, it's not she's not gonna be the only one.

SPEAKER_01 43:45

Where do I sign up? Where do I sign up? It's too late. You already missed the sign up. Wow.

SPEAKER_03 43:50

Langston, you got too many holes for me. I ain't putting it.

SPEAKER_01 43:52

Langston got too many. I might just come and raise the ratings, though. Like I could come too many. I mean, yeah, yeah. That's the only reason they will have you. That's what Natalie does. The people. People just don't want to just. Keep me there. Like, you feel me? Everybody got a spy on the show. You feel me? See what nigga really fuck with you or everything. You feel me? Like, you really go on a reality TV show for love, Swish. Never. That's what we talk about. But yeah, at the same time, yes, because it'd be some reality bitches that I see, I'd be like, damn. I will wife, huh? She is bad as fuck.

SPEAKER_06 44:24

Swish, these are love.

SPEAKER_01 44:27

You know. Yeah, I love love.

SPEAKER_03 44:33

And yeah.

SPEAKER_04 44:35

Anyway. We're gonna go ahead and uh get to Swish. Yeah. Is it for potting bars?

SPEAKER_01 44:41

Before we get to Potting Bars. Oh Lord. I just wanna say RP to them thousand people that died in France.

SPEAKER_03 44:48

What?

SPEAKER_01 44:48

Because of the heat wave that's going on. It's a heat wave out there right now. A thousand people in the look it up. Is people really dying in France right now? The heat wave is crazy. You feel me? Um RP to all of them people, man.

SPEAKER_03 45:05

How much was like how high was the temperatures?

SPEAKER_01 45:08

Um it was like 111 degrees, 102 degrees. Yeah, that's what they're dealing with right now. That's what they're dealing with right now in France and Europe right now. You feel me? RP to all of them. It's just from where they at on the city. How many people died switch for real? Don't make up a number. A thousand cases. Older people, people that's not really healthy already, like that. You feel a thousand people. Look it up. I'm looking it up. I'm looking it up. I'm looking it up. Am I lying? No, you're not lying. It was really a thousand people. A thousand people in France. Yes, nigga. Shit going on right now. It's hot as fuck outside, bro. Drink some water. Stay inside until after seven o'clock. You feel me? About seven, eight o'clock. You feel me? Just stay under that AC.

SPEAKER_03 45:51

If you ain't gotta work, invest in like the sunshade shit. You ain't got no in your car.

SPEAKER_01 45:56

Open your freezer in intervals.

SPEAKER_03 45:58

Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_01 45:58

You feel me? Stick your head in the freezer in intervals every five to ten minutes. I'm telling you. Like, you gotta stay cold out here, man. I ain't got no AC in my car. It's real out here. No, you just got that. I know. It's real out here in the streets. We're getting it fixed, man. We're getting it fixed. It's July 4th weekend. We're getting it fixed. Did you know that? I'm in my 30-day thing. I ain't paying for nothing. They wait for the part to come in. You feel me? You're right. I'm gonna show you. You can't panic. You gotta stay calm. It's not my car. You gotta be positive out here. You feel me? Like, real nigga shit. Shit happen. That's how we do it. You feel me? But yeah, RP to the people in France. Mm-hmm. Pot and bars. Let's get it. Potting bars. Um slide. Okay. Selling drugs, swiping cars, times it's hard, cost a living, same price as a legging arm, begging part and you bait and I hang with sharp swim. I don't want the hair if it don't come with hot spit. Aim precise, just like Zelda with targets. Make my Drake pop like a donuts to CLT. I'm living life, catch me with the vibe. Took the stroke too late, can't split through the night. Free the guys paid well, had to read your right. Math for no reason, get a grip, what's your bright? OZ on the table, dead clean from the ankle, side bitch, pay my main hole, all with a weird tangle. Name switch, but I get buckets, no tango. We got the stingo, team players, my main role. Box nigga to put you on payroll. Try to slave me like Jamie. Then I turned to the dingo. I'm everywhere, cause I'm nowhere I can go. Eat stay planted, there's no way I can't grow. Whoa. I walked it down, I step with a strange toe. Stop

Clarity Doesn’t Always Feel Good

SPEAKER_01 47:30

price, stay low. And my plug is a gringo. Way out the way, making plays, I don't wait. So Lord, please keep me away from these niggas that Lord keys me from away, niggas that break old. Psychedelics look like breaker oats. Baggers like Pringles, word delay, I've been stacking tips. I'm on Brookshire looking for a ratchet bitch. With a pro hose, with a air mattresses, or a bed that get held by bricks. Get in my mix. I'ma divin' so deep in that stomach you gon' think. Pregnant with my dick.

SPEAKER_03 48:06

Y'all fuck with the beat. I do too, actually.

SPEAKER_00 48:18

I bombed on a hockey, got made a patch. Copper spin facts. You versus me, that's a famous match. Tally up all my hitbacks. She said a waste is getting slimmer. And a baby yell for dinner. I'm like little bitch, you wallin' now, but I can't sleep through the night. Grab the zye, catch it, flight. If I'm outside, you better move around like potted bars, rhyme and roar. The way I move around, you would think that I'm some kind of stars. Plenty of spars that got hella stories. 89, 83 years, I be 40. My birthday to 20, if I'm jumping a gun. Wayne voice, I just rap under the sun. The punch in these lines could rupture. Want to see though without though, I'm fucking it up. Jump up your butt. Niggas got me hype up, though. Make a pop file the bitch, sounding like ethno. Speelin like I'm sick and I got a damn chest hole. Let me pull a daddy for a nigga be like hell no.

SPEAKER_03 49:25

And that was not a uh oh my gosh, that beat was so fucking hard. Yeah, I like the beat. The beat was so fucking hard.

SPEAKER_01 49:33

That's the I can't sleep through the night. Can't sleep through the night. That's the beat. That was amazing. You guys both did a really, really good job. Appreciate that, ladies.

SPEAKER_03 49:41

Absolutely. Well, we're about to close it out, y'all. Hope y'all enjoyed the show. Listen, we got a couple events coming up on 8.8, which is August 8th. From 2 to 6 p.m., we're gonna be having our community kickback, which is kicking it with the community. Come out, Charlotte, okay? We're gonna be at Tuck Park. I know y'all know where it's at. 2 to 6 p.m., okay? Come on, get some food. Bring some donations because we're giving back to the kids, okay? Bring some pencils, some papers, notebooks, book bags, whatever. Whatever your little monies can afford. Not glue sticks, because they might melt. It's hot as well.

SPEAKER_06 50:15

It's hot as hell.

SPEAKER_03 50:16

What was the date on that again? That is all the kids. 2026 if you don't know. Shout out to Whitney.

SPEAKER_01 50:27

Shout out to Whitney, shout out to me.

SPEAKER_03 50:30

Hey, y'all already know Freaks and Geeks, it's Lex rated.

SPEAKER_01 50:34

Ariola, I love my team. Shout out to that, shout out to the team, man. Shout out to nobody, but shout out to the team.

SPEAKER_03 50:39

Yay!

SPEAKER_01 50:41

Love game.