Anella On Turning Real Life Into Records

A lot of artist interviews stay on the surface. We don’t. When Anella pulls up, we get into the real story behind Ask Me How I Been, the uneasy in-between season of becoming a “new you,” and why the song “Tequila” is the one he’d use to introduce himself to anyone who swears they don’t like country. We talk about writing with intention, building a project for self-understanding, and why his records can feel like a movie soundtrack when the emotions actually land. 

We also dig into the business side of the music industry without the fake motivational talk: what a label can unlock, what you give up, and how Def Jam changed his connections, his decision-making, and his foundation as a businessman. Anella explains how songwriting becomes therapy, how stories can come from moments you wish you handled differently, and how success can quietly turn a coping mechanism into a job if you don’t protect the reason you started. 

Then the room opens up into our signature segments with culture, relationships, and mental health. We debate public speech and workplace consequences, unpack a disturbing Florida story involving consent and a C-section, and ask the question people avoid: are men intimidated by successful women or are they scared of how success gets used in conflict? We close with a straight-up talk on stress and pressure, plus words of the week to leave you sharper than you came in. 

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Transcript

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SPEAKER_02 0:00

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Meet Anella And His New Album

SPEAKER_05 1:11

Uh-huh. And we got a very special guest in the building with us, man. My man Anella. How you doing? Fucking building. We're gonna bring you in. The no advisory way though. We're gonna ask you three simple questions. Just three. Are you ready? I am sure. I think yes. Nobody yes. Nobody yes.

SPEAKER_08 1:32

We ask you who you are, where you from, and what the fuck do you do? How many day homies?

SPEAKER_04 1:41

Oh I thank you for having me. My name is Nella. Uh I come from a small town called Trinity in North Carolina, born and raised. So happy to be here, and I make music and other shit like that. And I'm happy to be alive.

SPEAKER_01 1:57

Most people don't say that they have to be around. I'm on the wake up today.

SPEAKER_04 2:02

I am.

SPEAKER_10 2:02

I'm almost there. I listened to like four five hours.

SPEAKER_05 2:05

Huh?

SPEAKER_10 2:05

No, we talking about the album. Yeah, she listened to the whole thing. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 2:10

Huh?

SPEAKER_10 2:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 2:12

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_10 2:13

It better be. You better hear me. I like to be heard.

SPEAKER_05 2:18

We hear you now, friends. Oh yeah, we're sure. You hear me now? You hear me now? Good.

SPEAKER_10 2:22

I'd like to be heard. Alright. So I think the title of your album is Ask Me How I've Been.

SPEAKER_04 2:27

Ask Me How I Been.

SPEAKER_10 2:29

How have you been?

SPEAKER_04 2:30

I've been good. I can't complain. Learning, growing.

SPEAKER_07 2:32

What about as you being a music artist? Like, how do you like being a music artist?

SPEAKER_04 2:35

I love it. I like humming be boxing shit and make you a living. Like I pay for my house and my help my family out and shit like that. So I can't complain.

SPEAKER_10 2:43

Period. I'm gonna say that right now. Thank you, man. Thank you so much. I love that. Is that how life um while making the project, or or is that how life is while making the project, or is it is that how you feel about yourself right now?

SPEAKER_04 3:02

That's that's how I feel about myself right now. I'm just hanging on by a thread. Like I'm like leaving the old me and becoming this new me, and I'm stuck in that weird middle place where I'm like, I'm confident, but I'm not sure if that makes sense. I'm confident in who I am, but I'm also like, this could go wrong. So I'm hanging on by a thread.

SPEAKER_10 3:18

I got it. I love that. Yeah, but you're all in, so that's great. I have one question. Um, if someone who doesn't listen to country at all had to understand you through one song, which song are you playing and why?

SPEAKER_04 3:30

I'm gonna play. I have this song called Tequila. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_10 3:38

You know what? You know what? I don't I don't drink tequila, but for you. I was like, let me give you, let me give you a lot of things.

SPEAKER_04 3:45

So I just feel like, yeah, the lyrics to it are I can't deny that I'm southern, but we're all southern. We're all born and raised in the south. So it's like that's I feel like the rest of the world kind of mistakes country for southern. And they hear my twang and they're like, oh, he's country. So I think I'm I focus most on a story and like uh portraying an emotion that people can easily relate to. And I feel like tequila would do that um with no bias. Like when it comes on, it doesn't sound country, there's no toying to it yet until but my you know thick ass accent comes in. So I feel like they would actually listen to what I have to say and they'd be like, wait a second, you actually have something to say.

SPEAKER_05 4:16

That's what I was gonna ask. Do you consider yourself a country artist?

SPEAKER_04 4:19

No, I consider myself a happy human being.

SPEAKER_05 4:21

A happy human being.

SPEAKER_04 4:22

Yeah, and I just enjoy what I do.

SPEAKER_05 4:26

Right, because I'm like, you know, you know, don't put him in a box. Maybe he doesn't consider himself a course not.

SPEAKER_10 4:31

But it would be southern, I should say. But just in general, the song didn't have to be to that genre, but just in general, if you could kind of tailor it to one song, yeah, what would that song be? And who would that artist be?

SPEAKER_04 4:43

Nah, for sure. If I had to name another artist.

SPEAKER_10 4:46

Well, just like kind of tailor your sound or your um southern background to one song.

SPEAKER_04 4:51

To one song, yeah, I'd say tequila. I think people would love that song. Absolutely.

Picking One Song To Represent

SPEAKER_10 4:55

So was the album something that made you or helped helped you explain yourself to people, or was it more so to help you understand yourself?

SPEAKER_04 5:05

I think it was to help me understand myself. I think this is the first project I went into with the intention of like doing what I want to do and saying what I want to say rather than and and I've always made music that way, but like all music I make, I make to enjoy with my friends. So there's always been that influence, like, oh, which one do you think is hard? Or oh, which one do you think is hard? With this project, it was the first time I put together the music and brought it to my team rather than sitting down with my team and us putting something together that we think everyone would like. I put it together and I was like, this is me, this is what I want to put out, and they just backed me up on it.

SPEAKER_10 5:35

I love that, especially with the combination of like how you explain the album art.

SPEAKER_00 5:39

Yeah, I love it. Thank you.

SPEAKER_10 5:40

Your music kind of sounds like a movie soundtrack, I'm not gonna lie.

SPEAKER_00 5:44

Thank you.

SPEAKER_10 5:45

And but if you can pick any song to be on a movie, what song would it be?

SPEAKER_04 5:49

So I just dropped a project called Ask Me High Band, and the last song on it is called Hearing Home, and I swear to God, like if you've watched Fast and Furious, like the one where Paul Walker, you know, the last one with Paul Walker in it, where him and Vin Diesel like trail off at the end, go two different rows, and the camera pans out. That's exactly what that song sounds like to me. So if it were to go to maybe it would be that, like that climax that like end of the story, the everything comes together, the family moment, the who I am is who I want to be moment. That is exactly what I would say here at home as cinematic as fuck.

SPEAKER_10 6:19

That's fire. Uh Paul Walker, rest in peace.

SPEAKER_05 6:24

Now, you got it's 10 songs on 10 tracks on there, right? Now, out of the 10 tracks, Nella, it's like six of them in reference to like liquor. I'm like, this motherfucker just love girl. What's the one but the choose me or the bottle? Yeah, can't have both. Yeah, can't have both. I'm like that. What's up with the liquor references? And you gotta talk to me about that, man.

Making A Project For Yourself

SPEAKER_04 6:44

So, I mean, shit, I'm 24, so I'm at like the peak of where everybody figures out who they are when they drink. Because I I was, you know, obviously drinking as a teenager, like enjoyed it, and but there was no No one judged my personality because I was a teenager. It's like who you are when you drink doesn't matter because you're not a grown man. Like you, of course, you don't know what to do. You're you're you're gonna make a fool of yourself. You're 18, 19, 16, however old I was. And now that I'm 24, you know, I've had a couple years where it's legal and I've I've learned to handle myself and I've watched it change people's lives, and I've watched people I've like now know what a functioning alcoholic is. You know what I'm saying? Like when you when you're 18, you're drinking every weekend or every day, it's like, oh, we love the party, we're growing up. When you're like 24, 25, 26, drinking every day, like I'm not judging. Because some people can do it and handle it, but at some point it's like, you should not be drinking every day, like and not it takes a toll.

SPEAKER_03 7:32

Right.

SPEAKER_04 7:32

You know what I'm saying? Just on your health in general, and I think I'm starting to realize that those decisions like will catch up with me in the long run. Because when I was like 20, dude, I could get absolutely shit faced and wake up and do it again. And I know I'm super young still, but like I wake up now and I like feel it. I'm like, oh like I wish I did not do that. You know what I'm saying? So I just have more respect for the toll it takes on my body now and the actual outcome of like my decisions than I did when I was younger, and I feel like I'm old enough to actually have an experience with it where I've done it in multiple states, multiple cities, multiple countries, multiple different environments, different parties around different people and in different minds, mindsets, you know, for different reasons. And now I I've actually I feel like I can talk about it, and people will be like, ah, he probably knows what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_03 8:14

Because when I'm saying about tequila as a 16-year-old, people are like, it's a good ass song, but like, how'd you write the shit?

SPEAKER_10 8:19

Yeah, how do you know it getting wasted and you like drunk off your emotions with it?

SPEAKER_05 8:23

You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Yeah, because I'm like, this motherfucker gotta be alcoholic or some shit.

SPEAKER_10 8:30

Do you have a favorite drink?

SPEAKER_04 8:32

Oh, hell yeah. Yeah, well, so look, here's the thing. I feel like when I when I started hanging out with Sud, and so it's like, man, I feel like everyone in that realm was drinking Tito, and that was a thing like Casamigos, 42. If you're popping bottles, you're Don Julio, classy azul, like those are the fancy liquors. So it's like that's just what everybody was drinking, and I was like, oh, this is what you know, if you're out popping bottles and you want to be a successful artist, you're ordering Don Julio to the section.

SPEAKER_10 8:55

Like, somebody orders Tito's you can be like, but I mean, whiskey, whiskey, what is it, Scotch whiskey mix is good too. Like, my my stepdad drink Johnny Walker, blue, black, I can't I can't do I can't do dark liquor.

SPEAKER_04 9:08

It's like, okay, it's like I react dark liquor makes me not angry because I'm not an angry person, but like it makes aggressive like quick to anger. So it doesn't make me angry, but like I will talk shit if I drink dark liquor, I feel invincible. I'm gonna fight you, you know what I'm saying? Like if you say something I disagree with teela, I'm gonna laugh when you'd be like, I do not approve this message. You know what I'm saying? So yeah, I I might drink a little like crown vanilla with coke every once in a while. Just like you know what I'm saying? Something sweet that's actually good to drink, but like I've got friends that used to drink like Hennessy and stuff in high school, and they would literally coke. That was like the thing. And they would literally get up and just start brawling with each other for over the dumbest shit. And I'm like, that is. So I'm cool, I'm gonna stay, I'm gonna stay on the clear.

SPEAKER_10 10:01

I'm definitely with you, friend. I'm looking at you because you know, because for me, it's like the opposite.

SPEAKER_12 10:06

So like tequila definitely makes me angry.

SPEAKER_04 10:08

Really? See, I get that though. Consta free customers, tequila.

SPEAKER_02 10:11

Y'all better watch out. You know what I'm saying? It's gonna turn you up.

Movie Soundtrack Energy And Deep Cuts

SPEAKER_04 10:13

So you know, tequila is actually the only liquor that's an upper. Every other spirit is a downer. Tequila is the only spirit that is like classified as an upper.

SPEAKER_02 10:22

We just learned something with tequila.

SPEAKER_01 10:24

We just tequila when it's upper.

SPEAKER_05 10:28

I'm gonna um because we we talked about sun, man. Shout out to my man East Sun, man. Like, um, I saw because I was there from when y'all was like coming up. I don't know if you remember. Nah, it's been a while. It's been a while, it's been a long while. And then I was like, yo, I gotta get him on. Just talk, I wanna just quick note to East Sun, like how has he helped you in your growth and in your career?

SPEAKER_04 10:47

Dude, in every way. I wouldn't be where I am without him. Like, I met him, uh, I was playing at Box Car Arcade in Greensboro back when I was making money by playing at bars.

SPEAKER_01 10:55

And so he's like, yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 10:58

But that I was so young they wouldn't even let me in. Like I had to stay outside on the patio. But like, so I met him and then he introduced me to Sug because he was doing a no stress uh parking lot concert with Travis Porter, and I think it was like the 10-year anniversary of Travis Porter or something crazy. And I was like the first person to go on, so that's how we linked, and then he DM'd me on Instagram a couple days later because he saw me post a cover with a no stress mask on. He's like, let's get in the studio. And ever since then we've been working together, but yeah, without him, he's like uh I mean he took me into this world. Like I didn't know, I didn't know studios were in North Carolina. I thought you had to go to New York, LA. I didn't know, like, I didn't understand that how attainable it was, and then finding out that he's from High Point, the area I'm from. Um, I'm from Trinity, but same area code, like and I knew nothing about him. Like, I was talking about he's like, dude, there's this DJ there, he DJs for two chains. I was like, a DJ? I was like, what people still do that?

SPEAKER_02 11:46

And then well, I was that out of it.

SPEAKER_04 11:49

I didn't I didn't know studios or North Carolina, like there's this whole culture I was completely unaware of. It's like you know what I'm saying? I ain't even from High Point, I'm from Trinity, like High Point has like the translate area?

unknown 11:59

I know that.

SPEAKER_04 11:59

You know what I'm saying? Yeah, even Winston has more like city than me. You know what I'm saying? I have I have two stoplights and sticks. Uh-huh. Like, so when I met him, he really showed me that there was like a whole world that I was so unaware of and like acclimated me to all these people that were successful in the ways I wanted to be, and really made something of themselves. And he tells me navigate how to act in certain situations, when to speak, when not to speak, when to hold my nuts on somebody, when not to hold my nuts on somebody. Like, you know what I'm saying? Exactly. Like to how to know my worth and how to know when to back down and let somebody else feel like they're more important. It's like, hey, he's helped me a lot in a million different ways, you know what I'm saying? No judge.

SPEAKER_11 12:38

Okay, okay. Follow-up question to a follow-up question. Alright, so how long were you independent before you were on a label? And do you prefer being on a label or independent?

Why Liquor Shows Up In Lyrics

SPEAKER_04 12:49

Oh, that's a sticky, that's a sticky question. I love the people I work with. So I got super blessed. I was independent. I've been making music for like eight years, but my bad, am I waving my hands too much?

SPEAKER_05 13:00

Oh no, no. Oh, I was. Okay, my bad.

SPEAKER_04 13:02

Nah, you're chilling. Same here, same here. I mean, every like my girl be putting my hat on, and she looks like a helmet on her. So I understand, but nah, I uh I was I've been making music for eight years, and I got signed a deaf jam in 2022. So if that's four years independent or whatever, but I I wasn't independent, I was like just doing it as a high- I didn't understand that I was actually pursuing a career. You know what I'm saying? Like I was comfortable playing the bars for the rest of my life. You know what I'm saying? 150 in three hours, that's technically$50 an hour. I'm fucking waxing anyone my age at that. You know what I'm saying? Do that shit four times a week, we're good. Not in today's economy, but you know what I'm saying, in fucking 2016, I was lit.

SPEAKER_12 13:36

That's like$10. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 13:38

And I didn't have bills, like, it was up, but all I have was gas money. But yeah, like when I'm when I signed, I enjoy being signed and I wouldn't be where I am without it. Um, you know, sometimes I get in my head and I'm like, how much weight am I carrying? Could I have done this by myself? But that's just being a pessimist. I think you can't you can have the entire pie and have no pie at all, or you can make the pie bigger and get a smaller piece. Either way, you're getting more because when I'm with a label, I have so many more connections, so many more people caring about what I'm doing and on my side and on my team. And the experience alone of all these people that work with me now have has made me not only a better artist, but a better businessman. Because there's a lot of talented people and there's a lot of hardworking people. And if you're not business savvy and you don't understand how to build a good foundation, it don't matter how successful you are, if that shit ain't built right, it's gonna fall apart. And so I don't think, yeah, I don't think I would understand business the way I do if I didn't make some of the mistakes on the way. If I didn't sign the papers. If you want to play in the NBA, you sign into the NBA. I want to be a major label artist, I sign on a major label. And I got lucky and I have the best AR and the best team and the best everything. So I can't complain. I love Def Channel.

SPEAKER_10 14:51

Shout out to Def Channel. All right, um, I have to have a quick question. Um Have you ever written a song about someone and they didn't even know the song was about them? Hell yeah. What? What? Every song I've ever written ever. Every song type is not about me. Yeah, hell yeah.

Mentorship And Coming Up In NC

SPEAKER_04 15:11

No, it's like, so I don't, it's not that I'm angry. It's like I write music to learn, and I learn through situations I've been through. Like music is how I put things into words that I can't otherwise put into words, or how I explain emotions that I'm gonna get tripped up on my words, or I'm gonna talk to you and you're gonna think I'm angry, but I'm really just passionate because I don't know what I'm trying to say. You feel me? And so with these songs, they're about certain people, but not necessarily that person alone. It's about an experience I had with that person. So I'm not gonna say it's about like if we got into an argument, I write a song about that argument, we're who had the argument, but it's not about you necessarily. It's just about the things I wish I would have said and how I wish I would have handled it with you and not necessarily about you, but just because that was the argument I had, so I have to explain that argument now.

SPEAKER_10 15:51

Yeah, you gotta put it in there.

SPEAKER_04 15:52

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_10 15:53

It's like therapy. You don't get health. No.

SPEAKER_04 15:55

Yeah, so I'm not cussing anybody out, but I'm definitely saying I wish I would have in the moment. You know?

SPEAKER_10 16:00

That was my next question. Do you feel like your music is therapy for you or more of like storytelling?

SPEAKER_04 16:05

I think it's a little bit of both. I think it depends on where it starts, because it's all therapy to me because it makes me feel, and some things don't make me feel. Like I feel like it is a drug in that way, to where when I feel numb, I can always turn to music to feel real again. Or if I have like imposter syndrome and I just don't feel like I exist and I don't feel important and I don't feel worthy of like connection or anything, I can always go to that music and be like, oh my god, I understand me. Like, oh my god, I remember writing this. Or sometimes I write shit and I don't even know what it's about. And then like a year later, I'll be like, fuck. I'm like, damn, you you said that shit. How'd you even know that? You know, so I think it is therapy. Um, but I do love telling stories. I write I watched Narnia one time and wrote like one of my favorite songs I've ever written. I love Narnia.

SPEAKER_05 16:49

You know, about like which movie? Narnia.

SPEAKER_04 16:51

Narnia. I watched Narnia.

SPEAKER_05 16:53

You know?

SPEAKER_11 16:56

Is it the closet? Like, like, yeah, you know, another world.

SPEAKER_05 17:02

Yeah, okay, it's a good one.

SPEAKER_03 17:08

You know, yeah, I'm not making them, but you gotta make it.

SPEAKER_10 17:17

I seen all three of them. It's three.

SPEAKER_04 17:21

I think there's like five.

SPEAKER_10 17:27

Well, there's like a lion and then like and then they go on war and all that type of thing. Narnia? Narnia. Narnia. All the movies are the best.

SPEAKER_04 17:40

Yeah, but it's it's gas. So like I w I watch Narnia and then I I wrote this song about this old man losing his wife and talking about leaving the porch light on and hope she'll come home. And then at the end it turns around and he passes away and he's talking to her as if I hope you leave the porch light on in heaven so I can find my way to you. So it's just like super deep. Some shit I've never been through. And I wrote this sh- I wrote this shit like 15, but it's like if you can 15, what your head was at? Right in fucking Narnia. Yeah, yeah. You watch a movie, and these directors make you feel something you never felt, and they make you understand life from someone else's shoes. And I'm like, damn, I want to write a song that makes me feel how this movie made me feel. And so it just happens like that, you know? So I do love telling stories.

SPEAKER_10 18:19

But what's your sign?

SPEAKER_04 18:20

But uh I think I'm a cusp. I think I'm a Sagittarius and a Scorpio.

SPEAKER_10 18:25

Oh, November 22nd. November 22nd.

SPEAKER_04 18:27

Right after that.

SPEAKER_10 18:29

Yeah, that's a cusp.

SPEAKER_04 18:30

Yeah, and my birthday is my birthday is like.

SPEAKER_10 18:34

Are you guys like numerologists? So he's I am for sure, but I was gonna say Cancer Pisces. That's what it was given. Oh, damn. You seem very humble and very genuine and like so much, man.

SPEAKER_05 18:43

Thank you. Oh you gotta raise your hand.

SPEAKER_10 18:46

How you doing?

SPEAKER_06 18:46

Uh, is that really a thing?

SPEAKER_05 18:47

I'm not really giving the yeah, but is what really a thing?

SPEAKER_10 18:52

Yeah, we're trying to get it all, baby.

SPEAKER_04 18:53

Get that shit off your chest.

SPEAKER_06 18:54

You don't forget that. But what are you talking about? Just anything? Zodiac.

SPEAKER_04 19:00

Yeah, like which I'm not familiar with this shit. But people tell me.

SPEAKER_06 19:04

What's going on, y'all? My name is Benadryl. I'm an upcoming DJ here in Charlotte. Um, what's going on? So I've been hearing your story, and I just want to say I think your work is great. Thank you. Um, I definitely do have a question. Um, what is not what inspire you, but what advice do you have to anyone getting into this industry, even as a DJ? Um what to look out for when trying to join the music industry in a way?

Label Life Versus Staying Independent

SPEAKER_04 19:27

Don't focus it's like I don't know how to explain it because you have to if you don't focus on results, then you don't grow. But when you get to a certain point, if all you're worried about is the result, you're gonna get lost and you're gonna forget why you're here in the first place, and you're gonna begin to value something that doesn't value you. So I would say go into it with intention and a certain level of respect for yourself that I don't think you're born with. I think you have to fail to find it. Just expect to fail and expect to learn and turn everything into a lesson rather than defeat. Because you take a lot more L's than you do double use of this shit. You know? So and I'm I'm struggling with that right now, so I'm being hypocritical as fuck. But I that was me reminding myself.

unknown 20:18

Thank you for that.

SPEAKER_04 20:20

Hell yeah. Don't forget why, don't forget why you started. This shit is fun, and that's the only reason we do it. Yeah, you know?

SPEAKER_05 20:25

I mean You said your name is DJ Benadrill. That's the way it's spelled, so it's spelled. But you know what's dope? If you do like an RB shit and DJ Benadrill, put all the motherfuckers the RB and shit, that's dope.

SPEAKER_06 20:40

Well, nice to meet you, you know, supporting.

SPEAKER_04 20:42

Thank you so much. Great to meet you. I'm sure I'm sure we'll run into your phones on low silent party.

SPEAKER_06 20:50

Yeah, yeah. Can your music be spun in black cloaks? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 20:57

Nah, so like I said, I didn't listen to that half.

SPEAKER_10 21:00

Yeah, so it's like no, it's good.

SPEAKER_04 21:03

The only way I would put it is like I was re I was introduced to very, very good music very young. Like when I was four, five, six, seven years old, I was learning like Stevie Wonder, Michael Jackson, the carpenters, the beach boys.

SPEAKER_10 21:14

Like I didn't like when I'm on your playlist. Who on your playlist right now? Nah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 21:22

So it's like I I grew up, I grew up listening to soulful music, to music that really meant some shit. You know what I'm saying? So it's like I don't think there's a color to it, and I understand the vibe of like, oh, a black club, a white club, like, oh, we playing Future or are we playing Miley Cyrus? I understand the vibes, but as someone who creates music, I don't create with color in mind, and I feel like it I don't make club music primarily, so I d I I have club records, but I wouldn't say my music is is for a specific race or specific ideology or specific anything. It's just like I I I have I speak about real shit and anybody that's gone through real shit is gonna it's fucking love what I have to say.

SPEAKER_10 22:02

Maybe not club, but I work in hospitality and restaurants. They be having some good radio playlists. I don't know if you know who Dermot Kennedy is.

SPEAKER_04 22:09

I don't, but I'm gonna have to look him up.

SPEAKER_10 22:11

Please look this man up. D-E-R-M-O-T Kennedy. Fire, very soulful. Um, he just he he just has it deep in his soul. But I hear these songs all the time, and that's kind of where I not say why I place you, but you don't even understand how many times you can hear a song on the radio at a restaurant, and that will pique your interest. Like, who is this? Who is this? You know what I mean? Like not particularly a club.

SPEAKER_04 22:33

Nah, but to be straight up, like if you if it's RB night, I got a record with huncho. And if it's like regular club night, I got a record with two chains. So if that's the flat answer, like hell yeah. I've got at least one song for every situation.

SPEAKER_06 22:45

I don't want to know if a DJ can spin your record.

SPEAKER_04 22:47

Fuck you. A DJ shami, so we're chilling. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Amen. Thank you. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 22:54

You know what I want to do? Nah, for sure, yeah, hell yeah. On out of your album, you only got one feature, Mo B, right? Shout out to the Big Mo, Big Moe. Big Mo. That's my dog, yeah. Why are you picking like why is he the only feature on your on your record?

SPEAKER_04 23:07

He brought the right energy, and it's like, so I said Mo B. Nah, you good. Hey, he um I got the beat, right? Nah, amen. Um, you got the Mo, right? He so I met him a while back in Nashville, and he's he's younger and he's up and coming. Um, but his voice. I feel like when people listen to my music, they don't expect me to look like how I sound. Like we meet, and they're like, Dad, you're not what I was expecting, which is the best thing ever. I feel like Mo sounds like a 40-year-old man. Like the big he's 19.

SPEAKER_02 23:44

19?

SPEAKER_07 23:46

Okay, so meaning. So what I'm saying is he has a man was like 2800.

SPEAKER_04 23:51

He has a level of confidence and he has a specific tone to his voice that's so unique that I just respect. And I don't, the feeling I give people or that they tell me I give him is like, oh, I didn't expect you. I don't get that a lot of people. I hear him and I'm like, I can I can probably describe what this person, I can probably describe what this person wears by hearing their voice. And with Mo, when I met him, I was like, Yeah, what the fuck? I was like, bro, you are hard. Like he brought that energy where he was like, he just owns everything he says, and you can tell he has so much fun. He can be talking the most shit, and you can hear him doing it with a smile on his face, just because he knows he's hard. So like he brought that energy to that song, and like we've been we've been out in Nashville many nights and had uh many of two, three-day vendors. Like, I just respect that, man.

SPEAKER_02 24:28

Big boat.

SPEAKER_05 24:29

He sounds like the undertone of a boss man D Lo.

SPEAKER_02 24:34

Yeah, when I heard him, I'm thinking, man, like 28.

SPEAKER_05 24:36

Actually, he just turned 20.

SPEAKER_04 24:37

He's not 19 anymore. He just turned 20 last month. Yeah, we don't do that either. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Now we're waiting. His 21st birthday, we're going.

Writing About People Without Naming Them

SPEAKER_10 24:49

So Rosswall, this man said he was tight drinking at 18. Cheers. Cheers. I want to know what yourself today would tell your younger self. Like, what would be something that you would tell your younger self that you feel like it was important for your younger self to hear? It's okay. We appreciate you.

SPEAKER_04 25:13

Thank you, sir. I would say you're your tunnel vision and your determination is exactly what's gonna get you where you are, but it's exactly what's gonna make you feel like where you are isn't enough for the rest of your life. Like you'll never be satisfied or contempt, and don't mistake that for being unappreciative or ungrateful or changing in a bad way. But like there The reason you are where you are is because you're so determined on being better than you were the day before. Don't let that become you're never good enough, or it's never enough, or it's never enough money, it's never enough connections, it's never enough success, it's never enough accolades, it's never enough awards. Don't like be grateful, but don't be content. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_10 26:06

So I want to know who are your three favorite artists.

SPEAKER_04 26:09

Right now, like as uh in rotation right now or all time?

SPEAKER_10 26:12

All time.

SPEAKER_04 26:12

Oh, Stevie Wonder, Michael Jackson, and then the last one. Those are two easy ones. Michael Jackson won, Stevie Warner second, third, I'm gonna say Damn, I don't know. Mike Stevie. It's like where do you go from there? You know what I'm saying? And see, these are all good, but it's like I gotta throw somebody from like my I wasn't your time.

SPEAKER_10 26:36

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 26:37

No, and well, but I want to because it's me mostly listen to RB because I haven't heard of rap. Hell no. Okay. I listen to everything. I listen to like I can name a Christian artist right now, I can name a rap artist, I can name because it's spiritual because it really makes you feel. Yeah, I'm gonna be able to do that. I'm gonna say I love God, love you guys, I'm gonna be obvious and I'm gonna say post Malone, but only because when I got my license and I built my first set of subs, I tested them with a postmalone song. When I was in high school going through heartbreak, I was listening to a postmalone song. When I was finding beats online that I wanted to rap to, I was typing in postmalone type beats. So like he, I will definitely say shaped uh the way I look at the way I value no okay. He's part of the reason I want to do what I do, the way I do it. Like his swag and his confidence and his ability to be genreist is exactly what I hope to attain and what I hope for people to understand about me.

SPEAKER_03 27:32

I see that my own.

SPEAKER_04 27:40

And people call him like a culture vulture, but at the same time, it's like it's art. Well, and he's he's from Texas. He was singing Bob Dylan on YouTube before he ever blew up. He just but he when he did the rap shit, he did it right. When he did the RB shit, he did it right. When he's doing the country shit, he's doing it right. Like he's he's going everywhere, and he's really, regardless of where he started or where he's going, like, you can name you can't you can name a banger by him. You can name a song you love by him, regardless of who he is or where he came from or where he's going. He did it right. Like he portrayed that emotion, he did that feeling, and that's what music is about. So I feel like where he was at in his life and who he was around is the type of music he was making. And now he's older and he's got millions of dollars and he got a mansion out in the middle of nowhere. You know, he's a God-fearing government hating, gun-wielded motherfucker from Texas that loves the Dallas Cowboys. And shit, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 28:28

I grew up playing the cowboy.

SPEAKER_12 28:30

God damn, you gotta go listen.

SPEAKER_04 28:32

But I'm just saying, it's it's in him, not on him. And a lot of people say, Oh, you dressed a certain way, you shattered a certain way, you look a certain way. I'm like, shit, I was in my I was going to church Sunday, and then I would get my Jeep and listen to Young Dolph, and then I would go play a acoustic guitar out by a bonfire with my boys on Friday nights after we went to a football game. In the football game, they came out to DMX. Like they there's a little bit of everything in there where I'm like, this is all this is all who I am.

SPEAKER_05 28:57

Right.

SPEAKER_04 28:58

You know what I'm saying? I do appreciate all this shit.

SPEAKER_05 28:59

I'm not changing, I'm just you know what I want to know? Um, back to the album, right? Because artists have like when they go through their rollouts, when they go through making an album, they have certain songs. So they go, so you got 10 songs on there. So it could have been, I don't know how many songs that you had. What's that one song that after your selection process was done with your 10th song? You're like, I wanted to put that song on there, but it just didn't quite make it.

SPEAKER_04 29:21

There's a song called Two Tone that I actually produced myself, and it's like straight. You know, like where is it? Like Detroit drill music where they kind of rap off beat a little bit and they just sound like they're talking. Like it sounds like that, but there's an acoustic guitar behind of it, but there's these hyper pop, heavy ass, distorted 808s. It's it's just a mixture of everything. It's me, you know, it's Carolina. We've got a little bit of everything here. Like I didn't realize, bro, I was in fucking Michigan. I could not find Caribbean food anywhere. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_02 29:52

Yes, I believe it isn't. I don't believe it.

SPEAKER_04 29:56

I didn't realize that like we really got it all. Yeah. Seasons, fucking food, weather, both um, you get on?

SPEAKER_10 30:05

Like, I'm like, we got all four seasons, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 30:07

You get what I'm saying? Like, and we're bipolar shit. So I feel like I come by it honest, regardless of what aspect of life I'm in. Like it's it's a little bit of everything. So it was called Two Tone. I'll show it to you. It's it's so fucking good. It's like we gotta play that.

SPEAKER_05 30:19

We're gonna play that.

SPEAKER_01 30:19

Yeah, dude, I got it.

SPEAKER_04 30:21

And you're gonna be like, damn, this shit's hard. It's so hard.

SPEAKER_01 30:23

I might even make the touch.

SPEAKER_04 30:25

I do have a team and I do have people that have what's best for me at heart, and they were like, this isn't this isn't the most cohesive uh track to put on here. Gotcha. Like, I feel like we have 10 really strong songs, and I feel like this one, although it's strong, it feels a little left field to the main message.

Music As Therapy And Storytelling

SPEAKER_10 30:39

So are you able, are you ever able to put out things on your social media like clips?

SPEAKER_04 30:43

No, hell yeah.

SPEAKER_10 30:44

That's why that song.

SPEAKER_04 30:45

I put it out and it went viral a couple times. And they like literally people are commenting, like, see album's great. Why the fuck ain't you turned on there? See?

SPEAKER_03 30:52

So I'm like shit.

SPEAKER_05 30:53

Sometimes you gotta go with the gut.

SPEAKER_04 30:55

I think we're gonna do something with live mixtapes though, and I'm gonna throw it on there as like an extra scale. You know what I'm saying? Okay.

SPEAKER_11 31:00

So are we leaking it or are we not?

SPEAKER_04 31:02

Oh, it's leaked, it's leaked as fuck. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_11 31:05

I love it.

SPEAKER_04 31:06

I made it, I did, I produced it, I recorded it myself, I mixed it myself, I did everything myself, so I was so proud of that record. I was posting the fuck out of it.

SPEAKER_05 31:13

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_04 31:14

And uh, yeah, sadly it got a good reaction. I couldn't put it out. So we're gonna figure it out. We're gonna do it. You know what I'm saying? Like a little deluxe. We're gonna start dropping again like June, July. So I might put it out there. Yeah, that's we do.

SPEAKER_10 31:27

So I have a okay. So speaking of everything, and you said you'd you listen to everything. So would you ever make a Christian rap song?

SPEAKER_04 31:35

Yeah, I have a song. I don't know about Christian rap. Um you don't do it.

SPEAKER_10 31:38

But I mean, I would don't do Christian rap. I would love to try.

SPEAKER_04 31:43

But I feel like the way spiritually I would go about it the way I am as a spiritual person. I'm very slow and very I want to understand everything and I want it to be drug out so I have a long time to digest it. And so I have this song called Man Like Me. It is a Christian song, and I would love to put it out. Like, I'm I'm very comfortable in my faith. I know I'm not as in it as I should be, and the way I live my life sometimes isn't the right thing to do. But like I'm very I'm very comfortable saying, like, Jesus is my savior, Lord. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 32:10

Like, I talk to him every day.

SPEAKER_04 32:12

Yeah, and I I feel like my morals are there and the the way I treat the golden rule, treat people how you want to be treated, turn the other cheek. I feel like I I do live by that 90% of the time. And uh yeah, I would I would love to put that record out, and I want to, but I also feel like it's just being blank or being blunt, it's kind of too good, and I'm not big enough right now for people for it to really hit the way it should.

SPEAKER_10 32:30

Hold it, hold it into it. Yeah, no, it is my turn. Okay, go on.

SPEAKER_08 32:34

Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 32:37

I love the green. Hell yeah.

SPEAKER_08 32:39

I love your outfit.

SPEAKER_04 32:40

Thank you, ma'am.

SPEAKER_08 32:40

And your walrus.

SPEAKER_04 32:41

I did it myself. Thank you. This is uh I got I got it with my niece at the zoo like two years ago. Oh my gosh. She got a sloth and I got a walrus.

SPEAKER_10 32:47

I love sloths. So I keep it on. That's how she was.

SPEAKER_04 32:51

She was addicted. Now it's an axe.

SPEAKER_10 32:53

She has a parent at home.

SPEAKER_04 32:54

She's addicted to axe flowers right now.

SPEAKER_10 32:56

I was looking at the pack me attack. So I was like, yeah, sorry. Back to my question. I I I love Post Malone. So Post Malone, I believe, is sponsored by either, is it, I think it's either Bud Light or Bud Light. Yes. Okay. What brand of alcohol or beer would you love to sponsor you?

SPEAKER_04 33:16

So if we're being honest, I love happy dads. I love you sponsoring that too.

SPEAKER_10 33:21

I was about to say, I I got lucky. Juicy, juicy happy dads? Yes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 33:27

So I'm sponsored by the Demon Monster. But when it comes to alcohol, which is crazy because they're both full circle as hell. Like, I don't know how I mean I manifested the fuck out of it. Like, this is just me and God here.

SPEAKER_02 33:36

You heard that?

SPEAKER_04 33:36

But yeah, I would I'll besides Happy Dad, because I do love like the brand and the the people that work there and like the lifestyle that they were promoting. Like, that was what I wanted to be. Like that young, rich, like crazy fast lifestyle guy. And that's what they, you know, I'm saying happy life, happy drinking on a boat out. Bad bitches, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_10 33:59

Like it was that's the kids at home, bitch. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 34:03

So but they're also very family friendly in the same way. Like they're very teenage boy, but they're also very like innocent fun. So I've always loved that brand, and thankfully I do work with them already. So happy dad for sure. If I had to say a different brand, I would say like definitely some, maybe a moonshine.

SPEAKER_07 34:25

I love wool shine. Maybe a moonshine.

SPEAKER_10 34:28

That's that country shit. I love a moonshine. We gotta go to Tennessee, y'all, and make a trip and moonshine.

SPEAKER_05 34:36

Moonshine's like is they really dangerous. I had like an authentic.

SPEAKER_10 34:39

I had one at trail ride moon.

SPEAKER_04 34:40

Oh, you ever had white line? Like out of the big glass jug that you hold your finger and that's you know what I'm talking about?

SPEAKER_10 34:46

Nah, the trail ride moonshines ain't nothing to play with.

SPEAKER_04 34:49

Nah, I'm gonna tell you, I have like all my like a few of my friends' dads that I grew up with, like made moonshine, which is obviously illegal as hell, but it was so normal where I was from. Like, so we had access to insane. Like, you you know, you you you know you don't drink in a hot tub, right? Yeah, everybody knows that rule because it thins your blood.

SPEAKER_02 35:05

Yep, yep, yep.

SPEAKER_03 35:06

You was in a hot tub, too. You knew now.

SPEAKER_04 35:08

You don't, you don't, you don't, this is this is this was all educational, by the way. This is not, don't do this shit for fun. Like, I was trying to learn.

Advice For New DJs And Artists

SPEAKER_10 35:16

Y'all, y'all triggering me. I'm not trying to learn. I was you don't have to drink as much if you're in a hot tub.

SPEAKER_04 35:24

So we would get we would sit in the hot tub, you got a six pack of reds and a bottle of white light.

SPEAKER_02 35:28

I love reds.

SPEAKER_04 35:28

Pass it around, take some reds down. Bro, 30 minutes? Woo! 30 minutes, and you're looking at everybody like this.

SPEAKER_10 35:34

No, no, no, no, we gotta apple two minutes for that. That's what they tell you. Don't drink in the hot tub.

SPEAKER_04 35:39

Yeah, but when you're broke and you're like, you know, like we got this much alcohol and this many people. Let's go get in the hot tub for a little bit.

SPEAKER_10 35:46

Y'all ain't gonna want to know.

SPEAKER_04 35:47

I'll never get that.

SPEAKER_10 35:48

Back in the day, we used to drink four locos to get there. Oh, four locos.

SPEAKER_04 35:53

Ours was bootleggers. No, no, no. Ours was bootleggers.

SPEAKER_05 35:56

Bootleggers, yeah. Oh yes, yes. Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_04 36:00

Yeah, we would take like we get three of those, slam them, and then go to a football game.

SPEAKER_12 36:05

They had good flavors. They had good flavors.

SPEAKER_04 36:07

You know, yeah, the blue ones. It's like I loved them until they came back up, and then whatever flavor came back up, I hated that for the rest of my life. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 36:17

I got I got one final question for you, man. What is the toughest obstacle that you have faced uh thus far?

SPEAKER_04 36:25

Uh, I think making it when it so there's this threshold you go over where you're you don't have a dependency on it. It's it's 100% a hobby. You do it because you love it, that's it. And then you make money off of it, and it's still a hobby because you're not used to having that money, it's all new. Then you get comfortable and you realize I this is how I provide for myself. I'm grateful, this is all what I've always wanted. Um, but you kind of lose the love for it because you're not always creative. I don't always feel like making music. I did it when I when I needed it. Yeah, right. And but I needed it because it was emotional. Now that it's how I support myself and my friends and my family and everything, there's in the back of my mind when I wake up and I watch a movie instead of making music, I I'm like looking down on myself like, damn, you like what are you gonna do? Like you're just taking this shit for granted.

SPEAKER_10 37:20

Like because it's an actual job.

SPEAKER_04 37:22

It's an actual job now, and so I think the biggest obstacle is like trying to make it for the right reason still. Instead of being like sitting down and being like, no, I have to make music. I don't have to. I'm comfortable, I have people that'll take care of me, I have people to fall back on, I have a great support system, and I need to realize that and kind of take some of that weight off my shoulders because I don't ever want I don't ever want to make music for the wrong reason.

SPEAKER_01 37:45

Right.

SPEAKER_04 37:46

Or I don't ever want to feel like I have to do this because I used to have to for my own health and my own safety and my own mental health and my own well-being. I don't ever want that to change. This shit is an escape, this shit is a coping mechanism, this shit is a is a healthy release, and it's a therapy. And I don't ever want it to be anything but that. And so I'm I'm in that realm where I'm having to ground myself and be like, like I said, don't forget why you started. Don't forget why you're here. Do not get caught up in the result, because the result does not fucking matter. You know?

SPEAKER_05 38:15

Message.

SPEAKER_04 38:16

Yeah, if you chase happiness, you'll always be happy.

SPEAKER_05 38:18

You got his hand up and get him a mic. Oh, you got it. Another answer. Question? Yeah, I do have a question.

SPEAKER_04 38:23

Yeah, come on! How long have we been? I feel like it's been only been like 10 minutes.

SPEAKER_12 38:29

It feels like 10 minutes. It just been like morning. What's going on? It's been a drill again. I do have a question.

SPEAKER_06 38:35

It kind of spins off what he said. Um you have a lot to be, you have a lot to celebrate. Yeah, but just me hearing you, do you feel like you made it? Or do you feel like you're chasing that?

SPEAKER_04 38:45

I'm still chasing it. I'm gonna be chasing like like I said, the reason I am successful is because of how determined and narrow-minded I am, how stubborn I am, and how hard-headed I am. Like no one's gonna tell me if I'm gonna if I want to do it, I'm gonna do it, regardless of how it gets done. Um but at the same time, I'm always it's all it's like that drive is hard to put in parts. Like I it's hard to sit down and look at how far I've come. It's hard to sit here and look at all these accolades and all these things I've done that. If I told my 16-year-old self I was doing these, I would freak out and think I was famous. Like I'd be like, oh my god, you made it. Have you bought your mom a house? And now I'm sitting here like economies crashing, fucking countries in shambles. Like I'm a grown-ass man now, and there's other things I have to worry about other than this, and it's like it used to only be about the music, and now I care about my well-being, mentally, and my life and the people around me and taking care of everybody. And so it's like I don't have much to celebrate in the aspect of like growth. I'm really sitting back and being like, oh my god, I need to grow now, and that's my focus. And so with the music, I'm grateful, but I'm not content. Like this shit is gonna feed my kids, kids, kids, kids, kids, kids, kids. And so I'm very happy and I'm very grateful, but I also know I worked my ass off for everything I have, and I have to continue to work my ass off, or it's it'll go away tomorrow. You know, I can't be can't take it for granted. So I can't sit back and you know I'm grateful, I'm happy, but I if I take a step back, somebody's gonna pass me, and I can't let that happen. That's it.

SPEAKER_11 40:09

Okay, so okay, wait, I have one more question. Okay, this is none of my music. Do you feel like the world is desensitized?

SPEAKER_04 40:15

Oh my god, yeah. I feel like it, regardless of how bad things have always been, dude, if we had TikTok during World War II, we'd be fucked up.

SPEAKER_02 40:21

We'd be fucked up.

SPEAKER_04 40:22

If on the other side, if the Beatles had TikTok and they had to promote their music, and they were like, we just tripped I said and we made a song about Lacey and the sky with diamonds. You'd be like, Who the fuck are these guys doing? Did y'all expect that?

SPEAKER_12 40:35

Did y'all expect that? Imagine Michael Jackson gets on and he's like, Hey, you guys send me this tongue, you're gonna listen to it. You're gonna be like, Michael, get out of here. We ain't got time for you right now.

SPEAKER_04 40:46

You know what I'm saying? So it's definitely desensitized. I'm desensitized. My my niece, like, I know the world's desensitized because when I was growing up, advertisements had no profanity, no nudity, no nothing. Now, if I get on my phone, there's gonna be an ad that pops up with a girl shaking ass or somebody saying the F-word on YouTube. And my niece is watching this shit. So I'm like, I know we're desensitized because I'd have got my ass whooped for that. I would have felt like I needed my ass whooped just for seeing it. Just for watching it. I would have told, you know what I'm saying? There was just a different level of respect. And I feel like everything's been watered down now where people don't value connection or bliss. Like everybody is so worried about knowing, knowing this, knowing that, knowing this, knowing that. We used to be, and for better and for worse, we used to not care as much as we do now. So, in some ways, it's a lot better now, and there's a lot more that gets spoken about that needs to be spoken about. And in some ways, people care about shit that just does not matter, and all it does is separate us. And so, yeah, hell yeah. Desensitized as fuck.

SPEAKER_11 41:42

Clock it. Clock it.

SPEAKER_04 41:44

I should not be able to search up.

SPEAKER_11 41:45

Why are you not clocking it?

SPEAKER_04 41:46

You know, there's people with curiosity. Curiosity used to be curiosity. And now you just know. Oh, if you want to know, you just know. Everything that's not, I don't think that's healthy. I don't think we were meant to know everything. Nope.

SPEAKER_10 41:56

Nope.

SPEAKER_12 41:56

No, no, no. I want to know. Thank you, though, until you find out and then you look at the work. Fuck yeah. They know something. And Area 51. You trying to go with me?

SPEAKER_04 42:06

No, look, if we're getting on, if we're getting on conspiracy theories, this is gonna run for another 45 minutes.

SPEAKER_10 42:10

Because I'm in that shit. I'm in that shit. I was about to say, you know, the trees.

SPEAKER_05 42:16

I just wanna go take a trip to a motherfucking beach and get me a margarita. Yeah, amen. That's three hours. Happy three hours.

SPEAKER_04 42:22

You're you're comfortable not knowing. You just want to get me happy.

SPEAKER_03 42:25

No, no, no, no, no, it can't go to DR.

SPEAKER_10 42:27

What the nobody caught that can't go to DR.

SPEAKER_11 42:31

Wait a minute. He can't go to DR. They restricted. I'll be in trouble. They restricted all. Wait, you can't prove that.

SPEAKER_05 42:40

Wait, what is it?

SPEAKER_04 42:41

What does it say?

SPEAKER_05 42:43

Say what? Because y'all smoking, you gotta do it. They can't prove that.

SPEAKER_10 42:50

They did have it covered up though.

SPEAKER_07 42:51

They did, but they said, I know I did.

Why Only One Feature Made It

SPEAKER_10 42:53

I was like, Yeah, but you know, every week, yeah, I don't think as long as it's a little bit more.

SPEAKER_04 42:57

It ain't been not one week that I ain't smoking. She's smoking.

SPEAKER_12 43:01

Allegedly, allegedly, allegedly.

SPEAKER_04 43:03

It's uh allegedly, allegedly. Allegedly. Allegedly.

SPEAKER_05 43:08

Allegedly. Hey, listen. Alright, you're sticking around, right? We got some segments and shit to get through. We need you to stick around so you can participate in the segment. You cool? Wait, no. Okay. Tell them where they can find you then. Oh, yeah. Tell them I got a social media platform.

SPEAKER_04 43:21

My name is Nella. Um, but that's what people call me, but my name is Anella. Uh Anella. All my uh social medias are just A-N-E-L-L-A. Yes. Um, some of them still have game on the end of them. But you can find me anywhere. Just search up Anella and yeah, on every on all platforms.

SPEAKER_05 43:35

One of them. We're gonna play that song. Two tongue, yeah. And we're gonna play to keep it.

SPEAKER_10 43:41

And then don't hit me up, and then don't hit me up, and you can't have both.

SPEAKER_07 43:53

It's another night, another night, I like that. It's an hour power.

SPEAKER_05 43:58

Y'all for this.

SPEAKER_07 44:00

Let's give it a B.

SPEAKER_05 44:02

And feel free to chime in. Like, yeah. Because some of the guests they come and they just sit back and they don't want to chime in.

SPEAKER_07 44:08

Oh, I'm talking shit. Yes. Yeah. Cause I'm gonna talk my shit. Alright. We are back with the bounce breakdown. I'm good. What's your fave? Nola girl.

SPEAKER_05 44:19

Nola girl?

SPEAKER_07 44:20

Yeah, Nola girl, because I'm a Nola girl. My name is Nola Desk. What's her music?

SPEAKER_05 44:26

Wait, you are brand. You gotta use your brand name, Nola Desk.

SPEAKER_10 44:29

What's your girl? Nola Desk. Somebody messaged us and said, um, what did they say, Belle? Huh? Y'all still introducing yourself as It's your girl. Yeah, that's so no shade. It's your girl. I was gonna say that. I was like, oh yeah, I'm gonna say that.

SPEAKER_12 44:50

And I was like, who said that? It was just like all three of them. I was like, oh my god. They all said it.

SPEAKER_07 44:56

Listen, I'm gonna say it many times. It's your girl, Nola Des.

SPEAKER_05 45:00

Sugar Nola Des, bitches.

SPEAKER_07 45:02

I'm a brand now. I got my name printed on a matcha.

unknown 45:06

No, really.

SPEAKER_05 45:09

Nah, that's it. You be hating.

SPEAKER_10 45:15

And you guys like matcha for real? No, it's diarrhea and it's not a good thing.

SPEAKER_05 45:20

This shit is horrible.

SPEAKER_10 45:21

Anyways, I like it. We here about to break down where we talk about the news, the drama, and this fucked up shit in this world.

SPEAKER_00 45:27

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 45:28

So let's start my hot take of the week. And it's April, a new month, the month of growth. So I want to start off by saying men and women, not just the men. We're gonna get on both of y'all. We're gonna get on both of y'all today. So listen.

SPEAKER_05 45:43

Me and Nella, we're on the wall. We're always on the man's side. We're always on the man's side. I'm in between.

SPEAKER_07 45:48

I just had that he was coaching.

SPEAKER_10 45:53

Alright, so we need to learn how to walk away. Okay?

SPEAKER_07 45:56

Whether it's a relationship, a friendship, a job, or a conversation that is ruining your peace, just walk the fuck away.

SPEAKER_01 46:05

I agree.

SPEAKER_07 46:06

And I'm learning myself, you know?

SPEAKER_01 46:08

I have to do my best.

SPEAKER_07 46:09

Watch this ass as I switched. That's a fact.

SPEAKER_10 46:11

Now pop a hip out, but right. If you want a text message conversation, you don't want like just hit okay. That's it. Just hit okay. Or K if you want to be real. No, no, big okay, because K gonna piss me the fuck off. I have so much more. I tell you what the fuck and why and when. And then that's it. Yeah. And that's okay with me. Because that grinds my fucking ears. Me too. That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_05 46:33

But you know the biggest thing that I think people need to walk away from, but a lot of people can't walk away from jobs. Motherfuckers be at jobs that they can't stand, but they gotta stay at the job because they gotta pay the bills.

SPEAKER_01 46:46

Fats.

SPEAKER_05 46:46

You know what I'm saying? And so they like, yo, I want to walk away, but I can't walk away. But sometimes you just gotta walk the fuck away. Leap of faith and go. Fuck them bills, that insurance. You get that insurance, like damn.

SPEAKER_08 46:59

How can I leave? Yeah. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_05 47:01

As soon as you walk away, your knee fucked up. You gotta you need this prescription and that prescription.

SPEAKER_10 47:08

It's like, damn, I need to go back. That's facts.

SPEAKER_05 47:10

That's facts. That's facts.

SPEAKER_10 47:11

So now let's get into what I really want to break down.

SPEAKER_07 47:14

We're gonna talk about this nigga, Jaden Ivy. Who? Jaden Ivy. If you don't know who Jaden Ivy is, because y'all motherfuckers keep saying who like you a damn owl.

SPEAKER_10 47:25

Jaden is a young NBA guard who was waived by the Chicago Bulls on March 30th. Because um, he got waived because he was dealing um with an injury. He was dealing with an injury, which was reported after his last play on February 11th, that he has broken a fibula.

SPEAKER_07 47:42

He has broke his broken fibula. Not has a, yeah. He has a broken fibula. Hey, we got another name Yo, shut up. She's been talking cursed. And the store led to which caused him to shut down for the season before his release.

SPEAKER_10 47:58

And during the time that he was out, he decides to go on live, run about his religious beliefs concerning NBA Prima, saying it promotes unrighteousness. The pride, you know, the NBA Prima. Promotes unrighteousness. Unrighteousness. Then he said Catholicism is a Catholic Catholicism.

SPEAKER_07 48:16

Catholicism. I'm saying it right. I just said it fast. Catholicism. Catholicism. Catholicism. Catholicism. I'm saying it.

SPEAKER_12 48:29

They know they're wrong.

SPEAKER_07 48:31

Hold on, hold on. Why you look at me?

SPEAKER_03 48:37

Don't put me this. I agree too much too long. I agree.

SPEAKER_05 48:40

But I had to put you again, like. They say nothing new. But I'm no better. They say they were Catholicism because of an accent. They were Catholic.

SPEAKER_03 48:52

Is it Catholicism or Catholicism?

SPEAKER_07 48:53

Well, Google is that Catholic. Catholicism. Catholicism.

SPEAKER_04 48:58

You know who would know?

SPEAKER_07 48:58

You know who the fuck?

SPEAKER_04 49:00

Siri.

SPEAKER_07 49:00

Fuck Siri.

SPEAKER_05 49:01

Siri would know.

SPEAKER_07 49:02

Chatisha.

SPEAKER_05 49:03

How do you pronounce Catholicism?

SPEAKER_10 49:05

Anyways, they said that Catholicism is a false religion and that it does not lead to salvation. He even questioned Steph Curry's religious belief.

SPEAKER_05 49:15

It's crazy.

SPEAKER_10 49:16

He said he wasn't a Christian. So altogether he was giving his opinions about the NBA and team members on his religious side. Which I feel like, you know, they're, you know, Christians, they're gonna have their opinion all the motherfucking time. There's nothing you can do. They they judge motherfuckers all the time. But the Chicago Bulls labeled his cutoff as conduct detrimental to the team because Jaden went public and he was aggressive and his rant and targeted at LGBTQ and bringing up team members in the league while representing the NBA. Which, you know, I feel like everyone has freedom of speech. You know what I'm saying? And they they didn't really care about his freedom of speech because they cut that nigga off. He was on a drug rant. I feel like he was going through something spiritually, because you know, he went through the whole injury thing, the whole mental health, and fucked with you when he was going through something. You, you know, your whole mental health is just all over the just going through something.

SPEAKER_05 50:11

Listen, this is no advisory, right?

SPEAKER_10 50:13

He was going through something. He was in psychosis.

SPEAKER_05 50:16

He fucked up. That happens a lot.

SPEAKER_10 50:18

It does. Spiritual warfare. I've seen that.

The Track That Got Left Off

SPEAKER_05 50:19

The thing is, the thing about this whole fucking situation is this nigga didn't realize that you are signed to a team that is governed by the National Basketball Association. Granted, we all have freedom of speech, yes. But there are always consequences to anything that we say, and you have to be mindful of who pays your bills and who cuts the checks. The NBA Chicago Bulls cut your checks. So even though I don't have nothing, I don't have nothing against what he said, but you gotta be mindful of what you say because you're gonna have to endure the consequences of that after you said such things about, especially against the LBGTQ. They are a fucking power movement. What did he say?

SPEAKER_10 51:06

Exactly. That was my next question. What did he say? Like, why was everybody's?

SPEAKER_05 51:09

No, it was nothing, it was nothing negative that he said. He just was saying things that was like, because there are some people that feel that the LBGT community are not or are not of the law of of God. Right? That's what some people say. That's they say there's like, you know, you gave that. Stipulation. Stipulation. So it's sacrificed sacrilegious and shit like that. So I don't get into that. But you know, there's gonna some people that that's there's gonna be people that agree with him, there's gonna be people that's gonna disagree with him. But the bottom line is you're you can't say that shit when you sign to an NBA team, there's stipulations in contracts that says you cannot talk about that shit. If you do, then you out of here. Yeah, and he's out of here.

SPEAKER_04 51:53

I feel like the NBA being an American association has to follow a certain agenda, too. It's not even like because if they wouldn't have said nothing, they would have caught shit. It's like he's they're just protecting a brand at that point. So don't know what he said.

SPEAKER_05 52:07

I feel both parties were wrong. Basically, play a role. Play a role. Both parties are right.

SPEAKER_10 52:12

Or mind your business. I feel like he had too much time on his hand. He was feeling injured and he ain't have shit to do, so he just decided to get and say some shit. But that's what most people do, right? They feel like they got to do it. I just you know something. It's that main character syndrome. You need to just sit your ass down and shit. And if he's so much of a Christian, he shouldn't be judging. Nobody says, nobody's saying what he said.

SPEAKER_12 52:36

I was about to say, so what was he at on Twitter? What was he on TikTok? What was he at talking? He had to be on. Okay, I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_04 52:44

He had to be on nobody's posting it. What did he say? To be on the internet forever, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 52:47

I mean, y'all feel free to go look at it, you know. Ivy, he's gonna be able to do it. Yeah, that's definitely on his page. Yeah, so that's that was save the lie. Oh, he posts. That's crazy. I mean, he got a couple of things.

SPEAKER_03 52:57

Now that's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 52:59

You already got clip from the from his.

SPEAKER_10 53:01

Yeah, but everybody was clipping that shit. Everybody was clipping that shit. Might as well.

SPEAKER_07 53:06

So the next thing I want to break down is why are y'all forcing women to have a c-section? Did y'all not see that?

SPEAKER_05 53:13

Y'all women's to have a section. Who was forcing women to have a C-section? We're gonna talk about it. We're gonna talk about it.

SPEAKER_07 53:18

Yeah, we're gonna talk about it.

SPEAKER_10 53:20

So a Florida woman, Cheraz Dolly, who was a mother of three, who had three C-sections with the three children, which was traumatized. She traumatized her. The three-sections traumatized her. And she is also a doula. And she was put in a virtual court while she was in labor.

SPEAKER_04 53:35

A virtual court?

SPEAKER_10 53:36

A virtual court.

SPEAKER_04 53:36

Red flag.

SPEAKER_10 53:37

She was on the highest. She was in the hospital.

SPEAKER_04 53:39

Why the fuck are you in court? You pregnant. You give birth.

unknown 53:42

No.

SPEAKER_04 53:42

No head gets pregnant, people, but you can go to court because wild.

SPEAKER_07 53:46

Never.

SPEAKER_10 53:46

She refused a C-section.

SPEAKER_07 53:48

So she went to the hospital planning a natural birth.

SPEAKER_10 53:51

But the doctors pushed for a surgery due to possible risks like uterine rupture. She issued that she wanted to give a vaginal birth, but they refused. And instead, they bought her a tablet which shows that she was on a virtual court hearing.

SPEAKER_02 54:05

What?

SPEAKER_10 54:05

Without a lawyer and an advocate. So she had to defend herself while she was in the hospital.

SPEAKER_04 54:10

Wait, okay. Wait, so why wouldn't they let her and this is in Florida?

SPEAKER_10 54:14

Yeah, that's how you in Florida. She wanted to have a vaginal birth, but they told her she couldn't because um a vagina. Urine rupture. Just say helper.

SPEAKER_04 54:24

Helper. I feel like there's a line there.

SPEAKER_10 54:28

There's definitely a line there.

SPEAKER_04 54:29

Well, what happens if she does give vaginal birth and then it rupts like some whatever goes wrong goes wrong and they lose her or the baby? Whose fault is that? Because the doctor knew. But and you don't know because you're not a big thing.

SPEAKER_10 54:41

Well, she is a doula. She's a duela, so I'm pretty sure she knows her body. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know what that means.

SPEAKER_04 54:46

One, I don't know. Two. I'm a dude. I'll never fucking give birth. And I cannot, I can't, I really can't speak on this shit with any weight. I'm I'm this is strictly just words coming out of my fucking mouth. I'm well, I want to learn.

unknown 54:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 54:58

Yeah. So whatever I'm saying, if I offend somebody, my fucking bad. I don't know what you're going through. Never will.

SPEAKER_10 55:03

Even though she's gonna sign like a liability waiver or something saying that, you know, you guys aren't liable for my life. I still, you know, I still want a vaginal birth. There's ways around it, but I did read online that if you have like one or more C-sections, you can't have a natural. Uh-uh. No, no, no, that's not true. That's not true. But she had three C-sections, so obviously there was a reason why they were trying to deter her from having a vaginal birth. But I did see the footage. Like she was literally under the hospital bed. Let me finish up. Let me finish up. Okay, right. Let me wait, let me finish. So the judge did not immediately force it, but he ruled the hospital could could perform a c-section in an emergency, even without her consent. She even asked for African Americans because everyone that was on the screen was not African American, so she was very uncomfortable. And the judge ruled conspiracy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 55:53

Wait, were they all white or was there like Asians? Probably was Indians. You saying they weren't African American? They weren't. Or are you saying they were only white?

SPEAKER_07 56:01

They were all white.

SPEAKER_04 56:02

Okay, see? That's context. No advice.

SPEAKER_07 56:05

There's no white.

SPEAKER_12 56:07

I get it.

SPEAKER_04 56:07

Yes.

SPEAKER_12 56:10

I gotta be educated. I wouldn't say all white.

SPEAKER_05 56:12

No, no, they were all white. They were Indian? They were all black, all white.

SPEAKER_10 56:14

In the video, they were all white. Pretty easy. I've seen the whole thing.

SPEAKER_04 56:18

Now we're educated.

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SPEAKER_10 56:20

So the judge ruled after three hours of testimony, she was on courts for three hours, y'all, that she can keep trying for vaginal birth unless there was an emergency. So overnight, the baby heart rate dropped for seven minutes. And Dolly woke up on her hospital bed being woed into surgery. So the baby was delivered by a C-section. And the next morning, right after she gave birth, the doctors gave Dolly a tablet for a final hearing. And she said on the on the call, this is re-traumatizing. And she did not want to be on the call anymore. She just wanted to hear her baby. So she refused to call. And I really wanted to talk about it because, like, that somewhat happened to me when I was giving labor. I didn't want to have a c-section, but my pelvic was too small. So they was like, oh, you gotta have it. And then they waited until his heart dropped for me to have an emergency C-section. So that's why I really wanted to talk about it because I definitely felt it. But what I really want to say is C-sections are very serious, and the major surgery, it is a very major surgery where a woman is cut seven times, and you should not force someone just because you like you feel like it's best for them. Because I don't think women are really being hurt when it comes to their bodies. So yeah, that's it. That's it. I know what I was gonna say. Okay, okay, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_12 57:35

I know what I'm gonna say for her being a doula, for her being a doula and she allowed the heart rate to drop.

SPEAKER_11 57:41

Were you laying down while you were because if she was on this call for three hours, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. But she's because you said she was in court for three hours.

SPEAKER_12 57:50

Was she laying on her back that entire time when she was now you know if you're a doula, why are you not walking around? Why are you right laying on your back? So of course your oxygen is gonna drop.

SPEAKER_09 58:01

Mind you, as a doula, I mean, yes, they have like a certain certification, but it's not the same as an actual doctor. That's why a lot of doula they'll go with you to the hospital. Can you let our friend know what a doula is?

SPEAKER_05 58:13

Oh yeah, doula! Oh yeah, so I'm here.

SPEAKER_04 58:17

Never mind. I'm not gonna get not serious right now.

SPEAKER_05 58:20

No, no, just point to there.

SPEAKER_09 58:21

What was you saying?

SPEAKER_04 58:21

What is a doula? You said you are one.

SPEAKER_09 58:24

No, I didn't say I was one. No, I did say as a doom. I want to be a doula, though. Oh, sorry. But I support that. I don't know what it is yet. Actually, let me tell you what it is. But with that being said, is this literally um like a you know how what a midwife is?

SPEAKER_02 58:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_09 58:39

Yes, so it's like that, but it's not the same because they are kind of in the same category as it's so yet they're the ones who literally come to the house, you know, check in with the mother as well as the husband, because it's like a full-on thing. Like you go over with your diet, you go over certain things as far as like, hey, how are we gonna prepare for this?

SPEAKER_04 58:57

Exercise, pregnancy assistant, pretty much, yeah. Okay, boom.

SPEAKER_11 59:00

Yeah, pretty much with no license, there is and no white coat.

SPEAKER_10 59:04

But hell. There's a certification. What's a certification that you have to give?

SPEAKER_04 59:09

Is this is this are you do you certify yourself online or does someone come certify you?

SPEAKER_11 59:13

That's a PSA.

SPEAKER_12 59:14

Doctors are skilled in patching up a problem, they're not skilled in health.

SPEAKER_04 59:18

Yeah, if it's like a self-diagnosed doula, no, you guys. Not it.

SPEAKER_05 59:22

No, but seriously, the only thing I gotta say about that is like to your point, Nell is like some, like we want to believe doctors a lot of times, and then we want to believe our bodies a lot of times. I don't like doctors, but a lot of times, like if the doctor is telling you, hey, listen, you gotta do a C-section, but you and having a door are like, no, I'm gonna give natural birth, right? Like, what if one of the doctor is in a position where he can't allow you to be in a position where you do a natural birth and you kill yourself or the baby, right? But you fighting that is like, no, I want to give a natural birth. So what if the doctor said, you know what? Doctors, you know what, it sounds crazy, but what if doctors say, you know what? Fuck it. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_10 1:00:03

But she was more scared because she didn't want to have a C-section. She felt like she was going to lose her life. She was like, she has other kids that she has to go home to.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:11

No, I'm saying, but as a doctor, what if the doctors say, like, because if you're fighting and not giving and not having a C-section, you want to give her natural birth. The doctor is saying, okay, you gotta get a C-section. Natural birth is not gonna work. So what if the one of the doctors say, you know what? Fuck it. Whatever you want to do, and then one of, God forbid, knock on the table, one of the person dies, then what?

SPEAKER_10 1:00:34

Lex was mentioning something about they can sign a liability waiver and then they could say, whatever, you don't have any liability. But I don't know how that is tailored to each state. Uh I'm with Destiny, I do our own research. They overlook black women a lot of the times.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:49

Is Florida in the Bible belt?

SPEAKER_10 1:00:50

And um, I'm not sure, but even if just from that, what we know already, she had three previous C-sections. So that goes to tell you she couldn't either have a natural birth or there was going to be complications. And these doctors also be adding extra shit just for the the bill.

SPEAKER_12 1:01:05

Yeah, like they charge for skin to skin, they charge for you to breast.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:09

They charge you to even take your placenta if you want it. If you want it, yeah. Yeah, because that shit is worth that shit is gold.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:15

But that was crazy. I I I looked into that placenta shit. Like they do be trying to take your placenta. Uh woman by right. If they want their placenta, they have the right to take it.

SPEAKER_08 1:01:27

To keep it, but they ain't got no right. But shouldn't they pay you for it?

SPEAKER_05 1:01:30

Especially if you get birth in a whole hospital, you have no rights. If it's worth money. I know if you do a natural birth, you normally they keep the percentage like that. But it should be.

SPEAKER_10 1:01:43

They kept my placenta.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:44

They charge. No, but chalka actually keep it. You can keep it now with Medicaid.

SPEAKER_10 1:01:48

Nope.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:48

They charge you for it?

SPEAKER_05 1:01:49

Yeah, you little, they charge you for it.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:52

It's good medicine. It definitely is good medicine.

SPEAKER_10 1:01:55

But that is the name of the nutrients that are fucking healthy as fuck. Release is like on next segment, man. If you have Medicaid. Alright, next topic is well the next question, actually. This is my last thing.

SPEAKER_08 1:02:10

Next question.

When The Hobby Becomes A Job

SPEAKER_10 1:02:11

So, do y'all think men are intimidated by successful women? And before y'all answer, no. I'm gonna tell y'all before y'all answer, I'm gonna tell y'all where this comes from. I come from Ari Lennon's, where she sat down with the Poor Minds podcast, which they are coming to Charlotte, May 24th. Fuck them.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:28

I don't give a fuck about that. You know, fuck them.

SPEAKER_10 1:02:32

We love the other podcasts. We love the podcast. Yeah, we love y'all before. We would definitely want to collapse. Which would be like so in the interview, Ari mentioned the minute she started leveling up, buying properties, and you know, dating basically changed, and whether it was a successful man or not, she explained how the men she dealt with, they felt intimidated by her, or that it like deters them by seeing that you know all her success that she accomplished, and they never like felt excited for anything, and she felt like her accomplishments were minimized. So, like, I want to know, men, is that an eagle thing, and security, insecurity, it's like three of them. So I want to know. Men.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:16

I feel like it stems from how you're raised. Yeah, absolutely. Like, if you don't want to be with a girl that makes more than you, don't be with a girl. It's not that like I personally, that's not my dream situation. I would love to provide for somebody. That's that's where I find value as a man, is providing for you. And if you've if you've already been through these experiences or you've already had these things or you know, found this success without me, I kind of I don't feel useless, but that's just how I was raised. I don't want to sit at home and you pay for everything. Like, I'm proud of, I'm proud of you. Like, fucking go you. You know, I'm not gonna marry you, but I'll be your best friend. Like I'm lit. We're lit. But that's that's not what I that's not my dream relationship. Like, that's not where I need a connection. You know what I'm saying? You value connection, you find somebody you connect with. I wouldn't connect with someone more successful than me because part of my value is providing that for you. It's is being necessary in that way of life. I want to take care of you. You know what I'm saying? I want to be taken care of emotionally, I want to be nurtured, I want to be cared for. I like that answer. And I want to be able to provide you with strength and stability and life. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_12 1:04:13

Like, you don't want to be hearing about her um busy day when you want food.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:17

Oh no. I love no, if you're being busy and being more successful, being successful and being more successful than me are two different things. I want my girlfriend to be happy and successful and have a passion and follow her passion and find new things in life and be excited about accomplishments, and you can come and tell me about all your success. Now, if you're like, if I get home and I'm like, oh my god, I closed a hundred twenty thousand dollar deal, and you're like, yeah, I closed a million dollar deal, I'm gonna be like, what the fuck? Why'd you just say that?

SPEAKER_03 1:04:40

You know what I'm saying? I'm still being a good idea. Go get some back. Go get some back. Yeah, I'm gonna be like, I'm gonna be like, you could have said that shit tomorrow.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:46

Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:47

But you know what? I think, and that's where the issue lies, right? Because as men, we feel like we are the providers. So if our lady is making more than us, then we feel like we are not providing. And I think we gotta get out of that MO. Because I was in a situation where the woman was the breadwinner. I didn't give a fuck because I felt like I was, you know, making my money too. So it was like I was still providing, I was still being the man, and she was allowing me to be the man, but at the end of the day, she was the breadwinner at the time. I don't give a fuck because you know what? We're a team, or we're supposed to be a team. So who gives a fuck who makes more? I think that's uh for a man, that's an ego thing more so than none. Because I think that's the pride thing, because we are trained that we have to be the providers. So our woman is making more than us, and she the breadwinner. A lot of men feel ego-wise, it's a shot to the ego, like fuck, I gotta do something, I gotta be the breadwinner. Nah, nigga, just be cool. That shit let her do her, find your way, still be the nigga, still be the man, you know what I'm saying? And y'all can figure that shit out. I just think it's an ego thing.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:56

I second. I don't got no problem with it. I feel like, yeah, I can I can't, I can be honest. I got an ego sometimes.

SPEAKER_11 1:06:01

See?

SPEAKER_04 1:06:02

I'm honest about it though. I'm not against it. I'm fucking 24.

SPEAKER_12 1:06:06

Let me grow up a little bit.

SPEAKER_11 1:06:07

That's fine.

SPEAKER_04 1:06:08

Let me beat the dude.

SPEAKER_11 1:06:09

He's still learning, no. He's still learning.

SPEAKER_04 1:06:11

Yeah. And I can fall back on that sometimes.

SPEAKER_11 1:06:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:17

I said, why wouldn't we be flicking? Ask the ladies. How would y'all feel if y'all made more than the man? Are you gonna look less?

SPEAKER_05 1:06:24

Oh, that was a good question. Don't you know what's crazy about that? In this way, in this society now, a lot of women wake make way more than the men. See, but all right.

SPEAKER_04 1:06:34

Say we're together, you make more money than me, and we get an argument because I'm not fulfilling the need you have. No, uh, okay, so say say we're in an argument, and I'm like, I don't like, you know, I don't like that you're fucking going out every night. And are you gonna look at me and go, I'll pay the fucking bills, you can't tell me what I can and can't do?

SPEAKER_10 1:06:58

That's a lot of females that do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:59

It's a it's a you're not lying, but it's like you, it's not a little bit. Wait, stop right there though. Stop right there. I'm not talking because if it depends on how that situation is, because the woman can make more money than you, right? But if you are the man that's like, you know what, I'm taking care of the bills because you make money too. So that shouldn't be an issue, unless you're a deadbeat nigga, and you because she makes all the money, ain't gonna let her pay all the bills. Then she got every right to say that. But if you're a nigga that's like, you know what, you make that bread, I make bread too. I'ma still be like, basically just letting her bills.

SPEAKER_10 1:07:31

Basically letting her account bills. So you're like, nah, your money's still your money, baby. But I still won't pay the bills.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:36

Like, so it shouldn't be no issue there. That's the only issue if she says that if she the nigga just not.

SPEAKER_10 1:07:42

Or if she just toxic, because at some point, you have to be a team player. You know, be successful. Like it has to be a balance.

SPEAKER_04 1:07:53

I don't think so. Yeah, my closing statement. I don't think I would be intimidated by you being more successful. I'm intimidated by you, us being in a disagreement and you using that against me and trying to make me feel smaller or like less of a man because you make more money than me. Because when you say, Oh, are you intimidated by successful women? Oh my god, no. I would love to sit on my ass all day and you pay everything and I get to do whatever.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:15

You know what I'm saying? In my, in my in my face, oh my god, it's back to being a hobby. I would love to talk about it.

SPEAKER_04 1:08:23

But I don't got enough trust in somebody to be comfortable with you in a relationship and really love you and value you and be able to be vulnerable with you and like give into you for you to be like, throw that shit back in my face and call me weak because I'm comfortable being vulnerable with you or because I'm comfortable being taken care of. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, I just think it's that self-preservation and that it is pride, it is ego, but at the same time, it's like shit. I got if I'm gonna be a man, I'm not gonna put, I'm not gonna let you put me in the position to feel like less of a man. As a man. As a man. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_10 1:08:54

Love that. All right, then if you are intimidated by woman, put that in the comments.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:00

Don't be with that woman.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:02

Alright, that is all for me with the bounce breakdown.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:14

What would you do? So my what would you do is are always accounts either by me, accounts that I saw, or accounts that came from somebody else. So this today's what would you do is account by me. Sorry, Swish. I know Swish wanted to be here for this one, but this one is for you, Swish. Listen, I don't know about you. So what would you do? What would you do? You got a homeboy, you know. And um, you know, y'all have a great relationship and y'all always joke relationship all the time. And um, your homeboy, he got you. He got you in a prank or whatever. Like he always tries to get you in a prank. And you know that he knows that you are fucking really hard to get on a prank. And he knows that he's really hard to get on a prank. So fuck around, and he got you one time. Like, okay, cool. So you're like, okay, so and that's in the back of your mind, you're like, I'm gonna get this motherfucker back. What'd you do? So what'd you do? You and your your man, y'all chilling, y'all smoking, whatever the case maybe drinking. However, you wanna do it. And then why you why you say let's say you smoking? You smoking.

SPEAKER_08 1:10:25

Smoking, smoking. In your plane. Thank you. Nothing, nothing. Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead. No, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead. She didn't say shit. Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:38

Y'all know I I draw my shits out. We know. Okay, so we know it out. Yeah, now draw it out and add on. Uh huh. So I'm draw it out. Draw it out. So what would you do? What would you do? Y'all chillin', y'all sitting down, and I mean y'all cheating, and then you start to react like you hallucinating. Right? Like, like, like whatever the shit that you had was was fucking spike. So what would you do if you the dude and you see your people's spazzing out, hallucinating, stop. What would you do at that point? This is so far-20 quoted.

SPEAKER_10 1:11:22

You should have left this for the for the event. By the way, there is an event on the on on um um April 18th. I got a I got a good one for that one. I didn't use that one. I got a great one for that one. I'm calling the police. Well, not the police, but like at least an ambulance or something. My ambulance. I'm the I'm calling bugging out or then bugging. There's no way to ambulance. I'm bugging out. I'm bugging out. I said ambulance first. I said it correctly the first time, and then I said it the black way. I'm not you.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:47

K, what'd she say, Kay? I'm not ambulance. What'd she say? I'm not you, friend.

SPEAKER_10 1:11:54

Stop projecting. Listen, y'all not gonna keep doing me like that. I will I will call somebody because I I don't know, hallucinations from smoking weed, that's not normal. I mean, that means he was laced. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like somebody, somebody probably smoked too much. Spice. I got a story, y'all. When I was when I when I first smoked. I was present. Right, this ain't a television moment. So, what would I do if that person was hallucinating?

SPEAKER_05 1:12:20

Yeah, what would you do if you sit in there and your man's and shit is hallucinating? Give them some milk.

SPEAKER_10 1:12:25

I'm gonna laugh at that nigga. Oh my god. That's gonna make it worse. We need to give you some milk first. I'm gonna laugh at that nigga. You need some weed. Go ahead, just take a nap. Take a nap. It's all right.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:36

Hey, it doesn't be called the police on the end. Take a nap. Take it out.

SPEAKER_12 1:12:39

You gotta really talk them through that and probably put them in a shower or something. A very cold shower.

SPEAKER_10 1:12:45

You can't. Because you're tripping. Put it all on the head.

SPEAKER_12 1:12:47

They're gonna be like, oh, and all that, but it's okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:50

Just let's take a quick little shower. So you're gonna tell them suggest a shower? I'm gonna talk them through it and then I'm gonna throw them in the shower.

SPEAKER_11 1:12:59

Throw them in the shower.

SPEAKER_10 1:13:02

I'm pretty much gonna do the same thing. Shower. I might just be like, oh my god, you high as hell, girl. Like, okay, let's get you some cold. I I don't fucking. Y'all gonna be like, y'all, you ain't smoking me no more. You know, because you know how to do it.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:17

We can talk about that afterwards. Because we got some shit to talk about. Yeah, I'm gonna be able to do that.

SPEAKER_10 1:13:22

I'm gonna say that time. I'm definitely gonna be talking shit afterwards. Okay. But like in the moment, hell no. Ambalance. Ambalance. Why would you call them folks over there?

SPEAKER_12 1:13:32

You over there smoking, y'all doing drugs, stuff.

SPEAKER_10 1:13:35

Her heart rate is elevated. I don't know what the medical is. Will it be my fault if they died? They wouldn't gonna die. You don't know that. You don't know that because you're gonna be too busy laughing. I show the fuck out. Exactly. I show the fucking. Take a nap, nigga.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:51

Okay, so the general consensus is y'all would uh try to help. Help into a shower.

Are We All Desensitized Now

SPEAKER_10 1:13:58

That's what they said. No, no, no. I'm calling the ambulance. I don't think she should call them folks. I'm not letting me watch. Okay, so boom.

SPEAKER_12 1:14:07

The weed that they the whatever they were smoking, you provided it, right?

SPEAKER_05 1:14:12

THC. Who provided it?

SPEAKER_12 1:14:14

You said the person in the story. Okay, so it was you. Okay, it was the person that was hallucinating, and it was the other person.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:20

I smoked it.

SPEAKER_11 1:14:21

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_10 1:14:21

Yes, I smoked it. With your friend, but they started bugging out. So you was with them while they were smoking. I was the bug out. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_08 1:14:29

Oh my God. I'm definitely calling him.

SPEAKER_10 1:14:33

He is dramatic as fuck. Ain't no way. Natural tourist tendencies. Hell no.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:40

Yes.

SPEAKER_10 1:14:40

Yo, I'm cracking the fuck out. I'm definitely calling. I actually have a crazy 30 second story. That's what I'm saying. I went to a birthday party for my friend's daughter, and it was like on a Saturday or whatever. We had a good time. It was a punch there or whatever. And I know it had liquor in it. So we was all just drinking it. What's tequila, whatever? So probably like three hours later or whatever, I ended up going home. I ended up buying weed from the corner store, which is like a little dispensary, but it's a hood dispensary. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? So I go there, get the smoke, whatever. We smoke, and probably like 40 minutes later, I'm like, I feel crazy or whatever. My mouth was like, and I'm like, telling my best friend, bitch, I'm about to go to that store. I'm about to cuss them the fuck out. Cause they fucking sold me some fat. I swear to God, Hazel, you know. I was bugging out. Not even 20 minutes later, my friend who had the birthday party basically called me to tell me that everybody got laced. Oh my friend that made the punch put Patron in it that was like a bottle that her and her man was drinking out of that had Molly in it.

SPEAKER_08 1:15:36

Oh Molly, that we fucking money, bitch.

SPEAKER_10 1:15:39

Molly.

SPEAKER_08 1:15:43

No, no, no. That's what we're calling vote. You're going to jail.

SPEAKER_10 1:15:46

And she said they were playing cards. Everybody was having a good time, and she was wondering why everybody was like, so bitch. Bitch, I was on Molly. That's crazy. And then you had a great time though. I was sad after. I would feel violated. I even talked to the girl. I cussed her. I was like, don't ever bring that bitch around me. I might have to fight her. I wanted to. I might have to fight her.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:13

So I was hallucinating and I took it all the way to my crib. I'm like, yo. He was like, yo, yo, yo, Torne, you okay? Like, nah, bro. I'm bugging. I was like, like taking my shirt off and shit. He was like, yo, so he was really, really scared. So I went all the way upstairs to my apartment, to the bathroom. I was like, yo, like, yo, and so I called and I was like, ha, got you, nigga. So it was me doing this shit because he got me. You're saying before. So I'm like, I gotta get this. I forgot about the prank part.

SPEAKER_10 1:16:51

And that's you definitely said something about a prank part at the beginning.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:54

I did. So this nigga really thought that I was hallucinating because I put on such of an act that he thought that I was really hallucinating from the weed. He was ready to call 911. I put you out of the car. We was outside. We was outside and shit chilling. I just didn't get your fathead ass out. We was outside chilling and shit. You know what I mean? So that's what I wanted you to do so what would you do? If you saw your man's, your man, you smoking and chilling, and your man starts hallucinating, and you don't know what the fuck is going on, because you questioning yourself, like, nigga, I just smoked this shit with this nigga. I'm am I gonna start hallucinating too?

SPEAKER_10 1:17:35

Well, now I'm not gonna believe they ass. That's the fuck I'm gonna do.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:39

So what would you do if that happened to you?

SPEAKER_10 1:17:42

Bang. Well, you know, that's rude as hell. It is rude as hell. That's what I don't, I don't, that's why I only got like three friends. I'm not even gonna hold it.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:53

That's my BF.

SPEAKER_10 1:17:54

No, y'all look, y'all look, y'all are my um It's more than three of us. Family. I want to say family, but I don't like my family, so I can't even put that title on y'all because I like it.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:04

That's nasty.

Find Anella Online And Reset

Walk Away To Protect Your Peace

SPEAKER_10 1:18:06

No, they ain't judge your mama. Don't judge me. Don't do that. Are you with your mama? Right. So, right, what she said. All right, y'all. You already know what it is. What's up, freaks and geeks? It's lex rated. I don't have to say it every week, but Aunt wants me to say it every week. I have two degrees, so I know what I'm talking about. Okay? I understand. I I get you. I thought you were gonna say the other shit. Yeah. I'm about to correct your ass. Shut you. Oh my god. I understand behavior patterns and how people think. So this week I wanted to talk about stress and pressure. So I I feel like nobody really prepares you for how heavy life is. I feel like you can feel when everything hits at once. And when I say that, I mean like responsibilities, expectations, trying to keep your head above water and still show up like you're good and smile about it. So this isn't me talking to you like I don't know. I experienced stress and pressure. I feel like I said in a group chat at least five times this week that I'm stressed. I'm stressed the fuck out. And it ain't shit going on. That's the worst part. It's shit going on, but it is nothing going on to where I should feel stressed, and I feel it. It'd be like I feel it. So pressure isn't always the problem though. I used to think pressure meant something was wrong. Like if I felt overwhelmed, I needed to fix it some like something immediately. But now I'm starting to realize that pressure usually shows up when something actually matters to you. Okay, nobody feels pressure about things they don't care about. Okay, so if you're feeling it in your finances, your goals, your relationship, that's not random. That's attachment, that's standards, and that's you wanting better for yourself. So the issue isn't the pressure, it's that nobody teaches us how to carry it without letting it consume us. Nobody teaches us how to deal with it and process that information and the emotions and move forward. So when pressure starts turning into damage, this is the point where uh pressure stops building you and it starts breaking you. A lot of people don't notice that shift until it's already burnt out, or until they're already burnt out. You're irritated for no reason, you're snapping at people you actually care about, or you just go the other way and just shut down. You get quiet, distance, you mentioned he making me mess up. You mentally check out you put your phone on, do not disturb. I've been there a lot of times. I do it all the time. Do not disturb warrior. It's never off of do not disturb. You know I'm a press. That's why you can't nap peacefully. That's right. I'll be napping like a motherfucker. You know that I could take a nap in 45 minutes. Sorry, sorry, Lex. No, you're fine. I um so like I said, I've been there where I'm doing everything I'm supposed to be doing, but I'm tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix it. I've gotten amazing sleep all week and I'm still exhausted. I still feel like I haven't slept at all. That's not just stress, that's pressure that's been sitting too long to release. Where's the pressure coming from? I don't fucking know. A lot of us don't unless it's specific. The real problem most people ignore. Yes. Do you think it's that desensitization that we was talking about with um Manila?

SPEAKER_01 1:21:38

She said that shit a lot today.

SPEAKER_10 1:21:39

Do I think it's desensitization, desensitization, desensitization? Yeah. Say it again. I don't I don't think the word that I'm trying to say is the word. No, she don't want to say that motherfucker. You're desensitized. Yes, yeah. I I I was trying to make it a whole thing. Um I think so, yes. I think I think society is making it so we look at things and we don't take it as serious as what it is in the first instinct until it starts to snowball into something that's a little bit more um tragic or toxic. And then you start to process, like, oh shit, this is bad. Or or maybe you're in an instance where you're talking to someone and you're divulging like what you've been through or what you're going through, and they're like, damn, are you okay? Okay. That shit gets me a lot. Like a lot of times when I kind of not trauma dump, but vent to people. But vent to people, and they react in a way to where they're concerned or something like that. Yeah. Like I feel away. Like, I feel like, oh wow, maybe the maybe I got too much shit going on. So I definitely think it's how society has desensitized us in the world. But I also think it has a lot to do with individualism. Yes. In our parents not really teaching us how to process our emotions. I think that has a huge thing to do with it. Um, so that's why I think it's important. Like, if you have kids and you you, you know, are raising children, teach them how to process their emotions so you don't create serial pillars. Um black parents be like, so you want something to eat?

SPEAKER_02 1:23:23

Yeah.

NBA Rant And Workplace Consequences

SPEAKER_10 1:23:23

We never talked about what the issue was be prior to you asking me if I wanted something to eat. You just beat the hell out of me, and then you want to go uh play video games. No, I don't. Get away from me. Um the truth is most of us don't give ourselves space to release the pressure that we experience. We just keep stacking it. We wake up, we handle responsibilities, push through, and then repeat. Repeat, okay? No pause, no reset, no moment to even question what we're carrying. And some of that pressure, if we're being honest, we put on ourselves. So expectations we never stop to question, standards we pick up from other people, and timelines that don't even belong to us.

unknown 1:24:06

Please get us shit.

SPEAKER_10 1:24:07

And we just keep going like it's normal, y'all. Y'all have a whole schedule like myself. Everybody knows, everybody at this table knows that my calendar is my calendar. Still play by that calendar. If it's not on my calendar, I'm not doing it. And when I tell you, I still be forgetting shit. She does it. I still be forgetting shit. Yeah, even the shit that's on my calendar, I'll be forgetting. I just thought of planned because I like the markers together. Yeah, I got a planet. I got so much, and I'm just all over the place. But I got ADHD too, so there's that. She didn't. Um, we also have to shift our perspective though. Lately, I've been trying to approach shit differently. Instead of asking why I'm so stressed, I ask what the pressure is trying to show me. Right. What lesson do I need to learn about what I have going on? Maybe it's I need more time management. Maybe I need to wake up a little bit earlier and not sleep in. Maybe I don't need to stay up as long at nighttime. It's something I is it something I actually want, or is it something that I might need to pass on or I'm not supposed to want? Um, this is like when you put too much shit on your plate and some of those things you can do without. A lot of us do that because we want to be involved in everything and be a part of everything, but we don't need to be. Because those two are completely different. Something you actually want and something you're supposed to want. They create different paths in your life as well. And they come with two completely different types of pressure. You have the pressure of uh excelling, and then you have the pressure of being stagnant, where you feel like you're not going nowhere because it's too much shit going on at once, and there's no way for you to get to the next step. I mean both of those have completely different feelings. One leads to depression, then the other one might lead to burnout. Who knows? It is different for different people. So I'm gonna close out this week about pressure and stress. And I'm gonna say uh pressure isn't going nowhere. It's a part of life.

SPEAKER_02 1:26:03

Part of life, nigga.

SPEAKER_10 1:26:04

But the way you respond to it, that's where everything changes. It can shape you or it can slowly wear you down.

SPEAKER_01 1:26:10

Slow down.

SPEAKER_10 1:26:11

So this week, don't push through everything like we always do. Pay attention to what you're actually feeling, why it feels heavy, why it's exhausting, and ask yourself why. Because awareness will take you a lot further than just being strong all the time. We don't always have to be that strong, friend. Sometimes you can take a break, take a nap, take a breather. Love me a nap. And that's it. It's Lex Ray to y'all. I hope you enjoyed this. Don't be out here getting triggered by the shit you got doing in your life.

SPEAKER_01 1:26:49

Don't be out here being triggered by the shit you doing.

SPEAKER_10 1:26:51

Antoine, I'm gonna jump you after that. Antoine's a fucking trigger. He always is doing poetry ad libs. This nigga over there. I don't need no ad libs.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:59

That shit was good, motherfucker.

SPEAKER_10 1:27:01

I got it later because it's sound like it's still up there yet. Wait a minute. We don't have to be a little bit more.

SPEAKER_02 1:27:09

What's the question?

SPEAKER_10 1:27:14

Let me park size. Park sideways 225. You know, I know my 2022. We miss you for him.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:24

Park sideways 225.

SPEAKER_10 1:27:25

But this is gonna be Words of the Week, the segment where we dress your victims, we give it some spice, and we make you a little bit smarter than everyone else at Brunt. I feel smarter already.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:38

Period. Let's go. I feel smarter already.

SPEAKER_10 1:27:42

Cause you niggas ain't even smart. I got a little head but a big brain. You're dumb. That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:48

It is little. That's your little is fine.

SPEAKER_10 1:27:50

Um, my mom said my head didn't grow for 30 days or thirty nights when I was in her belly and she thought something was. Oh my god. But I was okay. I came out like this. The beautiful queen that I am. I'm a nose. A flower. A beautiful flower. But yes, the first word that we're gonna get into today is Eolian. And it's has two spellings. So the first spelling is E-O-L-I-A-N. And the second spelling is A E. L-I-N. You've gotta stop. You just gotta stop. Please. Please. Gotta stop. It sounds so raspy too. It's not even given like malefluous. No. Malefluous, but nigga drunk. You were drinking that brown. Aeolion, which is basically an adjective, and it comes from the Greek god of wind. His name is Aeolis. Eolus. Okay. Aeolus. Sounds like a dick. Aeolus. It sounds like Ariolas. I'm in Shewish. Areolas. Okay, so basically, um this word shows up a lot in geology and in music. So Aeolian basically is like related to or caused by the wind.

unknown 1:29:07

Winda.

SPEAKER_02 1:29:09

Excuse me.

SPEAKER_10 1:29:11

So I would say the sculpture made a soft Aeolian sound when it when the breeze hit. So you know how like if you're in a nice area, whatever you're at a museum, they have statues outside and the breeze is hitting. It does like that little well, I don't know if you guys yeah, it's like a little whistle. So that's the Aeolian sound. I like that. I really wish that we could have gone to the Jack Daniels thing because that would have been our own. Oh my farm winning.

SPEAKER_01 1:29:40

I'd have been live.

SPEAKER_10 1:29:41

You seen videos? My friend winner. I have a whole act. She went there. Let's just not talk about it because I don't understand why. They pissed me the fuck off. Oh my god. We got the gremlin over here at Living. Not because not like 'cause the sound. But anyway. The next word we're gonna go into today is verger. Verger is spelled V-E-R, D-U-R-E. And it's a noun.

SPEAKER_02 1:30:10

It sounds like voyer.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:12

It kind of does sound like voyer. But basically, this comes from an old French word, um, which is basically rooted in Latin words verridis, meaning green. So veridis is giving richness, abundance, life. Life.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:31

I like that.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:32

But green. Does anyone want to take a hit at what this word may mean?

SPEAKER_00 1:30:36

I do.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:38

Okay. Yes. We're listening.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:40

It means virgin.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:44

He's still going?

SPEAKER_00 1:30:45

It may be saying it means virgin. Virgin now.

SPEAKER_08 1:30:48

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:50

That's that brown. I'm telling you. It's not penetrating. You're embarrassing us.

unknown 1:30:56

Fuck you.

SPEAKER_10 1:30:57

No, it does not mean that. Does anybody else want to take a quick mic off? You said green abundance. I would say uh um a field of trees. Well, you getting somewhere, friend. You smart. Try sit down. Now I'll be on her phone when she usually be the one giving me all the shit. I didn't even know the word. I know. It's okay. We're gonna come in on the next one. So basically, this um definition is a lush green vegetation, fresh greenery. So I would say she escaped the city just to be surrounded by pure verdure, peace and bliss. I love verdure, yes, me too. And I'm planning to get there because I just want grass and greenery all around me. Yes, and a goat and a sheep and maybe an alpaca. Oh, she's a I actually do want animals, but who's gonna take care of them? Because it ain't gonna be me. I want them. It's gonna be me. Well, you won't come over and help me for it. So many pets when I was opening college. But those are not farm animals. Shit. I want yeah, farm animals. You just feed them and let them roam every time. They say it doesn't take a long time to maintain a farm, maybe an hour or two hours a day.

SPEAKER_08 1:32:11

Shut up. I want a pet peeve.

Virtual Court During Labor Debate

SPEAKER_10 1:32:13

The last word of the day we're gonna go into today is solostalgia. And solostalgia is spelled S-O-L-A-S-T-A-L-G-I-A, and it's a noun. Big words. That reminds me of nostalgia. Yeah, I was gonna have to say that. So, like thinking back on the past type of thing. Yes, that's definitely what nostalgia is, but this is solistalgia. Which basically sexy word stylus, yeah, nostalgia. Style. Stylusal Styla Stala. Now you got me fucked up. It's S O L A S T A L I G A. Smart as fuck. Yo. Um, the modern term for this is basically blending solace and nostalgia, which we know is um used to create or disc well, nostalgia is going back in time, but this word is created to describe climate. Climate. So it's related to an emotional loss.

SPEAKER_09 1:33:17

Okay, so like solidarity or solitude. So maybe like not grievance necessarily, but like oh, you had a bad experience and now you're thinking back on it. Like it's like a rekindling moment, maybe. I don't know.

SPEAKER_10 1:33:36

Or maybe mourning your old self or an old version of yourself because it's in the past, um, moving forward from an old version of yourself or new beginnings, something like that. Yeah. I love honestly where you guys are going with it. But this one is basically saying that it's um an emotional distress caused by an environmental change close to home. Oh, you did say it had some environmental change.

SPEAKER_09 1:34:01

Oh, so would it be like uh damn, Lex had a segment about this one day? Um seasonal depression. Yes, there you go, seasonal depression. So she was going through seasonal depression. So you can say that she was in a solid solistal.

SPEAKER_10 1:34:23

So think solace, like the word solace, but it's solistalgia. So I would say there's a real sense of solostalgia when you see your hometown environment changing. So for me, I just went back home recently and I did see a lot of buildings that were like, you know, up that weren't there before, or buildings that were knocked down. It was just like it gave me a sense of like, damn, what the fuck? Where am I? Like, you know what I mean? But also, it was like, damn, these are buildings and places that I have. I do have memories of those. So all right, you guys. Well, that was your uh word upgrade for the week. Now go some and don't remember on this show we don't censor thoughts, we just articulate them beautifully until next time. Tell them no advisory taught you something. Please do let them know, okay? Because I have co-workers that come to me all the time, like, what was your word? What was your word? And they'll use that.

SPEAKER_01 1:35:14

So they stupid.

SPEAKER_10 1:35:17

Because they stupid. They're smart. Tell them jazzing like the towel stop them.

SPEAKER_01 1:35:22

She taught them some stupid shit. Antoine. Antoine. That's my name.

unknown 1:35:31

Lena.

SPEAKER_01 1:35:31

That's Lena.

SPEAKER_10 1:35:32

Hi, Lena. All I seen is.

SPEAKER_01 1:35:35

I'm disappointed in Lena.

SPEAKER_10 1:35:36

Shut up. I think he's drunk. He's drunk.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:39

He's been doing that for about 15 minutes.

SPEAKER_10 1:35:41

He's drunk. It's just the ass. I am not drunk.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:43

That man sounds like uh Lady on the PJs. Damn, Lena.

SPEAKER_01 1:35:49

Why are you looking at Lena like that? She's naked.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:51

You outside?

SPEAKER_01 1:35:53

She's naked.

SPEAKER_10 1:35:57

Hey, hey, it's me. It's Bella. Who you love to see.

SPEAKER_12 1:36:01

Bella Me, a beautiful fucking soul. And this is who you love to see.

SPEAKER_01 1:36:06

Oh shit.

SPEAKER_10 1:36:08

Bella me, a beautiful fucking soul.

SPEAKER_11 1:36:13

Unapologetically opinionated.

SPEAKER_12 1:36:16

Argue with your mama. I didn't shade you, the facts did. So the first one I have today is shit gotta make sense. Not just sense. I'ma say it again. Shit gotta make sense. Not sense. I feel like a lot of time in our generation, especially because of how the economy is going, we be quick to jump on things just because the money sounds good. But for real, for real, you ain't think about it. You ain't think that this was a good mood for you. You ain't think that this was in your path, this was in your journey, and you're just like, all right, I gotta pay, I gotta pay this. But not really thinking, like, okay, this is taken away from what it is that I really want to do, my business. This is taking what this is taken away from what I really want to do, my creativity. So a lot of times you see the money and it looks good and it's fine, but just think about it. Use your discernment. And does anybody ever, you know, feel like abundance is only monetary and it's not other things like okay, somebody gave me a compliment in the store.

SPEAKER_11 1:37:30

That's abundance as well. It's not just monetary things.

SPEAKER_12 1:37:34

Monetary is not everything. I feel like, you know, all the time just people feel like, okay, if I have money, I won't have this and this and this and this and this problems. I feel like when you have money, you have more problems.

SPEAKER_01 1:37:48

No, you don't.

SPEAKER_11 1:37:49

You said no, you don't?

SPEAKER_10 1:37:53

I feel like I'm surrounded by money. I absolutely agree. I feel the same way. I say it all the time. It does not matter about monetary value. I am abundant rich. I am rich as fuck. I ain't getting no check yet. I'm independent. I am very rich. And I'm rich in spirit, I'm rich in heart, I'm rich in energy and emotion, and just you know, just being the person that I am. Okay. Period. And if I ain't got it, God gonna provide it. On that. Clock it. Or somebody. You might clock it. Or somebody. Where the sugar daddies at? Oh shit. Why you not clock? I thought that was. No, for I am looking for a sugar daddy though. That wasn't a joke.

SPEAKER_08 1:38:36

All right, we all they out there.

SPEAKER_10 1:38:39

I think in this economy, a sugar daddy's looking for a sugar daddy.

SPEAKER_08 1:38:42

Oh yo, say it ain't so.

SPEAKER_12 1:38:46

I think they're looking for something.

SPEAKER_01 1:38:47

Well, well. Sugar daddies looking for sugar daddies.

SPEAKER_08 1:38:51

Yeah?

SPEAKER_01 1:38:51

That's puzzles.

SPEAKER_08 1:38:53

I I like to say that there's Splendor Daddies out here.

SPEAKER_01 1:38:56

Splendor daddies.

SPEAKER_08 1:38:57

They don't quite got the sugar. They got artificial shit. Oh, shit. And you know, the Splendor Daddies is out here taking over.

SPEAKER_10 1:39:06

You know, those is the ones that be like, what you gonna do for me?

SPEAKER_08 1:39:09

Oh shit. Ah, you know, I might I might not make your rent, but I'll buy you a Chipotle label.

SPEAKER_01 1:39:16

Suck my dick, the Splendid Daddies. Hey yo! Dickka gave me some money.

SPEAKER_08 1:39:21

And my dog.

SPEAKER_10 1:39:25

It is so fucking irritating. I'm I'm I'm this close. Go ahead, baby. Settle for a hand job?

SPEAKER_01 1:39:31

Suck my lip in a bitch.

unknown 1:39:33

Oh no.

SPEAKER_12 1:39:33

I mean, you do what you want, what you want to do with your free will. Okay. If you want to do a hand job, if you want to do the whole thing, you can do that too.

SPEAKER_10 1:39:41

You can do what a shit.

SPEAKER_01 1:39:42

I mean, if you want the core arms for a hand job.

SPEAKER_10 1:39:46

My arms cost you. She said a hand job.

SPEAKER_01 1:39:49

Oh. What is a hand? And that's what a hand job cost you.

SPEAKER_10 1:39:53

Uh how much is it?

SPEAKER_01 1:39:56

What is a hand job cost?

SPEAKER_10 1:39:57

You said what's a hand job?

SPEAKER_11 1:39:58

No, I said, how much is it?

SPEAKER_10 1:39:59

Well, I just want. The hand job. How much hand job? I don't know. I just was saying, because he said suck a dick or something for it. And I said, would you settle for a hand job? Like, I don't know. Just yeah, I don't know what you're still a hand job.

SPEAKER_02 1:40:10

Suck a dick for a truck.

SPEAKER_10 1:40:11

Let's get back.

SPEAKER_01 1:40:12

You got your nerve. Let's get back. Suck a dick for a track.

SPEAKER_08 1:40:15

Let's get back.

SPEAKER_01 1:40:17

Let's get back.

SPEAKER_12 1:40:18

And what? Boom. So boom. I have the next topic. Survival jealousy. So when I mean by survival jealousy, is have you ever seen a person go through so much? And then you wonder, damn, how you get through this so quickly?

SPEAKER_10 1:40:36

Don't like how is this something that you was open like able to sustain and then just get through and then just act, just go through days, you know, not thinking about it?

SPEAKER_12 1:40:47

Um everybody has their own journey that they have to go through.

SPEAKER_01 1:40:52

Yeah, sure do.

SPEAKER_12 1:40:53

So if if it was in my path to go through XYZ and it wasn't in your path to go through XYZ, it's not my fault. I'm the strongest soldier.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:02

Yeah, that's true. That's fact. It's not my fault.

SPEAKER_12 1:41:05

I'm highly favored. You know what I'm saying? But I do see that often, a lot of times, people will be like, Okay, how are you on vacation?

SPEAKER_10 1:41:12

But you told me that your light bill was due.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:14

They front and uh well, I won't only get upset if they owe me money.

SPEAKER_10 1:41:18

Like if you on vacation, I definitely own money out.

SPEAKER_11 1:41:22

Okay, priorities.

SPEAKER_12 1:41:24

Okay, we can talk about priorities. We can't, but yeah, it's I'm gonna make sure before I go on vacation, I'm gonna hide you from my stories. Oh but um go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:35

Clock it.

SPEAKER_10 1:41:36

I feel like you're not clocking it though.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:38

Where's my audio at?

SPEAKER_10 1:41:41

Clock it.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:43

You fucking happy now.

Are Men Intimidated By Success

SPEAKER_10 1:41:46

I'm fucking dead. But basically, what I was saying um about shut the fuck up when people are curious about what you got going on and stuff like that. It's always just like, like you're saying, like, you don't know what I have going on. Just because I didn't tell you anything, or those are not the conversations that you and I have had, doesn't mean that there's not things going on behind the scenes. And I say that because I learned to not disclose certain things to people, it doesn't matter who it is, you could be the closest of the closest. My sister, that's my road dog. We are we we won't say anything. My best friend, yes. But there are people that are it's just certain things you just don't talk about until it happens, or when you get there or it comes to fruition, or that manifestation has happened, now it's just like I could share it with you. But there's been plenty of times that people are like, oh, Jasmine moved away, and what's she doing, and what she got going on? Bitch, follow me, ho. Follow me, ho. Follow the podcast, bitch.

SPEAKER_12 1:42:33

I'm glad you mentioned that. We're talking about monitoring spirits, get them out of here. Yeah, monitoring spirits that just be on your page and don't don't be liking nothing, just be watching. Get them out of here. Monitoring spirits.

SPEAKER_10 1:42:44

Nobody likes shit no more. Get them out of here.

SPEAKER_12 1:42:47

I mean, speak for yourself.

SPEAKER_10 1:42:49

People just be scrolling.

SPEAKER_12 1:42:50

There's no need for them to be on the page if they're not liking, they're not sharing, they're not content. What happened? You're just monitoring me.

SPEAKER_10 1:42:56

I I agree. I agree. But you know, I am an exhibitionist and a voyeur. I like to be watched, so fuck you. She does keep watching. That's that Aquarius watching. Keep watching. That's how I feel. That's why I don't have nobody on my block list. Yeah, I mean, no, I have- You did say that. I only add people on my block list when I'm gonna do it. It's a toxic cousin. It's not like no nigga, no ex-bitch, no ex-friend. I never deleted not a soul, bitch. You feel some type of way, delete me? I got a lot of people on my block. Delete me. You wanna be here and see this page?

SPEAKER_12 1:43:25

That reminds me, it was like a post where just like I post what I post because I know it's some roaches and some cocker roaches on my page.

SPEAKER_00 1:43:33

Yeah, that's nasty. They be watching cockroaches come out of nowhere. Kill them all.

SPEAKER_10 1:43:39

Please, please. It's like the second week we're talking about roaches, right?

SPEAKER_12 1:43:42

That is can we talk about roaches? We did talk about roaches last time. I got roaches. You got roaches?

SPEAKER_01 1:43:51

I don't.

SPEAKER_12 1:43:52

It's like I've been in their house. They got no roaches. Boom.

SPEAKER_10 1:43:56

Said y'all got roaches.

SPEAKER_12 1:43:58

We do.

SPEAKER_02 1:44:02

Get this nigga off the fucking please. Which one is the one? It was the we do.

SPEAKER_10 1:44:06

Get this nigga off the fucking shit. It was the we do.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:09

Palometro. Palometal roaches.

SPEAKER_10 1:44:12

All right, Langel playing, friend.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:14

Okay, get this shit over. Tired.

SPEAKER_12 1:44:19

Boom, boom, boom. Survival jealousy. Do your thing. Your path is your path. It is your path. And do what you do. I'm Bellamy, a beautiful fucking soul. And this is unapologetically opinionated.

SPEAKER_10 1:44:37

Clock it. I I love the um the last one. I forgot exactly what it was called. No, she didn't. She called it monitoring something. Monitoring spirits. Yeah, monitoring spirits. I love that. They're definitely out there. I love that. They're definitely out there. Bitch, because I ain't see it. Obviously, when I'm not a monitoring spirit, but you know what I mean? Like, other people will be like, oh, you ain't see that? No, because if I seen it, I would have liked it if I liked it.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:10

Nah, fuck that. Let me get into back to mode. I we have a monitoring, a monitor, monitoring spirit, right?

SPEAKER_10 1:45:16

Who that is?

SPEAKER_05 1:45:17

The girl Four Eye Beauty.

SPEAKER_10 1:45:18

Uh-uh. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:21

Why are you gonna do that? She's a monitoring spirit. Why you won't tell us? You know we're gonna be on.

SPEAKER_10 1:45:26

Maybe she just likes watching us. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:28

No, fuck that shit. She keeps watching us. She don't she don't respond to nothing. She don't uh comment nothing.

SPEAKER_10 1:45:34

If you like us getting a comment, the other one.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:36

What's her name?

SPEAKER_10 1:45:37

You said it was Z.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:38

Z. It's not four-eyed beauty. I'm sorry. What's her name? Z Vanderbilt.

SPEAKER_10 1:45:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:43

Yeah, her.

SPEAKER_10 1:45:44

If you like us, just comment, baby girl. I promise. We don't.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:47

I'm sorry, four-eye beauty. Z Vanderbilt. You keep watching you are a monitoring spirit. You know what's crazy though?

SPEAKER_12 1:45:54

I interact with her a lot. She comments on a lot of my stuff.

SPEAKER_05 1:45:57

Why is she on comment on a lot of stuff?

SPEAKER_12 1:45:58

Z, she because that's the one that's the lawyer.

unknown 1:46:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_12 1:46:01

She comments a lot on my stuff. I don't know what it is. And then and then it's a video on her page that's actually my video. She comments on it. It was like a whole big ass paragraph. Come on now, don't do that. That's kind of crazy. No, I'm saying no. I'm saying, like, even on our page, if you go on our Instagram page, actually on my video, she commented a whole big ass paragraph.

SPEAKER_10 1:46:25

What she said. No, it was just about the topic. It was about the topic that I was talking about.

SPEAKER_05 1:46:34

I follow a girl. She be liking my shit.

SPEAKER_10 1:46:36

I don't follow her, but I do know who she is. But there we go.

SPEAKER_05 1:46:39

She likes your shit?

SPEAKER_10 1:46:40

I I don't follow her. She doesn't follow me either.

SPEAKER_05 1:46:43

Well, she doesn't like no advisory shit. Maybe she feels some type of way.

SPEAKER_10 1:46:46

That's me. But I understand what you're saying now, friend. We together on it.

SPEAKER_05 1:46:49

She don't like me? I'm with I'm with I said switch.

SPEAKER_10 1:46:52

I'm a CEO.

SPEAKER_05 1:46:52

Ain't my problem. She's a monitoring spirit.

SPEAKER_10 1:46:54

I know what you're talking about. The ones that was giggling all in the crowd. Yeah. Yeah, no, yeah. Yeah, I remember now. And that was no advisory. No fucking advisory. Let's close it out, y'all. Well, my nose starts flaring. Genie boy, she'll be clean. And it's jasmine like the motherfucking flower, bitch.

SPEAKER_07 1:47:14

And it's your girl looking at Lord and I got.

SPEAKER_10 1:47:18

Oh my gosh, it's bone.

SPEAKER_08 1:47:20

She's slapping her bones. It's left lady. But I got more.

SPEAKER_12 1:47:32

A beautiful fucking song.

SPEAKER_10 1:47:37

Tell me that shut the fuck up. Y'all mind.