From Postpartum To Sisterhood: Why We Rise Together

What starts as jokes and shoutouts quickly turns into a masterclass in resilience. We unpack a viral Dubai birthday trip that spiraled into canceled flights and sheltering from explosions, and we get honest about what travel safety really means: watching the news, planning for contingencies, and protecting your mental energy when everything falls apart. That urgency sets the stage for a wider truth: strength isn’t suffering in silence—it’s boundaries, choices, and community that refuses to normalize harm.

From there, we get real about harassment and why “it was just a touch” is still assault. We talk through the emotional aftermath, how survivors rebuild trust in their bodies, and the everyday ways friends can help without minimizing pain. We move into postpartum depression with the same blend of compassion and practicality: specific support over vague offers, checking on the mother first, and creating a tribe that helps new parents tag-team sleep, chores, and sanity. If you’re searching for postpartum symptoms, partner strategies, or maternal mental health resources, this segment lands with clarity and care.

Our Triggered segment goes deep on women supporting women. We name scarcity conditioning—the lie that only one woman can win—and replace it with proof that mentorship, resource sharing, and showing up in person supercharge promotions, confidence, and longevity. Real support looks like reposting her work, opening your contact list, and following through. Then we turn to women’s health: the history that shaped today’s gaps, how to self-advocate in the exam room, and a plain-English vocabulary boost—amenorrhea, hirsutism, vaginismus—to make your next appointment less confusing and more effective.

We close by tackling self-neglect and obligation. Women carry so much—planning, caregiving, fixing—that it’s easy to vanish from your own life. We offer tools to step back, journal, reset, and practice saying no as a complete sentence. The throughline holds: your strength is not measured by how much you endure; it’s measured by how well you protect your peace, build community, and share power.

If this conversation moved you, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs backup, and leave a review with one way you’re showing up for women this month. Your story might inspire our next listener.

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Transcript

Ladies’ Night Kickoff & Women’s Month

SPEAKER_01 0:15

What's up, y'all? It's Charlotte's most dangerous no advisory podcast, and it's your girl, Nola Desk. Yeah, it's the biggest motherfucking Aquarius, Lex Rated. It's your girl, Jasmine, like the motherfucking flower, the original flower girl. And if you don't know, now you know, nigga. And it's felling me, a beautiful fucking soul. And it's your girl, Diamond, all about me. And it's Ladies' Night. And I'm feeling right. We're just gonna skip that zone today because the month of women. It is woman. What is it? Is it women's month or just women's months? Women's month. Woman's month. It's really women's health month. Like, so with focus on endometriosis and you know, infertility and things like that. It's really that.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

Yeah, we're doing that, yes. We're doing that. Education. Shout out to seven. Shout out to Polo. We miss you, Polo.

SPEAKER_01 1:29

Right, we really do. It's a struggle.

SPEAKER_02 1:31

Shout out to our cameraman, K Digital, and the big hungry ass nigga.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

The hunger ass nigga. We shouldn't know it's coming. What is shit? I'm so hungry. Why every time it's Lady's Night, the audience is non-existent. Y'all play on our clouds. It ain't nobody here for Ladies' Night. And you know what? I ain't gonna be here. I ain't mad at it. I said in the comments the max is 10. The max is 10. And the reason why I say it gets a little hot up in here, we ain't got that many fans.

SPEAKER_02 2:04

No.

SPEAKER_01 2:04

You know, it don't be circulating like that, you know. So I appreciate y'all not being here. Well, actually, no. I appreciate y'all thinking of me. Y'all thinking of you. Yeah. So we what we're gonna start with.

SPEAKER_00 2:17

We're gonna start with me. Right.

SPEAKER_02 2:19

Bounce break down. Break it down. We're being honest, y'all. We're being honest today. We're being real and being up front. Fuck what y'all gotta say. Period. Alright. So, you know, we're gonna be talking about our theme this this month is the strength and health of women. I feel like I said that wrong. Did I say it wrong?

SPEAKER_01 3:05

Did I? Did I say wrong? We we might not call you out tonight. We just gonna let you be great. Just go ahead. I know she got an accent.

SPEAKER_02 3:14

Alright, so we're gonna get to first. Um I don't have no birthdays.

SPEAKER_01 3:17

No birthday.

SPEAKER_02 3:20

Somebody was born to somebody's birthday, but we don't know.

SPEAKER_01 3:22

No, alright. It is um 305 day.

unknown 3:26

What?

SPEAKER_01 3:27

Yes. 305 days. 305 day. March 5th. 305. Shout out to the crib. Oh my god. Yeah. Miami.

unknown 3:37

That's it.

SPEAKER_01 3:38

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 3:39

305. So it's somebody's birthday.

Miami 305 Day And Warm-Up

SPEAKER_01 3:41

Oh, because it's March 5th. Wow. Why'd it take me that long? Oh, 305. Yo, she was saying that for the longest, and we didn't even get it, bro. Okay, yeah. Yeah. Now we on the same page. I only knew because she posted it earlier. That's crazy. She did. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I seen it.

SPEAKER_02 3:57

Alright. So let's get into how a birthday trip turned into a disaster in Dubai. I don't know if y'all seen that. I did see that. You've seen that. Alright. So a young woman, American woman, that goes by the name of At least I'm pretty on social media. Went to she is pretty though, y'all. She's pretty.

SPEAKER_03 4:16

She's very pretty.

SPEAKER_02 4:17

But uh she went to Dubai to celebrate her 30th birthday on February 24th. But ended up trapped there when war tensions escalated in the Middle East that occurred on February 28th, and the U.S. military and Israel military launched major airstrikes on Iran, targeting military bases, missile systems, and high-ranking leadership in Tehran. Afterwards, it caused a whole war in the Middle East area, leaving debris, um, debris from intercepted missiles damaged buildings in Dubai and Abu Dhabi. Habi Dhabi.

Birthday Trip Turns Disaster In Dubai

SPEAKER_01 4:54

I'm sorry, okay. Listen, Abu Dhabi. Abu Dhabi. Abu Dhabi. Don't piss me off. Don't piss me off.

SPEAKER_02 5:05

Y'all know I can't pronounce shit. Alright. It left several people dead and dozens injured, which led for a Miss At least I'm pretty influencer to go viral because she made videos that went, you know, her saying she heard bombs near her hotel. She was trying to flight, um, book flights back to America, but they kept getting canceled. And her and her friend were sheltered in a parking garage with garage with other people in the hotel after hearing explosions nearby. And she even cried to Trump and the government to try to help her and seize the war so she can get back home. And she was saying how she had to pay for more like hotel rooms and to stay longer, and she had to pay for like food and stuff still. She possibly lost her job back home. Not sure if that's, you know, updated yet, but she didn't get back home yet. But and her landlord is still, you know, expecting rent. They ain't giving a fuck that she out there in Dubai. And it is now March 5th, and she was just able to get a flight to Australia at around 2 p.m.

SPEAKER_01 6:05

today, Eastern time, which she'll be back home 22 hours after that.

SPEAKER_03 6:11

22 hours is crazy. 22 is crazy.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

She was reaching out to the wrong person. Oh my mom, because Trump ain't gonna do shit for your ass. Trump is aware that there was gonna be fatalities. He said it. He already said it. What does he do? Knowing what y'all know about people from Iran, why would you want to get on a plane in the middle of this going on? Why would that be smart? Let me go get on a plane. Well, it didn't happen until she was already out there. Yeah, but she was out there for her birthday, and then the 28th, she was still out there and shit was going crazy. This is just watch the news before you decide to go to somebody else's country. Because this shit that was going on was going on for a good little minute. As long as Trump and President, I ain't going out the country.

SPEAKER_02 6:55

That nigga ain't gonna have me stuck still. Unless I'm going to Africa, I want to go to Africa. What in your mind? South Africa, Jonesburg? Jonesburg.

SPEAKER_01 7:09

I used to say that. Me personally, I ain't too hot to go to no damn Dubai. I'm not going to know Dubai. Nothing was just like in my mind, like, damn, I kind of want to go to Dubai. For what? What's over there? It ain't said some good shit over there, though. I know it's like that big ass small that they got, but that's what they said. Them girls we're gonna be get shit on. That's crazy. That's alleged. I know how to kidnap y'all. Just dangle something beautiful in front of y'all. And shiny. Beautiful and shiny. Because yeah, damn it. She said that real quick. And shiny. It's dangerous in Dubai. I wouldn't. I mean, it's cute, but I wouldn't there's so many other places that I would go before I ever. Japan. I don't know. Mario Kart. That's why I want to go to Japan. Oh no, that's Tokyo. I want to go to Tokyo. Yeah, that's Tokyo.

SPEAKER_02 7:57

That's Tokyo. I'm tripping. Alright.

SPEAKER_01 8:00

That's all for that part. Like, what would y'all do if y'all got stranded? Listen, I wouldn't be on the internet. Are y'all gonna be pleading and spend your money on your hands? I'm definitely not pleading to Trump. I'm definitely trying to plead to Trump. Not because it's Trump, but it's kind of just giving hypocrite. Because I guarantee you, somewhere, somewhere, you can find something on her feeds where she was like F Trump or say something negative and to be pleading for Trump is kind of giving girl just get off the internet.

SPEAKER_03 8:26

Get off the internet.

SPEAKER_02 8:27

So y'all gonna book, y'all gonna keep trying to book flights and keep spending money, or y'all just gonna sit there until a fight over?

SPEAKER_01 8:33

There's no way I might just try to take a nap. I'm gonna just try to take it. There's no way nothing. Take a nap. Yo, she's taking a nap. But look, now your trip over, so you realistically you're still spending money to live there. Damn near. Like, might as well get an Airbnb, find a job, ho. Like, yeah. I'm definitely not getting on no plane. I'm definitely not. I'm just bones in the air, and you want to go home on a plane?

SPEAKER_02 9:01

Don't just so I have seen that on February 23rd, a 73-year-old lady was smacked on the ass. She said backside, though. I'm gonna keep it, I'm gonna keep it um she said backside. No. She was grocery shopping in Kroger, and some young man just came up behind her and said, What? Oh, it's a gentleman. What? Oh wow. She wants to attack her in jail. Because she stated that when it happened, it made a loud noise like a gunshot. So you know that ass was fat. Oh thanks, but that ass was fat. You know, I was like, okay, let me stop. He's slept in hard. He did. He did. It's definitely assault. So I say that to mention, you know, of the strength of woman because, you know, surviving um, because it is sexual assault, and surviving sexual assault, whether it's touch a touching, you know, a part that you're not supposed to touch, rape, sexual harassment, or martial or partner sexual assault can reshape a woman's strength. No woman, no woman deserves to go through that kind of trauma. But many survivors talk about how it forced them to rebuild themselves, set stronger boundaries, trust your intuition more, and reclaim their voice. Strength doesn't come from the assault itself, it comes from the resilience, healing, and courage it takes to keep moving forward despite it. Damn, damn. I'm sorry, bro.

SPEAKER_01 10:27

We sorry to have them doing that.

SPEAKER_02 10:30

Hey, yo.

SPEAKER_01 10:31

How we know her ass was out? It's not her fault. She got ass. I'm not sure. That's what I'm saying. It's just like, so just because she got assed, that means she gotta be sexually assaulted. You probably wouldn't have made the same sound, but video that went viral where a young boy um was like he wal walked up on a porch and he started like groping this older lady but. Oh, these niggas is out of control. It was a deer or whatever. Like oh wow, that's wild. Oh my god, y'all out of control. Let me tell you something. I will smack the shit out of one of y'all. I promise you I will without hesitation. And you might get pistol whipped. Yeah, but you might little John John on the shirt. Okay, yeah. Fish fry. I don't do the harassment. A bet?

SPEAKER_02 11:14

A dare? A bet like that is crazy.

SPEAKER_01 11:16

You're gonna get fucked around and get what is it worth it? Yeah, these are. Oh ladies, they strong. I don't know what it is with like with age. Like an ox.

SPEAKER_02 11:26

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 11:27

Grandmas are these days, they still drinking, they smoking. You better be careful with these grandmas. No, for real.

SPEAKER_02 11:33

Because my grandma, she wanted them. She's gonna beat your ass. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_01 11:36

Okay. Oh wow. Real inner New Orleans.

Assault Story And Women’s Resilience

SPEAKER_02 11:40

Real L. We get down. Okay. Now we're gonna talk about how women goes through postpartum depression. If you don't know, postpartum depression is something a lot of women go through, but don't always talk about after you know, like bringing a life into the world, your body, hormones, sleep, identity, identity, and emotions can all shift at once. Some women feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or like they're losing themselves, which can which can be scary. Have you gone to postpartum?

SPEAKER_01 12:09

I don't recall going through postpartum, but I might have gone through it and just didn't realize till now. Because I was thinking about that recently. Like one of my close friends, she had a baby, and she, you know, they're going through it. And it's like you have such a beautiful baby right here. But I think it all matters. I'm not gonna say that. I would think that it matters with the support that you have around you, but some women it just don't have that support.

SPEAKER_02 12:31

Yeah, yeah, definitely. Because when I had my son, I definitely have a problem with depression. And then I was forced to cook after that for a man. I was not doing that.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

But just for clarity, they are the only two that have pushed micro humans out of the city. Well, I didn't push. Well, that had micro humans inside of them. Soon, soon, such a mama.

SPEAKER_02 12:53

Soon, yes, big mama bear.

SPEAKER_01 12:55

We're gonna tell a baby shower, y'all. Next year. Next year. Let's go. Baby shower. Coming to a city. No advisory baby on Zach. Yeah. Which one of us is it gonna be? Which one of us is it gonna be? Well, we'll wait for a ring. We're not gonna bet, right? Coming soon. Hell no. In some years. Y'all heard what she said. She getting married first. I want me a little Hariko, or not a Hariko, a Harajiko baby. I definitely do. A Harajuka Barbie. No. That's what I heard. I take one of them too. I take one of them too. Hey, fuck you. I would like to be a little, a little, a little play thing. No, I'm joking. I don't want to. I don't even want to put that out in there. You never know. You never know. God gonna be like, do you go?

SPEAKER_02 13:39

That's crazy. That's what you want. Be careful what you ask for.

SPEAKER_01 13:42

No, right? Right. Can't put them back. Can't put them back.

SPEAKER_02 13:46

Hey yeah. But the strength it takes to push through postpartum depression is very powerful. It forces women to rediscover themselves, ask for support, set boundaries, and fight mentally and emotionally to solve for themselves and their child. And that process can build a level of resilience, self-awareness, and emotional debt that can that many people never have to develop. Going through that journey doesn't make a woman weak. It highlights how strong we are. So what are some ways that men or the community can better support a woman that they know that is dealing with postpartum depression?

SPEAKER_01 14:20

Men go through postpartum depression as well. Just to throw it out there. But I think communication is the best way. Making people know, or not making people know, but allowing people to know what you're going through and not feel like just because you're a mother that you have to be strong and just kind of push through it. Uh asking for help and um being transparent with what you need help with. Because just because you say I need help, some people might not know what you need help with. So you gotta be specific. You gotta, you know, be inclusive as well. If you have a man that lives in with you, y'all might be going through the same thing. So y'all can take breaks or tag team or something like that. Now, what if you're a single mom? Then you knew a single mama. You better have a tribe. No, you can't do that. You can't do that. You need a tribe. You know what I'm saying? What? You can't be a single mom. No, you gotta give them like some. You gotta give like if you're a sing if you're a single mother, you if you're a single mother, you know that you can't depend on anybody but yourself. Even if you have a tribe, you can't depend on anybody but yourself. Because you don't have that partner next to you, like that that runner up is what I'm saying. So I'm not saying like, oh shit, well, if you're a single mama, you're a single mama. Fuck. But I said like community too, like friends, family. What can friends and family do to help single mothers, help single moms? I feel like I feel like go ahead, James. Um, I would just say like just try to be present. Like, if you know your friend um just had a baby or your cousin, just kind of check in or you know, invite them places because I do know that after having, you know, my daughters.

SPEAKER_02 15:58

Oh, see what happened was let her talk.

SPEAKER_01 16:00

Hold on, keep going. Um, just basically, you know, just trying to be around them, like hit them up, make sure that they're okay, the baby's okay. Like, what can I do to help you? Even if you're not going through something, just kind of spend time with them. Because a lot of pregnant women feel like while they're pregnant and right after, people forget about them. They're like, oh, she's pregnant, she can't go, we're not even gonna invite her. And it might be a dinner or something. They don't have to drink, they might just want to go. If it's if the club, if they're comfortable to be in there with a belly, okay, cool. But just extend that invite. Um, even after having the baby, just trying to check in on them and like, you want me to come over and cook for you? I think just being present kind of matters. Right.

Postpartum Depression And Support

SPEAKER_00 16:33

Yeah, I want to add to that because I feel like the focus should be on the mom, especially after you have the baby. A lot of people focus on, oh, can I see the baby? How's the baby? How's the mom? Right. And it's like, just see what she needs. Like, yeah, the baby might need stuff. The baby will need stuff. Yeah, they'll always need stuff. But let's see what the mom needs. Whether it's a conversation, like you said, a nice hot meal. Yeah. Whether it's they don't gotta stand on their feet to make it. Yeah, like anything. So just check on the mom, their mental health, talk to them, and maybe don't mention the baby.

SPEAKER_01 17:06

Yeah, that's true. Right. I'm guilty. I would I my sister have my nephew, I would be like, FaceTime her and be like, What my nephew?

SPEAKER_02 17:13

Like, dang, no high. Don't let me hold it.

SPEAKER_01 17:16

Nobody called me no for me no more. They'd be like, What my nephew at? What my what my buddy at? Dang, that sucks. That's true.

SPEAKER_00 17:23

And I'll say, even with me and my best friend, when she had my godson, you know, and I call her, she's long distance. And when we be on FaceTime, she'd be like, My my godson will want to talk to me, she'd be like, hey, this is my best friend. You're not about to take her for me. But I made sure that I put her first and made sure I still checked in on her and didn't necessarily ask about him. Even though I know he's in the background. But just making sure you do those things.

SPEAKER_01 17:51

It wasn't fish, it was put in order.

SPEAKER_02 17:54

Alright, so yes, check on mothers, check on woman, period. We love the men too. We love you guys. But right now it's woman's month. Yep, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:02

We do take on a lot of low. I'm not gonna say there aren't guys who do step up and want to be there as well, but physically having your body change for nine, ten months is a lot. Right.

SPEAKER_02 18:14

It's a lot, and we are strong because of that, you know what I'm saying? Even with, you know, periods and shit, like, we go through a lot, all right. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 18:21

You know, y'all go through subscribers. No, wait, wait, they have to go through circumcision. So yeah, y'all go through that. You know what I'm saying? Not all of them. Not all of them. Niggas be really walking around with a turtleneck. I mean, you know what I'm saying? Like, y'all just be pushing out an opposite sperm, and that's it for y'all. But we gotta go through the old shit, hormones, and all that. You know, we still love y'all though. We still love y'all. Nah, I'm gonna put it like this. Unless, unless your organs have to move back to its normal state, a man can't tell a shit about shit. So sorry. Having a baby changes your body in a way that y'all will never understand. So don't even try to put these niggas on the pedestal with us. I'm so I'm so sorry. This is not for y'all. This is not for y'all. I know, I know Lex, I know what she be doing. She be trying to level with y'all, nigga. She sure knows. But we cannot, we cannot compare the two. I ride the fence. I shouldn't. Yeah, y'all go through shit mentally. No, we go through shit mentally, physically, emotionally, physically. Just remember, organs moving back. We are woman, yes, but they call us woman. W-O-M-B. And because we was made out of a man. Because we was made out of a man. Oh my god. We we took off the men real. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? But that wasn't the time to say that. She wore the whole opposite. I think she's talking about the real. Yeah, we're talking about the real. But that's it for me. That's different. That's a different story. That's it. Bounce. Bounce. Just to cut it off. Bounce. Just to cut it off. I'm gonna talk to Lex. Because I feel like Lex gonna bring it home for me. I mean, am I? I might. Yo, wait till we see that. I gotta see what you're gonna say. Wait till y'all see that.

SPEAKER_02 20:34

Wait till y'all see the intro.

SPEAKER_01 20:35

My intro? You talking about my intro? No, the Buffalo Eats intro. I don't even remember the Buffalo East intro. My god, today. Don't make me laugh, please. Wait, no, wait, now I wanna see it. Me too. Until next time. It gotta be uploaded. Okay. Um all right, y'all. So if this is your first time hearing my segment, my name is Lex Rated, and this is triggered. Now, I like to come into these conversations with a bit of perspective because I'm not just peaking from personal experience. I also have two degrees in psychology, including a master's in forensic psychology. So I'm always looking to get deeper into behavioral patterns and behind things that we experience as women. So tonight's topic is something that triggers a lot of conversations for women. I'm so excited. Women supporting women, not competing with each other. Oh, ooh, that's the one, that's the one. Because y'all bitches always competing. It ain't never a competition. There's not a mic drop button, but if I had one, I would be pushing. There we go. Because if we're being honest, a lot of us grew up seeing women constantly compare themselves to each other. Like who's prettier, who's more successful, who has a better body, who has a better relationship. Somewhere along the way, we were taught that only one woman could win at a time. But tonight we're unpacking that idea and talking about what happens when women decide to support each other instead of competing with each other. Right? So here's something that I found interesting on the internet when I was doing my research. Research shows that women who have strong female friendships experience lower stress levels and greater life satisfaction. One UCLA study found that women are biologically more likely to respond to stress by tending and befriending. Now, what that means is building social support networks instead of isolating ourselves. So, in simple terms, women are literally wired to survive within or through a community. Like you said earlier, friend. Like I said earlier. Yeah, remember we were talking about community? Oh yeah. Right? So uh I'm gonna say something that might sound a little bit too harsh, but women were never meant to compete with each other. We were meant to survive together. Yeah, and we were never meant to be in competition with each other, it was always supposed to be a struggle together, I guess. That's how I would put it.

SPEAKER_02 23:21

Because we all gonna win eventually. Absolutely. No, no, we're time is your time. Absolutely.

Triggered: Women Supporting Women

SPEAKER_01 23:26

Yeah, exactly. So why were women taught to compete? From a psychological perspective, competition between women often stems from a phenomenon called sacred conditioning or scarcity conditioning. I fucked that up real bad. Scarcity conditioning is when people are taught there is not enough opportunity, attention, love, or success to go around. Scarcity conditioning is when people are taught that there's not a lot of opportunity, attention, love, or success to go around. So you see to start early. You see it with girls being compared in school, girls competing for popularity, girls competing for male attention. Then it carries into adulthood where you got women competing over men, social media attention, jobs, appearance, lifestyles. And in more communities, we see this play out in real ways with women being pitted against each other over relationships, friend, friend groups breaking apart over jealousy, women tearing each other down online, but most of that competition comes from a belief that there isn't room for everybody to win. Especially when you're younger. I feel like when you're in high school and middle school, there's a lot of uh jealousy with uh popularity and who all the boys like more and all that. That's always been a problem that I've noticed. So studies um on workplace mentorship show that women with female mentors are significantly more likely to receive promotions and leadership opportunities. Why? Because when women support each other, they share information, opportunities, confidence, and most of all resources, and those change everything. So another woman shining doesn't dim your light, it shows you that the room has electricity. So moving on to what real women supporting women looks like. Supporting women is more than just compliments. Because I guarantee you, a lot of people thought, you know, I support women, I tell women they're beautiful all the time. It's not just that simple. Real support looks like putting your friend's business in a group chat that you might be in, reposting another woman's work, encouraging a friend to apply for an opportunity, uh, showing up when she's struggling, not just, you know, through text message, but physically as well. Jazz mentioned showing up to cook dinner. I've never had a friend show up and cook dinner for me. That would be lovely. Uh in urban communities, we see this all the time: women braiding each other's hair, friends helping each other with child care, women supporting each other with their hair nail or or even lashes or photography businesses. A lot of friends. And that's that's that's community right there. I'm just really thinking like you're going down the line. I'm like, yep, yeah, like I can never do it. A lot of people don't have it. Psychologically, community builds emotional resilience. So, what I mean by that is it makes you a little bit stronger when you have a community because you have somebody to fall back on. So, research in social psychology shows that people with strong support networks are up to 50% more likely to live longer than those who are socially isolated. Supportive relationships literally impact mental and physical health. So, women uplifting each other is not just a nice idea, it's something that actually improves your well-being and longevity. So when women tear each other down, everybody loses. When women support each other, entire community is winning, and not just your your base community, communities across the world. Because if they see you uplifting each other and supporting each other, they're gonna thrive to do that as well on their end. So when women show up for each other, most women think of uh a moment another woman changed your life. Maybe it's when a teacher, you know, who believed in you read your work or something, and and motivated you to keep writing or um keep painting if you're an artist, or maybe when a friend who helped you leave a toxic relationship or a coworker who pushed you to apply for a better job, a woman that maybe supports your business, Jazz is really good at supporting women when it comes to their businesses. I feel like I always see somebody on her page. Those moments matter more than people realize because when women support each other, we build confidence, safety, and opportunity, like I mentioned earlier. So when women are when women, when I think about women and I think about strength, because that's what our theme is for tonight's Ladies' Night, I think about how women are some of the strongest people on this planet. Or we raise families, we build communities, we survive things people never see. I mean, we push things the size of watermelons out of things the size of a grapefruit.

SPEAKER_03 28:53

Hello.

SPEAKER_01 28:55

But imagine how powerful exactly, imagine how powerful women could be if we stopped trying to outdo each other and started lifting each other up. Because another woman's success is not your competition. It's proof that you can win too. And that's the end of my segment, y'all. I'm Lex rated, and I hope y'all got triggered.

SPEAKER_02 29:17

I loved it. Yep. Love that. Let me tell y'all about a story. This girl trying to, I think I was competing with her. Let me tell you. Because this shit pissed me off so bad, y'all. So I was helping her with a networking event. I don't care if she sees this. And I'm gonna say her name, Jasmine. Oh, not you. Not you.

SPEAKER_01 29:37

You probably you had a name like you've been to, you've been to her. I think you've been to her um event.

SPEAKER_02 29:42

Network COT.

SPEAKER_01 29:43

No, ma'am.

SPEAKER_02 29:44

Never never tell me. She don't know that hoe. No, Mama. I don't know no jasmine yet. But I was helping her. I'm talking about helping her planning it, you know, promoting it, you know, helping her get vendors.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

Um network CLT. It was about that's her event. That's her event. It was about the school event.

SPEAKER_02 30:00

Yeah, I was having her all the events. So then I was planning an event, right? So I'm like, yeah, let's collab with this event, let's partner with this event. So then I got one of her um vendors to come, you know, vendor my thing. And she's like, she thinking it's a competition. So she never showed up to the event. Like, just because she thinks it was a competition, and we had a whole, like, it was a whole like partnered collab event, and she never showed up because she thought it was a competition. I hate bitching. I don't like women like that.

SPEAKER_01 30:32

But Angel was helping her? I was helping her with her event, like her events all the time, all the time since she started. Definitely wasn't disconnected. I think it's because you went influenced society, so maybe she thought that it wasn't. No, that was like way before that. I was putting it. It was because I I went to one of her um event, I went to one of her vendors and was like, hey, you want to come vendor for my event as well? Since you know, you know, I'm looking for some vendors. And she thought it was a competition.

SPEAKER_02 30:59

Her the girl, she thought it was a competition, so I'm like, hey, cool, yeah, cool.

SPEAKER_01 31:05

I think as I got older, I learned to have more discernment. But probably within the last year or so, it was a girl that I've known, you know, around town from my hometown. We have a lot of the same interests, a lot of the same friends. We run in the same groups, but I just knew her mutually from social media. We started hanging out, doing like reviews on Facebook with food and stuff. Beautiful girl, beautiful girl. Um, and we will talk about all of our interests and stuff like that. Long story short, I'm telling her how I want to like, you know, get into music and like do all this stuff with artists and do artist management, start doing like um behind the scenes videos for music, blah blah blah. I was still planning to move out here. Do you know what she's doing right now? Literally that I told her I wanted to do, and not even just that, also using the contacts that I had that I was friends with and getting in those same groups.

SPEAKER_02 31:54

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 31:55

And it's just like my life is here now, but it's just like, damn, hold on. Right. That's um so I've learned, I've learned to keep some stuff for myself. No facts. Absolutely. That's an Charlotte ain't gonna be like, But you shouldn't be Charlotte. And do y'all still think believe birds of a feather don't flock together? You see how she stole her whole fucking flow, and y'all don't think that birds of a feather flock together. You see how that energy just jumped off? Like that is true. Okay, but we're gonna say not all the time.

SPEAKER_02 32:23

I mean, yeah, situational for sure.

SPEAKER_01 32:25

Yeah, but okay, in all actuality, it's a mindset thing. Let's consider the fact that if we were raised that you know, we should work together, and every woman that you meet, you should treat with kindness, give her grace, you know, support all that. Like if the narrative was flipped when we were younger, I think that's more so the focus. Because I feel like more women would feel like, oh, she's inspired by me. Oh, I inspire her versus, oh, this bitch is trying to be like me. Yeah. It shouldn't, it shouldn't go straight to the negative, especially when you have a situation where, like I said in my cards, if there's light in the room, then there's like enough electricity for all of us. If I do something somewhere and you like how I do that, let's do it together, or like let what can you do, or whatever the case may be. There's so many people in my life that I've come across and that I've thanked for their presence because it's like I I really like X, Y, and Z about you. You inspired me to do X, Y, and Z. And I really would love for Women's Women's Month, Women's House Month, whatever this month is. I apologize. Yeah, yeah, all of them. I would love for them to come together. Okay, we could do Women's History Month. It is Women's History Month. I would love for women to come together and just work with this. Melon in March. Melanie March. I like that.

SPEAKER_02 33:54

Yeah. Melon in March. I love that. Y'all bitches need to stop competing with each other because it's not always a competition.

SPEAKER_01 33:59

It's really not. You can't compete where you don't compare. No shade. You know what I'm saying? But I do, I love like networking is like one of the things that I love to do. And I think that with networking, it comes with like having the knowledge or the contacts that you're willing to share and connect people. And then the follow-up to make sure that they are doing what they need to do. If they asked you for help, you know what I mean? But it's a lot that goes into it. And doing that, you have to be someone who wants to see someone else win. Because you can't say I'm gonna give you this person, and then you never send a number. Like, damn, I thought you about to send me this person. Oh girl, I was just talking. Like, no, let's follow through.

SPEAKER_03 34:32

You know, that's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 34:34

Well, hey, hey, I'm Bella Mia, beautiful fucking soul. And this is unapologetically opinionated. I'm gonna get some cue cards. Don't worry about it. I don't think it's in cue cards, but argue with your mama, don't argue with me. And just because, you know, it's the facts doesn't mean I shaded you. So since we're talking about women's health, we're talking about women's health, um, we can start with um the white coats. And what I mean by the white coats, I mean um Western medicine, the pharmaceutical companies, I don't do what they do, I do what my ancestors do. Um, they don't care about you. Um so one instance of them not caring about you is Arnica Westcott. She was not the first black woman, but she was one of the first black women to undergo vaginal surgery with no anesthesia. So they were just cutting on her, cutting on her without no medication, a table. Um, I believe his name was We Don't Care. We don't care. He was like the father of gynecology or something. That's what they say, and that's another thing that I want to touch on. Men in gynecology. That don't sound strange to y'all. The first time that I've ever been to a gynecologist, he was male. And it never sat right with me that he was telling me about my vagina and he never had one.

SPEAKER_02 35:53

Hey yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:55

Um, and even the way that women and even the way that women have to um give birth on their backs because it looks more appeasing to y'all when not time when really scientifically you're laying on your vena cable and it's blocking your oxygen and your baby's oxygen.

unknown 36:12

That's a gift for y'all. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 36:16

You're supposed to be standing up in squat. We love food. Hell yeah, we want some of that fried whiting and fresh um French fries. I wasn't talking about the food. I want both. Both birth and both. Oh, I'll take that ASAP. Shout out to Tweeds. He's go.

SPEAKER_02 36:38

Chef out here. And producer and rapper.

SPEAKER_01 36:41

Really? I thought he was.

SPEAKER_02 36:42

Yes, noted, noted. No, no, that nigga rap.

SPEAKER_01 36:45

He was posting um shit on the story for like 24 hours. I was like, okay, okay. I don't follow him on social media.

SPEAKER_02 36:50

I don't follow him on social media either, but I just know from here.

Unapologetically Opinionated: Women’s Health Gaps

SPEAKER_01 36:53

And then since it's also Women's History Month, we can go back to um Bartman, which she was a black woman in the 1800s, and she was put on display in London, and she was put on display because of her physique. Her model. So they thought we were fun house mirrors. They thought we were just like, oh, look at that girl with that big old eye. But really staring like we've never seen it exactly. Like, in 2002, they she was sent back to South Africa with the rest of her remains. It was just mainly her skull, her abdomen. It wasn't all of her, but it at least it was some of her. That was a very good thing. And since women's health is such a big thing as well, 80 to 90 percent of black women have fibroids and cysts. That is true. And I'm not surprised, honestly. 90% is a lot. That's a lot. And imagine the the women that don't know that they have fibroids and cysts. Now I do want to talk about the things that causes fibroids and cysts, which is mainly eating foods that is not for you. Like soy. Oh, damn, I love miso miso. Soy, you are not Chinese. I love miso miso. You are not Chinese. And then I realized my blood? Isn't my blood I can't do? Yeah, I got I got yeah. I got Pacific Island on it in my blood. I can believe that because you know with the eyes too, they were just over here pillaging whatever. Well, I could believe that. Okay. It was a little it was it was a fun fest, I suppose. It was one big old orgy. They used to have breeding farms and everything. Look at that. Go ahead, tell me something. No. Learn me something. Learn me something. I've heard that name before though. Yeah, I okay. Let me let me let you know, let me test my my education, education a little bit. I feel like Henrietta Lex was the woman who had a tumor. She either had a tumor or or or maybe was a cis, and um she went to the doctor for it, and they didn't catch it, nor did they know what it was. But what they it was, yeah, it was it it was her cells. They they she was one of the first women to like I don't know. I'ma fuck it up. No, but uh essentially, essentially Henrietta Lax was used in science because of her reproductive system. Um, they did not tell her that she had a cyst or a tumor or something, and instead of telling her, they uh let her go uncured so they could study it. Yeah. That that that's that's the gist of what I know about Henrietta Lax. I could be like exactly what was wrong with her, I could be loud and wrong, but I know what happened was Yeah, yeah. What happened was it it was definitely something that had to do with her reproductive system. She definitely went without being treated, and she definitely was used for science a hundred and ten percent. And um, they used to talk about her a lot when I because I went to HBCU for like two, three years before I left. Where'd you go after that? Uh I went to the University of Baltimore. Oh. While I graduated. Alright, alright. Um, but they used to be like, used to your own. Is it is it? Yeah, I mean, I I I haven't gone to like uh uh anything for them. Once I left the city, I was like, oh my god. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm done. But like Henry and Lax, anytime I talk about women's health or hear about woman's health, she's like the first person that pops in my head. So it's a shame that I don't know everything about this situation. We're gonna do our research and we'll come back. All right. Okay, you was about to Google it. I thought you Googled it. He's like, I don't believe I came here today. But somebody had to start the camera. We thank you. We appreciate you. Okay, so like I said, eating for your blood type, I feel like it's very important. I am O-positive, so I eat like the Garden of Eden. Um I'm I'm getting back on it. I'm getting back on it. You know my you know my herbs. So cervical cancer. So that's what it was. I'm sorry, friend. Here's how cervical cancer. So that that's that also stems from like fibroids and cysts. So fibroids and cysts lead to cervical cancer and other things. Now, have you ever gotten a cut and then it um heals like within two to three days? I remember one time, so boom, I got into a fight. And so my whole shit was split right here. And when and then when the ambulance came, they was like, Oh, you're gonna need stitches. So in two to three days, I had put aloe on it. It like like my whole shit, I'm talking about like me and everything coming out, two to three days, it was coming back together. So if your outside body is healing that way, what makes you think your cells and your inside body does not have the power to regenerate? Your body is self-healing, your body is a science. Now, unfortunately, due to things like chemicals and food and cosmetics, lotion, makeup, nails, and sugar, that's the big one. And shit, even the air. These niggas got planes and shit flying over. What is that? But you know, we're gonna come back to that. We're gonna come back to that. We ain't in we in Women's History Month, but it all comes down to the same thing. Now, um, I feel like these unfortunate events is keeping us in like a state of illness and a state of um sickness because like I said, our bodies are science and it has the the properties to function and regenerate even without you. You know how your body's still moving. Have you ever cut off the tail of a s of a lizard? No, it was just me, I'm the only sociopath. Okay, all right, we can move on. We move on, we can move on, all right? Um, and then it's still like wiggling this out from Florida. We just we did things. Okay, we just did things, but and it's still moving, that's your body. Your body can still function without you. Um, because it's a science.

SPEAKER_00 43:13

I was thinking more so, like, you ever seen like I've seen it more so on medical shows, but like when a woman says she's in a coma or maybe she passed away but she's pregnant, and maybe she's about to give birth to that baby, they keep her own life support so she can give birth to that baby and they can cut that baby out. I think that's a way better example.

SPEAKER_01 43:32

All right, we can okay, we can cut that part off. We can just move on. I like her part better. Yeah, like her part better. But now, um, with all that crazy stuff I just said, here's some tips and things that you know you can do to live a better life, a healthier life, a longer life. Um, eat vegetables, drink water. I've met so many adults that told me that they don't. Eat vegetables, they don't drink water.

SPEAKER_02 44:02

So the niggas that don't drink water, y'all are nasty.

SPEAKER_01 44:04

Why do y'all tell people that? Yeah, y'all girl talking about y'all don't like water. Like, what? What the fuck is wrong with water? You don't drink water. Oh, water's water. And listen, you only gotta drink spring water and not no goddamn deer park. That shit tastes like deer. Not no uncle Phoenix. Why would you know what a deer tastes like? It just tastes like deer. It just tastes ugly. I think about deer that's nasty. Like, I just you gotta drink. I can't. What's that water called? Eternal. That shit. I love the sun. I love eternal. That's the best. Leave the Sonny alone. Yeah, yeah. Purified water from Walmart, grape value. Leave that shit alone. That shit nasty as hell. Oh, Lloyd. Listen, all water don't taste the same. The fact that there's different tastes to water is very alarming. Yeah, very alarming. So you shouldn't be putting in that nasty shit in your body. I'm good. We the ones that taste good. We're gonna die anyway. We we are. We are. But even though we're gonna die, anyways, like don't you like wanna still be able to live longer?

SPEAKER_03 45:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 45:04

I mean not longer, but alright, say you like 40 and now you like old and like decrempit at 40. Like, don't you still want to be like vital? Don't you still want to like while you here? So like that's my thought process. Like, I still want to be like vibrant, like moving. Like I seen a 70-year-old lady, I'm 70. She was moving, her knees look like it's good. That'd be my grandma.

SPEAKER_02 45:27

She's up and running.

SPEAKER_01 45:29

But the biggest thing is do your own research. Like, I mean, who the fuck am I? I'm just uh educated black woman. Um, and then the biggest thing, the biggest thing for me, for me, for me, for me, it's fasting. And I want to talk about that because we're in Ramadan. We're in Lent. So fasting, fasting, fasting, fasting. It's so crazy. Y'all demonize everything, but nobody wanna talk about fasting. I don't uh okay, okay, okay. Five. Um, now there's different types of fasting. There's um 16, 8 fasting, and this is the fasting that I do. I fast um X amount of days. Like I do it in increments, and that's an another important thing that I want to touch on because if you just jump into a fast, uh, you can get sick because you've been going through years and years and years of putting things in your body, so now your body's already used to you eating every day, eating three times a day, which is too much. Why the fuck are you eating three times a day? That's too much. So, um another fast that I wanted to do is like, okay, that I wanted to mention is not eating before like 12 o'clock, like break fast. Like, that's why it's called breakfast. We were just talking about today. Etymology and all that, the breakdown of words, the meaning of words, the things that things really mean. Come on, use your head, bro. Not the other one.

SPEAKER_02 46:51

This one, this one, not the other one.

SPEAKER_01 46:54

Um, they also, my bad, babe. You should they also are saying that you should drink like a warm cup of water, not like tea, but like a warm cup of water in the morning as soon as you wake up. Not going, yeah, not ice cold water, but like warm cup of water because it starts to get your cells to move. So I throw in that in there. If you're gonna fast, you know, make sure you stay hydrated. And yes, because when you're fasting, you have to make sure you definitely keep water on you. Spring water, preferably, like Des was saying. Preferably.

SPEAKER_02 47:25

If not, eternal, get the one from Foolon or you know, you know what I'm saying? Where do you get eternal water? You can turn from anywhere. I think they're at Fooland.

SPEAKER_01 47:33

It's it's at Walmart. Fool no, it's definitely not at Walmart. Public. It's not at Walmart. Definitely not at Walmart. They do have to do it. And they say Harris Cedar, Fooline, Crystal Wax says I walk in. Crystal says alkaline water that's in a glass bottle. I do like alkaline water. That's the thing about alkaline water, the pH is too high. So that means like because your pH is supposed to be between a certain balance, and with it be it's like nine, okay, no, alkaline water be like 9.2. That's a lot. That's a lot. I'm talking about like your pH level for your body. Oh, yeah, it's supposed to be like eight points. I definitely think y'all should invest in those little pH strips from Amazon to check your pH level. No shade. But that's why we can smell y'all because your pH is best. Yes. Six seven. Throw in all the shades. I think chlorophyll is good too. I do like chlorophyll. It is uh a way to help your body. I need another bottle. I used to do chlorophyll. Sour salt or whatever. I think it's sour salt. Sour salt. I love sour salt. It's disgusting. Like the fruit of it. I can't. The drink or no, not the drink. I don't know. Sour, no, sour salt bitters. Like, I can't. I just, you know, I I I took one shot and I haven't like every time I see the bottle, I take it. Like, I'm weird. There's so many things out here to help with your digestion. That's what I'm saying. You have to do your own research. But that's a that's a thing. Do your own research, see what works for you. Like, if you can't just cut off food for an entire day, just cut off it for uh like a period of time throughout the day, like you still have like you're still processing that meal you had three weeks ago. So now it has to come through you, and that's why my good says she mentioned like the like the hot water drinking in the morning. Most people told me that they don't poop every day. Why? Yeah, I mean for a while I wasn't pooping. That's how disease builds up, and that's how cancers and parasites and things like you have to be pooping every day, if not twice a day. I enjoy it. That's facts. You think your food going? I poop every day. Yeah, and that's how I know I'm healthy. If I'm if I poop, I I feel like I'm healthy. I feel like you're supposed to poop when you wake up in the morning and you're supposed to poop like shortly before you go to bed at night. It makes me feel healthy. If I don't poop in a day, I start to panic. Yeah, I'm just like, wait, wait. Something's not right. So immediately drinks water. It starts to scare me. Um, but more tips for fasting. Um, if okay, so gradually you have to cut shit off. So no fast food, be eat eat more greens, drink more water, eat less throughout the day. And then you can go into, you know, progressively not putting as much food in your body that you was before. Um, because now your organs is taking nutrition from different parts of your body, and then it will cause your body to shut down. And that's what happened to that girl, that lady who be selling them seafood balls. What's Chef y'all know um oh B B Love? B love, she she did a fast, right? And she y'all see her on the internet eating seafood balls every other day. So she was in the hospital because she was she did a fast and it just went wrong. That's the same thing that happened with Dick Gregory. If you look into Dick Gregory on fast, then you will have some other knowledge about that as well. But um that's what happened to her. Um and I and you know, that's it. That's all I got for y'all. And I'm telling me a beautiful fucking soul. Just do fucking better. Yes, drink your water, drink some damn. Check your pH balance, leave some greens. I hate when a nigga be like, oh, if you don't do nothing else, figure out what a healthy pH balance is, because god damn it, we tired of it. I'm gonna go last though. That's what Lotto meant like when you leave your pussy in the bathroom. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, it's it's real. It's a struggle out here. It really is. Well, you guys, welcome back to Words of the Week, the segment where we dress our vocabulary in silk and we give it some spice. We talk loud and we think deep. So get comfy, classes and session, and this is absolutely no advisory. Y'all ready to get smarter? You're gonna get smart.

SPEAKER_02 51:52

What he say, what he's saying, I'm smart already.

SPEAKER_01 51:54

I feel smart already. So the words that I chose to discuss this week are going to be tied in with our theme and is going into women's health and strength. Okay. So, we got some guys in the building now, but we're still gonna talk our womenly shit that we're gonna do.

SPEAKER_02 52:12

Fuck y'all niggas.

SPEAKER_01 52:15

The first word we're gonna go into is amenorrhea. Amenorrhea.

SPEAKER_02 52:21

Amenorrhea.

Words Of The Week: Health Vocabulary

SPEAKER_01 52:21

Yes, and it's spelled A-M-E-N-O-R-R-H-E-A. And it's a a noun. It's a noun. Amenorrhea. So if we go into what the root word is derived from, it's derived from a Greek word. Um A with this adou. I mean without, sorry. Oh, that was easy. So amenorrhea. That was easy. Yeah, because if you A is without uh Ameno is month, and Anorrhea is flow. So what is it? Gonorrhea is a flow flow? I mean, it's still saying rhea, so it was like, damn. Yeah, I feel like, see, this is why I love language. Dang, I feel like amenorrhea, it sounds like a woman doesn't have a period. Yeah, that's exactly what it is, Diamond. That's literally exactly what it is. That's what it is. We can't have that. Weeks or months without a period, and like it wasn't pregnancy, you just went without a period. That was yeah, that was at 11, and then it didn't come back until I was like 15. Same thing. Never happened. Same thing happened to me. Yeah, I started I started my period in fifth grade. I remember it. Mine in fifth grade too. It was from school, girl. The last day of school. Yeah, fun zone. And I went and I went in the bathroom and I was like, oh my god, what is this? Oh bleeding. Then I called my mom or whatever. She came after work and told, yeah, you know, gave me the whole spiel what to do. How to wrap up your pad inside the outside sanitary napkin so it's not just in the toilet. I mean in the garbage can, like, yeah, like that's just shit you said back. Y'all got kids. I'm sure y'all become a kid. Can we please talk to our children of our daughters about garbage can about periods before they have it, before they think they're gonna go pass away? Because they be like, I thought I was gonna die. I thought I was gonna die. So, yeah, amenorrhea. That's basically the absence of menstrual menstruation. So stress, weight changes, or hormones can sometimes cause amenorrhea. Um, the second word that I'm gonna go into today is her sudism. Her sudism, it's spelled H-I-R-S-U-T-I-S-M. She's putting that shit on. She's putting that shit on, really. She put that shit on. Her suit is on. Hir suitism. She's putting that shit on, alright. Oh, Lord. That's what they think it is. She's putting that shit on. Make sure you clarify. Right. I don't know. You didn't tell the root words. The good word. All right. So Latin, the Latin root word is her sudis, which is hairy or shaggy.

SPEAKER_02 55:02

Oh, no, my she ain't put that shit on.

SPEAKER_00 55:06

She needs to put that shit on.

SPEAKER_01 55:09

Is it a hairy cooch? Not a hairy cooch. Oh, it's not? Oh, okay, okay. Well, I mean not a hairy cooch, no. Is it just hairy in general? Like PCOS, not like over. Oh, PCOS. No, it ain't girl. Oh, yeah. That's when you get like those hairs in your chin. Yes, right? It could be a form of getting the hairs in your chin. Yeah. So basically, um the definition of excess facial hair or growth. Excess hormonal, excess hair growth in women in areas where men typically grow hair. So you know, like the women at the zoo and they're like the bearded women and all that, they definitely have a case of her suitism for sure. That's so funny.

SPEAKER_02 55:45

I know some women that have some and they be like And then there's different levels.

SPEAKER_01 55:48

So yeah, you could have a little trend here. Yeah, her suitism, okay. If you have, I don't know where else men will have hair that we don't face, chest. I do have some hair on my chest. You know how they say like not like not like thick hair, but like it's like when every time I take a shower, there's like one or two little hairs. And it always makes me think back to where my father used to say, if you drink like whiskey or shit like that, put hair on your chest. I was like, oh, that's from the whiskey. You didn't drink so much. But yeah, I definitely noticed like one or two hairs. But I leave them alone because I feel like once you once you pluck the body hair, they don't grow back. I'm trying to think just because I have I don't know. One of my nose hairs is like really just like my elf hairs, one of them is like straight. You don't get nose hairs? I don't think so. I think you do. I think you just got that nose ring right there, but I think you got nose. No, I mean I I I ooh. Everybody got nose. I was about to say I'll be digging up my nose, but that sounded crazy. Nah, you definitely do that. You was about to say it. You do it. Digging up that nose. Everybody digs up their finger in the nose. No shade. But like I've never put my finger in my nose and like felt something whiskery. Yeah, no. I didn't know women had no hair. You got me. You got nose hair? I got nose hair. You got nose hair on it. It just stands. I'm sure it's so good.

SPEAKER_02 57:09

Let me see.

SPEAKER_01 57:11

Now we don't. Let me see. Let me see. You can't see my nose. You can't see it with the women.

SPEAKER_00 57:17

Put the put the flat flag on the skinny nose.

SPEAKER_01 57:21

This is not a part of the itinerary. This is not what we look at. Oh, yeah, you just saw that.

SPEAKER_00 57:27

She tried to lie, she was a big little nose hair, though.

SPEAKER_01 57:30

How y'all know her's hair is looking? But yeah, to use this in a sense that I would say her sudism can sometimes be linked to her monal condition, like PCOS. Which is good. Okay. It's this lady on TikTok. She be waxing her beard. I love to watch her wax her beard. I love it. I feel like I know what you're talking about. Does she shake it up? Like, no, no. Well, she just like she I don't know what she does. Like, I because I don't I couldn't let it grow out to like a waxing length. And that's probably my problem. But like she lets it all grow out and she'll have like a little mustache and everything, and she just be applying wax to herself and just be ripping the shit. I can't do that. I can't do that. I can't call it. She be doing it skin lays and everything. It's start it's a thing for her now because she's getting money off of it. So now she's like, I just gotta let it grow. Gotta keep going though. Yeah, you just gotta keep it probably getting that wax for her. I wonder if she put extra like stuff on it for it to grow thicker. I wonder. That'd be crazy work. Yeah. But okay. The last word that I'm gonna get into today is vaginism. I mean vaginismus.

SPEAKER_02 58:37

Powerful pussy. I was just gonna say a powerful pussy.

SPEAKER_01 58:43

It's a noun. That pussy goes, how you going crazy? And it's from a Latin. It's a noun. Oh, what's from the word vagina? That's it? Which means no, I mean, yeah. It said, well, vagina, which is Latin for sheath or canal, and isthmus, which is Latin for condition. She got some good ass pussy. That's what it is. It's Latin for what was condition. A girl with some colour. Isthmus is conditioned, and um vagina is sheath or canal. Oh, I feel like it means you have like a very narrow birth canal. Or it might be the opposite where you have a very wide birth canal. It's one is one of the one of the three. It could be. What do you think, Frank?

unknown 59:21

I think it's like she said good coochie.

SPEAKER_01 59:23

Good coochie? That's why she has a good coochie. That can't be it. That can be it. What if somebody else is? It better be it. Of course. Yes, the word is vaginismus.

SPEAKER_00 59:34

I think, you know, let's go on a spiritual level. I think it may be the the ability to possess, you know, something more with your vagina. Okay, I like that. Something, you know, more powerful than just that's it.

SPEAKER_01 59:47

Okay. I like that. You know that there's a tribe of women that masturbate and they manifest stuff from masturbation. Try. Try. There's a whole tribe of women and all and then they just be they just be masturbating. We know this is no advisory. Recently, I was like, I'm gonna put on my affirmations and I'm gonna take my to it. And I had a little bit of fun, but I just couldn't get into it because I was like, she just over here, you can be what you want to be. And I'm just like, okay, yeah. Oh love. So I don't know if it really went, if it had, if it works. But I was thinking positive thoughts. But I think I need a man. Then we can talk positive thoughts to each other. Yeah. You can play the affirmations, but I feel like I need to see cheeks clapping. That's why I said it was I couldn't get into it really. Yeah. You can have the affirmation in the background. And the whole thing is you have to have the big O and manifest. Like if you're just doing it just to do it, it ain't gonna work. Like, you gotta be very specific when you master it. You can't just be thinking about some random thing. Yeah, I've heard. I've heard very intentional. So um basically this the definition is basically the involuntary, involuntary tightening of vaginal muscles that can make penetration painful or difficult. Oh, yeah, I know what that I know what that feels like. So it's like basically you want to reject the you want to reject the D. Yeah, it's kind of like it's really something where it hurts after. Like I've never experienced that. Well, not when it hurts after, but like the the first couple pumps is painful. Like with like until your body kind of gets used to it, I think. Because I've heard I've heard of a well, I've heard a lot of people where like the first couple pumps, it's like, ooh, that's uncomfortable. And there's like quincing from pain. It can't take pressure. It can't take it. And then once you relax your body, then it's kind of like okay, I'm fine with this. I didn't know that was the word for that. Yeah, there's a thing. I I remember a girl that I knew every time she would have sex, she will, she would be in pain after like for days at a time.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:42

Like she was saying, like, it feels so uncomfortable, like she didn't want to do it at all.

Unhinged Healing: Caregiving & Boundaries

SPEAKER_01 1:01:46

Like, I don't know if it was swelling so bad that it's just like fuck just the tight coochie. Like, maybe it might feel good for the first two seconds, but now she's dry and you trying to still like no nigga, get down out of me. Like, and that was every nigga. At that point, goddamn it, get the fuck. So that was every nigga? Absolutely. I'm doing that right now. I'm talking about like happy birthday. Can you sing happy birthday and Kegels? Yes. Try that at home. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can do it. Y'all know she loves Y'all know that little grip muscle feeling that the girl do when y'all be like, tighten it, they tighten it. And then, yeah. Do that thing with the Kegel muscle. Yeah. So daily, I try to stop my pee at least twice when I use the bathroom a day. So I stop my pee stream. That's that's my favorite. That's my favorite time. I do have to stop my pee. Listen, y'all don't know. Y'all know now. Yeah, you gotta, you gotta at least like at least try it. Hold it. Hold it for like three seconds and then then let it go. It feels empowering. I think it will hold you for empowering. No, it's the girl I follow on Instagram, and she does her, she does it every day with you, but she's so cute. Chocolate, she be glistening. And she be like, come on, let's do our whole kegel. Fine as fuck, girl. But yeah. Okay, I'm gonna use this in a sentence, y'all. But um, she learned that um vaginismus is a treatable um condition where therapy and medical guidance can help her into play.

unknown 1:03:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:25

All right. So that's your vocabulary upgrade for the week. Now go sound smarter than everyone at brunch. And don't forget, on this show, we don't censor thoughts, we just articulate them beautifully. See you guys next week. Next week. Well, with words of the week. We still got it. Come on, we still are. Open it back up.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:51

No, that was funny. Okay, I wish it would have clipped that. I ain't even clipping.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:56

That shit was so funny. We can clip it ourselves. Only one part. No, but really. We got the video. Yeah, but yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:03

Um, it's your girl dominant all about me. And uh, we're doing some unhinged healing.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:09

Oh Lord. Um, but of course, healed.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:13

Since the topic is women's strength, I want to talk about how women we're always the caregivers, we're the planners, we're just the fixers. And it's exhausting. However, society wants us to always push through, continue, always show up. And how are, you know, I mean, the only other ones is men. But I mean, how are we being shown up for? Like, how is that helping us in any way?

SPEAKER_01 1:04:51

Oh, Diamond? My bad, Diamond. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:56

Oh, I'm sorry? Oh, that'd be loud. Oh, yeah. Her voice is so malefluent. I'm so sorry. Okay. But my question is, as a woman, do you feel like out of the things that you do, is it more so out of kindness, out of the kindness of your heart, because you feel like that's just what you should do?

SPEAKER_01 1:05:15

Or is it more so out of obligation? Obligation.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:19

Obligation.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:20

100, Alex.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:21

Obligation. Nah. I'm such a like, I'm such a, you know, I have a good heart. So I'm always doing stuff for people. And I do stuff for people more than I do stuff for my fucking self. That's why I have an obligation.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:32

So I I'm a nurturer by nature. And I love I love to make people feel, you know, wanted, loved, needed. And if you're not doing the same, I don't really know. But that's that whole that's not everybody holding everybody like you. I don't think that's obligation. I'm just thinking she's out there's obligation. Obligation is like a negative thing. Obligation is like what you like like what you have to do. Like well, for me, it feels like what I'm I'm supposed to do. Like as a woman, as the nurturers, this is no. That's not what I'm doing. That's just who I am. I think no. That's just who I am. Something I want to do. Right. That's like it's expected of you. Like I always tell people, I ain't gonna do that shit no more.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:16

And I'm gonna still do it. I'm gonna still do it.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:19

I definitely try it. To be like the light. I don't know. Even like when I go to work and stuff, I always think about my young girls that I work with. They're like, you know, 17, 18. And sometimes people are frustrated with them and stuff. And I don't, I'm never frustrated. I ask them, what do you need? Like, you need anything? I got you. Like it, I do not feel any type of way if they ever need me to help them run any food, if they need me to help them with any checks, they need any time. Like I tell them because again, it is about your um what you've been through and your experience. And I have a daughter that's gonna be in that workforce. So I would be damned if the manager, like, no, no, do, do, do, do, do. These are their first, second, third jobs. So sometimes you have to be a little bit more motherly, but that's how I am. But I'm also nice to people in a grocery store. If they need$2 and it look like they scrambled you, I'm gonna give you$2. If like literally, and I would say maybe in the last three years of my life is when I really tried to just be more positive and intentional with everything that I do. And it's not to get anything back, it's just I guess I would say it's what I feel like I should be doing. Yeah, it's low-key how I was raised. Yeah, like I I've never I've never encountered someone that's my elder and didn't say yes ma'am, no ma'am, or yes, sir, no, sir. And it's just like it's just now it's like it's there, it's instilled. I've always been a nurturer. I helped with my little brother and my younger like cousins and stuff like that. So now as an adult, when there's children around me, I I immediately hop into not I wouldn't even say paramo it, but I'm like, I'm like the designated TT because I I got the look. Like I got the the little evil look, the the sit your ass down look, I got one of them. And I'd be pinching them and twisting them. Yeah. Yeah, I'd be fucking them up.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:59

Sure.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:01

I find it interesting that you said like the manners and like how you see obligation because I feel like from what y'all both said, Jazz's fell under more so like that's her character. I still feel like yours is is truly obligation. I feel like if you don't do it, there may be a consequence.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:21

Ooh, that was a very borrowing tone. I don't even know the song. It's not even bounce music.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:27

We're in 1999 over here.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:31

It's it's funny that you said that, Don, because I I mean, I just don't know no other way to be. And then I also I'm lying, because like the first couple years in college, like 19, 20, 21, that round, I was a savage. It was it was like fuck everybody, it's all about me. And like, not only did nobody like me, but like no positive stuff was happening. Like, karma was beating my ass, and I was still just very much so like uh. So like I just learned once I show gratitude for people around me and I express that through my actions, I and it, I don't know. And that's why I feel like it's an obligation. I I knew I I get blessed back. So it just it just feels like if I if I do the opposite, I won't get rewarded, and I'm not looking to be rewarded, but at the same time, I don't want to be going through life just like having life step on me. So it's kind of that's why I feel like it's an obligation because it's like what else would I do? Like, what's the alternative? Yeah, I don't have an alternative.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:37

That makes sense.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:38

Okay, so the next thing I wanna talk about is how we as women, a lot of the times we want to overachieve, we want to make sure we do good, but sometimes we want to do so good and we want to show up so much that we forget about ourselves. And that goes into self-neglect. And when it comes to that, I mean, we want to be good wives, we want to be good mothers, we want to be good people to everybody, but when you look in the mirror and you don't recognize yourself because you forgot to take care of yourself, then what do you do?

SPEAKER_01 1:10:16

What do you do? What do you do? I've been there, man. I could definitely say for me personally, like it took you know, for me taking a step back from everybody. And when I say everybody, I mean mom, sister is just like not really answering the phone and really reflecting on what it is that I wanted for myself beyond just being a mother, beyond just being the person that everyone can come to, the house that everybody could come to, where you know, game nights, da-da-da-chil, child. Sometimes that takes a toll, and then it's like is nobody else to build me back up. So I had to take that moment and literally reflect. So I would say that's the most important thing. I started journaling, I started doing video journals. I still haven't looked back at those videos that I was recording during that time. Like I would just pull out my phone and just record whatever it was that I was thinking, feeling, and just saying that I want more for myself. Like, because it was time that I prayed for everybody else, and I've whatever, I'll be alright, but I'm praying and pleading for someone else to have the things that I want, you know. I had to learn to be selfish too.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:18

No offense. I mean, I'm not saying learn that yet, but yeah. So what I do is I I draw or I write like a poem.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:25

Because I do line. No, I'm joking.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:27

Don't be channeling. Yo, don't be swish now.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:30

Don't be don't be swish, because that nigga swore I'd be capable that I don't write poetry. I don't know how to draw. But no, I definitely draw and I write poetry. And fun fact about me is I love um praise dancing. So I'll just close the door in my room and I'll just turn on some gospel music and start praise dancing because that's just me. That's just me.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:51

We need more people like you. Because I feel like praise dancing, they look crazy. Oh, I'm in the church too. You pretty dance. I love dance. Yeah, I used to do it. I didn't know you never did it though. And sometimes it was it was sensual. It wasn't like you just be like, oh, I got that rhythm. I'm my own biggest hater, y'all. I can see that. Right, right. Right. I, you know, it's it's it's my thing. Um, I don't hate myself, but like I can't stand myself in certain instincts. Like, there's certain stuff that I do where I'm like, you know better. Like, why are you doing that? What are you doing? It's a lot of times where I'll be dramatic and I'll be crying or I'll be reacting the way I feel like people around me want me to react. And I have to tell myself, like, bitch, you really don't care. Like, why, why is you putting it on the room? Why is you dramatic? Yeah, I promise you, I promise you. So, like, it's just it took, just like what Jazz says, just looking at myself in the mirror and cutting myself off from people, but not even cutting myself off from people. Just reminding myself who the fuck I was. Because I feel like when you lose yourself, it comes from okay, just for me, being strong for everybody else. I have had conversations with Diamond, but I'm the eldest daughter. And it's only me and my little brother. Shout out to my little brother, he's getting married in like two weeks. Umly me and that nigga. And when I was like maybe 11 or 12 years old, my mom had breast cancer for the first time. And so she was in and out of the hospital, so I had to help take care of the household. And like after that point, it kind of felt like my mom was preparing me to take care of the household. Like, showing me how to cook, showing me how to pay bills, showing me how to X, Y, and Z to the point where when I left their house and I was in somebody else's house, I kind of fell into that role. And it just kept going from place to place to place where I had to be the strong one. And it was never, again, it was through obligation. It was never by choice. I just felt like if somebody gotta do it, it's gonna be me. And that's why I feel like I'm my own biggest hater. Because even though I did do all of that, deep down inside, it was very much so giving fuck y'all. I wanted to say fuck y'all so many times, I wanted to say no so many times. I wanted to just not do anything for anybody, not answer anybody's calls, just leave everybody alone and leave them where they stood. But I also couldn't do that. So I beat up on myself for that. I sometimes I feel like I wasted a good portion of my years being everything for everybody else. Yeah. And not being present for myself. So now it's like myself is like, bitch, okay, enough is enough. And that's why I say I'm my own biggest hater because I know better. And I know myself, and I know what I expect from myself. And sometimes you just gotta have a talk with yourself and just sit in a room by yourself and just talk to yourself and keep it a being like listen, bitch. You really, you really need to get up out of here. And it don't even matter what the situation is. I've been in jobs where I hated it and I just stayed. I've been in relationships where I hated it and I just stayed. Friendships where I was the only good friend and they were shit to me, but I stayed. And looking back on it, you really start to realize some people just don't deserve you.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:40

And you also have to learn to remove yourself when it's time. Don't don't stay nowhere where you know it's time for you to go. And you over here trying to figure out, waiting for things to be right, it's because you were supposed to leave a long time ago.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:53

That's diamonds hawking. Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:15:57

And then it's starting to get crazy because God was like already like, all right, you was been supposed to leave from this spot, but now it's I'm gonna make it uncomfortable for you. So now you have to leave from this spot. Yeah, they call that uh the the dark ages. It's like because we all go through different cycles in our life, and the dark ages is when the well, the universal, whoever you believe in, makes things hard for you until you start to get on your right path, and then it it kind of like like the the break in the clouds after a storm. That that's what I envision for things like that. And I think I've gotten through my dark ages. I think the the period that I'm in right now, I feel like I can do whatever, and there's a nice little balance. Like, I love saying no. No is my favorite part. Oh my gosh, yes. I love saying no. I can't wait to say no sometimes. Sometimes you know how people be talking about you be like, No. Oh no, probably. No, no, no. And the thing is, too, you have to say no, and there's no follow-up reason why. Period. A period. It's a complete sentence. It's trying to get like, yo, yeah, I'm not gonna hear it myself. Yeah, you do have to learn. It takes time. I mean, practice.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:04

Yeah, and the first couple gonna hit. Like it's like like you didn't really want it.

Creativity, AI, And Originality Online

SPEAKER_01 1:17:08

It'd be hard for me to do it. You needed to say no, but you know. Like, so I never really care what people think, no, but when some like I feel like I forgot my whole tree to think. Oh, I had to start to learn to like not care what people think people think about my decisions. So, like, if you have a because I have a lot of friends, a couple friends, or whatever, we're a close-knit friend circle, but it's like just because I tell you something, that doesn't mean that I'm asking for advice, or that doesn't mean that I'm asking for you to put your input. Sometimes you're just venting or whatever the case is. I had to learn to not care so much what other people thought of whatever it was that I was doing. Yeah. Yeah. That's a fact. And it's I feel like I had to learn, it's also important to be around people who can offer that advice or whatever they have to say and not expect you to take it. Yeah. You have to do what I say. I don't gotta listen to you. Thank you. Thank you for your input. Yeah, at all. I don't know about y'all, but I tell people I'm always right. If you know me, you know I'm all right. Right. I'm always right. When folks don't listen to me, this Aquarius shit wrong. Man, listen, when folks don't listen to me and the shit come up being what exactly what I said is, I'd be like, God damn, you should have just listened to me. But don't nobody listen to me. I promise y'all, don't nobody listen to me. Don't nobody listen to me. I think we have to wanna be right experience. I'm gonna just be walking. I'm filling you, and wrong and all the people that's the closest to me and spent the most time on this earth with me. We're gonna bring this back up. Is Lex always right? And I promise you they're gonna say Lex is always right. That's the fuck up part. That's the crap part. Let's move on.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:00

Let's move on. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 1:19:05

To diamond point, you can you can be upset when they don't listen to what you say, but it's it don't show it, if that makes sense. Because not everybody's outlook or perception of life is the same. Yeah. Like some people have to experience shit in order for them to realize what you're saying, and other people can be like, okay, I hear you, and just immediately take your word for it. Um, and I'm learning that. There's a lot of people out here that need to like fall to really figure shit out. And sometimes you just gotta be there to like stick your hand out. Help them when they need help. Yeah, that's so yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:48

I definitely even say for myself, just when I'm overwhelmed and I feel like I've been just trying to prove myself in every position of my life, I just need to recharge. I don't talk to nobody, but I also communicate before I do that. I've I had to learn to communicate. Like, I'm just not in a good headspace. I just need to be right now. Like, I'll be back. But for right now, leave me alone.

SPEAKER_02 1:20:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:14

So but I recharge and I come back fully loaded.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:17

Do your cheeks ever hurt? They do. They do smiling. Yeah, they hurt right here. I see your cheeks right here. That's a real question.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:26

They hurt right now.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:30

I believe all smiling. She always smiles. She got it. Boy, she got it. It might be my strongest moment. Let me print your cheeks. She got them cheeks. Yeah, at least you always have problems, friend. Folks just been telling me I got a rest and bitch face, and I didn't even know it. You know, I have to smile because if I don't, y'all gonna think something's wrong with me. That's no, that's not gonna lie. We definitely are and I that's why I be at home and I recharge and I be away from people. Because people expect you to put on a face for them. Sometimes I don't want to smile to make you feel better. I don't. I just want to look like this. And I want you to understand that I'm happy to be here. But it's not always like that. No, it's not always like that. You always smiling when I see you.

unknown 1:21:12

Oh, thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:13

I'd be happy. But that's because you know, I make sure it's within myself.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:17

My happiness is not within anybody else, it's within me.

SPEAKER_02 1:21:19

Yeah, she be having a blow. Saying, what was that trip? What trip was that? Aruba? Uh Turks, Turks, Turkers, boy. She was out there living. Listen.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:30

Go to Turks and Caicos, though. Yeah. I heard it's dangerous. No, I'm joking. Everywhere dangerous. I was just about to say Charlotte. I'm talking about like sex trafficking. Why do you keep saying that? I ain't even finished my sentence. Me? That it's dangerous? That Charlotte is big on sex trafficking. It is. It is. It's a hub for it.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:53

See?

SPEAKER_01 1:21:54

Charlotte Charlotte was mentioned in the EPS files at least 140. Was it? I seen that. At least. Oh Charlotte, North Carolina. Let me tell you what it is. Was it Charlotte the White Woman? Or was it Charlotte? Charlotte, North Carolina. It was Charlotte, North Carolina. And definitely had a zip card on it. She said the white white woman. Listen, you can get you can get to any place from Charlotte, North Carolina. You can get to the West Coast, you can get South, you can get North. You can get, you know, everywhere from North Carolina. So just don't get kidnapped here. Every time I see an Ember Alert, I'd be on the lookout. Come on, bro. What they at? But what they be at? I don't know. I ain't never saved nobody. I never seen Ember Alert. I ain't never saved nobody from the game. I be seeing it.

SPEAKER_02 1:22:38

I be seeing it like not in Charlotte, but like Hickory, you know, Asheville. Yeah, it'd be a cookie. I don't ever see Charlotte. So I don't know. I feel like they do take me. I feel like you did. God damn it. I don't see that. No. I don't know. They might come through Charlotte. I know Charlotte's already.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:55

This is not Charlotte's lander. I'm here now.

SPEAKER_02 1:22:57

No, no, fuck Charlotte. So let me tell you about Charlotte. Charlotte's very competitive. They always taking shit from motherfuckers. They can't never do shit themselves. That's all over the world. I'm gonna talk about shit. Yeah, that's it. I'm just told you it was a couple other things, too. Ain't nobody saved.

SPEAKER_01 1:23:11

Ain't nobody saved. And you know what it is. It's because it's not it's nobody has any originality anymore. Oh, yeah. Everybody's biting off of the next person. So when you're running out of shit and you really don't have any creativity or originality, what the fuck else is that?

SPEAKER_02 1:23:25

What's that person doing?

SPEAKER_01 1:23:26

Right. I I get so tired of seeing the same videos all over the place. Like if there's different variations of a video, I wouldn't mind watching it. Yeah. I wouldn't mind what somebody does different with their video. But the Okay, y'all gonna hate me for saying this, but I hate them chat GPT flyers. I hate them. Yeah, I hate them too much. You can't go to do a different font.

SPEAKER_02 1:23:44

Chat GPT book?

SPEAKER_01 1:23:45

A different shade. It'd be different colors, but the theme is always you can tell. Yeah. But it's like, do can you ask for another thing? Yeah, like bitch, go on Canva at this point. They just be happy with the first ones. Insert it below. Well, there's only we talking about how people take the lazy way out and don't put any creativity in the city. Yeah, fucking Jap Chat GPT flyers and shit. Well, I mean, it's internet in general because if you think about it, us growing up, we was like the first generation of kids with the internet. So we uh also had that time period where we had to learn everything. Like I know y'all took computer classes where you had to learn a lot of buttons. The uh the all circle delete or whatever the fuck y'all had to type in classes and shit, they're not doing that no more at all. When we was actually in art class drawing, they're not doing that. You ever did the rail world, but it's really a triangle? It'd be like a triangle, but when you're fully done, it looks like a train is going down the thing. And we had to learn 3D perception. Start from school. We had to start from scratch. My computer classes, they was teaching us how to make PowerPoint. Yeah, oh, I love PowerPoint. They're teaching us how to make PowerPoint jumping in a school, disappearing and shit.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:56

First of all, you can like put design shit and consumers. Consumers make it easy for people to use AI or Chat GPT to make basic flyers or basic, you know, presentations, and it's it's fake. Consumers, you know, absorb it because it's easy. I'm looking on social media, you know I'm a Gen Z or I'm a Gen X, you know I'm scrolling through. Oh wow, look at this. I can't tell if it's AI or not. So it just it enables people to have that lack of creativity or originality can you know flourish. Yeah. How many content creators or famous people we got who just don't have it? They don't have substance, they don't have personality.

Rapid Reflections: Inspiration And Appreciation

SPEAKER_02 1:25:34

Y'all heard that nigga, that nigga say it's trash, y'all. You ain't heard that nigga? See you in the building. Don't be in here like me lot now. All right, y'all. We're gonna play a little game. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:25:46

Oh, a game. I like games. Yeah, we got we got it, we got time.

SPEAKER_02 1:25:49

We got time. I like games. You do. That's what she do find my you do, friend.

SPEAKER_00 1:25:56

You know, I didn't find you. I took you.

SPEAKER_01 1:25:58

She did. She did. She no, she was over there like that. Oh, you had to find okay. You can get one at the Charlotte Pry. It comes every August, I think. They sell these for you. Yeah. Somebody here got it. I mean, y'all was happy. All right. That's why. So I want to know what woman in your life inspires you today. Inspires me today. Hold on, inspires. I don't know who about the expire. Inspire. Inspire you today. Besides my mother, I would definitely have to say. Oh Lord. Just your mother.

SPEAKER_02 1:26:53

Because I'm inspired by a couple people on social media, but it's like, damn, who? Ooh, what do I say? We're gonna keep it as your mother.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:27:00

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:27:02

Let's I don't I don't have nobody that's inspiring right now for me. I'm so sorry. Um, I used to, but like, um it starts to get what is that? What is it? Control all, what is it, DNJ? Control all delete, like the copy, the copy and paste show that start it starts to get like so oh no, no, I had somebody, but I don't know her name. There's there's this there's this person that I I scroll past their page every once in a while on my TikTok, and they're a black alternative girly, and I just like to watch her do different things, and I like to get validation on some of the music that she listens to and shit like that. I do like that. Other other than that, I can't name an individual, and that's only because I like I said earlier, I'm I'm in the like the realm of like rediscovering myself. And that's a good place to be. I can't say anyone uh Like right now, like currently, but um I just want to mention a few. Um, Angela Davis, um I love Sajorna Truth, um Asada Shakur. Um who else? Who else? Damn. I I don't know, my mind just went blank, but those just a few for me at least. Oh, my Angelo phenomenal woman. I am. In fact, that's my favorite poem to recite everywhere I go.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:28

I would say for me, I definitely will say my mother and my grandmother. But my grandmother is definitely my top role model. That's my girl. Um I still I always go visit her. She she's a woman of God. She was always in the church, she was always cooking for everybody. Um, and just seeing her, I guess, just work and just do just what she loves. Like, yeah, like, you know, she just she made her own family. She's been married to my grandfather for as long as I've been born. Let's bless him. You know, and I just I love that. And I think just seeing her life, she suffers from lymphedema in her legs. And as she gotten older, it's gotten much worse.

SPEAKER_01 1:29:16

But she still stays in high spirits, and I just love that. And the fact that she still motivates people, she still be cooking, she still be moving around doing whatever she wants to do. I love that for her. And I do too. That's my role model. I love that. Yes, grandma. We love you, girl. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 1:29:33

Um, I'm gonna say how was that a game though, Bethany?

SPEAKER_01 1:29:36

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 1:29:37

I'm just asking questions anyway. I'm gonna say all you guys inspire me. I love you guys.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:48

You inspire me too, Desmond. It's a lot of people.

SPEAKER_01 1:29:52

I don't even know what Des do behind the scenes, though. She does like she does a lot. She does not the the big one, not the little one. She be coming through, she be coming through.

SPEAKER_02 1:30:04

I'm just saying, uh, don't forget our collab is a little bit. Big is a petite personality. Yeah, yeah. Well, thank you, friend. Yeah, I don't really have like my mom should all inspire me, so I'm just saying. But um, yeah, yeah, you guys inspire me. Glad we could be here.

SPEAKER_01 1:30:21

Yeah, right. Happy to be here. Thank you. Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 1:30:24

Happy for the happy squad, happy life. Happy Woman History Month. We love you guys. Okay, one more question. One more question. One thing women do that deserves more appreciation.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:38

Reproduction among Hey!

SPEAKER_01 1:30:41

Hey, okay, we done push presents at carry. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:47

We can't snatch back upon. Oh, she's talking about shit. Sorry guys. She's talking about accents. We produce, yeah, we can be fruitful. You know, we can come a certain way, we can revert back to a certain way. We should be celebrating more for the fact that if without us, you know, life would not exist. The very life that everybody has would not be here without us. Yeah. But it's power.

SPEAKER_01 1:31:10

That's true. But it's power. I don't know. Have you ever heard that that question where it was like, we'll come first, the chicken or the egg? Yeah. And I'm always like, well, women, like I mean why? Why is it? You think that's about us? No, right. Chickens? No, I'm talking about scrambled. Well I'm talking about is the fact that all men come from women and there's still a lack of respect. See, now it's all men come from women when I said it, it was a problem. When I said it was a problem when I said it, all women come from the men. You said we came from the man. Oh. That's what you meant to say. I'm gonna get on you now, Fred. That's what you meant to say. See, and you had to bring it back up. You had to bring it back up. I did, right. I did.

SPEAKER_02 1:31:59

Because y'all had me go looking.

SPEAKER_01 1:32:00

You were loud and wrong.

SPEAKER_02 1:32:04

Oh, okay over there like ready to go. That nigga ready to go.

SPEAKER_01 1:32:09

My bad.

SPEAKER_00 1:32:10

But back to your question, I feel like women should be, I guess, appreciated more for our our resilience, just the way we are able to bounce back from so many things. And because, especially in relationships, motherhood, just everything, because men cannot take it. They can't, they're strong, and they are able to provide and be in their way, but they're not able to necessarily I guess handle things the way women do. Like take on, especially emotional weights. Emotional weights, we bounce back differently.

SPEAKER_01 1:32:51

Biologically, men aren't as strong as women. There are certain ways that biologically women are stronger than men. Like the hormones that we have running through our bodies in multiple ways make us stronger than men. And I'm not talking about it.

SPEAKER_02 1:33:09

Say some shit. This is one time she's not siding against men, siding with men.

SPEAKER_01 1:33:13

I mean, I'm on the side. She be on a side too much for me, man. I am on the fence. I'm on the fence. I stay on the fence. I be on the side of men too sometimes. Yeah, thank you. I can't click a side. I mean, women do be blessed. They are. But we we're not talking about them right now. We're not talking about niggas right now.

SPEAKER_02 1:33:34

It's woman's history month. Fuck these niggas.

unknown 1:33:39

Pussy.

SPEAKER_02 1:33:41

You gotta say it. You gotta say it.

SPEAKER_01 1:33:43

No, no, no. Puss ass ho. Pussy ass hope. Puss ass hoe. Pussy ass hole. Oh my god. Puss ass hole. Puss ass hole. Yeah, stop putting that why. Put a phone. Puss ass hole. Drop the wine. Puss ass. Puss ass. Puss ass ho. Pussad ho. Y'all multiple hoes. Overnight.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:04

You kick a man in the balls, he's falling over. You kick the vaginas, yeah.

Closing Laughs & Sign-Off

SPEAKER_01 1:34:08

Don't kick me in my chick. Please, bro. Please don't. It's still hard. Do not try this at home. There's some balls up there. They just uh they in there, right? Yeah, they in internal. Y'all didn't pay attention in biology. It gives. I didn't pay attention in biological. I knew she was a nigga. Or took biology. Take biology.

SPEAKER_02 1:34:32

All right.

SPEAKER_01 1:34:35

Close it out.

SPEAKER_02 1:34:35

Close it out. Damn. Damn. First, you start early, and I gotta close it out. Don't do that, let's. Don't do that. Anyways. We're close now with Donald Roger Podcast. And it's your girl, no Ladess.

SPEAKER_01 1:34:50

It's your girl, Diamond, all about me. Thank you, Diamond. And it's Bella Me, a beautiful fucking soul. It's your girl, Jasmine, like the motherfucking flower. And if you don't know, now you know, nigga. And you know, they always save the best for last. This time it just so happened to be me. Because Swish not here. Biggest motherfucking aquarium. It's Pisces season. Lex rated. Fuck all y'all Pisces. No, I'm joking. Lex rated. Thank you. Good night, y'all. Good night, y'all. Good night. Good night.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:20

Ladies night.