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How Influence Society Turns Support Into Opportunities
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The room was hot, the jokes were flying, and then the story landed: a no‑show “support” group sparked a Thread post that filled a room with twelve hungry creators. That moment became Influence Society—a Charlotte‑born, no‑gatekeeping collective where members share contacts, swap media kits and rate cards, and actually get each other in the room. We dig into how they structure rollouts, set expectations with venues, and decide when not to post, especially when comps don’t match deliverables. If you’ve ever wondered how to pitch better, negotiate fair value, or avoid messy lounge collabs, this is a blueprint built from trial, receipts, and honest debriefs.
We also get personal. These women juggle nursing shifts, a salon lease, boxing classes, and parenting while building audiences with under 1,000 followers—proof that engagement and consistency beat vanity metrics. They walk us through joining criteria (content over follower count), why the group “sweeps” inactive members, and how sharing an airline collab lead in the chat opened paid doors for others. The vision is bold: expand to Dallas and beyond, become the directory brands trust, and get creators paid—because salmon bites and sugary cocktails don’t cover editing hours.
Then we pivot into intimacy and vulnerability. Intimacy isn’t just sex; it’s emotional, intellectual, experiential, and psychological connection. Fear often looks like humor, low‑maintenance posturing, or hyper‑independence. The talk gets real about men’s mental health, generational conditioning around crying, and why awareness comes before fixing. In a world of surface‑level connections and endless pitching, that kind of depth might be the competitive edge creators need most.
If you’re building a creator career in Charlotte (or any city), this conversation delivers tangible tactics and the emotional tools to sustain them. Subscribe, share with a friend who hates gatekeeping, and drop a review telling us the one contact you wish more creators would share.
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New Year Energy And Introductions
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Meet The Guests And Their Stories
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SPEAKER_06Yes. Black women. Yes.
SPEAKER_02I wanna I don't even want to be like, oh, they the new Destiny child, but y'all bitches looking good. They do look good. They do look good.
SPEAKER_10So listen, man, we're gonna bring y'all in the no advisory podcast way. We just gonna ask y'all three simple questions. Just three simple questions, I can't fuck up, can't fuck it up, alright? Simple. Ready? Who you are, where y'all from, and what the fuck you do?
unknownOkay. Shea.
SPEAKER_10They put you on the spot, Shay. It's like you go first.
SPEAKER_03I'm Shay. I'm from Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_10Talk it up a little bit so they can hear you. You gotta talk in the mic. Oh, you ain't got Shay. Come on, Shay. God damn.
unknownUm, I'm Shay, I'm from Brooklyn. Um, I'm a nurse.
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SPEAKER_01You told me to hold it right here.
SPEAKER_10I did, I did, but enough with it.
SPEAKER_03I'm Shay, I'm a nurse. Um I'm from Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_10What part of Blue? Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_03From Best Side. Yeah. Yeah. Let's go BK. Yeah, I'm a nurse. I do content. Yeah, I'm a mom.
SPEAKER_10Okay. That's what it is. All right. I love it.
SPEAKER_04A mamma Cha.
SPEAKER_05A mama.
SPEAKER_15A mama.
SPEAKER_04I'm Corinne. I'm from Jersey, Philly.
SPEAKER_15Jersey, Philly with that.
SPEAKER_10Big rings. Yes.
SPEAKER_18That's all you got to say. That's what she said.
SPEAKER_05All right, I'm the armor. I'm also from Brooklyn. Um I do a couple things. Mostly my career is in uh the beauty industry. I have a salon, own a salon here in Charlotte. Um. And I, you know, do a couple of other things, but content creating is definitely a big side quest of mine that I'm like trying to, you know, take over a little bit.
SPEAKER_10Hey, wise man once told me take trying out your vocabulary.
SPEAKER_05Okay. Doing. Yeah.
SPEAKER_10Currently doing, yes. So I'm patching myself a lot of time. Like try. Nah, I'm doing that. You know, I'm gonna take it out your vocabulary. You know what I'm saying? So what is I know all y'all got, you know, individual endeavors, but what are y'all here for right now? What the fuck y'all do, huh?
SPEAKER_05We're here to talk about influence society. Yeah, so influence society is basically a um content create creator influencer group um here in Charlotte. But we also have members in Dallas as well. So you got Dallas members in two and shit.
SPEAKER_03Atlanta, we gotta move it.
The Birth Of Influence Society
SPEAKER_10Hey, be happy about Atlanta. I'll be outside. Like real. I'll be huh? That's what we played. Oh, you got the hat on too? We play this weekend. We play this weekend.
SPEAKER_01We're not keys, we're not keys.
SPEAKER_10So influence society, tell us how that started. Tell us what the influence society is about.
SPEAKER_05Um, like the real story. You want the real story story. Y'all want the real story. All right. All right, so um I've been doing content for a l a pretty long time. I didn't really take it serious until I would say this year, really 2025. Um, I started, you know, kind of just honing in on it and, you know, charging for it, I should say. So monetizing um off of the content. And I joined a content creator group. It was supposed to be all about, you know, sharing each other's posts, liking each other's posts, you know, showing love. And within the group, I just saw that they weren't genuine at all. You know, like I was in there, I was supporting you would you would have thought I was a groupie. I was under the comments, you know, sharing, liking. And when it came time for, you know, them to support me, it wasn't, it it there was no reciprocity when it came to that, you know. So um pretty much I I put together like a a big I thought that this was gonna be a good thing, uh, influencers, uh influencer day at um game show, game show battle rooms. And I invited everybody, and you know, at first I set the date for like sometime in the summer. It was like sometime in June. Um everybody was like witted, everybody was like, yeah, I'm come, you know, this, that, and the third. Checked in for weeks, and last minute everybody like canceled. You know, now mind you, I had a contract with Game Show Battle Rooms to have, I believe I signed 17 people up at the time. And so I'm like, I'm two days away, and I have like three people coming. Like, there's no way that this is gonna work. So I was like, you know what? I got on threads, I put like an advertisement out there. You know, if you in Charlotte and you do content, you create content, you want to get into creating content influencing. Um, I have this, that, and the third going on on this date. And the number of people that reached out, it was crazy. You know, the number of people that felt that they weren't supported here in Charlotte, the number of people that felt that the support wasn't genuine, you know, it it showed me that like I wasn't tripping. You know what I'm saying? Like, all right, you know, this is what we need because people are claiming that they're supportive and claiming that they're gonna show love, and they're really not, you know, they're envious, you know, they don't want to share opportunities. Um, and so I said, we need this space, you know. So I had 12 people, I believe, showed up. It wasn't the full 17, but I believe we had 12 come that day. And after that, I was like, yeah, we doing this. So um I had, you know, my friends here, they were very supportive from the beginning, you know. Um with after that, after that event, it was like, okay, now that I know we can do this, we're gonna take it, yeah, like we're gonna just, you know, keep moving aboard, like move, you know, up in the score. So um that's pretty much how it started, and it took off from there. That was in September. And if y'all go look at the Influence Society page on Instagram, y'all see all the opportunities that we've had just from September, like in the last quarter of the year.
SPEAKER_15So, how did y'all meet and what made y'all want to collaborate?
SPEAKER_05Dang, all right, so I Shay, I did Shay's hair.
SPEAKER_03She she was a client of mine. I was coming from Columbia, um, and I needed to find a hairstylist. And I was going to school in Charlotte at the time. I was going to school in Charlotte, and I found Diara. And I went to her one. I went I went to you twice. I think I went to the first time, and you know, we talked, and I found out she was from Brooklyn. I already knew. I already knew. She ain't know, but I already knew we were about to be friends. But um, but yeah, that's really how we and then yeah, that's really how we got in contact with each other, and then um just throughout doing content and staying in contact, we just got closer over the years.
SPEAKER_05Um Corinne and I have known each other for 13 years now. 13 years, yeah.
SPEAKER_10To long friendships.
SPEAKER_05How many of us have initially just out and about sex? That's when Charlotte was like lit. Really?
SPEAKER_10And I think everybody talked about it.
SPEAKER_18Like Epic Center, everything with lity back then.
SPEAKER_10You don't know nothing about it. Yeah, y'all remember y'all know you don't remember live at five? Y'all remember live at five? Was popping.
SPEAKER_01It was live at five, man.
SPEAKER_05Well, I mean, right, after five was basically, you know, everybody get off work at five and the city turn up at the epicenter. Got it. It was rooftop, got it. Um, drinks, especially when the weather's nice, you know, it was just the rooftop of the epicenter.
SPEAKER_10So me and Shay. The vote, yeah, I remember. Yep, yep, yeah, that was a good time. That's when Panthers was winning. It was a good time.
SPEAKER_05But you asked what made us want us collaborate us to collaborate. We we were all at that that first event, you know. They were Correct's always coming with me to, you know, collaborate. Like when I when I started doing content, like really like getting the opportunities, I would always invite them and try to get them to get on, like start doing content, like you know, start doing it, start, you know. So I guess this was just like a good way to like really, you know, get everybody on board.
SPEAKER_04We saw what she was trying to do, we believed in her, and we said, Yeah, we're gonna rock with you, we're gonna do it.
SPEAKER_03We had that first meeting, and we was we were set, but after that first meeting, I have hours off.
Why Creator Support Must Be Real
SPEAKER_02And honestly, that's very important to have people that believe in you know your ideas. Like, sometimes your dreams aren't things that you've dreamt since you were a young girl. You could think something today and be like, you know what? Next month, next two months, this is what I'm gonna do. And when you start talking about it, you start to notice the people that are really gonna be there for you. And I commend you guys, keep going. Okay. So I want to ask what it means to be an influencer for you guys. What does that mean for you? Does it mean like just content, or are you really truly trying to influence other people?
SPEAKER_05For me, it started it starts out just being myself. Um, I just like people gravitate towards me and I notice that, and so I'm like, I'ma just put it online, you know. Um but being an influencer for me, it means really just inspiring other people to do what they dream to do. Like, I've always been that type of person. I I've worked since I was like nine years old, like literally, you know what I'm saying? And since then, after like maybe my 20s, maybe no, maybe my like yeah, in my 20s, I I've worked for myself since then. And it's always because every time I had a I believe I dreamed of something or I wanted to do something, I just did it. I really just go for it. If it don't work, it don't work. You know what I'm saying? But if it does, then yeah, let go. Like, you know what I'm saying? And that's all I believe I believe that about everything. I've started an active wear line, I've done so many different things that hair, a hairline, and things don't always go the way I plan, you know what I mean? But shit, yeah, I did it. I can say that I did it, you know? Where did it be?
SPEAKER_06I'm sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off. No, where where do that come from? Like, who did you see growing up that made you be like, yeah, I'm we're just my mom. She was a hustler, she was a hustler.
SPEAKER_05She's a bona fide hustler. Like for real. Like she, I get I'm just like her.
SPEAKER_06Brooklyn girl, she's a Brooklyn girl, too.
SPEAKER_05Basically, well, she's from Queens, so I can't say that.
SPEAKER_06Queens get the money. Queens get the money. Queens get the money.
SPEAKER_04Good luck for you. I think everybody kind of has a different story. For me, I was getting lost in my relationship, and I felt like I was kind of losing myself, and that kind of played a part on my body, and I started getting sick. So I was like, I need to do something and get back out to have more fun, just to bring more life into myself. And this I thought I didn't want to keep going clubbing, like it's not the scene ain't the same, so that's not my cup of tea all the time.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_04And to be able to participate and do things and then do things for free. I was like, oh yeah, for sure. And I did leave out, I do box. So even through working with them, you know, I can have people come out, try the classes and all of that other stuff, but yeah, just trying to get back to myself was the reason why.
SPEAKER_03So for me, I started out doing fitness content. Um It was my way of like showing honestly, it was my way of keeping myself accountable. Um I didn't want to I didn't want to fall off what accountable? Yeah, keeping myself accountable.
SPEAKER_02I don't believe women can hold themselves accountable.
SPEAKER_13That's that's what it was.
SPEAKER_03That's wild twish, man.
SPEAKER_02She knew you were gonna bullshit. That's what she said.
SPEAKER_03It was my way of keeping myself accountable.
SPEAKER_01Um I don't know.
SPEAKER_03I was just always been the type of person, like, if I start something, I don't want people to see me fall off. So putting it out there and doing the videos was my way of being like, alright, I'm gonna stick to this. Um and it was it turned into me being like, you know, people commenting and sending me DMs, like, oh, your inspiration, how do you do this, how do you do that? That's fine. Um, what's the workouts? What you doing? How do you, you know, I had just had a baby when I did it. So um it was me trying to get back to myself, trying to get back my body back, trying to build myself up. Um and so yeah, that's that's kind of where it started, and then Diara really brought me out into lifestyle content. Um she invited me to this collab at Medusa, and that was what that was that was this past summer. That was this past summer, and then it just kind of just took off, and I just been doing lifestyle content ever since.
SPEAKER_10You know, I want to know, like, because you know, I'm from Brooklyn, Brooklyn, Queens, you know, and being out here in Charlotte, you know, like they really hate.
Pitching Brands And Dealing With Bad Collabs
SPEAKER_05Yo, I just was saying that. Like, no, no, for real. No, it's I don't think, but I broke it down. I was like, it's not hate. I was just breaking it down because I'm like, everybody not a hater, you know, but I I think what it is is like they don't have the opportunities that we have. They don't know. They're more sheltered when it comes to that. We can go anywhere and make something, you know? That's because like that's just how we move. We we just hustle and bustle. They don't really have the hustle and bustle. So they're looking at us like, how these niggas do it. Right, doing it. How, you know, and and it's more of a like, no way, and no slightly anybody from Charlotte, how do you think? To me, it's more like an ignorant mind. Now we in a room full of Charlatans. No, I'm just saying, like, not everybody, but you know, majority just, you know, other some people just have that. Like in their family, they got somebody that might be, you know, that might have shown them the way, but like not everybody has that. You know, so for the majority, they be looking like how. You know, and I don't think that it's necessarily hate. I feel like people just don't want to ask for help, which is also why I love the influence society, because it's like just come on, like you don't think I hate it.
unknownLike, just join.
SPEAKER_09Yeah, just join, right?
SPEAKER_05Just join. You know, we can all literally do the same. All of us in the group, there's there's like 70 members. We literally go after the same. We can all get the opportunity. Everybody pitch, everybody get it. Everybody want anybody we want to go to STK. Here, here's the contact. We all literally have gone.
SPEAKER_15You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_05It's not something that shit was gonna say. It's not something that you gotta hide it. People are like, oh yeah, I went to STK, they got the email, but then don't be wanting to share anybody.
SPEAKER_03Don't be sharing, don't tell nobody how they got it.
SPEAKER_05Like, come on.
SPEAKER_03And it's like it's room, it's enough room for everybody to eat. I don't understand why everybody wanna, you know, gatekeep and keep it all. It's enough room. Nobody can do the same thing like the next person. Everybody can do it differently.
SPEAKER_05So it's like and that's the thing, they're looking for different audiences, you know. Some of y'all feel away, it's okay.
SPEAKER_15So I have no problem with you. You're right.
SPEAKER_03I have no problem with y'all. The beef though from y'all though. The beef stuff from y'all no, you're just one person.
SPEAKER_10It'd be yo, it's nasty work when you got some of that sharl and we can't. I ain't gonna say all sharing niggas, but a lot of sharing mothers, men and female, it'd be crazy. Crazy.
SPEAKER_02So do you think that so how long have you been here? All of you guys. Three years. Thirteen years. Thirteen years? Thirteen years. Okay, well, that's a long time. That kind of changes the track trajectory of my question. But for you, do you feel like, you know, like coming from New York? We know influencing is like something that's, you know, a little bit newer. It's like popping off more. But Charlotte is such a huge Place New York is as well, but do you find that there are differences between the influencers in New York and the things that they're doing? Like, are they getting pitches? Like, or is it the same? Is it tailored the same way? Because Charlotte is huge. And there are things that are Charlotte is huge compared to well, I'm from Connecticut. Okay. Yes, I'm from Connecticut. But when I say it's huge, it's like so many restaurants. There are a lot of people that you can pitch to, and there's so many TikToks and so many experiences out here. That's what I'm saying when I mean huge as far as do you feel like it's okay. So yeah, you it's my question. You do the same thing everywhere. But to Chicago, I gotta see a hotel collaboration.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, I will say it's a newer thing. Um I I can't speak on New York because I haven't been I haven't lived in New York for a long time. I was in the army, so yeah, I don't I don't know how it is influencing New York. But yeah, I would figure it's the same.
SPEAKER_05Like it's the same you just pitched. They have a lot in my opinion, it's more it's a lot more opportunities.
SPEAKER_03So it's so much bigger.
SPEAKER_01Um but yeah, it's the same.
SPEAKER_10Now I see where you're going with it because it's like you know, New York, you know, is a big city, right? So it's like it's motherfuckers out there just doing everything. Charlotte is a it's it's it's the biggest city in the Carolinas, right?
unknownRaleigh.
SPEAKER_10Raleigh's the biggest city, so Charlotte's the second.
SPEAKER_11I guess.
SPEAKER_10Probably the second, right? It's bigger than Raleigh, right? I think Charlotte's the biggest in the Carolinas.
SPEAKER_11Raleigh's the Capital.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, it's a good one.
SPEAKER_13Just because I don't mean it's the biggest. I've been in Raleigh though.
SPEAKER_10Raleigh is actually the city. I think Charlotte's like city-wise is the biggest in the Carolinas. But regardless, it's like, you know, it's not, you know, privy to the same kind of opportunities or people. Like, you know, New Yorkers, they out there to hustle and bustle. Charlotte got hustle and bustle people as we come out here and hustle and bustle. So I get what you're saying as far as like it's different. Like, you may pitch to say they have a restaurant, say, for instance, steak. You may pitch a steak and get that shit easy in Charlotte. Do that shit in New York, niggas like, nah, I don't need to. Like they look at it.
SPEAKER_05They definitely just went and got it.
SPEAKER_10They just went out. Some of our New York got it. Ah, shout out to y'all, motherfuckers.
SPEAKER_02So what options do you guys go into when you're pitching to different different places? Do you have any pushback? Communication.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, they suck.
SPEAKER_03Like, oh my god. The communication. The communication sucks. Like going back and forth on Instagram and DMs and even email. It's you're you pitch, you have a conversation, it's going well, and then they may stop answering. You may not get back in contact for a couple of days, a couple of weeks.
Balancing Family, Work, And Content
SPEAKER_05But one thing that I do want to address is the is is the communication with the with the clubs and the lounges. Like whether we pitch or whether or they ask us to come, because it it goes both ways. When we s when we, you know, set uh our you know, our ass, we we talk about it, we go back and forth, we reiterate multiple times between the three of us in the group chat or wherever we're communicating. And when we get there, sometimes they just act dumb. Like whoever we're talking to may not be present, and then they put somebody else in charge for the night and they don't know what's going on, or the servers don't know what's going on. The servers don't want to serve us because they think they're not we're not gonna tip. Women tip more than men. Like the fact that they'll take the fact that you look at that because the servers, the servers, mostly women, they treat women like they we they treat us like we not even there sometimes, and that sucks because we're the ones spending money out here. But let me get back to the point. The point is that when we get there, everything is not in order, and that's one thing that we've run into that's very like a lot tiring, it's exhausting. We had a we had a um collab, we talked about everything, we get there, they're not giving us what they want, what what we want, and then they expect us to still deliver the content. No, like what what we agreed to, you didn't you didn't give our members. We got 18 people here, and they didn't get what we asked for, which you told us you were gonna give us, and then you still want them to produce the content? No, get out of here, baby. So that's one thing we run into is like I think people don't really take it serious, uh serious because they like, oh they're just gonna come out, we give them a couple drinks, blah, blah, blah. And it's like we have people that we know on the inside that's telling us it costs them nothing to do this for y'all.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_05So, really, what they're giving y'all is nothing to them, and y'all sit at home and y'all gotta make the content, y'all gotta put this and that together. If we charge$150 to post a reel and it costs you what,$20, because you gave us some salmon bites and and two cocktails that's full of juice, then you know, it's not really like, you know, it's not really. So that's I feel like that's one thing that we was like, we ain't doing lounge on facts. Are you guys transp I'm sorry?
SPEAKER_02That's a go, baby girl. Are you guys transparent when you have negative experiences at these places? Like on your social media, or do you tell them you're before you post it on social media?
SPEAKER_10Like, I think it's just trash, be like, don't go here because the motherfuckers show this is trash.
SPEAKER_05This ain't gonna be a good one.
SPEAKER_10Nah, just say trash.
SPEAKER_05So I'm gonna be honest.
SPEAKER_03Shake a answer because she It's hard to navigate that when you have members that are new to creating, right? You don't wanna have your members start off and they're known as bashing already. Like, you know, you you just getting into lifestyle content and your content is negative, or every time we turn around, you're bashing a place. So that's kind of something that I try not to get into. If if it ain't good, you're not gonna you just not gonna hear from me at all. You just not gonna hear from me. I'm not gonna post No, I'm not we not put We not. So we we have to eat the food and all of that. If the if the collaboration, I'm talking about the collaboration. If if that communication is off, is Rocky, you expecting content for stuff that you didn't provide, it wasn't a fair collaboration. I'm not putting it out, but I'm not gonna bash you either. That's a fairness, you know.
SPEAKER_05We tell them though, like we tell them, like, we like, oh, this, that, and the third happened. We were not happy. And nine times out of ten, they don't want us to post that shit. We like, do y'all want us to still post? Because we would. And they more than likely they're like, nah, like we we'll just give it to y'all, like y'all good. Cool.
SPEAKER_10You know what I want? Like, what do you say to the people that uh like say, like, yo, these these motherfucking chicks, all they want to do is get free shit and shit. Like, what do you say to them? You know what I'm saying? Cause I mean, I beat the benefits of it.
SPEAKER_09So I'm like, yo, I'll be like, yo, fix it out so you can eat some breakfast this morning. You know what I mean? But what do you say?
SPEAKER_13That's not AB for real.
SPEAKER_09Like, what do you say to the people?
Goals, Gatekeeping, And Getting The Bag
SPEAKER_05I feel like do it, do it. Like, do it then. Because it's not easy. You know, it's not like you know, it looks funny. And honestly, some days we like some days we'll have multiple collabs in a day, and then we still have to produce more that content. That'd be like, you know, that's the part sitting down and editing. It's a long sitting down clips.
SPEAKER_11Okay.
SPEAKER_03Especially when you're not conscious of the content that you're taking, and you get home and you like, damn, I got 30 minutes of freaking content to edit down to two minutes or one minute? Like, what? You'll know. It takes a long time, and people don't understand that. They think, oh, you just doing this for free food. Alright, you do it then. So edit it.
SPEAKER_06What y'all edit? Y'all doing it on your phone, what y'all edit on? I do it on my phone. Okay, okay, that's okay.
SPEAKER_10Like, do y'all do y'all space y'all joints out? Or do they have like, alright, we're gonna do this this way? Because, like you said, it'd be a lot of content. You may go to one spot, you may get 30 minutes of content, you may go to one spot, get 10 minutes, and then you look, did like six spots in three days, you gotta do all this fucking content. Like, yeah, how do y'all arrange that? Do y'all say, all right, we're gonna have this content out this day, we're gonna do that. How do y'all arrange that?
SPEAKER_03As far as influence society goes?
SPEAKER_10No, yeah, as far as y'all and putting out the content.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, we do rollouts. Yeah, we do a content for the group. So we do. We meet, we you know, all three of us meet, we talk about the dates that we want to put it, and then we put it out to the group.
SPEAKER_10Okay. So they got like a timeline of where everybody's gonna do it.
SPEAKER_03We try to look at all the content that we've done. So let's say we we did a collab Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. We try to make it so that each collab gets their own little set of time so that it's not, you know, peeling on top of each other with the algorithm. We just try to strategize. That's basically what we do. So everybody get they they time to shine when you know we do the collaboration.
SPEAKER_13So I have a question. Have you been holding on?
SPEAKER_02Okay, um, have you guys thought of doing something like more structured to like if it's like say like not really a private group? So say you're not so more so getting a collab, you're not getting something from the restaurant to put this out, but you go there and you're an exp you're experiencing it, you're having a great time. This is like you probably have perfume making classes, little pocketbook making classes and stuff. But you go, you spend your own money and you go and you enjoy this. Would you still put it out for people to go visit them? Or is it more so I'm doing it so that I can benefit, you know, you guys as the influence society, um, as well as the business, or like basically, would it be ever a space where, like, you know, somebody pay a subscription and it's like, okay, these are all the fun things you can do here, versus having that collab directly with the business, if that makes sense.
SPEAKER_10That was a lie.
SPEAKER_02I'm saying I like to do fun stuff. I have places all the time, and I'm always complimentary. Snapchats or TikToks or whatever, but I'm not getting paid for those services. But you can put something together where it's an intimate group, and it's like you're paying these dues or whatever to get the the kind of you know things that you will want to experience.
SPEAKER_05Um, I'm not gonna lie, I don't know. I don't know what to answer for either. Yeah, that's yeah, that's what I'm trying to do. I feel like you should answer that. I'm like, damn, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna try to have my head around. I'm gonna try to break it down like I can't. Yeah, yeah, wait. Let's break it down a little bit.
SPEAKER_02Right now, you guys collab with businesses. Okay, reach out to them. You know, you guys are getting the service. You're not paying for the service, but you are putting the reels out.
SPEAKER_05So you are getting, you know, you're getting paid and um on the you're asking to go places and pay. Like and just pay out.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, but put the content out for people to go there.
Joining Rules, Sweeps, And Standards
SPEAKER_03On my own personal page, but not with influence society. Yeah, not with influence society. Okay. Yeah, we would do that. Like everybody can do that individually. As influenced as as individual creators, uh, I'm gonna speak for myself. Like, I just went with my kids, I just it took them to um Big Air. It wasn't a collaboration. We paid for Big Air, we did everything, but I took content and I posted it, like you know, so people can see, you know, this is a good time.
SPEAKER_02Like, oh she does be having fun. Let me go follow Influence Society, like you know, more of that.
SPEAKER_03Not only that, I think it's a good way for you to get into spaces that maybe are not contacting you or you're not contacting them, it's a good way to show what you can do with the content. Like, you know, if you ring I haven't had a um a trampoline park collab, but now other trampoline parks can now see what I can do if I if they were to invite me there. So I think it's a good way to like, you know, build up your portfolio facts.
SPEAKER_15So what collab have y'all done was like most successful?
SPEAKER_05As influenced society? Yeah, yeah, they all have really good numbers on everything.
SPEAKER_04Good feedback. The best one? The one we had the most fun on, or yeah, the one we had the most fun.
SPEAKER_05Oh what?
SPEAKER_03Nah, we had the most fun with Charlie Pub. I'm not even gonna lie. Charlie Pub was a great live.
SPEAKER_12What happened?
SPEAKER_06What happened at the time? Why you why you ain't like that one?
SPEAKER_05What happened? I was in Orlando visiting my grandmother, so I was sad.
SPEAKER_09She was hated.
SPEAKER_05We gonna do it again because we gotta do it, and they weren't there. So they would say monopoly. It looked like that was like the life. Okay, life size. Yeah. Wait, wait, wait, how many of you? It looked like it was five of us.
SPEAKER_17Oh, it was five. It was enough people? No, play. It was enough people.
SPEAKER_16I don't know how it worked with a lifetime monopoly, but I think five people is enough.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, it's enough. How many of us was it at Charlie Public? Yeah, like 17? Damn.
SPEAKER_09It was deep on that.
SPEAKER_03It was like two people there.
SPEAKER_09The host was popping. Then it had people out on the street.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, we're going for uh Valentine's Day and they can't go back. So whoever went the first time, whoever went the first time can't go back. We gotta give the other members a chance.
SPEAKER_10Nah, that was deep on that shit. That was fun, I don't know. Like, how does uh uh how does somebody join the influence society? What they got, what's the credentials to join?
SPEAKER_06Well, first step they gotta DM us, but I've been DM and nobody ever hear me, man.
SPEAKER_17Listen, listen, listen. If this is true, my accent, if this is true, we've been closed for the holidays. We've been closed. The DMs are really intimidating. They look horrendous. Oh my god.
SPEAKER_05We were supposed to do a um like a sleepover for the new year and um with a with a large Airbnb, it had 23 bedrooms, it had a sauna, it had a it had a hot tub, it had a oh my god. They pulled out us, they pulled out on us last minute. So so from that, because we were supposed to have that event, the DMs were like crazy.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, we put out we put out um a flyer basically saying like if you're a small business and you got this, that's that, and the third, because we were gonna have people come in and be able to showcase their small business. So, you know, we were gonna have bartenders, we were gonna have caterers, um, just anybody who has small anybody or everybody who wanted to just have their small business showcase.
SPEAKER_05We're still gonna do it.
SPEAKER_03Yes, yes, we're still gonna do it. It just didn't work out the first time. We gotta find a new one.
SPEAKER_10Hold on, y'all ain't answered the question. How the fuck a motherfucker get in there?
SPEAKER_03Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh DM us.
SPEAKER_05Okay, so DM us. But we do look for like we look for certain things too. We go on the page, we we we don't look at followers. The followers do not matter to us. Like, that's one thing that we want to make sure you know we put out there. The followers don't matter, but you do have to be engaged, you have to have a little like even if you gotta have content on the 500 followers, yeah. Have some content. You gotta have content on your page. It can't be private. Like, if you don't, if we don't have any content and then you DM us and you're like, oh, it's like we don't have we don't really have anything to work with, you know.
SPEAKER_03People be DMing a page and only got pictures, no content. What y'all what y'all want to do? Because we don't know what y'all want to do.
SPEAKER_10Like they want to get free shit.
Show Segments: Birthdays And Pop Culture
SPEAKER_05And that's and that's what that's how we have to kind of like filter that. Like even even people that are in the group, we can tell, like we have, we have sweeps. We literally have sweeps. Well, you did that.
SPEAKER_10Like, what happened? What?
SPEAKER_05No, like some flat became about it. I was just thinking of how ruthless we are. Like, we we asked Nola, like we were just like, we kick people out. Uh-huh. If you're not engaging, so what's the criteria for kicking somebody out? Like, if you're not engaging, if you're not, if you're not going to people that is in the group and engaging with their content sharing, but you're coming in and you're like, oh, I just shared this, I just posted this. Can you support me? We don't do those. Like, or you just commit and ask for support. You're not supporting your your members.
SPEAKER_03Or you just posting the collabs that we that we recently did. We just went to STK, now you went to STK, but we didn't see you in the group chat. Or you know, or you know, you did a collab right after we did a collab at the same place we did it, and you doing all the collabs that we do, but we don't never see you in the in the group.
SPEAKER_02Oh shit, that looks fun.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, nothing, nothing. Just just basically like taking the collabs for yourself because you got insider scoop first. Because we drop it in the chat, like, okay, we just got this collab with da-da-da-da, who wants to go. So that means you taking that information and you going on your own and you you doing your own thing. Yeah. And it's like, bye. What's the point of that? You could still do the collab with us and then still go pitch to them after you do the collab with us and take your family.
SPEAKER_05But we just want everybody to to, you know, make sure that they understand it's a community first, you know, like support each other, share each other's content, like each other's content, and then we'll do the same, and then you can get the perks, you know, of being of you know, being in the group.
SPEAKER_03It's all about community sharing, sharing opportunities, sharing the information that you, you know, that you have, that you've gained while doing this, while on this journey. Uh, we got people who drop information about their rates and things like that, what they're charging. They'll drop their whole their whole rate card, they'll drop their whole pitch that they sent out to yeah, they'll somebody drop their whole media kit, whole portfolio to teach people like how to so that's the community that we're creating. So we want those type of people in our community. We don't we don't want people who just come in and just steal.
SPEAKER_15Right, right. I'm weak. And as me being a mother, how do you as a mother balance being a content creator?
SPEAKER_03It's hard. It is hard. But I try to incorporate my kids in what I do so that they don't feel left out or they don't feel but it, you know, it's a lot of times my son is eight years old, my oldest is eight years old, and he'll tell me, Mommy, you don't you be just be on your phone. I'll be like, Alright, let me put my phone away. So you you just gotta find a balance of not just being stuck in your phone, you know, not being stuck, just everything doesn't have to be a collab sometimes, you know. Like we can just go out and have fun. I don't have to record everything sometimes, and that's something I'm still balancing, still learning. Um, because he's young still, even though he's eight, he still like he loves to do videos.
SPEAKER_10Um, but they still, they still kids, so I want to know like what what is like the be all end all for influence society? Like, where do I know y'all, you know, you gay people, y'all do the content, create the content. Like, what is the main goal for y'all in doing this? What do y'all want to get out of that? Corinne answered that.
SPEAKER_01Corinne. Corinne got a dream. Corinne said a dream. What are you talking about? I don't know what they're talking about. I don't even know what they're talking about.
SPEAKER_13Like, they said Martin Luther Corinne. We were both out of here. I was thinking MLK.
SPEAKER_17For real.
SPEAKER_13She really is. I don't know why she's not talking about it.
SPEAKER_04Oh, okay, wait, wait, I had to think about it. Um again, it's a safe space. We're a community. We want people to be able to find influencers. So right now we go to and we pitch. But eventually we want people to come to us. We want them to find influencers and be like, Oh, okay, I want to use them or I want to use this person that basically like a directory for it.
SPEAKER_05To know that we exist, influence society is here in Charlotte and in other states, you know. And if you need your brand, your business promoted, we're here. We got the influencers, they're ready to they're ready to work. Um, and and again, like she said, community, you know, like on the influencer side. Teach one, teach one, right? Yeah, that that we're here, we're here to teach you, we need to help you. You don't have to be perfect. Like a lot of our members have had their very first collaborations with us. They've had big collaborations with me. A lot of people, like, you know, it's it's so it's so good to see because like I think people that people misconstrue you know the industry, like, oh, you gotta have 30k, 50k to get all these things, and like people are with a thousand followers, like, you know, aren't getting the same opportunities. And that's what people like with those high followings, that's what they're trying to get keep because they they know that what they're doing is not to me, like it's okay. I can't say it's it's not special, but it's not that special. Like, you know, y'all not doing nothing special that somebody else can't do, and I feel like a lot of them have that mindset like we're thinking of breaking some type of code or like we're all we all can do the same thing, you know, and that's kind of where I wanna we wanna go with it pretty much. Good answer.
SPEAKER_03They didn't say what I thought they was gonna say, but the goal is to get to the back. The goal part is to get everybody to the bag, okay? That's the goal. Nah.
SPEAKER_15The goal is to get to the back with it being like the new year and something that you didn't do last year. What are you trying to do this year?
SPEAKER_03Get to the bag.
SPEAKER_05That's why she said that's a good one. Because we, yeah. Like, we don't charge our members. We haven't, even with our collaborations, we've been doing complimentary services in exchange for the content.
SPEAKER_04So now, literally trying to get more paid collaboration for our members.
SPEAKER_05So now when we we've had a few people like, what do you charge? You know, so now what once we start hearing that lingo, we're like, We know, we know we made we know. We creeping in there. That's the charge. Okay. So we so we start hustling like, what's charge?
SPEAKER_06What's your GBT? What's your dream collab? Like, what's y'all dream collab?
SPEAKER_03We ain't talking about that. A trip? A trip?
SPEAKER_05Oh, a trip, probably probably like a vacation. Yeah, a group trip. All paid for. Yeah, for real.
SPEAKER_06We got the travel agent.
unknownRight.
SPEAKER_06We got the group, we plugged in.
SPEAKER_04Okay. Yeah, I think. Just got a pay collab with an airline in our group. Yeah, that's one of the discount calls. Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03And she dropped it in the chat, right? So that everybody else can try and sign up and pick up, yep, yep. That's the type of opportunity, you know. Right. Because somebody, you know, that's not in the group, or just, you know, a lot of these creators, they'll get stuff like that, like an airline collab, and they won't say nothing. And you might DM and be like, oh, how did you get that? Definitely. Red. Red. Exactly. Right. And nobody had to ask her. Nobody had to ask her how she got that, what she did. She just she got it, and then she came in, she dropped it and was like, Y'all, I just got this pay collab, da da da da, or this um collab with the airline. Sign up. And drop the form and everything. Yeah. Mama be you on there next. That's fire. Thanks.
SPEAKER_02I did have a question as well. But my question, I know we're talking about influence society, but as individuals, I know you guys do different things. Like we mentioned, you have children. Um, I know you do boxing. I know you're into your fit. I still see some boxing stuff on your page too. I don't know if you were just drinking a little bit of everything.
SPEAKER_15Yeah, but like just tell me a little bit about that.
SPEAKER_02Like, I know her son was eating some red beans and rice, and she was confused. I said, No, I will tell that. Did y'all see my face in that video?
SPEAKER_03He put the he put the cornbread inside the red beans and rice. He mashed it up. I'm like, you from New York.
SPEAKER_01Like I do, right?
SPEAKER_03Yes, he had, yes. He said he said, he said, mommy, and don't stay ill. He put it in there. Yeah, he said, and don't stay ill. He started mashing it up. I'm like, what? I like that. What are you doing?
SPEAKER_10But yeah, no, no, that's too much.
SPEAKER_03But um, yeah, I mean, that's where I I'm a nurse. I do content. Like, that's that's that's really, you know, what what I do.
SPEAKER_02Um what kind of nurse are you?
SPEAKER_03I'm an infusion nurse, an ER nurse. Um, so I do ER part-time. Um, but yeah, yeah. ER sounds scary.
SPEAKER_13I don't want like, oh my god, you gotta do everybody that comes in from the outside. What about you, love?
SPEAKER_04Um being in this content where I'm I don't have a lot of followers. I got like under 600 followers, but I have a lot of engagement. And I feel like all my followers are organic. Like I deleted everybody, so I don't really know nobody. I wanted everybody that's on my page to really like my content. So I have a lot of engagement with only a little bit of followers.
SPEAKER_01That's smart.
SPEAKER_04I've been boxing, what, like five years now, and I just fell in love with it. So it's just like by punching. Yeah, that's it. But I love it. I love it. I fell in love with the sport. Right. That's that's the one.
SPEAKER_03She knows, but she's holding it.
SPEAKER_09She don't look like she boxed.
SPEAKER_06She is pretty and do a lot of shit.
SPEAKER_02So let me go to the petitive fighting. Like bare knuckle boxing. I'm all into watching that shit.
SPEAKER_15And we're gonna do another boxing collab because I miss my.
SPEAKER_03It was during the holiday time, so I think we need to run it back. Yeah, definitely gonna run it back.
SPEAKER_05Um I don't this yeah, I got a lot of like, I feel like it's gonna be a year of like transitioning for me. My um salon lease will be up finally after six years. I think that I might pivot and like kind of step more into the content creating world. Um, so I'm figuring that out. You know, trying to figure out what's gonna be next. But yeah, definitely the activewear line, Cozy Gym Girls. I started in 2024, and um it kind of I had a lot of financial hardships with that, like the the the boutique and clothing and all of that, and getting it shipped from China and losing packages, it just it took a lot out of me. So it was so hard to like really stay on track with that. I would love to get that back up and running this year. So I think I'm gonna focus on that too. Because it is fire.
SPEAKER_11Right. I think you're an image.
SPEAKER_10Like what one of my final questions for you guys is like what because there's you know, there's tons of people that do everything, right? Um, so for you guys, like when they come to influence society, um, and they could probably go to another group of creators and stuff like that. What makes influence society stand out from anybody else that has a group of people doing?
SPEAKER_05We just sat here for an hour telling y'all. Ain't nobody else doing that. I don't know.
SPEAKER_03I don't know about y'all, but I don't know no other group on Instagram or anywhere. I don't know any other network or group that's getting collabs for members. Y'all undivided attention.
SPEAKER_04I love when people be like, I've been in other groups and y'all are just so kind and y'all are not mean and like stuck up and you know I can feel comfortable.
SPEAKER_03I like it. I don't know any other groups doing what we're doing. I I don't know if y'all know of any other groups doing what we're doing, but I don't know of any other groups that are getting collabs for their members. There'll be collabs that we don't even go on. We pitched and got it for y'all, literally. Like um, so I don't I don't yeah, I don't see nobody else doing that.
SPEAKER_05I think more so people like in other creator groups are still only doing individual things in that group and like still you know engaging with each other and communicating with each other and maybe even sharing the opportunities with each other, but I have no one is no one has scaled created you know, that where we have like a community, a community where we're doing it together. We're look we're going on these, and and that's the thing, like, yeah, we're going and we're getting free stuff, but what really what we're really doing is we're like we made friends, like we make everybody like made new friends, we're meeting each other, we're hanging out outside of the collaboration separately, outside of the group. So like it really is you know a lot of people into other things.
SPEAKER_04A lot of people are new to Charlotte and joining in the group and making friends.
SPEAKER_05So sometimes when we have collaborations and all and our members can't go, and like we have like say we have a ticket left, we'll post it and allow somebody who's not even in the group to come to just to see if they want to join the group. Like, hey, we got a extra ticket. If you're free at this time, whatever, whatever, come when we have people come and they be like, oh, okay, like we see, you know.
SPEAKER_10How many, how many niggas is in the group?
SPEAKER_03Yeah, like five. Like five niggas? Yeah, like five. Yeah. Switch, you wanna get in there? We need more guys. We need more guys. We do need more guys. Like, it's not the same. And y'all ain't answering.
Vulnerability, Intimacy, And Emotional Health
SPEAKER_09You got content? You got content on your page? You gotta start.
SPEAKER_06You gotta start.
unknownI got that.
SPEAKER_06My old page got deleted. Okay, most of my content is in my highlights.
SPEAKER_15Oh, you gotta put it on your page.
SPEAKER_06It's in my highlights. Yeah.
SPEAKER_10You see that switch? I'm I'm I'm I'm I got your back, B. You gotta help me out. You gotta be able to.
SPEAKER_03Because the thing is, like, when we tell these people we're bringing, we're bringing creators for them, right? We're saying we bring in five creators. Now we show you who the creators are, and one of them, they don't even got no content on their page. That's not fair. You just you giving us this for that. It's not, you know, it gotta be a fair exchange.
SPEAKER_13Show that.
SPEAKER_03Um, some of them do ask, like, you know, who are the creators and they want their name to be, they want their page, yeah. All of that. So would y'all party with your next question?
SPEAKER_15Um you can't even see. Acting like C on a player when you're looking at my shit. So, would y'all partner with no advisory with a collab?
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_15Oh, yeah, yeah, I better.
SPEAKER_10What the fuck?
SPEAKER_15That's not it.
SPEAKER_03So wait, yeah, what y'all trying to do? Wait, yeah, what y'all trying to do? We're talking about off camera. What are y'all gonna do? Oh, now it'd be too much. Just a little bit. Hey, y'all can't give us a little snippet. Y'all gonna ask the question, but then talk about we talk about all the time.
SPEAKER_06I think you should use your salon as like a pod space for you, and you can like talk about all your like events you go to when you should have all your girls set up. Because ain't no female shooting no uh in no salon. What is that? What is that? That's maybe dope. It's in September.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, that that is a good idea. Like, I'm not gonna lie, having the space for so long and then not doing anything like in it is crazy. Because I've had ideas like to do stuff like that, like shooting for YouTube and like but just never gotta lie to it.
SPEAKER_03Really?
SPEAKER_04Yeah, that would be here before it didn't gotta be edited on top of everything else that she does.
SPEAKER_05When y'all do this, y'all don't think it's a lot of well, I'm sure it's a lot of work, right? Like people, I think that people need the podcast to stop selling podcast equipment. Like, I think it's not no not y'all per se, but it's it's some podcast. It's some podcast that I just feel like shouldn't exist.
SPEAKER_06It's too many podcasts, it's that you're gonna do it.
SPEAKER_05Like you telling me I should start, but I don't think I should, because I'm not sure. Maybe I'll maybe you're a good you're a good pronunciator, you're a good maybe I should come on here with y'all wanna pop in, pop in and out a little bit.
SPEAKER_01He said, I don't know.
SPEAKER_10She's filled up.
SPEAKER_01It is smaller here. I feel like I got sardine.
SPEAKER_13It's definitely a little warm.
SPEAKER_10I'm dead. Y'all want to sleep.
SPEAKER_13Let me get an edible.
SPEAKER_10Oh shit. So listen, man, let them know where they can find you at all social media platforms. Um, and I and I uh every time a guest comes on, I want y'all give like a piece of advice y'all will give to you know a young lady that's gonna watch it and be like, oh man, I want to get into that and I want to start that. Like, what's a piece of advice you could give to that young lady or young man that wanna start start it?
SPEAKER_03I would say just do it. Just turn the camera on, just start recording yourself and just do it. Don't be scared, yeah. Don't be scared. Do it like that.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, be your authentic self. That's what people want to see. Yes, people relate to you being real. Yes.
SPEAKER_10Be your authentic self and authentic self. Uh-huh. Be your authentic self.
SPEAKER_05I just feel like what's the worst that can happen? Try it, do it. You know, it's not the end of the world.
SPEAKER_10It's not the end of the world. Hear that? Give it up for one more time. Round of applause for that floor. Hey, so y'all gonna stick around, right? Y'all ain't got no work and shit tomorrow, right?
SPEAKER_03Whoo, what y'all trying to do?
SPEAKER_10Because we do, we we go through our segments and shit. I mean, if y'all can, y'all can't, but we're gonna write right to our segments and shit. So I just want to give y'all the heads up. Alright? You know what I mean? Okay, stick around, stick around. No, you like it. Y'all like it. We like to have our guests like twine.
SPEAKER_15Hey y'all, there was the reason I got my chain. Yeah. You said you look my friend that brownie now. Uh someone wanna brownie.
SPEAKER_10A brownie, brownie. Hey yo, you ready, Paula, with the with the uh cue up?
SPEAKER_02All right, but the paper's sticking to them.
SPEAKER_10Uh oh, somebody cut the somebody cut the air off. I just got that shit say you see it.
SPEAKER_13Okay.
SPEAKER_10That's just shit.
SPEAKER_13Just making sure you gotta put the disclaimer on it.
SPEAKER_10I am not fucking with that shit. All right, so we got those ready.
SPEAKER_09Go ahead, Paula, hit the music.
SPEAKER_14Ow. Shout out to my cousin.
SPEAKER_10Tank and the bangus. Tank and the bangus.
SPEAKER_15Oh shit. That was lit. There you go. Alright. That's your cousin. That is my cousin. Listen, I'll call her. I know.
SPEAKER_10Listen, he ain't gonna prove it, but he knows. She's just beating the biggest.
SPEAKER_15You're gonna be mad as hell when she comes in here and you're not here. Because I'm gonna tell you you're not invited. Anyways, let's look at these birthdays.
SPEAKER_10Birthdays, who birthday is it?
SPEAKER_02Ice Spice. Ooh, she was looking so good. Nobody. No, she was so much. I'm talking about just her pose. I know her mint and pink aesthetic is just giving. Like that's what I'm talking about. Yeah, Ice.
SPEAKER_10The girl that won wore the see-through thong out of kids. Yeah, that orange hair. I think they're giving her orange from the spice. How old she turned?
SPEAKER_1525.
SPEAKER_1025. Happy birthday. Happy birthday, Ice Spice.
SPEAKER_15She's really her music trash. Alright, then we got Morris Chestnut.
SPEAKER_10Oh Morris Chestnut, how to turn?
SPEAKER_1556. Happy birthday, Morris Chestnut.
SPEAKER_10Black, don't cry, baby.
SPEAKER_15Alright, then we got Tang, the RB singer. Tang! 49. Then happy, heavily birthday to George Washington Carver. George Washington Carver!
SPEAKER_09Bush don't give a fuck about black people.
SPEAKER_10How do they turn?
SPEAKER_02161.
SPEAKER_10Damn. 161 down there. God damn.
SPEAKER_02Yep.
SPEAKER_10161 down there.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_10How you holding up down there, Carlo? Give us a sign if you're holding up a good. Oh, yeah. You remember that? What if you cut the lights off or some shit? It's crazy. That was an old black birthday list, right? Yep. Yeah, you give us a round applause for old black birthdays today.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_10She's not black. She's Puerto Rican, right? She's Spanish.
SPEAKER_13Definitely albino. She's albino. She's albino. She's not black.
SPEAKER_02She's Dominican. She's Dominican? But she's black or she's Dominican? I don't know that girl. She's black, yeah. She's black.
SPEAKER_10I suppose she's black. But don't wear that dumb see-through shit no more. The kids' party. Don't do that shit.
SPEAKER_02Please don't wear that.
SPEAKER_10That was I don't know who your stylist was, who advised you on that. That was crazy. You saw how to kill you on our page, right? They fucking destroyed you. They destroyed you.
SPEAKER_15They killed that girl.
SPEAKER_10Two, three million views on that. They killed you. Yeah.
SPEAKER_15They did.
SPEAKER_10Don't do that again, Ice Spice.
SPEAKER_15Now I'm just gonna set a breakdown. So today, the breakdown, the bounce breakdown.
SPEAKER_10The breakdown, nigga.
SPEAKER_15You gonna break down? To be real.
SPEAKER_10This nigga high. We do this shit every fucking week. He said the breakdown like he was something new.
SPEAKER_06I've never heard the breakdown.
SPEAKER_02The breaking guy high making them edibles. Can't be serious. He said I've never heard that before. He don't even be in the group chat.
SPEAKER_06So far removed from the world.
SPEAKER_02You could say we canceled it tonight and he'll still show up.
SPEAKER_06I understand. Alright, alright. We lost it.
SPEAKER_02Yes, the bounce breakdown.
SPEAKER_06Break it down then.
SPEAKER_02Oh shut up. Alright, today is New Year's.
SPEAKER_10Yes, it is. Happy New Year, motherfucker. That's the one bitch. Happy New Year's.
SPEAKER_15And it is New Orleans New Year's tragic incident anniversary.
SPEAKER_10Oh man, yeah.
SPEAKER_15Which one? What you mean with the one?
SPEAKER_10The one where the nigga ran through the whole people and shit.
SPEAKER_15It be so much going on.
SPEAKER_10And it's not New Orleans. It's New Orleans. Say it right.
SPEAKER_15Don't say it wrong. It's New Orleans.
SPEAKER_10That was the Boston bombing and shit. Yeah, they you know. You think about bombing and shit.
SPEAKER_02You know, folks just do, he don't know what's the one chair about. I definitely see it'd be too much going on in Alabama. Too much going on.
unknownOh yeah.
SPEAKER_01I'm weak.
SPEAKER_15But on January 1st, 2025, during New Year's celebrations in Bourbon Street, a man drove a pickup truck into a crowd of people, killing fourteen, and dozens were injured.
SPEAKER_06He was going fast as hell, too. I seen that video.
SPEAKER_15And he was killed on the scene. No others has been arrested since the since the attack. Let's take a moment for the people that passed away. Rest in peace.
SPEAKER_10My drink was shit for y'all, motherfuckers.
SPEAKER_15Drink for y'all. And this year.
SPEAKER_10Talk about my flash now.
SPEAKER_15Hey, yeah.
SPEAKER_10It's my best man flash from 2021. Giving alcoholic.
SPEAKER_15It definitely gets alcoholic, don't it?
SPEAKER_06Let me put my shit away. I'm gonna put my flash away. Stumbling. It's giving all of that. Put my flask away now. That's not uncle shit. It's smooth though. It's smooth. Shut the fuck up. It ain't silver. If it was silver, I don't want to hear it.
SPEAKER_15Yo, shut up. Alright, this year to prevent anything from happening, the National Guard has entered the city, putting up barricades, and will be there till Mardi Gras, which is February 17th.
SPEAKER_10Oh yeah, my degree.
SPEAKER_15Do y'all think they should keep them up? Like perfectly. Yeah, keep them shits up, yeah.
SPEAKER_10Be lit, lit.
SPEAKER_15I don't really go out there like that. I only go out there because of that person.
SPEAKER_10Of course, because I don't want to go out there in Burbast, nigga. If I'm going to New Orleans, nigga, I don't I don't give a fuck about nothing about nothing else. Bourbon.
SPEAKER_02I'm gonna go to the French quarters. I want to go to the museums. Don't eat all that shit. Nothing at the French quarters. Don't eat anything at the French quarters. What's going on? It's not real food. It's fake. It's like the fake food, right? It's not real New Orleans authentic food. Okay, good to know. Yeah, I was gonna see the historic building. So when you come even going to the hood, okay. Go to the hood, son. Go on to the bridge.
SPEAKER_10Go on to the bridge and shit.
SPEAKER_02No, it ain't basically they just, you know, it's not real food. Like you start. It's man-made. There's no culture in it. There's no black people in the kitchen. Yeah, no, no, no, but only white folks over there. We ain't talking about like artificial food.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, in the French quarters.
SPEAKER_11Definitely don't see you.
SPEAKER_15And it be expensive. Like we ate in Burber Street one time. I think the bill was like, what was like a hundred or something? Yeah, it's crazy. Like it was a shit again.
SPEAKER_10That's true, though. That's true. The bill be three thousand dollars.
SPEAKER_11Take that thousand.
SPEAKER_03Take that.
SPEAKER_10I'm just saying, hypothetically speaking.
SPEAKER_03Put me in the kitchen if it's three thousand dollars. Put me in the kitchen.
SPEAKER_02Alright. The baddies are winning, y'all.
SPEAKER_03Oh, they're winning.
SPEAKER_13You just said that?
SPEAKER_02What'd you say in there? What do you say? Baddies. He watched everything. I've been doing what I win.
SPEAKER_11Baddie Baddie Shining Club.
SPEAKER_10I'm going incognito. I'm going incognito for that one. This nigga said he watches baddies.
SPEAKER_02Listen.
SPEAKER_10That's your fault.
SPEAKER_02How do you win him?
SPEAKER_15Because Anna Mack and Erica and Raven are engaged. And they're baddies. Oh.
SPEAKER_06I don't really jack on it like that, but Scotty might be next.
SPEAKER_03Shit. Yeah. No. No. One of them engaged to um to a baseball player.
SPEAKER_02Anna Mack got engaged to a New York Yankee player. Yeah.
SPEAKER_06It ain't gonna last.
SPEAKER_02You don't say that.
SPEAKER_06She's too toxic. He don't get to get to the top of the colour. She's not that crazy.
SPEAKER_02She is toxic.
SPEAKER_06Get a prenup, nigga. Get a prenup, nigga. She's crazy, nigga. She is crazy. She never slipped the CEO of the city. Get a prenup, nigga.
SPEAKER_03No, right. She definitely pays everyone. I do.
SPEAKER_06She she seems like she's in love with that. She needs to get mentally checked, and then she needs to get married after that.
SPEAKER_15I guess.
SPEAKER_06I can't deal with it.
SPEAKER_15Alright, Erica Raven got um engaged to Annally Chopper. She was on Bad Is Gone Well.
SPEAKER_01Erica, which one's Eric? Erica Raven. Which one's Erica?
SPEAKER_02She can sing him. Okay, she can sing. Yeah, she can sing.
SPEAKER_03I like Raven though, and I like how she ain't really. Did she come back this season? I don't know. I don't think so. Yeah.
SPEAKER_15She got jumped last night.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. She last. I don't think she's coming back. I think when they be trying to play the pretty girls, though, because she definitely was doing, like, she did what needed to be done. Like, yeah.
SPEAKER_15But I don't think she's coming back.
SPEAKER_18And that's fine. She don't need to.
SPEAKER_15But it just shows that, you know, these women are more than just fighting and turning up and that, you know, they know how to be them real selves and actually love a man because they got engaged.
SPEAKER_02Okay, you know what I'm saying? Engaged, not married. Right. That's where I'm over here thinking, like, engaged. It ain't gonna make it to the house. It might make it, you never know. Nah. Watch. We're gonna see them later on this year. They're gonna be married with kids.
SPEAKER_15Scotty probably nets.
SPEAKER_02And Elise already got kids. He got hella kids.
SPEAKER_15I know what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_02If you know, like I know, you need to get life insurance on him the way he's beefing with YB.
SPEAKER_15Oh, yeah. Yeah. Alright. We're not done with um, we're not done with baddies though, because Natalie Nunn has she said that she played the interview with Cam Newton. Yeah, she did. I did hear that. You think she played it?
SPEAKER_02That she played it? Yeah. Like she was acting stupid on purpose. I don't think she was acting stupid. I think she was saying exactly what she felt and did in that moment.
SPEAKER_15Okay, she just dumb as hell. On December 26th, Cam Newton invited Natalie Nunn to be on his Funky Friday podcast show where they discussed baddies. And it caused a lot of backlash for Natalie Lunn, as some fans would say that Natalie was not comprehending any of the questions that were asked.
SPEAKER_06Funny as shit, bro.
SPEAKER_15Which he asked her, why should a man take a baddie serious? And she said they paid the bills. And then she was also asked what is her nationality concerning her saying the N-word, and she answered that she is black, but she's not.
SPEAKER_10You are not black. You're not black, you motherfucker. You're not fucking black. Okay, you was dissing all the black girls on your show and shit. Now you want to be black. Okay, back is high right nation.
SPEAKER_06So she said Chanel was a hoe.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Huh?
SPEAKER_06Chanel, person that made Chanel is a female. She said Chanel was a hoe.
SPEAKER_02Hey yeah. Nikki's, I mean, Nikki. I thought she was a little bit like that.
SPEAKER_06Because she said Chanel won't let them be like Chanel won't sponsor baddies because they fight too much. She's like, I don't know. But why would they sponsor them in the beginning?
SPEAKER_03So what she said.
SPEAKER_06She said because she bought all the track.
SPEAKER_03She buy a lot of women now. So why she said N word and she's not black. Chanel was a hoe. She didn't answer.
SPEAKER_02I think she avoided them questions on purpose. I definitely think she played that interview. I think Natalie is very, very smart. I think so. I think she's a scammer. Everything.
SPEAKER_06She's entertaining. She is smart.
SPEAKER_02Lady smart because she know how to get to the bag. She's smart. She is smart. Oh wild. And ain't been canceled yet. You know the shit she doesn't say. She ain't been canceled yet.
SPEAKER_15She's very entertaining. Definitely haven't been canceled yet.
SPEAKER_03However, I don't think she played that question when he asked her.
SPEAKER_02No, but she's a good question.
SPEAKER_03I don't think she played that question. Yeah, she was dead serious with that question. I don't care. We made more than y'all. We asked it 50 million different ways, and she tried to give it an answer 50 million different ways, but the same way.
SPEAKER_02Like, no. So how much money she makes, but would that be a I don't know.
SPEAKER_15Would y'all interview um Natalie and then if she came on here?
SPEAKER_09Hell yeah. Hell fucking no.
SPEAKER_15I'm like, why you thought you'd be able to do that? No, I'm lying.
SPEAKER_10Bring on. Brennan, I will, oh man. Yeah, I would love to have a million questions. I'm gonna eat her ass up.
SPEAKER_06I thought you was about to say you're gonna eat her ass.
SPEAKER_10Now why would you say that?
SPEAKER_06I don't know. He'd been saying crazy shit all night. Hey, yo. I was gonna eat that. He had the flag. I was gonna eat ass up.
SPEAKER_01Real quick. What in the hell?
SPEAKER_15All right. So speaking of backlash, um, Nicki Minaj Patrick to be deported has No, don't do it to my girl Nicky, though.
SPEAKER_03See now, see now. It's not about that. She done in what? Oh, no, no, no, yeah.
SPEAKER_10Well, she got like over what 700,000 on her. Is it 7,000 to 700,000?
SPEAKER_15That was 70,000 and one.
SPEAKER_18But hold on, then they got to sign that shit.
SPEAKER_09I signed it.
SPEAKER_10I didn't know it existed, but I'm gonna look for it. I signed that motherfucker just to just time to say, hey, I was born in the 70,000 motherfucker. So what are they trying to send that back to?
SPEAKER_06Trinidad.
SPEAKER_10I wasn't hot minded.
SPEAKER_15It's basically because of the comics. She's trying to support Donald Trump. She's saying that he cares and he, you know, he gave the people hope and all that stuff. That he's handsome.
SPEAKER_02So she was born in Trinidad or she's just Trinidadian? She was born out there. How are you gonna deport someone if they were born here? She came here with undocumented.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, undocumented. And she and she was on record saying she was in.
SPEAKER_02Yep, get her up out of here. She undocumented, get up out of here. I ain't know it. I ain't know it. What's crazy about she bragged about it? She bragged about it. But y'all can get her up out of here. The rest of the trinities gotta go, she gotta go.
SPEAKER_10And then her husband is a pedophile, so she's gonna be gone.
SPEAKER_02He's gonna be in jail.
SPEAKER_10She knew what she was doing when she did that.
SPEAKER_15I think she didn't have to be a job. Justice for Nikki.
SPEAKER_06Justice for Nikki.
SPEAKER_15Justice for who? Definitely not no justice for Nikki. No. What kind of justice do you want? What kind of justice? Right. What kind of justice?
SPEAKER_06The queen of stay in America. The queen of stay in America. So you like baddies and you. I'm going back in the cognitive baddies and I love Nikki.
SPEAKER_03So you also support Donald Trump, is what you're saying. Right.
SPEAKER_06Nah, I don't give a fuck about that.
SPEAKER_15So you're about to be like slim out here now.
SPEAKER_06I don't support. I don't do politics. I just like Nikki Manak.
SPEAKER_05People just disappoint me tonight, Swish. I just signed it. I really just did.
SPEAKER_01Now she just said 38,269 people signed.
SPEAKER_05Wait, 38? I thought it was 70. I don't know. Maybe.
SPEAKER_10Oh, maybe it's multiple petitions. Ah, that's good.
SPEAKER_15Oh, that's another one. That's a new one. That's a new one.
SPEAKER_02That wasn't over there. That wasn't that one. Go find the other one. Damn. I'm just trying to figure out why we want to deport Nikki, but like, like everybody. No, the reason why they're doing this. She's trying to kiss his ass so she don't get deported. No way he's deporting all these people right now. And she just needs to get deported. We know that. But Nikki got too much money. Y'all wasting y'all damn signatures. I mean, Trump's wasting y'all's signatures.
SPEAKER_10Trump's agenda doesn't align with a lot of our agendas. And Nikki being the influential person that she is with all these followers and her barbs, her going to do that, it was like a slight to us. Like, what are you doing? You are queen.
SPEAKER_13What are you doing?
SPEAKER_10And that's why people are reacting the way they react. Even though you are a real you could do whatever the fuck you want to do, you are a grown-ass person.
SPEAKER_02Thank you for throwing it.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, I just want you to do, but there's consequences to whatever that you do.
SPEAKER_02I'd be damned if I look at Nicki Minaj for any type of inspiration or you're not a barb. A role model or anything like that. I live. You're on a bar.
SPEAKER_10Like just like Beyonce in the Beehives?
unknownNah.
SPEAKER_10That shit is crazy.
SPEAKER_02Beyonce could get online and be like Donald Trump and I'd be like, You see, Beyonce ain't doing none of that shit. Anybody can sign a petition. You can make a petition right now and have somebody go fucking sign that shit.
SPEAKER_10She ain't going nowhere now.
SPEAKER_02You gotta go back to Brooklyn. You gotta go back to connect. Like then. Oh damn. I didn't know.
SPEAKER_10Brooklyn in the US, what are you talking about? Brooklyn's in the that was a bad example. That Brooklyn is in the U.S. I know we gotta hold. I'm just saying that was a bad example. We can't use that example. That was a bad example.
SPEAKER_13Even though she took a shot at us, it's okay.
SPEAKER_10I done I'm sorry. I just I hear everything. Sometimes I don't want to react to certain shit, but I had to say that because you said Brooklyn. My bad. Okay, I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_15Anyway. Alright, so then we got North Carolina defines sets as male and female. New law goes into effect today.
SPEAKER_10Wait, what? A new law, what?
SPEAKER_15They made a new law stating, you know, the sets is only male and female only.
SPEAKER_10Oh, okay. Male and female only. Okay.
SPEAKER_15It was like he, she, yeah, it was it was too much.
SPEAKER_10They, him, went, when, where, why? It was too much going on.
SPEAKER_02Y'all ain't got shit else to do. Like, y'all ain't got shit else to do. Can we wrap up the construction that's going on first before y'all make dumbass laws? Because who cares? Who really cares about genders or not?
SPEAKER_10Well, no, no, a lot of people care because you know, when you are like in a female bathroom and a nigga just come in.
SPEAKER_12That's what the family bathrooms are for, because the niggas is not going to family bathrooms.
SPEAKER_10Like, I could have walked in, I'm straight as shit. I walked back identified as she they. You can't tell me nothing. And I'm in there pissing and shit like all the women. Hey, I'm a I'm a I'm a hee she. I don't even think the like it was it was too much, too much going on.
SPEAKER_02The bathrooms aren't even the problem because a woman went into a woman's bathroom and because she was a stud, somebody approached them was like, oh, you're not a girl, you're not, and she flashed her titties. Like, bitch, I am a girl.
SPEAKER_10That's different though. I mean, that's a girl. I'm just saying, like me, like a regular nigga that's straight as fuck could walk into a female bathroom and because I identify as a sh woman, I could just walk in the bathroom. And there's no consequences.
SPEAKER_15That's why they made that law for protection of you know the outdoor people that are the biological, you know, he or she.
SPEAKER_10Yeah. Like, no disrespect to y'all guys, but if you male, be male, woman, women, what the fuck y'all want to do, but just don't want the bathrooms doing that shit. That shit's crazy. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I mean, I it's not. I don't want y'all to cancel us right now. At the end of the day, if everybody just minded their business, that's true, mind your business. It wouldn't fucking matter.
SPEAKER_10So you won't matter if you in the bathroom and the nigga just came in with a slong out and just said, like, yo, I'm I'm I identify as a woman. I could go back.
SPEAKER_02No, no, I don't use public bathrooms anyway. I'ma walk my happy ass out. It ain't got shit to do with me. I'm a public business.
SPEAKER_12You're gonna feel offended? Offended by what?
SPEAKER_02That he was able to walk in a public space? Yeah, like one of this kid, like little girls. What if he was blind and he couldn't see the space? Nigga ain't blind as shit. That nigga he no glasses on, walking around like ha. What I'm saying, what I'm saying is other countries they have unisex bathrooms. Only America's the only one of the only places that that really focuses on gender roles and and males and females and men can do this and women can do this is limiting the entire country. Now, I get why people have a problem with men walking in a woman's bathroom. But common sense says if a man walks in a woman's bathroom, walk your happy ass out and say something, or just don't use the bathroom in there. When they like, I don't want to see my kid in the bathroom, but how many times does do men take their girls in the bathroom with them? Or women in the game. Nah, I never take my daughter in the men's bathroom. I'm not doing it in the bathroom. I know men that do not trust other women to take their child to the bathroom, so they will take their child in the bathroom and be like, yo, go use the bathroom in the stall. I'm gonna be right here when you come out.
SPEAKER_10So that's a good discussion. Like I I never took my daughter in a male's bathroom ever. When she had to use the bathroom ever. So what you do? Family. He said that. And then no family everywhere. I think it's a little bit of a channel.
SPEAKER_02They gotta pee pee in the bushes. So why don't they just make a door and a stall for every single bathroom, the male and the woman? You don't gotta see no urino. All the fucking bathrooms look the goddamn same.
SPEAKER_10I'm just not taking my daughter in the male's bathroom. I'm not going out. That's just me. That's just me.
SPEAKER_02I have kids. I want one. I'm sorry, that's good to issue. I'm sorry. But it's more of the urino stance. Like the urino is the open, but yeah, we're gonna live with that. My bad, dad's that was a touchy subject.
SPEAKER_03So you wouldn't, if you had a if your child was little, like three or four years old, you gonna send her to the bathroom by herself?
SPEAKER_10Hell no. No.
SPEAKER_04I mean, I feel like you could go in the bathroom, check the bathroom.
SPEAKER_10But we're talking about my daughter?
SPEAKER_04Yeah.
SPEAKER_03If you had like a little, you know, three, four-year-old daughter, uh-huh, you sending her to the girls' bathroom by herself?
SPEAKER_10No. You gonna walk in there with her? No, I'm gonna family bathroom. I just said if it's no other bathroom, then she's going to the bushes.
SPEAKER_04I just said that bad. But you can go in, you can chat and make sure it ain't nobody in there. Uh my daughter and go into the bathroom.
SPEAKER_09I mean, luckily, I never had that situation.
SPEAKER_06I never had it, I never did that situation. Look, if you walk and make sure nobody was in there, and let his daughter go use the bathroom. I'm walking back.
SPEAKER_10I'm not going into a male into a female's bathroom because it could be just one female and just just just go off and tell that you're gonna close your eyes. I'm not setting, I'm not setting my moon me in there by herself.
SPEAKER_06I'm walking in there with her. We're going in there together.
SPEAKER_10We're gonna thug it out, girl. We're gonna we found a way.
SPEAKER_15So, yeah, no, Tyler Perry has been sued by an actor concerning sexual conduct.
SPEAKER_10God damn, this nigga say getting sued.
SPEAKER_15It's a different one. It's a different one. So he is sued by Mario, who was an actor from Why don't he was an actor from Boo, a happy uh the Madeira's Halloween movie. The uh Hispanic guy.
SPEAKER_10He was in the Boo movie?
SPEAKER_15Mm-hmm. Oh so he's suing him a 77 million civil lawsuit, which he did on Christmas, and he claimed sexual assault, sexual battery, and emotional distress by Tyler Perry for over seven years. And then he discussed how Lionsgate, the movie distributor, had allegedly ignored Tyler's behavior. But Tyler's lawyer denies the allegations and it calls it a money grab scam.
SPEAKER_10Not that not not does it not that it means anything. Is he uh straight, gay?
SPEAKER_02We gotta pause it to say bye to the girls. Okay, bye, motherfucker.
SPEAKER_06You came in with the chinchilla.
SPEAKER_01Yo, you're in that brookly, Philly.
SPEAKER_10Well, Philly, we're gonna say Philly. You can't claim, you can't claim Jersey. You say Philly. Not you, but yeah, yeah, yeah. She gotta claim, she gotta claim Philly.
SPEAKER_03Oh, I guess we gotta wait to talk offline.
SPEAKER_10Yes, we gotta wait. We're gonna talk offline. We're gonna talk offline.
SPEAKER_00Look at her.
SPEAKER_06That's a boss right there. She killed people.
SPEAKER_00Hey, you know, she killed people.
SPEAKER_06She killed people. She got a 380 person.
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SPEAKER_02But back back back to Tyler. It's just no way in the world I would be a millionaire making them stupid ass mistakes. I don't understand how y'all make so much money and you don't have the common sense to pay somebody for sex. Why are you sexually assaulting anybody? Because god damn, like. Are you really doing that shit though? That shit is a waste of it.
SPEAKER_10Wait, this is allegedly, allegedly, allegedly.
SPEAKER_02Allegedly, it's alleged money. I think motherfuckers are like, Wait, wait.
SPEAKER_10Did you answer the question? Was he like, was he in the LBG TQ, the guy that's accusing Tyler Perry of the STEM?
SPEAKER_15Was Mario in the LGBTQ?
SPEAKER_10The guy, yeah.
SPEAKER_15No.
SPEAKER_10He's straight?
SPEAKER_15Yeah.
SPEAKER_10Okay. Alright. I mean, because sometimes that matters, because you know, I mean, they have a sometimes they have an agenda.
SPEAKER_06Yeah. He a man.
SPEAKER_15Then he um he says Mary, not Mary, Lord. Mar Mario says Tyler Perry invited him to his home multiple times in an engaged and unwanted sexual conduct conduct, including touching his inner thigh and his dick.
SPEAKER_10So Tyler Perry was touching his dick?
SPEAKER_15No, he told him to touch his dick.
SPEAKER_10Wait, he the guy told Tyler Perry to touch his dick.
SPEAKER_02No, Tyler Perry told him to grab the nigga to touch his dick. But the nigga went to the house. Yeah, he it was a money grab. Seven years? Extortion. Seven years, and you got invited to his house.
SPEAKER_10Extortion.
SPEAKER_02And you went. Like, come on now, man.
SPEAKER_10Because Tyler Perry had a lot of sexual assault allegations against him. A lot. And none of them, none of them went through.
SPEAKER_15So and then messages surfaced online from August with Mario asking Tyler Perry for finding. Financial help due to health concerns. So I feel like he just got, you know, it's like there, you asking the nigga for bread. Right.
SPEAKER_10You ain't gonna give me the bread? Okay, nigga, you touched my dick.
SPEAKER_15Well, he gave it to him. Tyler Perry gave it to him. He gave him money a couple of things. And he gave him the money? A couple things.
SPEAKER_10Oh, he probably didn't give him enough. He's like, you didn't give me enough. Nigga, I asked for 1.1, you gave me one point zero. I want the one.
SPEAKER_15So y'all think it's money grabs? It's a money grab. Both of them know because we got two lawsuits.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, it's a money grab.
SPEAKER_15And the other one is the same thing, sexual conduct.
SPEAKER_10Listen, Tyler Perry had a lot of accusations, allegations against him who's sexual assault. None of them, none of them, none of them prevailed.
SPEAKER_15But people claim that Tyler Perry's gay.
SPEAKER_02If he is gay, it don't matter. Yeah, it don't matter if he's gay. It's the fact that y'all letting it go over years, like, and you're getting paid to work for him and you're letting it go. And then once you're no longer working with him, I'm suing you. It's a problem. That's where I draw the line because I want to be with the victims. I want to stand with the victims, but at the same time, yeah, really victims, yeah.
SPEAKER_10I would say, shout out to Tyler Perry because Tyler Perry gives a lot of actors and actresses um um yeah, they you know, opportunities, man. So, you know what I mean? Like regardless of what people say about Tyler Perry, they say his movies are all about degraded women, which I don't think it is. He just keeping the shit real, what goes on and and and with black women. And I don't got no gripes for Tyler Perry, you know what I'm saying? A lot a lot of people do, but I don't.
SPEAKER_02I ain't seen nothing in the Tyler Perry movie that I ain't seen in real life.
SPEAKER_10So I mean, some some some I guess I don't like real life shit being told.
SPEAKER_02I guess I just wish the people. Yeah, I wish the people that's out there, you know, accusing people of essay or whatever the case may be. I wish y'all would stop. Y'all really are messing up people's images. And it's always a person of color. Not always, but it's been it's been quite common that y'all are doing it against people of color. Y'all ought to be ashamed of yourself. That's all I gotta say. Because, like, what about the real victims? Now, now, what if he really is assaulting somebody and y'all out here crying wolf?
SPEAKER_10Right.
SPEAKER_02And this person can't even say anything.
SPEAKER_10Right. It just makes it real bad, like you said, for the real victims.
SPEAKER_02That's that's but that is all.
SPEAKER_12That is it.
SPEAKER_07So incredible.
SPEAKER_17Ugh, that was nasty, right?
SPEAKER_09Yeah, I like how I did that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_10Yes. Alright, so what would you do? So, if you're familiar with my what would you do's, my what would you do's are always accounts that I've been through, accounts that somebody else went through, or accounts that I saw from somebody else. So, this what would you do is an account that I saw from some. I was like, yo, that is a very deep what would you do? I'm gonna excuse this one. So what would you do? What would you do? Oh, and again, my what would you do's are always either male or female, or you can flip it in reverse. So what would you do? What would you do? You want to be a beach. You just in a place with a body of water. And uh it's just you, like you decided to go by yourself. Uh you can't swim, but you just decided to go by yourself, just have uh yourself. You wanna, you know, go out for yourself. And there's uh, you know, a family or something there with you, you know, just casually just chilling in the water swimming, or whatever the case may be. Or just somebody in the in the water swimming. And there's a little girl, they got the family, you know, they got a girl, boy, however you want to put it, you know, mother, father, whatever. And you know, they just in the water, you're chilling and having a good time. So what you do? You chillin', Marjorie, you can't swim. And then the woman doesn't detail. And you know, the family chilling, and the kid starts drowning. And the parents get out because the parents can't swim. And the kids start drowning and they come into you for help. Stop right there. What would you do in that particular situation? Let's get a mic on. I'm gonna hear everybody's opinion. We're gonna start with us first.
SPEAKER_02You can go first. What would you do, Jazz? Um I think my mother instinct would kick in for sure, and I think I would try to help. But I don't know how much I'm gonna be able to help because if you had enough time to get out of the water and leave your child, and I gotta swim in there and try to get your child. I'm not sure how it's gonna be. Right, we'll be instinct. I'm gonna try.
SPEAKER_15So wait, we saving someone else, child? Yes. Yeah. Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_10What would you do?
SPEAKER_15I don't know about that. I'm gonna try. Only because I can't swim.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_15You know? I'll try to throw something in a pool, but like, here, grab it, grab it. Yeah, but like I'm gonna I'm gonna drown with you, and then you're gonna be all you know trying to get on me, and I'm like, I'm going down with you. We're going down together. That's true.
SPEAKER_02So I don't I don't know about that one.
SPEAKER_10So two dead bodies instead of one.
SPEAKER_02I mean, that's what you're doing. You I mean okay. Now, if we think about it, like really think about it. Have you ever tried to like swim next to somebody when they try to drown? Like when they baby, they're pulling you down. If I can't swim and you can't swim and you're panicking and pulling me down, we definitely both going down. So I agree. I might try to throw something in there. But but fuck that kid. Because at the end of the day, why the hell is y'all in the pool and none of y'all can swim?
SPEAKER_13Not one of y'all. Why are y'all in the pool and none of y'all can swim?
SPEAKER_02Can we just talk about that for a second? Who goes on vacation and gets in the pool if you can't swim? Like, ain't no brain cells. The whole line need to be gone. Clear the whole line off because all y'all stupid as hell for getting in the pool knowing you can't swim. I could swim.
SPEAKER_10Cut it on, cut it on, diamond. Is it on?
unknownIt's all now.
SPEAKER_10There you go, Diamond. It's on.
unknownIt's on now. It's on now.
SPEAKER_10Nope, it ain't on.
SPEAKER_02It ain't on. Is the blue light on? No. No. The blue light ain't on now. Oh lord. It's on now.
SPEAKER_10It's on now.
SPEAKER_14We was just wanting to know if it was in a pool or the ocean or it's just just a body of water.
SPEAKER_10Just usually. No, that matters. That matters. It matters. Eat it in the ocean.
SPEAKER_05Hell no. Definitely not.
SPEAKER_13That's a lesson for the mother at that point.
SPEAKER_14Nah.
SPEAKER_18Hell no. Where your mother at? I'm like, where your mother at? Hell no. Hell no.
SPEAKER_09They done in the ocean. They done in the ocean. They're not gonna try to help you. No, bro.
SPEAKER_10Where go around, let's go around.
SPEAKER_12You saving anybody?
SPEAKER_10Am I saving anybody? I'm gonna keep it above with y'all. I can swim, so I'm gonna say the kid.
SPEAKER_12You can't swim anybody.
SPEAKER_10Listen, listen, listen. But I got I'm gonna give y'all both of them, right? Okay. I can swim, so I'm gonna say the kid, but when I get out, I'm calling DSS. Why your kid in the water? What are you doing? That's stupid. What do you what are you what's wrong with you? If I couldn't swim, I mean it's only one thing you can do. Go get somebody else. You there's nobody else. You are the you are the only hope. Shit, I'm gone. I don't even want to see what's going on. I'm gonna keep it a book. I'm gone. I gotta uh unfortunately I gotta leave. I don't want to see a kid die. You know what that's fucked up. That's traumatizing. But I'm calling DSS. Why do I got no wet? The mysterious blue. I'm worried about that.
SPEAKER_15That's kind of keeping the biggest.
unknownI'm with everybody.
SPEAKER_18I want the mask. I want the mask. So whatever they said, whatever they do. She said, I want everybody else.
SPEAKER_05I want everybody else.
SPEAKER_02We're gonna let him say what the fuck she said. We're gonna let him drown.
unknownWhat they say?
SPEAKER_10You won't let the kid drown.
SPEAKER_02I'm sorry, little Timmy.
SPEAKER_10They'd be gone.
SPEAKER_17Okay, so from for me, I can swim. But my thing is also as an ex-swim coach, after the kid is, you know, back to safety and all, we're gonna have a talk. Because why the fuck are y'all going to a vacation? As far, listen, I'm telling you, I could swim, my love. Okay, you're gonna do it. But at the same time, when it comes to the parents, why are y'all going on a vacation where it's water around and you can't swim yourself? And it's, you know, just things that's gonna happen. You never know.
SPEAKER_02That's some stupid ass.
SPEAKER_10So what if you what are you gonna do if you can't swim? You gave it a swimming answer. Now my man gave both answers. What you gonna do? Oh, in the scenario that I can't swim. Yeah, you can't fucking swim.
SPEAKER_17You only want and they came to you for help. Help me, my daughter, my son drowned. Help me. I don't know. I'ma still try, but if it's if that baby floats too far out, I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_18I don't know. Damn. No, don't try to skip it. I'm good.
SPEAKER_09You good? You gonna let the baby the kid drown?
SPEAKER_18Um honestly, I probably wouldn't even have no I probably wouldn't even have kids, so I wouldn't be in that situation. No, someone else wouldn't. No, no, no.
SPEAKER_09You in this situation, my bad. You are in this situation. You the motherfucker that came to see.
SPEAKER_18If it's somebody else and I can't drown, I mean I can't swim, then I don't know. No floaties, like no no, no, no floaties. You they can't. I can do my best. I mean, that's all you can do. If they gone, then hey I something. That's it. Or you coach them, you know. You could do that too.
SPEAKER_10I'm gonna tell you why that's commendable. Everybody can sad at the same time. Anyone else?
SPEAKER_02Everybody can float. Sad at the same time.
SPEAKER_10Anybody else? What would you do, Kate? What'd you do? You can't swim, they came to you to help. What you gonna do? If it ain't no stick, I'm walking away. You have the kid die. I can't swim. What the fuck are we both dying for? Okay.
SPEAKER_01Anybody else? Seven, what you gonna do, seven?
SPEAKER_08You say the parent come to you for help. Yep, yes, absolutely. I'm pushing the parent in the water.
SPEAKER_12See, I don't know why I didn't. You're gonna say that kid today. You get feeling like that.
SPEAKER_06What's down that sign like? Like, I'll get your track. What type of sign is that parent? What parent? The parent, what's their sign? What what you what I ain't gonna do.
SPEAKER_08What sign is that? You don't wanna know. What sign? I wanna know. I wanna know. Because I know you know.
SPEAKER_02That Scorpio.
SPEAKER_08Yeah, yes.
SPEAKER_10Alright, so the story, I was like, you know, it's commendable and sad at the same time when Lexi said she's just gonna just go out.
SPEAKER_16Welcome kids.
SPEAKER_10So that's what the person did. The person said, I'm gonna go out.
unknownWhat are you gonna do?
SPEAKER_07Oh you didn't she already said the thing.
unknownWhat?
SPEAKER_07Same out. I'll try and help the kid. Try what? I'm talking. I'll try and help the kid. And if I can't swim, then what? I mean, bye. You don't let the kid die. It's not for it's not even my kid. You left your kid. I'm not gonna give it a kid. So you ain't even give a fuck. Okay.
SPEAKER_10So I mean, yeah, I do love kids, you know, but I mean then what if you you say that, like what if you got a kid and you was in a reverse situation, you would want somebody to help you, your kid, if they were.
SPEAKER_07But I wouldn't leave my kid. I'm not gonna leave my kid, and then I die with my kid.
SPEAKER_10Everybody say the shit, and then easy said than done, right?
SPEAKER_06I just want everybody to know everybody that let that kid die, y'all murderous, and y'all go into jail.
SPEAKER_17His parents are murderers. For sure.
SPEAKER_10Okay, so that's what happened. Everybody, all witnesses, when I say it was commendable and sad to say and sad at the same time. It was commendable because the person said, All right, fuck it. I'm gonna go out there. I'm gonna try to save the kid. I can't swim. Maybe I could just use my body, my legs, whatever, and you know, help out.
SPEAKER_01She said, Yeah, you can float.
SPEAKER_10But the person died saving the kid.
SPEAKER_02Oh, the kid lived! The kid lived. Oh, my family's doing y'all. And the person said to try to save the kid died. Why you want to just take these turns? That is a my family suit.
SPEAKER_07I could not believe he lost his life.
SPEAKER_06Saving some I don't know. He's gonna take the heaven. He got off. So that's like that. Good answer to push the parents in there.
SPEAKER_01Put the parents in the donkey chat. Yeah, that's an example. He should be a good thing.
SPEAKER_10Uh-huh. But yeah, that's what happened. I read that, I was like, damn, that was that was a sad story. It was a commendable story, but it was also a sad story because I'm like, that's a crazy one would you do because you know how everybody would say what they would they will say. They're gonna say what they're gonna say if they're not in that situation, but they actually put in that situation, it's gonna be totally different from what they said. Like you could say, yeah, I ain't gonna help, but it'd be a totally different situation if you actually in that situation and somebody came in, you was like, yo, help my kid. You probably got kids. I fuck, I'm gonna try. I'm like, I can't swim. Maybe I could just, maybe I'm tall enough to, you know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02And yeah, so I hate to say it, but that's what you get. You out here trying to save other people's kids and you can't swim. Like, where are your survival instincts at?
SPEAKER_10So the person died, unfortunately.
SPEAKER_02RIP, but like, huh, sue them, sue them people, suit themselves. That's my road.
SPEAKER_10What would you do if you're in that situation and you can't swim and you had to go out in the water because the parents said, yo, help me. Kid is drowning. What you gonna do?
SPEAKER_02Hell no, he left, he lost his life for no reason. Was he black? Well, not no reason, but you know, so what nationality difference is it? He lost his life for no reason. They were Mexican. They were Mexicans.
SPEAKER_10No, I don't know. I don't know.
SPEAKER_02Oh, okay. I'm like, Yeah, hell.
SPEAKER_10Now you know Mexicans will find a way. Get the wood, papi, papi, and make a boat right there and there.
SPEAKER_02A towel or something like they didn't even know.
SPEAKER_10Mexicans is resilient as fuck.
SPEAKER_02It's the fact that they got out of the pool to get somebody else.
SPEAKER_10Well, we we decided it was an ocean.
SPEAKER_02Even worse.
SPEAKER_10What's next?
SPEAKER_02We all need to put a different one.
unknownOh, I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_02Quiet on the set. Quiet.
SPEAKER_10I don't know what's happening.
SPEAKER_02Hi, everybody. It's Lex Rated. And this week is the first week of the month, right? Yeah.
SPEAKER_11Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Sort of kind of. The first day, not even the week, the first day of the month. Yeah, I was about to say, I I feel like I'm a little off when I say the first week. Um first day of the year.
SPEAKER_10That's crazy. I mean, it could be too crazy. It is, you know, technically both of them. It's both of them.
SPEAKER_02Right, right. So in January, in January, we're talking about intimacy, but not romance. We're gonna be or sex, to be honest. Uh, but the kind of closeness that actually scares people, the kind that acts like you want to be seen, understood, and emotionally present. Because I asked my Instagram followers what they wanted to talk about, and 12 people voted for intimacy, vulnerability, and fear. Sex. Sex. Well, she said intimacy. She said not sex. Intimacy.
SPEAKER_06Intimacy, body to body, skate to skate. No, no, no. But it's not sex.
SPEAKER_02Sit back, Freen. I got you. I got you. I got you. So we're breaking down vulnerability today. We're gonna be exploring why it's safe and where the fear originates and how it manifests in real life. Like relationships and everyday interactions as well. So this month isn't about fixing yourself, it's about understanding why closeness can feel comforting and terrifying at the same time. Last month we were talking about hive minds. And it was a lot of hive minds today in this episode. I was one of them. Yep, you definitely was, you definitely was all 36. Oh, how many people signed that goddamn petition? Hive minds. Because y'all know it ain't gonna do shit. So let's get started. Did you know? Did you know that intimacy isn't one thing and fear of it doesn't always look like avoidance?
SPEAKER_10Oh fear of it doesn't always look like avoidance.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. So sometimes fear of intimacy? Yeah. It's not avoidance. Sometimes it looks like independence, it looks like humor, oversharing, and sometimes it's being low maintenance. You know the difference between being high maintenance and low maintenance?
SPEAKER_10Uh pretty much in layman's terms.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah, yeah. In layman's terms.
SPEAKER_10Either bougie or not bougie.
SPEAKER_02Okay, I can deal with that. So this segment is just facts, it's observations, and and I'm gonna have some open conversations with y'all about intimacy, but it's gonna be more so did you know instead of triggered.
SPEAKER_11Okay.
SPEAKER_02Okay. So, first one, did you know that intimacy is not romantic or sexual? It's not. I didn't know that. It's not romantic? I was not romantic. It's not it's not romantic or sexual. It's not? No. I'ma live, I'ma live, nope.
SPEAKER_06And what in what culture?
SPEAKER_02It's not about culture. So that's what I'm saying. Okay, yeah, you gotta break this down. There's four types of intimacy. You got emotional intimacy, intellectual intimacy, intimacy, yep. Experiential or experience, and uh psychological.
SPEAKER_10Wait, so you mean in so you mean to tell me as you stated those four things, intimacy does not deal with romance or sexual since when? Wait, hold on. It's not just fucking blew my mind with this one.
SPEAKER_02It's not. So most people crave intimacy but don't know which type they're missing. So fear shows up when we don't have language for our needs. So, question to get you guys to think about it a little bit more. How many people say they want intimacy, but only mean consistency and attention?
SPEAKER_10Only what?
SPEAKER_02Only mean consistency and attention. Consistency meaning that the person is talking to you often and attention, of course. Same thing, where it's it's I mean, I ain't gonna hold you.
SPEAKER_10This is new to me. So when I'm thinking, like, say, say somebody, my partner, say, yeah, I want to get intimate with you. I'm thinking sexual. Yeah, yeah. I'm not thinking nothing you just fucking say. Absolutely not.
SPEAKER_02That is definitely that's the problem.
SPEAKER_10That is the problem.
SPEAKER_02That's not a problem. Definitely. I mean, it's not a problem, but if you got if to truly understand intimacy, you gotta understand it from the Okay, wait, before you go.
SPEAKER_10Somebody pull up the definition of intimacy.
SPEAKER_02Look it up.
SPEAKER_06Because it's not a word that you use a lot in a sentence in real time, but it's a word you know. What does herbacy mean? Somebody, somebody, quick.
SPEAKER_02Intimacy means close familiarity or friendship, closeness, the intimacy between a husband and wife. A private, cozy atmosphere. The room had a peaceful sense of intimacy about it. An intimate act, especially sexual intercourse.
SPEAKER_13Fuck! Here you go. Wait, let me know. But that's just not like the true microphone. Okay, read your definition of what you got, Diamond.
SPEAKER_02Give a microphone right at the top at first. Give it a microphone. Give it a mic. Give it a mic. Oxford, motherfucker, Oxford.
SPEAKER_10It's on.
SPEAKER_02I use Google, but it's it's from Oxford dictionary. Okay.
SPEAKER_14It says intimacy is a deep sense of closeness and connection going beyond just physical touch to include sharing emotions, ideas, and experiences, making you feel truly seen, accepted, and understood by another person, fostering trust and authentic bonds. Thank you, friend. Through vul vulnerability, empathy, and mutual support in various forms, like emotional, physical, cognitive, and spiritual closeness. Yeah. Well, thank you, y'all.
SPEAKER_11Physical was in there.
SPEAKER_02Type definition. You supposed to put what the meaning is. Yeah, you don't have to you don't have to be sexual. I know, but yeah, I was testimony. You ain't gotta be sex with me.
SPEAKER_10Yo, this is great. This is new to fucking me.
SPEAKER_02So earlier, I mentioned handshake intimate. So early, earlier I mentioned consistency and attention when it comes to intimacy. Like if you act you say you want more intimacy, but that's what you really mean. You want consistency and you want attention. So access is an intimacy. So being seen online versus being known, like it's not the same thing. Oversharing, vulnerability, attention, connection, these are things that involve access. People being able to see you, be a part of you, and be in your presence, that's not intimacy. So people who post everything but avoid hard converse conversations, that's not intimacy. Because intimacy is getting to know that person on a broader spectrum, like getting to know that person deeply and everything about them in a sense. So couples who text all day but never emotionally check in, that's not intimacy.
SPEAKER_10That's not intimacy. No, absolutely not. Not at all.
SPEAKER_02So a childhood reference. Kids are rewarded for being entertaining and agreeable. Also, love is tied to performance, not presence. So what I mean by that is when you get when you have that parent that isn't necessarily an in-home parent and they come and pick you up, that's where you feel the most love. Right? When they come and they come in and get you for that special moment, you know, those weekend visits, that's where you feel love. But it it's more so about the presence of the person and the person's relationship with you on a one-on-one level. I'm gonna move on because we're gonna talk about fear and what fear looks like when it when we're talking about intimacy. Fear often looks like strength. And this is the problem that I have. So I say a lot, I don't need anyone. That's a trauma response.
SPEAKER_10I'm traumatized then.
SPEAKER_02When you say you don't need anyone, it's nine times out of ten, it's because you've depended on someone for something in the past and they let you down.
SPEAKER_10Yep.
SPEAKER_02See that it's a trauma response. So hyper-independence is also the same thing as self-protection. So most women are hyper-independent right now. And a lot of us are living in survival mode, but it's because we ain't had no other choice.
SPEAKER_11Okay?
SPEAKER_02So fear of intimacy often hides behind humor, being low maintenance and emotional, emotionally detached, like I said earlier, right? That should touch her soul back then. Right. That should touch her soul. She's like, oh. I'm gonna do the same thing that I did last time. I'm gonna give some real life examples and childhood examples. So, real life example is pulling away when someone gets emotionally close. Um, having a conversation with somebody and they ask the wrong question to where you might have to indulge a little bit more information about yourself. Normal people pull away from that. There's some of us that would be like, okay, I'll tell you everything. But normal people don't. Right? Avoiding labels or emotional conversations. Um, my little yeah, yeah. Where that comes from?
SPEAKER_10My little yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Not wanting intimacy. They don't want labels anymore. You're not gonna say that's my girlfriend, that's my partner. That's my little yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_06Oh, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02There's no type of intimacy. That's no attachment at all.
SPEAKER_06That's like there's no attachment. This is a girlfriend.
SPEAKER_02I'm not I'm not I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it. I'm saying that that's where fear comes into play when it comes into intimacy. So when you say you don't want to put a title on it for a reason.
SPEAKER_10Oh, okay. So when when when the when when the statement is made, fear.
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_10Right, what's the fear about it?
SPEAKER_02The fear of putting a title on something? Yeah. In my personal perspective, if you call somebody your girlfriend and then this person is sleeping around or having sex with other people, you've already put that title on her. And same thing with men, you already put that title on them. So if you hear from somebody else in the street, oh, X, Y, and Z, that can't be your girl. They can't be yours. Because I just saw what X, Y, and Z the other day. That's where the fear comes in. That's why people don't like putting titles on people. Because there's a fear that if you give them that level of intimacy. But yeah, yeah, it's a title. It's not. It's made up. What is it? You ain't saying my shorty. It's two words put together. My lady, you, my, you, my yeah, yeah. It's like blank. It's like you are blank blank.
SPEAKER_10But we're saying if somebody said it's my yeah, yeah, that's not a form of intimacy. I I wouldn't consider it a form of intimacy. It can only be one year. But what if that's their form of intimacy? Or maybe, or what if that's their love language?
SPEAKER_02You never hear a nigga say that ain't a love language.
SPEAKER_10I got yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02No, no. To him, to him, it's his love language.
SPEAKER_06Is a is a is is intimate. I don't think so, friend. You don't hear niggas say you hear niggas say I got hoes, I got bitches. I got girlfriends.
SPEAKER_02It's my hoe. I don't have yeah. I mean, yeah, yeah, it's like your hoe, but the the focus, the focus isn't on the word. It's the fact that you don't want to give them a title. The title is But is the year yeah, it's a title?
SPEAKER_10Yeah, is that just in the title?
SPEAKER_02It's not a title. It's not even on urban dictionary, friend. That's why you be in situation. Disagree. Because it ain't an urban dictionary. It ain't a thing. Is hubby in an urban dictionary? Yes, hubby is an urban dictionary.
SPEAKER_06It is?
SPEAKER_02It's a fucked up title, ain't it?
SPEAKER_00That's a fucked up title. Yeah, yeah. Like, just uh saying my real name, you know what I'm saying? Me saying that's my yeah is letting me real know that this person is still available.
SPEAKER_06It's not yeah, it's yeah, yeah. One year is available. That's not even a two years because that's just my problem. It's not even a two years, I'm a married nigga.
SPEAKER_10One year, see how but see, but but I know before you go again, but see to some people, to his language that is cool. To others, it's like uh huh.
SPEAKER_08It's still fear regardless of what you say. Because if I come up and be like, yeah, that's my only thing. You need a mic. You're saying some shit. Yeah, I don't want you to know. That's why we do these fucked up ass items.
unknownWe don't really want people to know that.
SPEAKER_06Seven oh's popping the seven. Seven oh talking some real shit.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, you always be in tune. Yeah. And so, do you got anything else, seven, you want to add to it? To to shut switch up. Everybody at home.
SPEAKER_06You feel me? Everybody didn't hear you, but he was speaking some real shit.
SPEAKER_08It's fear regardless of how you it's it's a cover-up. No matter how you, if you don't walk up and say this, you feel me? Because even if that's not my girl and I respect her enough to say her name around people, you get what I'm saying? If if she walks up and walk away and you be like, oh, who that? And I be like, oh that's just my little yeah. Like, I don't want you to know about her. Like, I want you to know about seven, yeah, yeah. If she if she that serious, I'ma say her name. Wait, is it a fear of but if she ain't that serious, I uh and I don't want you to know yet, because I don't know yet. I'm gonna be like, oh, that's my little yeah. Next week, next, next week, my little yeah might be another girl.
SPEAKER_06Yeah.
SPEAKER_12That too. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, exactly. That's my no no no.
SPEAKER_02That you said might be my no next day. No, no, no.
SPEAKER_10I gotta give you a dig. That was a good one. I can dig it. That was a good one. I can dig it.
SPEAKER_06I can dig it.
SPEAKER_02So earlier when I brought up uh I don't need anyone, I'm trying to lead into the childhood, how fear is established in childhood. Learning not to rely on adults, I gave that example. But also being the easy or the strong child. Um, this also comes from a lot of children who are the eldest child. I am the eldest child. I've had to do a lot that I didn't think a child should have to do. And I've had to do a lot as an adult that I felt like I wasn't ready to do, but I had to be strong, I had to be that one to step up. So that's something that was established in my childhood. I don't even know how not to be the strong child because I've always been that.
SPEAKER_10Right.
SPEAKER_02So that's where fear comes from. Those two things in childhood that I'm in general. I mean, so you always indulge, and I love it. I love it. So vulnerability and what it feels like. So vulnerability reacts before the mind understands. So the body, the body reacts before the mind understands. Vulnerability activates the nervous system. Fear of rejection feels like danger. It's the same type of neurons being activated in the flight or fight when you get put in that moment to where you're like, okay, do I react to this or not? Uh the brain prioritizes safety over connection. So the brain prioritizes you saying secluded into yourself versus connecting with the people that's around you. Which is very odd because when we were talking about Hogmans, I spoke about how humans are naturally like communal people. So if we're naturally communal people, why is there no intimacy? So real life.
SPEAKER_10Stranger danger.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, but you I mean it doesn't have to be with strangers. It doesn't have to be with strangers, it doesn't have to be with strangers. It can be you can be intimate with the people that are in your close circle.
SPEAKER_10And and it could be as simple as this is new, this is new information to me. So I just can't be intimate with every fucking body. I can just like I'm thinking my intimacy is the way I perceive it, is different from the way that you're letting me know now. This is the information that I'm receiving.
SPEAKER_02I'm I'm grateful though, because a lot of people think intimacy is just the physical contact. And that's why all these relationships lack intimacy. That's why a lot of these relationships probably aren't lasting or they don't go too far because there is no intimacy. You don't truly know who you're with.
SPEAKER_11Right.
SPEAKER_02So um, so real life examples of what I just mentioned, what vulnerability feels like like a risk. Uh is ghosting instead of explaining your feelings. I am a huge victim of this. I always go, well, I I ghost people all the time. And it's not intentional. It's just sometimes I don't feel like talking about certain things. So rather than have a conversation with you and explain why I'm ghosting you, I rather just avoid that conversation.
SPEAKER_10I'm the same way as well.
SPEAKER_02It also is shutting down during emotional moments. I do this a lot. If I'm going through something, I don't want to be on social media, I don't want to talk to anybody. My phone will go on do not disturb. I will uh completely seclude myself from everybody around me.
SPEAKER_16And it's not healthy.
SPEAKER_02How is that not healthy? It's not healthy because that's very healthy. Remember a conversation we had about um seasonal depression and how it's not good to to be by yourself. You're supposed to be out and embrace people so that you can. Yeah, you gotta, you got, you gotta, you gotta get out of that hermit crab mode where you wanna remove yourself from people because people are gonna be the same thing that's giving you those releases of stress. Now they can be stressful as well, but nine times out of ten, if you're around the right people and you choose wisely, they're gonna be your piece. So child, childhood link or whatever, emotions dismissed or minimized. Um really big one for a lot of people because a lot of us was told to stay in a child's place where how you felt about a situation, you weren't able to speak on it. Um opinion or perspective on something, you weren't able to vocalize it. And this one is a big one that I see a lot nowadays crying being met with punishment or silence. Where you're crying about something and they send you to your room. You're crying about something and be like, shut up all that crying.
SPEAKER_11Shut up all that crying.
SPEAKER_02Got it to the point where you got grown men that don't like to cry. Or feel like if they do cry, it means that they're weak.
SPEAKER_10Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02And tears, if anything else, is the biggest relief for stress. It is, it's the biggest relief for trust.
SPEAKER_10But for niggas, it's like, yo, nah, ain't nah, fuck that nigga. I'm tough. Like, I ain't doing that. I cry in the car or some shit. When I come back out, I'm like, ah, you was you crying?
SPEAKER_12Nah, nigga, I'm good. You know what I mean? I'm good. I I'm I'm a cry baby.
SPEAKER_02I cry about everything. And I don't always have to cry in front of people, but I cry about everything.
SPEAKER_10Let me ask the man, do y'all cry level? Y'all cry in front of people?
SPEAKER_02That's a well, yeah.
SPEAKER_10When the last time you cried last time you cried at a funeral. You said that in the thing. Seven, you cry like you will cry in front of people, like if you had an emotional uh moment, you will cry in front of people. Huh? Yep. You would? Yep. When you cry in front of like people, like say right now, situation you fucked up. He said, I don't cry. You don't cry? We ain't got no more tears, man.
SPEAKER_06Real niggas ain't got no more tears, man. Wait, my dad, what do we do? Like when I'm sad as fuck, and I wanna cry. Yeah, give a mic, give a mic. I be going like this because I want to cry. But it won't come out.
SPEAKER_10Oh, there you go. Let me ask y'all a real question. Uh-huh. A real question. Go ahead. Do y'all feel like uh I don't feel like females should be able to speak on this situation because it's it's only what y'all think. We we we as men have been built this way.
SPEAKER_02That's the problem.
SPEAKER_10This is this is why is that a problem? Is this a problem for y'all? Is it a problem for y'all? That's what I'm asking.
SPEAKER_02It's a problem for humans in general.
SPEAKER_10I don't feel like it's a problem for me though.
SPEAKER_02So how do you how do you release your emotions?
SPEAKER_10No, I'm not saying that I'm tough. I'm not I'm not a tough guy. I'm not that's not the thing. We are built to be strong. We we are built we are built to take on the issues you guys don't take on every day. But that don't mean that's you're right. I'm not saying that you can't. I'm not saying that you can't. I didn't say that. I didn't say that we can't cry. I said that we're built this way.
SPEAKER_06We gotta we're gonna take on stuff.
SPEAKER_10Y'all, y'all are built soft, you know what I'm saying? From the jump, regardless of what you're saying. Your daddy didn't just whoop your ass because you was crying. Your daddy, oh baby, we was built different. Why is that a problem though? You know what I'm saying? Because it's like you're making it a problem. To me, I don't feel like it's a problem. I don't have nothing to cry for. Get up and go get it done. Let's go get it. You what we I don't, that's why we we figure things out. We don't sit around and cry and we trying to figure it out. We're trying to make a solution. So why is it a problem? It's like you're saying it like it's a problem because we don't cry. Men just that's how we built.
SPEAKER_02No, no, no.
SPEAKER_13Somebody getting hit by a car. Which I'm gonna cry.
SPEAKER_10Which I'm gonna cry. I never said I wasn't gonna cry. I never said I'm just saying we're built that way. That's why I don't feel like females should speak on this situation because y'all don't go through what we go through. You know what I'm saying? And ain't no reason for me to cry for the same things you cry for. Just like we can't stand for menopause. Now listen, no, no, no, no, no. Now let me tell y'all, now let me tell y'all something else. Now, and I ain't gonna lie for the fuck y'all up, right? As soon as that man cry and you get mad at me, he's nasty. I don't want the mic no more.
SPEAKER_15That's only the woman.
SPEAKER_09I'm lying. Okay, let me bring it back. Let me bring it back. Because that's hypocritical.
SPEAKER_10You three might not do that, but a lot of a lot of women do. Correct, that's hypocritical. That's hypocritical, so let me take that back. Let me take that back. But a lot of women do that, correct? But you know a lot of women that do that.
SPEAKER_02I do know people that do that.
SPEAKER_10Men that do things that that that's classified as a thing that women do is now being classified as sassy. We're now being put in a category that would that never should have been there. But that's what I'm saying. And I blame social media for that. Social media. And they go back to a lot of y'all quizzes, but I'm gonna get off the mic. Now you good, bro.
SPEAKER_02People, people, a lot of people lack emotional intelligence, and we can't help that our parents and their parents and their parents weren't taught about emotional intelligence. You gotta take, you gotta, you gotta understand the situation that you're in. If you come from a generation of men or a generation of women that put the women in the nurturing category and they put the men in the strong category, and and nobody said at no point in time it doesn't matter which category you're in, we're all just human, of course your mind is gonna think like that. Because you feel like your role as a man is to be strong. But it's not. You can be strong and you could still be vulnerable. You like holding holding that emotion in, not being able to process your emotion, feeling like instead of sitting back into your thoughts and thinking about it and reacting to it, you just gotta get up and go is unhealthy. And that's not coming from a female. Fuck what is between my legs. That's coming from a person that understands the human mind and the psyche. Just getting up and go is only gonna last for so long. Eventually, something is going to hit you, and you're not gonna be able to go. And so then what happens? You either take it out on yourself or you take it out on somebody around you. You know the male suicide rate is twice as high as the female suicide rate. And I wonder why. It's probably because y'all not fucking crying. Y'all cry in the shower. Let it out. Let it out. Let it out.
SPEAKER_06At the end of the day, you really think it's that's why I think it's that.
SPEAKER_02I I I think I think men, just like you just said, have been raised to feel like they need to be strong.
SPEAKER_01Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_02And because they've been raised to feel like they need to be strong, crying and having an emotional response to something makes them feel weak. I think that is reinforced by women. I agree with you, by women who are also raised the same way and told that a man needs to be strong. Here is what I am challenging you guys on, and why I'm talking about in the first place. Stop that shit. It's toxic as fuck. Don't raise your children to think the same way that you think and pass that shit on to their child because then you're gonna have a whole fucking world of angry motherfuckers with mental health issues that they don't want to address because they feel like it makes them weak. And it does not.
SPEAKER_10And that shit just hit my heart.
SPEAKER_13That shit was so great. That shit hit my heart.
SPEAKER_06Nah, nah, that shit hit my heart because my male suicide rate is up. It is because of females. No, you know why? Because females are driving them crazy. The only time a nigga really, the only time a nigga really come out of the city. The only time a nigga really come out is when he loses his bitch and he's trying to get his bitch back. No. Hold up, hold up. Hold up, hold on. I'm gonna say this, I'm gonna say this, right? Hold on.
SPEAKER_10To that point, hold up, hold up, hold up. I'm gonna say this. Like my mom's, like she grew, she uh single mother, you know, my steppop, she was around, not around. But she was always like, she played both male figures between me and my brother. She always says, You better not crying, stop that crying, stop that crying. So I'm hearing this from my mom's, my father was there, stop the crying, stop the crying. So that grew in me. So now, nigga, I ain't crying. Cause I'm just hearing my voice back. Stop that crying, back that crying.
unknownNigga, I ain't crying, nigga.
SPEAKER_10Nigga, hold that shit in. You know what I mean? So that it I I it comes from the upbringing. If you from a household that's emotionally and y'all just all cry at the table and shit like that, that's cool. That's cool. But there's some households where the mother that's playing both roles and she's raising sons, she gotta teach her sons not to be pussies. Like, yo, it's the real world. Like, fuck that crying shit. Get the fuck up. Like, I mean, one time this I was telling the story, like this fat nigga done beat me up. I was a kid, I ran to his prime, my face fucked up.
SPEAKER_06Okay, man.
SPEAKER_10I'm right there, whoop his ass.
SPEAKER_06Some people, some people not emotional. Some people just they're just not emotional.
SPEAKER_10I think everybody's emotional. I mean, but some people just like everybody has to get away.
SPEAKER_06You feel me? And then two, like you said, like when you like the oldest sibling or whatever, yeah. Or even if you're not the oldest sibling, you just the sibling that just is the most calm and most got headstrong, you gotta be stronger for your other people. So you can't show no weakness around them if you're not. It's the upbringing, man. It's the right thing.
SPEAKER_02But I I gotta get y'all out of the mindset that crying and being vulnerable is weakness.
SPEAKER_06It's not weakness, but it's just like it's not weakness, it's the upbringing. If five people Around you crying, and it's one person that's not, and they just like, Come on, you good, you good. You people need that. People need to look to someone to have hope for sometimes.
SPEAKER_02Well, who's gonna be that person for you if you're being that person for everybody else? Yes, man.
SPEAKER_10You gotta raise your hand. You raise his hand, you gotta order this man raising the hand. Yes, sir. Yes, all right. So listen, I'm gonna say it again, right? Because I want y'all to understand this. It's not us taking it as a weakness. Some of us deal with those type of issues different. So let me explain to you. Like me, if I got an issue or something, I had a bad day, I go play the game. It's not a thing that I need to cry over, it's not an issue. You know what I'm saying? A lot of us deal with it differently. I don't feel like I should be crying. That's just me. What am I crying for? Everything can be figured out. Everything can be figured out. You feel what I'm saying? Everything. Yeah, it is. I never said it wasn't. What I'm saying is being brought as a weakness thing, and everybody's not thinking like that. I I don't think about crying. I'm just putting it like that. I'm not no tough guy. I'm not, you feel me? When I have a bad day or something going on, I go get on the game with the guys. I'm not sitting around in my emotions, stuck in my emotions, worried about how to feel better. I'm gonna go get on the game in about three hours, shit, whatever happened, happen. It is what it is. It's not a thing for me to cry for. I done cried before. Let's get that, let's get that in there.
SPEAKER_06Yeah, like now when I do it.
SPEAKER_10But it took for like what you said, like one of my people to die, something like that. You're saying maybe I'm not an emotional guy, you know.
SPEAKER_06I cry now, it's it's when like I'm going through something shit, and I don't be I just be in my mode, I don't be talking to nobody about it, but then somebody will see me going through some shit and they'll like just be like, yo, you good? Like, what's up? Like, uh that's when they telling you and they just Yeah, that shit make you emotional. Be like, damn.
SPEAKER_08But I think it's a big difference between pain and vulnerable crime. Like when you when you like every day on some wine and shit, you get what I'm saying? Like, that ain't the open crime I'm talking about. You get what I'm saying? Because I like when he said, like, you gotta have a reason. You feel me? So, like the type of individual he just explained, if that was my brother, and y'all pushed him to the point to where he cried, somebody finna die. You feel me? Like, pain crying, because I'm I I swear to God, if man, anytime I cried, y'all better move. Real talk, man. It ain't it ain't even like pain and and and the vulnerable shit. It it gotta be that. I think that's the drinking point. No, it's two different, it needs to be separated. Cause it's it's a people it's a weak man out there that is on some whiny, uh you get what I'm saying? It's a nigga that didn't push too much. You get what I'm saying? He didn't he did not cry.
unknownRight.
SPEAKER_08You know what I'm saying? And then that's what I'm saying. Like, if that was my bro and and built like that, like, and he cried, like, we finna go.
SPEAKER_10It's it's on.
SPEAKER_08And it cannot be some street.
SPEAKER_10That's like some shit like, oh, this nigga crying.
SPEAKER_08This nigga crying? Oh, yeah, it's on. Exactly. You know what I'm saying? So like it just needs to be a good thing. I'm finna cry now, nigga.
SPEAKER_16You feel better.
SPEAKER_02You feel better. I mean, at the end of the day, I hear I hear everybody's perspectives and I agree with everybody. But I think the main thing that I want people to understand from this topic and talking about crying is generational trauma. Because it had to start somewhere. Somebody had to instill that thought into your brain in order for you to feel that way. Because as a human, we're all built the same. Even though people say, I'm not built like you. Okay, cool. We went through different experiences that made you different. But when we all come out of that vagina, we're all built the same. Unless you got like a missing chromosome or something, then you know, you know, all those details. But like generational trauma is a huge thing. So if you don't believe in something, you don't agree with something, do your research. I'm right. Look it up, look up the suicide rate. Challenge yourself to find why it feels better or why it would be better to cry. Ain't nobody telling you to cry all the time. Ain't nobody telling you to walk around being emotional. What I am telling you is allow yourself to be emotional when you need to be. Before you go out here and run into traffic and explode on somebody or have a road rage moment where everything's piled up, and your reaction, instead of it being vulnerability and crying, is anger.
SPEAKER_10Yeah. Yeah, anger cries, yeah.
SPEAKER_02So just to bring you back into the topic, society rewards avo avoidance. Social media encourages surface level connections. I mean, most people have an attention span of about 30 seconds. It's not a lot of talking or getting to know a person that you do, and and a lot of us lose interest once you give that person your phone number. Okay? Emotional depth is uncomfortable and rarely modeled positively in society. You don't got people out here that's just crying just because, because similar to seven, if I'm mad and I'm crying, move. Because I'm about to explode. But I'm also an Aquarius and we're not emotional people. We have everything internal. That's why I say I'm a crybaby, because I was taught a long time ago you have to cry in order to process what you got going on. So crying doesn't always come from a moment of of sadness or or we said weakness or or just even being vulnerability. Sometimes you cry when you're happy, sometimes you you cry when you're super angry about something. Sometimes I cry every time uh Moofaster dies in Lion King. Every single time. And I know this nigga gonna die, and I'm crying before he even dies every single time. I can't help it. It doesn't always have to come back to be a psyche thing, but it also has to be something that you're aware of, and you're aware of how society is embracing that. So fear spreads faster than intimacy. Of course, we've talked about people being independent or having an independent mindset. There's more people out here that's willing to seclude themselves and be by themselves than they are to embrace these conversations about topics that they don't want to have. Number one reason why people aren't in therapy. Because therapy is a form of intimacy.
SPEAKER_10Seek therapy, not pussy.
SPEAKER_02When you when you go to therapy, you out here, you out here talking to a person and it could be a stranger, but you're out here talking to a person and you're telling them things that you wouldn't tell somebody that you sit next to every day. Somebody that you're with every day, you wouldn't tell them the same things that you're telling this therapist. And then they'll have a different perspective about it and get you to think internally to where you're like, okay, I can understand now why I feel the way I do. You'll never have that connection if you don't reach out and seek those services. So vulnerability is often mocked, misunderstood, or exploited. 110%. He brought up sassy. A lot of women are doing that shit, and y'all need to stop that shit. Telling a man that he's sassy for reacting is not sassy. Thank you. Telling a man that he's sassy for arguing back with you, I was raised. Don't put your hands on nobody unless you're ready to take that hit. So don't be out here arguing with men, and then when they say something, you're mad because they have a response. It's it's ass backwards. It's ass backwards. So I agree with him when he said that women are contributing to this shit. They wholeheartedly are. But like I said at the beginning of this, generational trauma. Because she watched her mother do the same thing to her fucking father and her brothers and her uncles. Women are out here downgrading and putting men down left and fucking right to where if they feel like they do one thing fucking wrong, they're gonna have everybody on their back. And it's not the truth. It's not the truth. So, question, a reflection question for y'all what happens when a whole society avoids emotional risk? What happens when a whole society doesn't process their emotions? They don't talk about their emotions, there's no emotional.
SPEAKER_10The whole society is strong, motherfuckers.
SPEAKER_02It ain't no, they ain't strong. You're weak. You're not weak because you can't express yourself, but you it's it's more so like one thing hits you and you might go down a fucking roller coaster or a snowball full of things that you've been through through the last couple of years. Whereas there are people that are able to express themselves and get that shit off their chest and they feel more free. They're able to relax a little bit more in a sense. I'll go let I'll let the audience person speak.
SPEAKER_15Go ahead.
SPEAKER_10Oh nah. Uh I was just about to say, you want to know what happened. Uh get on the internet. Get on the internet. That's what we're going through right now for real, though. That's real life what we're going through right now. Like I was just telling her, like you had it when you was talking about the situation where you can't talk to people on Wooty Woo. I'm not gonna lie to y'all. When you go to a third world country, you can talk to whoever the hell you want to talk to.
SPEAKER_02Exactly.
SPEAKER_10That's only over here.
SPEAKER_02Exactly.
SPEAKER_10And it's because what you just said, we over here ain't having enough fun. Over there, it don't matter what them folks are going through, they're gonna talk to you. I can't walk up to any random nigga in the hood right now and have a conversation with them, but I can over there. Uh-huh. You know why? Cause we done got south over here. Go to the islands.
SPEAKER_09Hey, what's that, my way?
SPEAKER_02I I think it's more so we've gotten desensitized to it. We we we we're able, we what's in the last 10 or 20 years that the internet's been a huge thing. It's overconsumption. You're able to see everything, be a part of everything. To whereas you see somebody on a shirt, and now it's a joke. Now they be saying in the comments to put it, put that nigga on the shirt. You you see somebody getting beat up or shot or whatever on on social media, and it's something that everybody's going in the comments to talk about. Oh shit, did you just see it? Let me share this video. We're desensitized to it. We gotten to the point where I it ain't fucking. It's another part of life. And I get it. It's how we've been able to survive all these years, but it ain't gonna last long. And it's well, to be honest, it's one of the reasons why our lifespans are shorter than other countries.
SPEAKER_14And I want to add something to that. I feel like with your original question, where it'll take us, um I think everybody will end up like just taking each other out. I think now we also overanalyze our emotions and we lead with emotion. We're not logical anymore. And because we lead with emotion, everything is passionate, and we think when someone wrongs us, we gotta do something about it emotionally. And like you said, it's desensitized, just killing people. We got abbreviations for it, like Swiss cheese, I'm Swiss cheese you, like little stuff like that. Like, you just look like you'll say that. I don't know. So it's like stuff like that, but when it comes to killing somebody, it's like people just look past it, people don't aren't phased by it. And it's like if that continues and we keep leading by emotion, and nobody is actually processing their emotions, we're gonna keep we ain't gonna be here no more. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Gonna be a whole race of people killing off each other. So just to close it out, because I know I reached my limit, um, a couple points I want y'all to focus on. Fear of intimacy isn't a flaw. In no way, shape, or form am I saying because you are afraid to be intimate or afraid to be vulnerable with people, that it's a flaw or it's a bad thing, but it is something for you to be aware of. It's a learned response, like I mentioned with generational trauma earlier, and awareness is the first step, not fixing it. Very important. Awareness. So being aware, taking accountability. Yes, a hundred percent. Ladies, y'all hear that? Nobody's expecting you to fix it. Nobody's expecting you to fix it. So, for the women, this is something that I'm probably gonna bring up a couple times throughout the month, but this month we're not judging fear, we're understanding it. The intimacy asks us to be seen, fear asks us to hide. And that is the end of this first week segment about intimacy, vulnerability, and thank you.
SPEAKER_06She got small P A D is them. I think afraid was hitting her back. She was like, Oh, she got BA, she got P A D. Right.
SPEAKER_13I'm gonna do it.
SPEAKER_06Right.
SPEAKER_13She was saying some shit. I was like, okay, mama. I'm doing it, but I was listening. I was like, You feel it loose? Yes.
SPEAKER_15Don't feel like this, man, then.
SPEAKER_10Oh no, no, I I don't want nobody to feel like me.
SPEAKER_02Okay, all right, y'all. We already know what time it is.
SPEAKER_10Yes, words of the week.
SPEAKER_02We got the words of the week with Jasmine like the flower.
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SPEAKER_02Welcome back to Words of the Week, the segment where we dress our vocabulary and silk and we give it just some spice. We talk deep, we think wild, and get comfy because class is a session.
SPEAKER_10Class is a session, motherfucker. I'm about to eat the chocolate chip cookie.
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SPEAKER_06You said a chocolate chip cookie.
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SPEAKER_02Welcome back to words of the week.
SPEAKER_06Where we get sexy and dress our words up in lingerie, and we used to talk sophisticated.
SPEAKER_02Did he say that? He did it. He did it. Yeah, where we dress our words in silk and we think big, we talk deep, and we don't censor our thoughts. Because this is no advisory.
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SPEAKER_02All right, y'all. So I got a couple words for us this week. I'm not gonna go too hard. I'm gonna go hard, nigga. We've been here for two hours. And I ate steak right before here. So I've been ready to go to sleep. All right. The first word we're gonna get into today is Cithyrism.
SPEAKER_10I heard that word.
SPEAKER_02Cythrism. And it's spelled with a P. Ooh. P-S-I-T-H U-R-I-S-M.
SPEAKER_06Condes. Condescending, being very conniving, and and and it's a sneaky type of person.
SPEAKER_02It's a noun. It's a noun. It is derived from the Greek word spithrous. Spithrus, which means whispering.
SPEAKER_10Whispering. Oh whispering.
SPEAKER_02Does it mean like uh like talking to yourself? Yeah, kind of. Okay. So I've spoken. Yeah, kind of. The subconscious. What it means? So basically, it is the whisper that the leaves make.
SPEAKER_10Oh, the whisper that the leaves make.
SPEAKER_02The whisper that the leaves make.
SPEAKER_13Did it sound again?
SPEAKER_02The sisterism outside made me feel like Mother Nature was spilling its tea.
SPEAKER_13So like when you outside, you just hear them the leaves rustling on a dry day.
SPEAKER_10Make this down. Make this down.
SPEAKER_13I did that.
SPEAKER_10I heard a couple of leaves in my life.
SPEAKER_02The next word we're gonna discuss is ageless. Ageless. It's A-G-E-L-A-S-T.
SPEAKER_10Ageless.
SPEAKER_02Ageless. Say it again. Ageless. Ageless, yes. And it's ageless. It's a noun. It's ageless.
SPEAKER_06You got the Benjamin button.
SPEAKER_02Somebody has not acted in the button.
SPEAKER_06You got the Benjamin button.
SPEAKER_02They ageless. You got the Benjamin button. You got the Benjamin. You aging back, baby. Um, so basically, this is basically just like it's basically a person who never laughs. So someone who just like just in face the whole time. That buddy back in the uh him being. Let me say he don't cry.
SPEAKER_09He laughed at my laughing.
SPEAKER_02So if I was a use in a sentence, I would say. Yeah, I'm looking at my notes. Um, you can't trust an agelist. How you mad at jokes in that life?
SPEAKER_10How you mad at jokes in that life?
SPEAKER_02God damn, laugh at something, goddamn it. Yeah, nah, that's it. Yeah, laugh at your own fun, laughing.
SPEAKER_10Ageless.
SPEAKER_02If you go to like stand-up, stand-up comedy, they have they got them people all the time.
SPEAKER_10I never saw a person that don't laugh. I see a lot of stoic people, but they laugh at one point in time.
SPEAKER_06They'd be like, I used to have this manager, he would never laugh for nothing. I know I was saying funny shit. He was an ageless then.
SPEAKER_02Because he didn't like you.
SPEAKER_06They bothered me.
SPEAKER_02Why he wasn't laughing at you, though.
SPEAKER_06It wasn't me. This was a nigga that didn't show no emotion. He just lean on it. He was an ageless person.
SPEAKER_02Okay, I have one more word, y'all. This one is the is a doozy? Yes, for sure. This one is incubula. Incubanabula. You know how to pronounce it? No. No. Incunobula.
SPEAKER_06Incubula. It's the part right after the clitoris, right? It's like in between the clitoris and the pussy. So it's spelled like this.
SPEAKER_02I-N-C-U-N-A-B-U-L-A. In-Q-Na. Incubula.
SPEAKER_10Incubula. Incunibula.
SPEAKER_02In-cu nebula.
SPEAKER_10Incunibula. Like nebula. Incubula.
SPEAKER_02That should be a segment too, getting people to pronounce words. Incubula. No fracts. This word is a noun.
SPEAKER_10In cunibula.
SPEAKER_02And it's basically from the root and the Latin word meaning swaddling clothes. Ooh.
SPEAKER_10Swaddling clothes.
SPEAKER_02Swaddling. Is that when you hit the clothes to get the dust out? No, swaddling is when you like swaddle the baby. Like, oh swaddling. Like the meaning, like early beginning. So like swaddling, early beginning. Okay. Swaddle began. What's in cute? That's what the word means. Early beginning. Early beginning.
SPEAKER_10Like, like, like, like, um, you want to try to use it in a sentence?
SPEAKER_02Uh I can't pronounce the word.
SPEAKER_10Incutabula.
SPEAKER_06I was I was eating. I was eating on that incubula like it was a little season.
SPEAKER_02Incubula. Early beginnings? You be eating on early beginnings? Right. You want to try to use it in a sentence?
SPEAKER_08Inculibula.
SPEAKER_02Incubula.
SPEAKER_08Incubabla. Incutabula.
SPEAKER_02It means early beginnings. Early beginnings. It is the incubabla of the year.
SPEAKER_10Your advisory is not in in the in the cubula state anymore.
SPEAKER_02No. We are long living. You know, you might be bringing it up, but if you fucking it up, and that's your vocabulary upgrade for the week, you guys. Absolutely. Don't forget, we do not censor thoughts on the show, but we do articulate them beautifully. I will see y'all next week. I'm not taking no edibles next week, Swish. I couldn't take it actually.
SPEAKER_06We got cinnamon rolls next week.
SPEAKER_10I don't like cinnamon. We got pot and bars. Wait, wait, bluetooth.
SPEAKER_11Bluetooth. You should see it.
SPEAKER_02Here you go.
SPEAKER_16Real quick.
SPEAKER_02I I ain't got no bars, but you know, I got prize. Oh, it's called bars.
SPEAKER_10Yep. Got it.
SPEAKER_16We're gonna see it.
SPEAKER_10It's gonna go through.
SPEAKER_12It's doing a little spinny thing. It's gonna stop.
SPEAKER_10Three, two, three. Okay, five, four, three, two, one.
SPEAKER_16Not in range.
SPEAKER_10Not in range, the shit is right here now. Oh, I was wondering what you got.
SPEAKER_06Broadcast the phone right?
SPEAKER_10Yeah, who's her shit?
SPEAKER_02Me. Y'all need to uh that's probably why. That's her shit.
SPEAKER_10That's probably why you are.
SPEAKER_02Okay, you off. Now you can get on.
SPEAKER_10Okay, now you can get on, Swish. When it's light up blue blue, that means you won. Nah, you should be good. She she's not. Okay, you should see it. There you go. Okay, we'll bring it in there. Let's go.
SPEAKER_16You want to see if it don't let me, I know something up.
SPEAKER_02It says connection unsuccessful. We need to call it. Try it again. Hit forget device. I hit forget device.
SPEAKER_16There it is. Road car. I heard you.
SPEAKER_10Okay, it's paired to something.
SPEAKER_16I disconnected it. You said it. Okay, alright.
SPEAKER_17I don't know what makes it. Alright, I got it.
SPEAKER_06Real quick, real quick. That's it.
SPEAKER_12It's sponsored. Hold on, give it a second now. We're gonna cut ours down. You don't even want us to talk. Real quick.
SPEAKER_06All trust in God, depend on no nigga. Hard itchy. I kidnap work of all niggas. Fit and tucks, flicky tuck, like Samuel Pop fiction. I'm mother of galaxy stories off rich. Hit it by my temptations, trying to build resistance. Vision we see in my vices, make me a victim. In the field to my whims, I cruise the victor. Niggas walking with vectors like they elistic. Philanthropy, Philanthropy, this when it's he wanted. Try to cock up my spirit rich on his conquest. I gotta get it right. Yeah, look. All trusting God, depend on no nigga. Palms itchy. I can't dab up no broke niggas. Vinny tuck, spooky tuck, like Samuel fiction. My mother, a galaxy, a star was born from Richland. Hit it by temptations. Visionally seeing my vices, make me a victim. In the field to my whims, I cruise the victim. Niggas walking with vectors like they enlisted. Electropists with a vigilanty mindset. Tryna conquer my spirit on this conquest. Like in all this trifler with my heart back in his fall, I used to love her like concept. Miss victims located where your sponsors Before pressing thumbs inside this. Captain the mind. Got the same hat as price, as I get, got the same punch as ticing. But same David, gifted with the flow like J Davis. The water I was baptized in Cause they take it. Late fluid of it, had to rush the bit. But I'm so flower, try to win it. My royalty on a higher landscape. We're crowned on the mountain. Like eight, I'm the king of the hill. My bitches call me Kim and Deep. My kids call me sinking. And make it back to her safely. I would be smart and dangerous. Out the way, making honest wages. Still on time and books. It's still told him I gotta say. Shout out to the magistrate, he helped me with them cases. Bake playsin' like the Jamaican with a baddie is she relationship. Some finna make those roam making rolls with his dust. Now we got chicken, no I pray, no.
SPEAKER_10Huh?
unknownYeah, I just had a small movie.
SPEAKER_06Hey, destroy late.
SPEAKER_10Hey, listen, man, that was pot and bought by a motherfuckin' man Switch, man. Huh? No, I'm done, bro.
SPEAKER_01It's over for me.
SPEAKER_10Hey man, let's wanna say once again, man, happy new year, happy meeting and all y'all motherfuckers, man. You know, you know that note.
SPEAKER_02So you're saying you don't get it.
SPEAKER_10No, no, no, you're different. She ain't on the same channel. I ain't gonna be the same too. Yes, yeah, shot the part of the bars again. Finally got the second after three years. Yes, shout out to us.
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