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Ladies Night: Uncensored and Unfiltered
In this raw and unfiltered Ladies Night episode, the women of No Advisory Podcast deliver a powerful conversation about healthcare disparities, personal growth, and relationship nightmares that will have you nodding in agreement and laughing out loud.
When it comes to healthcare for Black women, the panel doesn't hold back. They navigate the complicated terrain of finding doctors who take them seriously, share intimate details about their experiences with various birth control methods, and discuss why representation in medicine literally saves lives. Their candid stories about dealing with debilitating period symptoms and uninformed healthcare providers highlight why Malcolm X's famous quote about Black women being "the most disrespected, neglected, and unprotected" remains painfully relevant today.
The episode takes a thoughtful turn during "Soft Girl Hour," where they redefine what being in your "soft girl era" truly means. Contrary to popular belief, it's not about finding a man—it's about women who've spent years being strong, independent, and handling everything themselves finally allowing vulnerability and self-care into their lives. As one host poignantly shares, "I didn't have that era where I could just go to college and be free and be soft and just live a life. I had to get up and pay bills."
Special guest Darri from the Hoe Busters podcast brings even more energy as she shares how discovering her husband's 19-year web of lies led to creating a platform for women with similar experiences. The dating disaster stories that follow—from a man who peed in the bed to another whose teeth fell out during a date—will have you howling with laughter while secretly checking your own relationship red flags.
Don't miss this authentic, hilarious, and deeply moving conversation that celebrates female friendship while challenging society's treatment of Black women. And mark your calendars for next Thursday's special outdoor cookout episode where you can meet the entire No Advisory team in person!
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Trap Seed on the beat. Trap Seed on the beat. But y'all know I ain't no rapper though. Yeah, let's get it, me and my gang, we, up in this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, chia you already know who it is it's your girl, Tia McLean. What's up?
Speaker 1:y'all, it's your girl. Trap Seed.
Speaker 2:It's your girl, tess, I just lied. It's your girl trap c. It's your girl, dad, I just lied to you. Actually it's your girl terrence, unscripted, and you already know this. It's no bobby podcast and I know you used to seeing that little short ass, nigga, sit right here. We fired his ass. We kicked him off his own fucking platform. He's gone. I don't know where he is. Maybe he'll join other people's platform, but we keep that nigga off his own shit. We took his fucking copyright. We took his everything Shit. We took. We took everything. We took everything Everything. This, our shit, now this, how shit roll through. So y'all already know this Sean's Most Dangerous Podcast. It's ladies night, thanks, not nigga night. They had that shit and I know y'all was watching that shit and was like what the fuck is that. So we decided to come back and class it up a little bit we have our classy glasses of wine clock it.
Speaker 2:Mine's is blue, though oh yeah, what a bling we had this polo here y'all Cause you know he got to get right. Okay, all right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 40 on there, boot niggas. It was just real crazy. They was drinking them light. 40 noms Milwaukee Benz CO. Drink his shit out of a paper bag every day, any day. It was just real crazy. In all honesty, shout out to the CEO, the big man, the boss. He decided to let us have our way tonight, so we're going to have our way tonight and we got some special guests. Y'all not used to seeing my friend behind the camera, because she usually be back there being messy and shit, and giggling, be texting us like this.
Speaker 1:Nigga suck, oh my God.
Speaker 2:Like she be saying y'all be suck. She say y'all trash music. She say y'all girl be staying here. She say y'all be staying. She say y'all friends coming here with dirty ass shirts. Y'all don't know she had text me. I was like damn CO, stupid as hell, like she be texting me, all that shit. So introduce yourself, friend. It's your girl, des, known as Get Boozed With Des.
Speaker 1:So make sure y'all put me up, yes mobile bartender.
Speaker 2:We love mobile bartenders. Yes, we love a good drink. Y'all Des be the only normal one, because I can handle my liquor. But you know, because see, because y'all, y'all, see, we got wine right, she done got mixed some shit this motherfucker. We look over. How the fuck did you turn your wine blue? Put some more liquor in it. What do you think ceo get it from? Jesus turned water wine. This turned us into liquor. So there it is.
Speaker 1:We got a special special guest, hey you wanna because it's my girl, you know we gotta so y'all know it's ladies night and it's only right that we bring another fellow podcaster to the no advisory platform, so I'm gonna let her introduce herself, but of course we're going to bring you in the no Advisory way. So we got three very special questions for you, Ready Chewie who you are, where you from and what the fuck you do.
Speaker 2:All right y'all. So I'm Derry. Thank you for having me here tonight. I am the host of the Ho Busters podcast um, where I'm from. I'm actually from Hartford, connecticut. Okay, been in North Carolina probably about 20 years at this point, though, so I guess this is home for me. And what do I do? I do some of everything yes.
Speaker 2:I do it all. I love it. So if you like our followers followers y'all remember me and Sid went on their show, had conversations. We had such a great time on their show and me and Sid were talking about that shit for weeks and Darri was telling we've been trying to get her on the show for the longest, but the stars have aligned for ladies night, so we bring her on here for her podcast. Hoe busters busting these hoe ass niggas, Okay, period.
Speaker 1:Busting these hoes, y'all. We're busting these holes. All these red flags walking around. Okay, it's a lot of red flags in the studio.
Speaker 3:They don't walk out the door now they did walk out the door, but it's a lot of red flags and red pills in this fucking studio every day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you be seeing what we're dealing with every Thursday, right, I see it. And it be worse when CEO be here.
Speaker 3:When CEO be here. They're not here. See how they're leaving. That's crazy. We'll have to do it another time.
Speaker 2:When we got the fellas in here to join us for the conversation, it'd be like it'd be a studio full of toxic ass niggas, Me and Sid being here fighting for our life. For real. We be here boxing our way out. It'd be crazy, but we appreciate you joining us for Ladies Night. Of course, I gotta do this. Before you know we do this. Follow us on TikTok, on Twitch. We on Instagram, Blue Sky, Twitter, Facebook. We on Tag Bebo, MySpace. We on Photobucket, we on XNXXTasted Blacks, BigBootyBitchescom, Pornhub in some states. We're on the North Carolina Educational Lottery. We got our own Scratch Off. What else? Oh, BigBagscom. We also owe you a McDonald's rewards. I want it and you know I gotta do it. No, the fuck, you do not. And you about to piss me off because I knew you was gonna do it. Don't be like your man, Don't.
Speaker 1:Stand up, stand up, be better than your man. You finna do it.
Speaker 2:I'm going to let you Go ahead. I'm going to let you do it, go ahead. We on midgescom.
Speaker 1:And that's our finesse today. No, let it get out, let it get out, let it get out, because if not, they're going to text us talking shit later, so let it get out, go ahead we on midges big booties she said no correction. I like the big booties, I don't. You ain't have to do that nigga, not even here.
Speaker 2:Don't be scared. Don't be scared that nigga, not even here. No, stand up there. I don't know if you watch our shows. Our friend ceo he has an unhealthy obsession with midgets. Yes, and they're unhealthy.
Speaker 2:You've heard it's just unhealthy. And it's crazy now because I know he do. On On my Facebook algorithm today I kept seeing little clips from little people in Atlanta, shit like popping up Midgets popping up on my clips. But I know it's because my phone hearing us talking about this shit every fucking week bruh, that shit's so fucking crazy. That nigga is sick as hell. I am screaming. I hate that shit. Shout out to Polo Polo. Polo was a little late tonight, y'all. He was turning the swish. We thought you was swish for a minute. But shout out to the fuck niggas who thought they was going to get over on Polo, because we on your neck after this show. Yo, we coming for you.
Speaker 1:Right there.
Speaker 2:Burkey at the transit. We on your fucking neck. They got your credit card too. Oh fuck, yo too, oh fuck, we gotta go to the jail. Yes, and they had to transit. They, I'm telling you, polo, they had, they had the park, they had the berg he ain't getting a whopper meal. I'm gonna lie, they had berg, he ain't getting a whopper meal. We're gonna dance, though, on my soul. Yes, you know it's crazy, pissing me off because polo don't do nothing about it, right, like it's always the good people like if you steal some nigga shit.
Speaker 2:Steal some dumb nigga shit. Still swish it actually. Yes, will his shit. I mean male too. If all it is still they shit, why? Oh, here we go, stand up. You know what I need? Both y'all tonight. Let's hold this. Stand up for it. Yes, I want y'all to stand up from these niggas stand up for these niggas we locked in.
Speaker 2:Shout out to the studio audience ladies in the building, shout out to the studio audience. And our one love gentleman, ark, is you see how them niggas slithered out he's the only real man in the building. Yeah, everybody slithered out Ark. You look like what happened.
Speaker 1:Ark, let yeah, everybody slithered out. You're like what?
Speaker 2:happened? He just slithered out. Now, all right, let me tell you, you slithered out. I'm going to talk shit. Nah, I'm not, I'm not All right, that is crazy. When did he sneak out? Yeah, oh, oh. Sleeves Please with Denise. Please go to every time you ready, friend, I've been waiting for you all week. No, we haven't been talking shit. Why he snitching?
Speaker 3:on her. Now he got to go Get your ass out. Now you got to go Get out.
Speaker 2:You snitching, you got to go. That is crazy. Long like that. That's crazy. Whatever, y'all know what it is. Y'all know what it is. We got Hot Topics with Trapi.
Speaker 1:Alright, so y'all know I always start off with celebrity birthdays. I try to do mostly women because it's girls night, but that was hard to do, so y'all just going to get who I got.
Speaker 2:Now hold on. You might not be CEO, but you probably don't know some of these. Nah, we should know everybody, because CEO not here. He'd be asking Siri, hey, siri, I, I mean you want to tell him who it is. Yeah, we should know everybody, because that's an old-ass nigga for real.
Speaker 1:Oh, all right y'all ready, we ready, all right. Ariana Grande Happy birthday y'all. Oh, okay, she turned 31.
Speaker 2:No way she did. Oh Wait, wow Aren't you 31? I am. I'm being Jeter with my baseball bat. Okay, shannon Sharp turned 56. Happy birthday. Nasty ass, there you go.
Speaker 3:I ain't gonna lie, alright. Alright, we know what you like to do confession, confession, confession confession you'll take them down.
Speaker 1:I'll take them down. You might take them down that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:That's what I want to do. I want to be like Michelle. Oh Michelle, michelle was enjoying herself. You know what I mean. Michelle was getting that purse one and done though. Michael Vick he turned 44. Okay, michael Michael, financier too.
Speaker 1:Iman Sharper used to be married to Tiana Taylor. He turned 34.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm quiet. Okay, well, Alright well, we gonna move on to the hot topics. What'd you say Sleeves? Yeah, man, he from the city. Yo fuck-ass nigga. He didn't be. He should've been on Ho Buster.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he should've been on.
Speaker 2:Ho Buster. He deserve to get busted. What we not finna do is that she liked it, but the end part, the reason why that marriage ended, because he cheated and brought the women around the kids. You gonna bring my kids around the women you cheated with. That's crazy. That's all he say. That's how Chicago niggas get down type shit, type shit, type shit, type shit. It Type shit, type shit. It's crazy. I told y'all, ladies, it's men that you need to stay away from. I didn't know I had to include Chicago men on the list, but guess what? I guess we did Northern men. We got to stay away from the cute all. Turn your head to the left, stay away from.
Speaker 1:Ball-headed men. They lie like they.
Speaker 2:Dead is get away ball-headed men do be lying. Shout out to my brother hey, jeffrey, you lying. You know my brother bald as hell he be lying.
Speaker 1:Shout out to my brother, all right we gonna go ahead and get into the hot topics number one. Remember, last month I told y'all that rihanna's father passed away sadly. Yeah, well, his cause of death has officially been announced, and it is sad, it's a lot. So he passed away last month at the age of 71 from complications of cancer. Um, the complications on his death certificate include acute respiratory failure, yeah, pancreaticiration, pneumonia, a serious bacterial lung infection. Acute renal failure, acute tubular necrosis, and both of those reflect significant kidney damage. Yeah, so he was really suffering. Yeah, he was.
Speaker 2:I didn't even know he was sick. When you say he died last, was that the other episode that? Was last month.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The end of the month. When you say he died, I didn't. When I asked, I said has that been confirmed? Because I hadn't heard anything about him being sick or none of that.
Speaker 1:Every fucking time, bro Sweet. Alright, so we're going to go ahead and remember to continue to send our prayers to Rihanna and her family as she grieves the loss of her father and welcomes baby number three. His name was not Ronald.
Speaker 3:He died. His name was Ronald.
Speaker 1:What the hell sis Don't.
Speaker 2:I'm glad he didn't have a mic.
Speaker 1:Prove you wrong. My bad. His name was Ronald.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's crazy. He was right.
Speaker 1:That's why I said I was so ready to poop.
Speaker 2:I'm like wait, no, I'm not saying, we should just kept on saying. That's your family, that's your cousin. That nigga can't, oh my God. I hate our cameraman for real, bro. I swear to God I hate't looking like a young R Kelly.
Speaker 1:No for real. He do, minus I'm Jordan.
Speaker 2:Y'all can't see behind the camera, but I hope. I hope switch, I hope he inserts a footage right here Like he edit y'all switch. Look like he just walked out of that damn center. He over there looking like a remick. His people over there want to be out there in that juke joint for real y'all.
Speaker 1:it's crazy all right up next 60 missing kids who are recovered in florida.
Speaker 2:Whoa, whoa, whoa whoa you saying florida and 60 missing kids.
Speaker 1:That is absolutely crazy 60 missing kids are recovered in florida and what is being dubbed the most successful missing child recovery operation in America ever Wow, in Florida.
Speaker 2:In Florida.
Speaker 1:So, according to Florida News outlets, federal, state and local agencies partnered up to recover 60 critically missing kids in the Tampa Bay area. This operation was called Operation Dragon Eye and it focused on finding kids between the ages of 9 and 17 over a two-week period. According to the us marshal's website. Because I had to look up what does critically missing mean? Kids are critically missing, kids are defined as those at risk of crime or violence, or those with elevated risk factors, such as substance abuse, sexual exploitation, crime exposure or domestic violence. So basically, what they're saying is kids that are reported missing that have a higher risk for doing drugs, ending up pregnant, committing other crimes or dying. So among the 60 kids that were recovered, there were several young girls who were pregnant, and one of the girls was actually currently carrying the child of the person that was trafficking her. This operation also led to the arrest of eight suspects facing an array of charges from human trafficking, child endangerment, drug possession and custodial interference.
Speaker 2:I ain't gonna lie. From my times of watching Law Order, I know that the people that got arrested them not even like A fifth A fifth. They finna use the people to catch the top people Like them, not even the people. That's sick as shit. That's sick as fuck for real, because it's like run Out of everything niggas can do. It's a lot of crime in this world and it's a lot of shit that niggas do. Trafficking kids and fucking with kids is just For what it's weird as hell? It's because they're vulnerable.
Speaker 2:It's weird as hell, so this was in Florida, Tampa 60 kids, 60 kids. I'm happy to these families that they get reunited, but this journey back finna be like they gonna need therapy. Yeah, I don't know. I just I guess working with kids boy, this shit just be irritating, Like it do hit different Because it's like bruh out of everybody, Like nobody should be trafficking Nobody but kids, Kids don't.
Speaker 1:They innocent, they don't deserve none of that. That's just sick. Well, this next one is really going to piss you off, is it? It is An Atlanta couple was awarded $2 million after a doctor allegedly shared graphic pictures of their decapitated baby on social media.
Speaker 2:What the hell? Is it the black couple? Yes, you just don't be sharing pictures on Instagram.
Speaker 1:So a Fulton County jury awarded a $2.25 million settlement to Jessica Ross and Travion Taylor Sr. After Dr Jackson Gates posted graphic autopsy pictures and videos of their unalive newborn on social media without the parents consent. So let me take you back to how the baby got to this point. The infant, tragically, was unalive because it's gonna be on tiktok back in july 2023. During childbirth, the infant, who was named travion isaiah taylor jr, got stuck during delivery to shoulder dystocia, which is a childbirth complication where a baby's shoulder gets stuck behind the mother's pelvic bone during labor. So his shoulders basically got caught in his mom's pelvis, which caused a series of complications during birth. The doctor, according to this lawsuit, allegedly used excessive force on the baby's head and neck, which led to the decapitation. After hours of antagonizing labor, ross ultimately ended up having a C-section, but the baby's body and head were delivered separately.
Speaker 1:Ooh, sky is falling the pathologist, dr Jackson Gates, was hired by the couple for $2,500 to perform a private autopsy on the child to determine what happened, following the couple not getting anywhere with the matter being handled with the hospital. So they tried to handle the matter with the hospital because their baby was decapitated during birth and the hospital wasn't saying nothing. They're like we, we not responsible for this. This is what happens, it's just tragic. Like so they went and hired this pathologist, dr Jackson Gates. The pathologist will later go on, in July 2023, to share the autopsy photos and videos of the baby, severed head, along with his body, on his social media. The judgment package that was awarded to the couple is $2.25 million in compensatory damages, $250,000 in punitive damages, and then the judgment also holds the pathologist, dr Gates, accountable for emotional distress and privacy invasion caused by the decision to post the autopsy. Now y'all know I had to go look and see what this doctor had to say.
Speaker 3:What are you saying?
Speaker 1:And y'all gonna be shocked. Dr Gates stressed that he did not violate any HIPAA laws with his actions. He claims that he has been doing this quote for over 15 years, publishing autopsy cases to explain to the public the victimization of those people who have died, so he basically feel like he not doing nothing wrong because he's using this as a teaching moment to show people this is what happened to the person, this is what the autopsy said, etc. Etc.
Speaker 1:This is the person that they hired to do a private autopsy, meaning these pictures were never to be leaked. And he leaked them anyway, and he's still practicing, and he's still practicing.
Speaker 1:He need to be in jail yeah, white, no, but and that's a pathologist black. That make it worse in addition. So, mind you, there was three lawsuits because of this botched delivery. The first one was him releasing the pictures on social media. There are also two other lawsuits lawsuits still pending in the case. One is against the doctor who delivered the baby right and another is against the medical center or the hospital due to the handling of the delivery. Now, the reason that they have a lawsuit against the doctor is because, before they sent the body to the private autopsy, the county did autopsy the clayton county medical examiner and he ruled the baby's death as a homicide, citing a broken neck and spinal cord from delivery complications which can be attributed to the excessive force that was used to try to get him out.
Speaker 3:Much as I say right now that's crazy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's sad.
Speaker 4:That is you know.
Speaker 1:I told you he was going to piss you off.
Speaker 2:You go to the hospital, you think you're going to come home with a new baby. You're thinking about, like you know, I don't have kids, but you're probably thinking about what prom is going to look like graduation, first birthday. No one in the history of how many black women are I mean? Died during childbirth, and it's just no. I don't think we even do that anymore. I go to the hospital nervous every time, every time. When you go for regular checkups.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like going to the hospital, you know they think that black people can endure so much pain. They think that we are just a monolith of strength, and it's not like that At all. That's sad for real man, and I feel bad, even worse, because you hire somebody to do a private autopsy to help you prove that this is not okay and this is not right, and then they violate you too.
Speaker 1:So you get violated twice.
Speaker 2:It's like you keep getting violated. How much more can these people take for real? I hope they run them nigga pockets. I'm telling you. I'm like that's the one lawsuit, because they still got the other two pending.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I hope they need to walk away by 2030.
Speaker 1:I still got to go to the hospital.
Speaker 2:They going to eat I'm running niggas pockets after that and they still don't make up for what happened.
Speaker 1:That shit crazy. So it's interesting because before I started looking at these I looked at these Starbucks like today. I had some of them bookmarked but I looked them like in depth today but last night I was like scrolling on.
Speaker 1:Instagram and I followed this creator because she did a get ready with me talking about postpartum, but she lost her baby and she said nobody ever talks about the grief of going to the hospital expecting to leave to change you and your baby's diaper, and you're not like and your body is grieving too. Your body's trying to heal from a delivery that resulted in an unaligned baby like so that was so interesting.
Speaker 1:I was like, are you right? I've never seen anybody talk about that and I think it's sad because, especially as like black women, like you said, we don't get the care that we need. I know so many people that say they literally go to the doctor and have to look up what their symptoms could be just to get their doctor to run a series of tests. Why does it have to be like that? Like you're the doctor, you figure this out. Why do I have to do your job for you? Like that's nuts? I saw people all the time.
Speaker 2:Like literally I know people think it's like a trend or something whatever, but I literally have an all black medical team. I have a black OBGYN, have a black primary care Shout out to Dr Rouse and Dr Stiles, like amazing black women. It's so crazy. Dr Stiles her kid in my summer camp, you know what I'm saying, so she be. I was talking to her today, like, but when I talked to her we talked about real things, like, for instance, when I was looking at birth control options. You know it was more so to not for the actual birth control, but to kind of alleviate like period cramps and stuff, because my periods used to be like really, really bad, like when I was in school getting periods, but it was so bad I was like low-key, like passing out on bathroom floors and people thought I was being dramatic. I was like like this on the floor, but I was like I was in like full cramp mode because ladies, y'all know when you be in cramps like these, these men don't understand.
Speaker 2:I know they think cramps is like it's not them shits is debilitating, like it used to be so bad when I know like day one and two is like throwing up cramps. You sick, you nauseous, you can't even eat nothing. For real, that's how bad my periods used to be. So I went to Dr Stiles and was asking like options to alleviate it, because by that time she had put me on 800 milligram ibuprofen.
Speaker 2:You can't take a big horse ass pills. You can't keep taking those like that to help out with cramps. I was talking to her and she was like look. She was like there's iud is going. You know, the iud is going to alleviate your cramps and stuff.
Speaker 2:However, if you are not, if you're scared about the hormones, I don't want to put shit in your body that you are not, you know, aware of. She broke down every little bit and I know I would not have gotten that, not even trying to be funny, I would not have gotten that from a white woman or a white male doctor. I would not have gotten that. They would have just went along with what I said without breaking shit down. Then you get in stories of now I'm coming back to you because maybe the shit, shit in my arm not right or stuff is not working out, because birth controls, every birth control, don't work for everybody.
Speaker 2:So shout out to those black doctors and those amazing, um, black women doctors about male doctors. I think we definitely need more black male and black women doctors. I think we need a lot of them more, especially in the birthing places, in the medical centers, when it's time to bring our children into this world because nobody care about us. Like us, I'll be honest, like black people. It's crazy because we piss children into this world because nobody cares about us. Like us, I'm going to be honest, black people. It's crazy because we piss each other off the most but we care about each other the most.
Speaker 2:Nobody cares about us like us for real. So has yours ever got lost? My IUD? Yeah, I know that thing's still up there.
Speaker 1:Because I know somebody that got lost. It's crazy.
Speaker 2:Ask me if I got kids, I know you ain't got no, kids Shout out to me and the IUD, I'm ABC, listen, the IUD's so lit boy, so I still have like periods, but they're like very irregular and light, like I'm like three days. No, cramps Three days, no cramps, like maybe spot in three days, and it's irregular, so I like it it I like the iud no birth control had me in the hospital back to back. Yeah, I had the shot, the devil shot and I had the pills.
Speaker 3:I was in the hospital and I was scared to get the IUD. It was a huge hormone.
Speaker 1:I had to patch because it's low hormonal and because a history of breast cancer runs in my family like I started. I got my first mammogram like I think I was like 21, 22. Yeah, I had to start early, so, but I started birth control at 18 because, again, I had such bad cramps. Like I'm missing the two days of school because I literally am throwing up in the bed like in the fetal position. I'm not eating, I'm not drinking. I got a fever, my back hurt my stomach hurt, I'm throwing up and shit and like this shit was so horrible.
Speaker 1:So, mom, when I turned 18, mom was like, do you want to be on birth control? And I was like, uh, because I wasn't having sex. And in my mind, like all I knew was you have sex, you be on birth control. I'm like right, I don't need that.
Speaker 1:She was like no it's not for sex, it's for your cramps. Yeah, I feel better, but again because, like it ran, hormonal breast cancer runs in my family. My options was limited so like I can't get an iud right, I have to get like I can. I had a patch, which is what I was on for like 10 years, or I can get um the implant the next one, my only two options yeah you so lucky that you had um your mom.
Speaker 2:So, like when I was 18, y'all know, I didn't have my mom to tell me that because my mom was sick by that time. So at 18 it was not like my mom guided me through like menstruals and stuff, like I mean, yes, she was guiding me through menstruals before, but like actually like birth control and stuff. So by that time my mom was sick, was not able to speak, so I had to like I didn't get that advice of like why my periods were like this. So I didn't really get that advice until literally y'all, age 27 to 28. Oh wow, going to a black doctor, my black doctor. My periods have been bad for years. And then, like I said when I went, my first form of birth control was the NuvaRing. I don't know if y'all remember the NuvaRing.
Speaker 4:I don't know about that shit.
Speaker 1:That shit crazy as fuck.
Speaker 2:I don't know why I ever tried that shit, but I think I tried it because of the commercial. Never again. I've been using that for years.
Speaker 3:No that shit got lost, say he got lost.
Speaker 2:Because Y'all know why I got lost that nigga was them gang shots, them shits got lost. So I had to go to the doctor. So I stopped using that and then I had stopped using birth control. I also wasn't a person I'm not a person that's very, very sexually active. I can be sexually active for a period and then I'll stop, right. So I wasn't worried about birth control for real. But then the periods kept getting worse as I got older, like they kept getting worse. And it's one thing to miss school, but you can't miss work because your period, right you know corporate don't care about that shit.
Speaker 2:Well, I know a lot about a lot of people that be calling out when they're on their period. Yeah, I mean now it's easier now because now, if you think about it, a lot of jobs will consider fmla for, because you can get a lot of those for, but back then you couldn't. So I had to figure something out. I heard horrible stories about depo and the shot heard horrible stories because it was like you either lose a lot of weight, you gain a lot of weight. I can't afford to do and I ain't getting nothing.
Speaker 2:Then the next one on. I was looking at that but I felt weird because I like, do I really want like a chip in me for real?
Speaker 1:Like a chip and no period.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Like it's crazy, which is?
Speaker 1:why I opted out of that? Because for me, like I feel like God designed a period for a reason?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1:And to take that away, you have all that blood, all them old cells in your body. Now that shit needs to go. Oh my God, Exactly the IUD birth control. It thins the lining of your uterus so nothing connects to it. Eggs don't connect, Sperm don't connect Nothing, it's just a thin lining.
Speaker 2:So I still have periods, it's just not as heavy. When I didn't have birth control, my periods were so bad. The actual symptoms was bad, not the actual flow. The symptoms was bad. It's still flushing out toxins. It's still flushing the eggs out. Symptoms are not as bad as it was before. So I still have periods, they're just irregular and they're just a little bit calm and are there no like natural birth controls?
Speaker 4:like does it have to be something you gotta switch? Control you go I mean besides? Condoms and cover that. You know what I'm saying. But like what?
Speaker 2:like what's another way to like I've, I've heard there is natural birth controls like herbs and stuff like that. But also, y'all know me, y'all know I'm not a person, I, I, I. I let me just say this I believe in herbs, I believe in natural, clean eating, all that stuff, but at the end of the day, I'm a person that works off science, right, and at the end of the day, I know that, yes, herbs work and holistic ideas work, but I believe in science and I think you can mix the two. At this point in my life, I wasn't going with the herbs, I needed science, I needed some science. Like, if you was in my shoes, you would go with science too and buy that bitch up.
Speaker 4:My last question is with the birth control, because I'm a man, I don't, you know. I just hear about this stuff. I learn it at night. With the birth control, how long can y'all go before it like mess up y'all reproductive system? How long can you be on birth control Like will it ever like? Will it ever like you know damage? Like well, you can't have kids, or what. It's always just going on. Once you get off of it, it's over.
Speaker 2:I mean it's studies, I feel like any it's studies. Any medicine could have a side effect, but the chances are so low, very low, like a 1% chance, that they still what they tell about birth control is that they say if you want to have kids take it out a year before a year and a half before.
Speaker 3:No, oh, my fucking God Don't listen to Swish.
Speaker 1:Okay, like, for example, and I don't know nobody, honestly, that's ever like again. I was on it for 10 years Like. That's just a long time in my mind, right, exactly A long time. I got off off and, no lie, it probably literally did take a year and a half for my body to regulate back to normal like. So that's why they say like, if you, birth control is fine, but also I had low hormonal, so maybe in the long run there are chances, but I don't even take that when I tell you I took a lapse for one month in birth control and got pregnant and got my daughter and same with my son.
Speaker 2:So I think it just varies On a person.
Speaker 1:So don't think that.
Speaker 3:It'll take a few weeks.
Speaker 2:Don't think about it, don't rely on that. I think it goes back. I think it goes back to everybody's body is different.
Speaker 3:Same with step or shower.
Speaker 2:I ain't going to lie. I'm scared. I don't think I'm gonna take mine out because I'm probably fertile as shit.
Speaker 3:To be honest, I'm like no way, my insurance lapse.
Speaker 2:I couldn't afford the birth control. I'll be alright till next month. Next month I'm pregnant, oh shit. I can't believe this shit and I would've been spotted at that fucking window.
Speaker 3:I love my baby Whenever y'all get off your period, ain't that when y'all really fertile, though, Like when y'all first get off?
Speaker 2:No, it's when you ovulate. No, it's like your ovulation period.
Speaker 1:It's your ovulation period, your ovulation period is like but while y'all on it, while y'all on it.
Speaker 3:I also heard this Y'all be very hor are low, it's low, that's what I heard.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, on your period, I'm definitely horny. I'm just confirming.
Speaker 3:I'm just confirming.
Speaker 2:I'm very horny. I'm very horny. What's up, I'm for the crazy. Oh yeah, boy.
Speaker 1:Yeah that shit real. That's why y'all be so mad, that's why y' crib. Oh yeah, Boy, yeah that shit real.
Speaker 3:That's why y'all be so mad. That's why y'all be so goddamn mad.
Speaker 1:Imagine, driving down the road you drop it all of a sudden. Ooh Bro, you be mad as shit.
Speaker 2:Literally, Listen y'all.
Speaker 3:The only thing we be talking about these symptoms. It's bad.
Speaker 2:And don't.
Speaker 3:Like your pelvic, your back, your pelvic like and the shit is literally worse.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got the shits. Your boobs are sore when you're done bleeding. Your emotional as fuck. I be crying like shit me mad as fuck you emotional that's another question.
Speaker 4:Why, when women have their period, why is it always an emotional time? Is it cause y'all just angry?
Speaker 2:so like what's the, what's the happy hormone? What's it called? Serotonin serotonin, all that shit. The levels be low as fuck oh yeah, mercy Jesus Christ yeah, so you be crying.
Speaker 2:I know that's how I know I, because when I'm about to be on my period, shit like certain shit makes me upset. Like I ain't gonna lie, I'm probably finna be on mine because that shit with the baby really like about to. Normally shit like that would fuck with me, but not like this. But literally I feel like I'm about to cross. That's how I know I'm probably finna be on my menstrual, but the symptoms are fucking wild. You be horny as fuck on your period. You low-key be like you know what Do a nigga need to run the red light? You know what I'm saying. You be horny as fuck. You be thinking about listen. You be so fucking like lit on your period, like you just be like damn, I wanna fuck.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna lie, like like for me, like I hate being on my period but I like it a lot because my boobs be bigger than you see me, I'm bloating baby, I'm bloating. I only be bloated the first two days Before my PMS before.
Speaker 2:I'm bloated, I feel like I'm very sluggish on my period. I'm very sluggish, I'm very tired. It's crazy, for real. That's why I be trying to tell people let's go back to the other episode Women, our bodies are amazing. We, for real. So that's why we try to tell people let's go back to the other episode Women, our bodies are amazing. We be doing so much shit. Our bodies do so much shit. We produce a lot of shit. We whole lot produce humans, like we gotta be appreciated. So, yeah, that's crazy. Yeah, that was it for me, my bad. Yeah, that was Hot Topics with Trapy my bad.
Speaker 2:Y'all ready for Terrence's thoughts. Yeah, this is to be good. Oh, happy Thursday y'all. It's Terrence's thoughts. Listen, I be thinking about a lot of shit and y'all know I be having a lot of unhinged shit in my head. Thought number one In the 2006 and 2008 era, we really was going to the club and business casual, right, Right, and I say that because of my Facebook my first club picture when I went to college and my business casual baby. I had a long blazer on, I had them, charlotte Roos heels and I just bought it at 9 o'clock in the morning, the wedges and everything, and we really was having a good time listening in a club and business casual. Why did we do that? We need to bring that back.
Speaker 2:Me and my co-worker was just talking about it.
Speaker 4:I swear to God that was the best time though.
Speaker 2:There was days when you used to go to like Charlotte Roos or like Baker's at 9 o'clock in the morning and find your outfit and go to the club by 8 o'clock that night. We don't have that, no more. I just got to go to February 21 real quick. You know, ain't no Charlotte Roos stores, like no walk-in Charlotte Restores. It's only one room, 21. It's a Charlotte Restore. Actually, the closer one here is Winston. Yes, winston is the closest shot of restores. I see all my heels try to replace you. Like that. Two for 22. Yes, you remember to the hills. I used to fuck them bitches up, itches. I gotta find a pitch. I'm gonna send a picture to switch so he up. I was like 6 inches. I gotta find a picture. I'm gonna send a picture to switch so he can post it right here. But I used to fuck them heels up, but I was. We used to love wearing them like pencil black skirts white skirts.
Speaker 2:Bitch, why is you in my closet cause? That was the picture that popped up, because listen.
Speaker 1:I spent freshman year at Central, first semester.
Speaker 2:Shout out to North Carolina Central University.
Speaker 1:My refund check was only $79.83.
Speaker 2:Why was your refund check that low?
Speaker 1:I didn't know how to finesse the system.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:All right they didn't get finessed. The same Like I'm not lying.
Speaker 2:Second semester when I finally I figured that shit out First semester real quick Made $2,500, came to that real quick yeah.
Speaker 3:But I spent that whole refund check at.
Speaker 1:Forever 21 for a club fee I bought. I still got the shirt. I still actually wear it. It's like mustard, yellow and cream collared shirt but like like a lot silky but, but like it's like business casual shirt niggas.
Speaker 2:You know what used to be my store? What dots oh my god, I love that shit. Everything in there, because you know I'm cheap. 12 shoes, because you know I got a long foot yes, oh my god, I miss that I'm gonna be like see y'all, I don't know. Okay, so that's just like. That's just like an upgraded rainbow might have taken over most of them yeah, that's right you know crazy.
Speaker 2:I drove. I drove down freedom the other day and saw city trends and it brought back so many memories because niggas used to go in there get their coochie fits on the on the apple bottom jeans. Oh god, go to city trains. Oh yeah, out of city. Oh, they got moomoos in city trains. Oh, I love moomoos. I need a moomoos.
Speaker 1:We need a moomoos night listen, a moomoos night would be be. I think I can host that.
Speaker 2:I can host a moo moo night. I gotta do that we could have a moo moo night. Y'all, I got me one. You whisper that you say tell mom, they can't know my secrets. Listen, shout out to the business casual era. We bringing that shit back. We about to bring that shit back cause I'm tired of you, bitches with your ass cheeks out to the business casual era. We bringing that shit back. We about to bring that shit back because I'm tired of you, bitches with your ass cheeks out in the club.
Speaker 1:Your booty coming to your back.
Speaker 2:It's ashy, it's ashy as hell, because how you coming to the club with ashy, booty cheeks. I'm tired of that. Put the business casual back on. You know what I'm saying? Thought number two how come every time you bitches go to Miami, y'all don't come back friends? What's up with that? What the fuck be happening in Miami? Y'all don't come back friends? Every time I went to Miami, I was at Miami, me and my bitches. They never fall out of Miami. But I say this because I literally got on Facebook, instagram yesterday and this girl I follow she put me on close friends had a whole story time about her and four friends that went to Miami. Two came back friends, other two fall and then the other one found out they were sleeping with the boyfriend. Like it was just crazy. Oh god, what is up with the water in miami that y'all not coming back friends? And this is why niggas be talking about us. That's why they talk about us all the time.
Speaker 1:Honestly, miami not even the same vibe. No more, they didn't shut everything down like it's not a spring spring break vacation destination for young people. No more, don't go down there, you're gonna waste your money and your time.
Speaker 2:It's not what you see, no more, I don't know. Sprint, Speak for yourself. I have a good time Every time I go to Miami.
Speaker 1:Shout out to my mama and cousin I mean, yeah but I'm saying for like the people that think they're going to get like old school Miami.
Speaker 2:All the people on the strip like they don't do that no more. I think that's.
Speaker 4:Y'all in Miami looking for the hoochie daddies.
Speaker 2:See, all right, you know what? Well, I go to Miami, I go down there. I go down there and be a wholesome. I go down there and be a wholesome to see my family go to church. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, because you know my family down there. Shout out to all my cousins we having a family reunion next year actually. So I'm excited to go Miami for the family reunion. You know I got 10 aunts and uncles, so all them niggas have like 10 kids a piece Dang.
Speaker 3:There's a bunch of us out there for real.
Speaker 2:You know I'm about to be lit, but every time I go to Miami I be telling people when you go to South Beach, you kind of limit yourself to South Beach. Everything out there, overpriced, it's not cool. But if you go out there with people that you know or people that's familiar with the city, you go outside of south beach and you have fun. So, like when I go down there, I stay with my aunts and my cousins and them. So I'm in north miami, I'm in hialeah, I'm in opelika, I'm in the hood and stuff, and in the hood they be having good shit. For instance, the office.
Speaker 2:If you ever been to miami, you ain't never been to the office. The strip club, man, crab and rice and ass and pussy that that's all you can ask for. You know they show pussy out in Miami. You can see the postpartum, you can see all that. They show them all. You just be in there like this yeah, you gotta go outside South Beach. So go outside South Beach, hit up Now. Don't go everywhere, because you don't ask for yourself. In North Miami at 1 o'clock in the morning, you on your own, because that's where Kodak people be at. You know what I'm saying. So you're on your own after that, oh God. Thought number three, and it goes back to what we were talking about today, and it's a quote. Actually, the most disrespected person in the world is the black woman. The most neglected person in the world is the black woman.
Speaker 4:The most unprotected person in the world is the why do y'all feel that way, though I don't know why, because why can't it? Before you answer like, yeah, why do you feel that way? But who's to say it's not the Mexican woman, the Arab woman? How do we know it's the black woman?
Speaker 2:This is a quote by one of the greats. Shout out to Malcolm X. This is a quote by one of the greats and the reason why he gave this quote is because at that time, in that world, in that time and place, the black woman was so disrespected and he said it was so disrespected by even people of their own race Because black women are on the front lines. If you think about it now and I'm going to say this and people may disagree with me Every time you see some shit happening on the front lines, it's always a black person, a black woman, headlining and planning it. It is what it is. We are planners, black. It is what it is. We are planners, black women. We are naturally planners, we're naturally leaders.
Speaker 2:Now, black men y'all are naturally the strength and backbone behind anything, and it is a quote that said behind every gray black man is a gray black woman that is planning that shit. So there's no disrespect to any black men or black anything. I can't speak to other races. That's not my race, I don't give a fuck, so I can't speak to that, but I do know in this point in time, black women are disrespected.
Speaker 2:We are the highest number of sex trafficked women the highest number of abused women and rapists, and you look this up anytime black women go, there's a higher number of missing black women. And it's not because I'm not saying it's because of black men anything. It's because we are not cared for, we're not protected by the powers that are supposed to protect us and I I'm going to blame white men, white men and women. We're not protected. You know what I'm saying, so shout out to Malcolm X. That's a quote that resonates to this day. You know, now, again, like I had to get on CEO the other time I'm not going to generalize, because not all people like that we got people that protect us.
Speaker 4:For instance, the black men in this room love us every week, so I can never say it's not y'all everybody not like y'all.
Speaker 2:So I gotta say that too. But I do get what you're saying, like the, the higher ups don't see. I know what you mean, I know what you mean. I got you. So here's to protect the black woman, here's to loving black woman, here's to nurturing black women, here's to creating more black women to make sure that we are good as a whole. So I've had to put that up. I don't know. That quote been sitting on my heart this week. I gotta get us right. Quote number four I said this the other week Bojangles really don't fail to fuck off. Let me tell y'all.
Speaker 1:Why Say that?
Speaker 2:I went to the Bojangles on sunset y'all Sunset. Okay, I'm going to meet a Supreme Combo Y'all, supreme Combo. It was 4 o'clock in the afternoon. I just left from work. I was hot as hell. The kids done pissed me off. I wanted me a four-piece with a dirty rice pinto mix and a fresh, light-skinned biscuit Y'all. First of all, the biscuit was dark and brown and I wasn't trying to be colorist, but I was colorist because I wanted a light skinned biscuit right. Then the fries. The fries was the only thing that probably was hitting, which was fine. But then, you know, sometimes you got the one person at BoJack's that like to over season your fries, so I choked every time I took a fry down.
Speaker 2:Then my chicken tenders, boy. Three was cooked and one was chewy. Yes, and you know that's how you feel in your mouth, oh my God, and I was so pissed off I threw that box out the window. I got my money back, though, but I threw that box out the window and went to Popeye's, and you know what? I had a great meal. So shout out to fucking Popeye's. And I'm writing a letter to Mr Bob Jangles, Remember?
Speaker 2:that I'll tell you this you wasn't going to go no more, right, yeah, but don't go no more because they got roaches, what else? I said, yeah, I was doing DoorDash that one time and it was a roach that was crawling right there. She was looking at it. I was like yeah, I need this order. And she was just looking at it and I'm like she's not going to kill it.
Speaker 2:She just stared at it. She just stared at it and then she went to shout out to the Popeyes cause I've been alright. You know, when Bojangles fell off, when they let Jake DeLonge stop being the quarterback cause, when Jake DeLonge was the ambassador for Bojangles, that chick was fire they done.
Speaker 1:Went and got them. The AI people for the do-it-yourself take the orders, whatever her name is, bring back.
Speaker 2:Jake DeLonge, damn it, bryce. Y'all. You need to go and get your people together, get your chicken together, cause that shit is not it. Quote number five Thought number five y'all. Why does Sunday got to be the end of the week, right? Why can't Monday be the end of the week and we just start over on Tuesday? Does that make sense to y'all? I don't know it makes sense to me. I thought people thought friends Tuesday.
Speaker 1:I really thought Sunday was the beginning.
Speaker 4:I thought Saturday was the week. Yeah, I thought Sunday was the week. Sunday was the first day of the week.
Speaker 2:I don't think Sunday was the first day of the week. When you look on a calendar it says Sunday, monday, tuesday.
Speaker 4:Thursday, sunday, monday.
Speaker 2:I don't be paying attention like that. On my calendar I think Saturday is the end of the week and Sunday is the beginning of the week, and maybe it's just because I beef with Sundays so bad. I hate Sundays. Hey yo, but you'll be at borderline brunch, Not, not, I do, but I hate Sundays. Let me tell you why. I love God, I love the Lord, but I hate Sundays because I'm like, damn, it's the end of my break, you know, and I it go back to just. I don't think we. If you think about it, Think about it Around five o'clock in the afternoon you be like fuck. You be like fuck. You keep saying fuck like every hour. Fuck, you gotta set your alarm. Sundays are days where you usually go to the grocery store. You gotta do laundry. We can hear I'd be sad as hell on Sunday. It's crazy. You'd be good when you go to church, though. Get your chicken biscuit before church, but after church you'd be sad as hell Chicken biscuit.
Speaker 2:Chicken biscuit is sick. Last thought, Terrence's thought, and this is for all of y'all Don't take this offense. Stop sending your kids to summer camps without any deodorant on. Y'all kids be stank and I be trying to help them with baby wipes and stuff but it don't help. They be musty, Especially y'all older kids. Y'all need to teach y'all kids to put deodorant on. What happened to the um? What's the teenager deodorant? Teen swim or something? The little pink one? It's definitely not strong enough. They need something. They need that water, not working teen spirit.
Speaker 2:And listen. Stop teaching y'all boys to just spray x or cologne on top of the state, because it's like you got to take a shower then put the cologne on. You just can't put the cologne over state. Now you smell like ass and ax. It's crazy. Well, that's what the little boys like to wear. They like to wear ax and smell like ass cheeks. It's crazy. So I'm just sick of that. I'm sorry. Signed the Summer Camp Director. That's all for Terrace's thoughts today. God damn it. That's what pisses me off, because I smell it in my fucking nose. I'm weird. They be pissing me off for real. They just be stinking Axe Like. You get a whiff of smell. You're like, oh you know, right behind it. It just pisses me off. So, yeah, yeah, I think See y'all be wearing Axe, sometimes he be sitting here.
Speaker 3:I be smelling.
Speaker 2:No, I won't wear acts. He wear acts. You ain't got to lie you trying to lie on camera for your nigga.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he ain't got to lie, he wear acts yeah he watching?
Speaker 2:He definitely watching. The fans watching. Huh, he watching, yeah, he watching.
Speaker 3:I know that nigga probably talking shit, but he don't wear that.
Speaker 2:He flipping back from TikTok to Twitch. That's what he doing. I know that, nigga. Oh, yeah, you good, you safe, it's my turn. Welcome to your segment. It's your first segment. Yeah, you gotta have like an intro because since, like you know, hot top is with chubby and then ceo's like what would you do? And mine is like, well, mine is soft girl, soft girl hour it's soft girl yeah, oh, do it again.
Speaker 2:Okay, start already, do it again. No, soft girl hour. I immediately float into like pillows yes, go ahead, yeah, yeah, yeah, she was like this right now, but anyways, so I'm in my healing journey, you know I didn't start it.
Speaker 1:Um, you know, I don't really like to say this that much, but I'm in therapy now. We should be happy for that. Yes, we love that.
Speaker 2:Therapy. More black people need therapy, so we got to take some accountability to things. So I want to know we're going to go around, pass the mic. What is everybody's toxic trait? I'm not toxic.
Speaker 3:Everybody has a toxic trait. That's the point you got to take accountability.
Speaker 2:You got to take accountability. I am taking accountability. I'm not toxic Everybody got a toxic trait. I'm good with me. I could admit mine. I think I'm an overthinker and I overcomplicate a lot of shit and some things can be so simple if I just like, just do it, you know. But I need to break down, I need to have a formula, I need to have an itinerary, a schedule. I need to outline the budget. What's that sign? I'm a Leo.
Speaker 3:Okay, okay, I'm as.
Speaker 2:Leo, yeah, I'm working on it, though, with my therapist too therapist too.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah, I ain't got one yes, you do.
Speaker 2:That's as you think. You think you're right. That's what it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah. What the fuck you say back there, yeah what the fuck you say? Oh, yeah, yeah gospel lyrics is crazy, insane. Um I can admit, I self-sabotage sometimes.
Speaker 3:You do, I do like if I see a good thing.
Speaker 1:I highly doubt it and I'll be like, oh no, let me cut this off before I get hurt All right, I got a toxic trait.
Speaker 2:I knew you did Shut up. My toxic trait is that I think I have to be in control, and the reason why I have to be in control I think it goes back to I feel like I got to make shit perfect. It got to work the way I need it to work, because if it don't work, I feel like it's going to fail, and I said that yesterday because I'm on this period, I'm about to be worked up to 100 hours for summer camp, right, and it's because I don't know how to let go and let my leadership staff handle it. I trust them and I've trained them well. I've trained them very well. They know how I like things to go, but I don't know how to let go of and let it work for me.
Speaker 2:So I think that's my toxic trait I don't know how to let things go and let it work for me, and when that of relationships, it's like I always gotta have my hand in it. I can't just let it work for me. So that's my thing, I guess. Is that really toxic, though? Yeah, I think I'm still perfect. Mine is I give a thousand, a thousand, a thousand chances. You too nice I am, I'm a libra. Boundaries is the word of the summer, ladies Is that toxic, though Is that really toxic?
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, I'm going to get another one. I give the best advice, but I don't follow it. Oh, that's very toxic.
Speaker 3:Yes, it is Because I give advice.
Speaker 2:People have been to me all the time and I give them the best advice. You're helping somebody out and I give them the best advice.
Speaker 3:You're helping somebody else. There's nothing toxic about helping somebody else.
Speaker 2:I don't follow it myself. I go through the same shit myself but I don't follow it.
Speaker 3:How?
Speaker 2:is that toxic? It's toxic to her.
Speaker 3:Oh, we're not talking about toxic to our partner. No, no, no.
Speaker 2:There is not, we know you're toxic to your partner?
Speaker 3:Not at all.
Speaker 2:Toxic is not linear, toxic does not.
Speaker 1:Tune into the Red Flag Playbook on Sunday. We're going to get all into the different toxic If I jump over this table.
Speaker 2:how toxic is this going to be If I get over this table? Toxic does not just mean being toxic to your partner. You can be toxic to yourself.
Speaker 3:Hers is basically, she does not pour from her own cup.
Speaker 2:She's always pouring everybody cups but not her own. That's very toxic to herself. Toxic is not linear. Write that down Are y'all writing that down?
Speaker 3:Yeah, because y'all probably be taking notes today. Take notes.
Speaker 2:We learning man All right Nigga notes is crazy Polo.
Speaker 3:Nigga notes is all mental. I like that, though Nigga notes, niggas don't got, you know all those kids that used to come to school with one pen and paper in their paper and they pocket they hold their notebook them niggas.
Speaker 2:They have no book bags them niggas. So, yes, that that is toxic. Yeah, how did you come up? How did you? How did you come up with asking me if I'm toxic? Why did you ask that I feel attacked? That's because I'm trying to get out of my toxic ways. So I want to know everybody else toxic ways of how y'all gonna get out of that and accomplish.
Speaker 3:So wait let me flip it, let me flip it.
Speaker 2:What's something that? What's a toxic way that other people do that y'all don't like. Like what's a toxic way. Matter of fact, what's a toxic red flag to you? Please check out the Red Flag Playbook on Sundays on Holly Unique Radio Seven o'clock. In a person, in a person, just in a person.
Speaker 3:somebody does you a toxic like red flag, don't know how to communicate. Don't know how to communicate.
Speaker 2:I'm a very communicator and these niggas do not know how they don't at all.
Speaker 1:I think mine is taking taking trauma from old relationships out on me I'm not doing my own. I don't think do that don't take that out. I would never do some of this shit, that some of these people do so like don like, don't take it out on me. That's toxic to me.
Speaker 2:All right. So it's ladies night, you know. So I want to know what is everybody's definition Well, not everybody's, but the ladies' definition for what is a girl's girl to you? I hate that word. I hate it. Why do you hate that word? Because I think we coined this girls, girls thing as people do not be girls, girls, they don't be girls girls, they be mean girls.
Speaker 1:They definitely don't be girls. Girls, every girl.
Speaker 2:That's why I asked Every girl that you've heard her say that she's a girls girls. She's not a girls girls. She's not, she's not. I've never said that I'm a girls girls. But if you look, am I A girl's girl? I love women. I'm a girl's girl. I'm always protect women. Now, I won't hold women accountable because sometimes we be doing some fucked up shit and I know some fucked up bitches and I will cut your ass off and I will hold you accountable, but I'm a girl's girl. But most women who say that, yeah, I'm a girl's girl, the main ones.
Speaker 2:Me is hell. Me is hell. Passive, aggressive energy, secret animosity. You're not a girl's girl for real. A girl's girl is somebody that don't know how to speak that shit. You just love your friends, you show up. Showing up. Don't got to be. I got to be at your birthday dinner all the time, but I'm showing up to you in your hardest time you call me crying.
Speaker 3:I'm here for you. Yes, your most neediest time, that's a girl's girl.
Speaker 2:I'm here for you, yes, your most needed time. That's a girl's girl. That's why I hate that whole term, because these bitches don't be girl's girls for real, nope.
Speaker 3:No, they be mean girls.
Speaker 2:They be mean girls for real, until they meet a real. They think that bow in their head makes them a girl's girl. Thank you, they be mean girls. They be Look, look.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they be just nasty, she mean girl.
Speaker 2:until they meet a real mean girl, then I'm on your ass oh, you're mean.
Speaker 1:No bitch, I'm real.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I classify girls, girls someone who like is like genuinely cheering you on even when nobody's looking like supporting you that doesn't carry that jealous in like energy I guess, but, um, yeah, somebody that truly supports you. Yeah like, even if'all take a year, two years off, we come back, we still friends there ain't no lost love. That's, I think, what I can say to somebody.
Speaker 1:Even if you're not friends with that person.
Speaker 2:You ain't got to oh, I hope she fall down a well or some shit, you know. Congratulate her. Some of these bitches can fall down a well, but it's not like you know we just like we doing that for real, like we not doing that. When you said like a friend, that y'all follow up, I thought about my friend. Shout out to.
Speaker 3:Alex, that's not a girl's girl.
Speaker 2:That's yeah. Shout out to my friend Alex. We've been best friends since fifth grade. We like are just that's my best friend. But sometimes we go like like a month without talking and I know when it's like that is because either I'm busy or she just really busy. But when we like get back together, like literally, literally. I ain't seen her in like a month. We went to Boilea brunch, Was out there lit. I want to ask, Like we used to. You know what I'm saying. So that's the type of friendships I like like. I don't like that you have to. Some friends make you feel like some girlfriends make you feel like you gotta talk to them every day, and that puts so much stress on me. I can't do that. I can't do that like. See, I had a friend like that. I can't do that. It's stressful for me and C don't talk every day, but when we key like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I don't even talk to y'all every day, but we come back on Wednesdays and Thursdays like how long I've been doing y'all? My whole entire life for real like yeah, so yeah, yeah, that girls, girl thing that's. I mean listen, I hate that oh, next Wednesday.
Speaker 1:Sorry to cut you off, don't forget, we have another live show Cookout Style.
Speaker 3:That's not Wednesday, that's.
Speaker 1:Thursday, I mean next Thursday.
Speaker 3:Lord Between you and. Ceo with the.
Speaker 1:February, it's free. Bring your own lawn chair or your blanket, however you want to sit down.
Speaker 3:Bring your girls' girls.
Speaker 1:Bring your crew. We're going to have food. Des is going to be bartending. Where is it going to be?
Speaker 2:Out here in the backyard, so listen, I don't know if you can see, but you see on that screen right there, I see that.
Speaker 3:The one right in the middle. The one right in the middle. Oh, what a white thing.
Speaker 2:Now you see the white thing. It's a stage back there, oh nice.
Speaker 3:So, polo, so graciously, you know, we're going to have food. I'm hoping to get a hookah vendor.
Speaker 2:I got a lead on a hookah vendor. We're going to have hookahs out there. Probably it's going to be fire. I done already got it. I ain't going to lie. Now, one thing about me and I'm stabbing on this, you're going to agree. I keep bad bitches around me Every time, every time.
Speaker 3:I work for them, but she gonna keep a bad bitch around her. I vouch.
Speaker 2:Oh my God you know me and Swish argue like old people for real. But he right though, you know what I'm saying. I keep a bad bitch around me, so the hoochies popping out I got the homegirls popping out Like you know what I'm saying. So, fellas, it's free entry. Come meet the love of your life. You never know, terrence might do her single train out there. That would be lit, okay Talk about it.
Speaker 3:We got to bring it back. Yeah, we got to do it.
Speaker 1:We got to bring my single train back. Yeah, we got to go through our two cents, because if not, because my man, we being CEO, we is being CEO, oh no.
Speaker 3:That's great.
Speaker 4:You know what you can't see, fuck.
Speaker 2:I feel right, dog, you know how I feel when you see this chair. Hey, yeah, it's that chair, though. It's that chair it ain't got to be that chair.
Speaker 3:You feel it though? Right, I'm going back, I'm going to that chair. That's why I be looking at you. That's why I be looking at you every Thank you.
Speaker 2:Go ahead, friend. Go ahead, I'm weak. Okay, so this is not like a question or nothing, but we got to start pouring ourselves into like you know how, nobody else pours ourselves into ourselves, like doing the smallest things.
Speaker 2:That's what my therapist told me. She told me to start doing small things for myself that you expect for a man to do. So when a man sees you, he's like, oh, she's doing this. You know what's your favorite small thing to do for yourself? I used to buy flowers for myself, but I haven't done that in a while, so I think tomorrow I'm gonna buy myself some flowers, because you deserve those flowers, friend. I do what's your favorite small things to do for yourselves. I enjoy a good spa day. Yeah, professional massage, so that's something I like to treat myself I have not gotten a massage in so long.
Speaker 2:I think I might set that shit up. I got somebody for you.
Speaker 1:I know somebody too.
Speaker 2:I know a man he got you butt ass naked, so wait, wait.
Speaker 3:You said a massage, he had you wet butt ass naked whatever way it's there to be, let me holler at you after the show Let me holler at you. Y'all saw that man man Charlie Mobile. I don't know if y'all saw that man on.
Speaker 2:Twitter he be giving massages, but he be like All of it. Yeah, we'll talk about it. That's for real, baby. Look at you turn around so fucking quick. What's your favorite small things?
Speaker 1:friend. This is my surprise y'all and y'all might think this corny. Oh God, going to get ice cream from Dairy Queen.
Speaker 2:I love that for you actually Okay, like a blizzard or Like just whatever, what's your Dairy Queen order? Oh, usually a banana split blizzard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what's your Dairy Queen order? Oh, usually a banana split, blizzard.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll have that for you.
Speaker 1:That's like my little treat. Like if I'm having a good day or if I feel like I accomplished a lot or if I'm celebrating something, I'm like you know what? I'm going to go get me some ice cream. I'm going to go Dairy Queen, I like that. Get a little blizzard. I might sit outside by myself, eat it. That's my little treat. That's some good small things. I don't think I got one.
Speaker 2:Y'all you don't do anything for yourself, Right? You know what it is. I really don't do enough for myself. You cook, I don't. I do cook, but when I cook, I don't cook for myself. Y'all know when I be cooking. Y'all be seeing me on Instagram. Cooking is always for other people. That's two weeks. I'm tired of Mexican cheese. I don't be cooking. You know what it is when I do small things for myself, like what you said when you thought you had a good day. I'm literally on a video game. I'm playing Call of Duty. That's probably the small truth myself, Because any other time I don't have time to do it. So I was on there the other day. One thing about me I one Is the soft girl era, a rebrand for women who are tired of being hurt. Oh shit, when the fuck you get that question from? I don't think so, my best friend.
Speaker 3:That's just what females scream when they're tired of holding, when they're tired of being that tired.
Speaker 2:I don't get that.
Speaker 3:I was a whole bus check it out I mean, I didn't go whole bus so you need to be busing. I'm doing this episode without you about to piss us off?
Speaker 2:No for real Like shut up, Shut up.
Speaker 1:Boom. I don't think it's a rebrand for girls that are hurt. I think it's a rebrand for girls that are tired of being strong Talk about it and not being because they want to be or they have to like.
Speaker 1:They want to be being strong because they have to be like. They are the ones providing, they are the ones taking care of business. They have all these responsibilities. So I feel like stepping into their soft career is like for most women they might associate it with a man, some might not, but whatever that looks like for you, it's just like you tired of being looked at as having this some say unsay masculine energy, because you're so strong and independent.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can agree with that. Yeah, I think soft girl era is lucky, like what you said. I think at first people took it as like a rebrand of a wife air. But it's not a wife. It's like you said, because some women don't aspire to be a wife. But it's not a wife era. It's like you said, because some women don't aspire to be a wife. They want to aspire to have a great career, successful. Make sure they're creating foundations for themselves.
Speaker 2:For me, soft girl era I think I'm entering in that era because, like I said, I've established a career. Now I own my house, I own my car and stuff. I own things. The next part, I think think, is the software is a two-parter, because now the next part is to finding somebody that matches that. That keeps you in that area, to where you're continuously building yourself, continuously like building a foundation. So I think that's what it means. I think it's also a different meaning to everybody. So some people's soccer era is a wifey year, you know, and they feel like they can get taken care of and stuff like that. Some people's not like that, but it's not for women that are tired of being hoes, ronald, right fuck Ronald, he be saying the dumbest shit.
Speaker 3:Stupid as hell like he's talking back there that's funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah, wow, are you in soft gray area? See, I'm getting there, I love that for you.
Speaker 3:I've been leave me alone, she and her limbo. What era is this?
Speaker 1:she and her slapping nigga, I'm about to slap the fuck out of you.
Speaker 3:I'm just curious we supposed to be learning?
Speaker 2:right, I'm trying to learn what era this is so let me ask you what era are you in? Swish it's about y'all tonight.
Speaker 3:It ain't about me. It ain't about me tonight, so let me ask you what era are you in? Swish, it's about y'all tonight. It ain't about me. It ain't about me.
Speaker 2:tonight. I'm on my healing journey, trying to heal from past trauma, past anger, now anger that I'm trying to get rid of and, you know, just trying to be a soft girl instead of being so masculine, dominant all the time.
Speaker 1:Okay, and that's real, though to be a soft girl instead of being so masculine dominant all the time.
Speaker 2:Okay, and that's real, though, for real, that's real. What's masculine dominant, though?
Speaker 3:What is masculine dominant, y'all know what it is.
Speaker 1:Okay. So masculine energy is basically. It's not what you think it is. Everybody's definition is different, but to me, masculine energy is having to always be strong, having to do everything. You depend only on yourself. You get up every day. You're not used to somebody even getting the bags for you and taking them upstairs because you're so used to doing it. That's masculine energy. So soft girl era on the reverse side of that is like now. Reverse is like now I'm just a girl like you know, like you can carry my bags. I can't do this. It's like taking that. I don't want to say like gender or sexist rollback, but in a sense like I'm a girl Like you, the man You're supposed to be the provider, like you're supposed to, you know.
Speaker 3:I don't know how to react to that. So you have to be in a relationship to be in a soft girl area, or can you be in a soft girl area I?
Speaker 2:don't know necessarily. That's what we were just saying. It doesn't necessarily.
Speaker 2:Healing is soft girl area, yeah you don't necessarily got to be in a relationship, I feel said, when you're in that masculine energy. I probably have been in that since 16. My dad died at 16. At 18 my mom got sick and died like seven years after. But in between that seven years I was her main caretaker. She couldn't speak, couldn't move out the bed.
Speaker 2:It was just me and a nurse, right, and my brother, so I was getting up taking care of stuff. This was all at 19, 20, 21, 22, 23. So I didn't have that era where I could just go to college and be free and be soft and just live a life. I had to get up and pay bills and shit, right. So now I'm in the era where, yes, I'm still doing that, but I'm comfortable enough to where I can go sparge myself or I can go take care of myself. I can go sit in the park and read a book, I can go be soft and not having to worry about taking care of shit. And I think different life events put you in that masculine energy in that era. That's not that soft career. So no, it doesn't necessarily have to. Again, like Cyn said, it doesn't got to base everything. Everything's not based off of a man. It could just be where you are in life, right as far as that.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and start doing small things for yourself. Yeah, so Absolutely, and start doing small dance videos. So again, now that we've answered, what are you in?
Speaker 3:Tossy, I'm chilling.
Speaker 2:The good dad era.
Speaker 3:Just be the good daddy, that's all.
Speaker 2:Okay, that sounds good. That's it. I'm good daddy. That's it. I'm Swish. Are you a daddy or are you a father?
Speaker 3:I'm a father, a daddy a holiday, a granddaddy holiday granddaddy, granddaddy emphasis on the granddaddy with the clothes.
Speaker 1:Nah, for real nigga might be emphasis on granddaddy's. So listen, we have again the beautiful host of hoe busters podcast busting these hoes one day at a time.
Speaker 2:Copyright that tagline, copyright that tagline.
Speaker 1:So for the, viewers that you know may be new to your platform or never heard of Ho Busters. Can you just kind of give them a brief synopsis of how you even got into it and what exactly Ho Busters podcast is all about?
Speaker 2:and I'll wait for you to tell a specific story. I can't wait for you to tell me either. Okay, so I am recently divorced. I was with my ex-husband for 19 years and we met. I was with my ex-husband for 19 years and we met when I was 18. So it was just a fucked up relationship, to be honest, I don't even know a nice way to say it and in these last few months it's been even worse. Like trying to co-parent with this man has been hell, but anyway. So my ex was a compulsive liar, compulsive cheater. It was just impossible after a while to just get him to be on the same page. I felt like I had to do everything. I felt like the nigga in the relationship. I'm the one making the money, I'm carrying responsibilities, I'm doing everything. That nigga was a homosexual and I didn't even understand until I stepped out of it like wow, he was really just here to get the benefits and I realized a lot of men are doing that.
Speaker 2:Relationships too, so when I my ex-husband you know I mentioned to y'all was basically in love with his first girlfriend and kept her on the line for about the full length of our relationship. So one of the final times I confronted him with like you know here, y'all still dealing with each other, y'all still sneaking, y'all still dealing with each other, y'all still sneaking around, y'all still doing this I'm sick of this shit. I want a divorce. And it was like you know, you're the fucking hoe buster. I'm sick and tired of you in my face trying to bust me with these hoes. Like you know, you need to get out. Get out my business, give me some privacy. Like that's what we doing, sure? Um, so I kind of held on to the name because I've just never heard anyone use that word before like never, I mean it's. So it was just funny to me, like this name is hilarious.
Speaker 2:I trademarked the name and honestly, um, you know, I spent years trying to help him get his own podcast off the ground. He was into like vintage stuff and sports. We're real smart into history and things like that but I just don't think he had the confidence to get out and actually do this, put himself out there on social media or in front of the camera and talk to people, or it just was all me. So, behind the scenes, I'm doing everything, I'm running his little business, I'm running the website, I'm doing everything, and I'm like not doing shit for myself, wow. But when I finally had the strength to walk away and leave him, um, like I told you, my whole world opened up. It was just so many things that started happening and since I still had all the equipment and macbooks and microphones, I'm like let me just do something. Like let me just tell my story, let me talk about what I've been through, because in that one year journey I've had the podcast. It's amazing how many women had the same story.
Speaker 2:like I feel like you know what my shit wasn't even all that fucking bad because when I hear some of these other women's stories and how these men were choking them out and physically abusive or like draining their bank accounts or taking their cars and wrecking, like just doing all kinds of off the wall shit.
Speaker 2:I'm like you know my shit was bad but, wow, there's so many more women and I'm not gonna even like discount the men who've been through this shit too, because it's a lot of men who experienced dealing with some hoes out here too. Um, but that was just kind of like you know what it was a wake up call for me, like find my voice, work on building up my confidence, work on, you know, reconnecting with all the people he tried to separate me from or triangulate me. You know, have me in these situations. Um know, it's been awesome, it's been really dope and meeting y'all ladies and having y'all come on board, share some of y'all hoe busting stories, because y'all y'all had some interesting situations and right I uh listen, hope because let me tell you something about these niggas.
Speaker 2:Okay, y'all not let me tell you about these. It's, it's, so many stories, oh God. That's the reason why me and C came up with the Red Flag Playbook, because we got so many stories. I think on your podcast we talked about your whole busting story. We didn't even get into your whole busting story.
Speaker 3:We sure didn't.
Speaker 2:We ran out of time, we were supposed to talk about boot cuts and um boot cuts and jeans and shacks and listen. And after I left your show I got into another situation and we call him pissy ass mattress. So no, I just listen. Your show is perfect for women but, like you said, because you know, tiktok love to say, I hate men for real. It's perfect for men too, because these women be having fucked up ass stories too.
Speaker 3:They do I mean, I've had some these women be fucked up too.
Speaker 2:You might need to invite Ronald on your show.
Speaker 3:How many hoes you got?
Speaker 2:I'm going to bust some hoes, hey yo. I do like to have the male perspective, though, because it's really fun and, like I said, I don't think we realize how much they go through too. It's not always just us. We be like, hey niggas, ain't shit, yeah, but it's a lot of bitches, ain't shit too. Really, though, yeah, I mean yeah.
Speaker 3:I'm scarred, I'm scarred. Thanks Now.
Speaker 1:I believe it.
Speaker 2:Because some of Some of these women.
Speaker 3:They treacherous. I'm ready to tell my story.
Speaker 2:What story you? Got, please tell us a good whole busting story. You got one now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, come on, ronald, tell us one now Real quick. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:So y'all done, met my bro.
Speaker 3:Kilo before.
Speaker 2:Yes, we have met Kilo. Yes, we have.
Speaker 3:So you know how niggas do you feel me? When they meet a girl, they like, they like bragging on today to their homeboy. You feel me like yeah, I just met this joint, we've been kicking it, uh, uh. He's like oh word, what's her name? I tell her, tell her, tell him her name. And then he like uh, I'm like yeah. And then he showed me the facebook. What.
Speaker 2:What's the name?
Speaker 3:I ain't even gonna do it like that. Y'all had to usher in.
Speaker 2:What's the same girl? Y'all had the same girl.
Speaker 3:The initials was in B. The initials was in B. Wow, that's crazy. And then, yeah, she was Did y'all ever confront her. I confronted her that day.
Speaker 2:Okay, he gave me the gold he he gave me the gold he was like Look, I don't even care. Do your thing.
Speaker 3:What you say, i'ma tell you how Dialabolical these girls, females, is. I confronted her About it right what you say? And she talk about something I ain't gonna fuck the nigga. Oh, she kept it peaked yeah like she like. So what, what, what's up, what?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I did it. What what, hey yo.
Speaker 3:I took a bag. I took a bag. I know you did, I know you did I love that gangster shit. She can't be gangster. Three-piece Tinder. This was years ago, though. This was years ago, you were Tinder One hoe buster. That's one of them. I got plenty more.
Speaker 2:I got too many of them. Yeah, we've all got some stories for sure.
Speaker 1:Nah, I definitely got some stories Tell us about a time you had to bust some hoes. Talk about the referee.
Speaker 2:Why we gotta talk about that nigga. Yeah, talk about the referee. I didn't hear that story. We talked about it on the podcast it was uh it was what'd you do Was it the $600.
Speaker 1:The referee you got a $600, so you gave your boyfriend a $600 for the tooth.
Speaker 2:That was you. I never knew. Look, now I need to at least hear a quick. You know a little. I'm going to do a quick thing because I never knew that was you, you, stupid as hell, go ahead Tell her the story. No, no, stupid. Oh my God, what you do. Okay, so the ref. Where am I at the ref at?
Speaker 3:I don't know where I'm at. I don't remember where I'm at.
Speaker 1:I don't remember. I was talking to this ref guy for a good three months.
Speaker 2:He still lived with his baby mom. He'll be like are we not together? She's out the state because she a traveling nurse. Red flag he laughs up.
Speaker 1:You know that's bullshit.
Speaker 2:Switch TikTok. Yeah that shit gone. He laughed because that's some shit he would do for real, alright so traveling that's crazy.
Speaker 1:So he would ask me, you know, for money and stuff for like food.
Speaker 2:I'm like you ain't got no food in me. I'm nice, I'm a Libra. I gave him some money, you know. So then we went to this. Y'all know where y'all gamble at the spots the gaming spots.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I went there with my second mom and he was there. I had to tell him to come, so we just started laughing and his teeth fall out, like he was just like that was you, oh my god, no, 36, oh my god, asking me for me now I'm 24.
Speaker 2:That's your fucking problem, these niggas be.
Speaker 3:Wait.
Speaker 2:Y'all so irritated Anyways.
Speaker 1:Y'all lying, but hey, Robin Dang these hoes be not bothering.
Speaker 2:Shut up Swish Anyways.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, the T-fold of that is crazy Okay what else happened.
Speaker 2:So then he was like see.
Speaker 1:this is why I need $600 for my T so.
Speaker 2:So I'm like dang and I thought my boot cut was crazy. I was cracking the fuck up and then, and then I'll be like, then I'll like uh I'll try to go to his house.
Speaker 1:He's like, nah, nah, you can't come to my house because the baby mama living right, yeah. But I was like, but ain't she out of town? He's like she just came back last night, oh God.
Speaker 2:She living there with that man that never got no fucking teeth.
Speaker 1:He said she's in the military. No, no, she said that we ain't getting military bro, she making no money to get that nigga $600.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah, I'm looking at you so different. Don't do that. I never knew that was you. Listen, that was before the time that I'm in. Now I'm in a good relationship.
Speaker 3:I feel good.
Speaker 2:He got his teeth. You know he got his teeth. He always cheeses on the fucking camera.
Speaker 3:Do we know?
Speaker 2:that nigga got all his teeth. Listen, that's very important. I remember talking to somebody not talking to, but had them on my show and we got the most of the interview and didn't realize that a lot of his top teeth were missing.
Speaker 3:Wow. I was like Because he had a good way of like talking and keeping like that. It wasn't even like that.
Speaker 2:It wasn't even like that and we were talking about being in a poly relationship.
Speaker 3:He be poly with no teeth. I ain't no teeth, I ain't gonna lie. We're not even talking about poly relationships. I hate poly relationships.
Speaker 2:It's always the ugly niggas that want to be poly for you Listen? I couldn't believe it. I mean we were talking and he had a really sad. He came on, you know, giving his negative experience dealing with a narcissistic woman who, like, cheated on him and then went off with the girlfriend and moved out you ain't got no teeth.
Speaker 3:Teeth fell out from eating too much pussy. He's in a party relationship. Teeth fell out from eating too much pussy Back and forth. I can't.
Speaker 2:I can't, I just don't understand at these young ages how that's my whole thing Were you on drugs or what? Happened how are you missing? I don't know. Teeth are very important to me.
Speaker 1:Wow, that would have been it for me too, baby.
Speaker 2:Honestly, you took the cake because I thought good, jeans and shacks were crazy, but that, right there, we're not going to bring up that shit. That shit still triggers me to this day. I kind of want. That's just crazy. We're not going to bring up pictures of that shirt Because that shit still triggers me to this day, because that nigga popped up on my phone. I kind of want to hear, maybe later. I mean, we talked about it on the podcast. I was Come on, man, real quick, real quick, real quick.
Speaker 3:You know just a quick little story.
Speaker 2:I'm so ashamed dating this guy this after our podcast with you I started dating that okay and I I was really liked him. It was a weekend where he was getting introduced to my friends and family. Okay, again did a game night and people know any of the folks at my house is full of alcohol. We get lit. You know what I'm saying. So that was his test on hanging with my friends because my friends the whole day with her okay my brother best friend came.
Speaker 2:My big sister came in and she's a drinker bourbon whiskey and she started testing him. She was like, yeah, I drink this and that, and he thought he would keep up with her. Oh, boy, okay he started taking whiskey shots and bourbon shots, knowing that we had took tequila shots before that. So he got real drunk and you know I was like, yeah, just go ahead and lay down, you know it's 1 o'clock. The party was not winding down, but it was like cool, let's go ahead. And lay down.
Speaker 2:He was spending the weekend, so lay down, I'm still partying with my friends until like 2, 3 o'clock in the morning. I go get in the bed, I clean everything up, wash my face, everything. I go get in the bed. You know, I know he's asleep because he's drunk, so he snores. I'm just like laying here right, fall asleep. It's like 5 in the morning and I don't know why I woke up. I woke up for some reason and I felt the bottom of my back wet, but I thought it was like. I thought it was me, though.
Speaker 2:I thought it was me because one like we talked about earlier one of my symptoms when I be like about to be on my, I have night sweats when I'm about to go on my period. So I thought it was me. So I'm like damn, I'm saying to myself. And then I'm like, let me get up. So I get up and something, tell me to turn the light on. Oh my god, I turn the lamp on and I realize it's not me. I look over this man so drunk he forgot to get up to go to the bathroom oh my god and peed in the bed y'all.
Speaker 2:How old again. That's crazy. This is a man that is 28, 29.
Speaker 3:Oh Lord.
Speaker 2:So I look, y'all know me, first of all, everybody here know me. I crashed out easy right. So I'm standing there at the bed like this, hands clasped, and I'm looking cause I don't know if I want to like flip the mattress with the nigga. Oh, so I'm like, so as I do that I don't even like, you know, I go handle my shit and go to the bathroom, calm down. I come back, I tap this man, I say hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. And he looking at me, I said listen, I want you to look at my fucking mattress. And he look y'all, I, I kid y'all, not I low-key, felt bad because that man was low-key in tears because he embarrassed my mattress. He was in tears, in tears. So he got up and you know how people do. They be trying to fix shit. They be just doing shit to try to fix shit. You know, block here, block there. I'm still standing there like this. I'm like, look, don't even worry about it, just go. You know he was staying with me because he didn't live in Charlotte, lived in Raleigh. So I was like, look, just go out there, take a shower in the bathroom. Like, let me figure this out. So as he walked out.
Speaker 2:I'm looking at my mattress y'all. I'm looking at my mattress. I'm like, bro, this is a nice ass bed. I paid a lot for that fucking mattress. I'm looking at it so pissed Because y'all know like with kids being in bed, you know you got to get rid of the mattress. There's no keeping that shit out of the way. No, there's not. So at this point I'm just like pissed.
Speaker 2:The man pissed in the mattress. He was shamed. We had to go to a that couldn't even look at him, and all my friends and family know it's something wrong because I'm not even looking at this nigga. And then you stuck with him for the weekend. He had one more day with me. Ah and yo. We didn't sleep in that PCS mattress. I slept in a guest bedroom. He slept on that damn couch and I was worried about my fucking couch Because you know I don't know what. You know what I'm saying. I was worried about my fucking couch Because you know I don't know what you're saying. I'm worried about my fucking couch, right? So more. I mean he did pay for a new mattress. He sent me $900 to get a new mattress.
Speaker 3:He paid $900.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that mattress I had was like I ain't going to lie, it was like a $1,200 mattress. Yeah, that was back when I first bought it, but I similar mattress that was like 900 or whatever.
Speaker 3:So I bought a 900 mattress, because that was about to be my next question.
Speaker 2:He better have a place. Yeah, he did. He did send me money for he sent me money for the mattress on monday. He left sunday. He said it monday, um, but after that I just could never look at him the same and we just started arguing after that like little shit pissed me off.
Speaker 2:Little shit pissed me off and after that it was just, was just like but people told me like some men was like. You know, you gotta be understanding when you drunk like that. I've never met a person that can't hold their liquor, can't get up and go to the bathroom, right?
Speaker 3:I'm gonna at least pee before I go to bed at this age.
Speaker 2:No, I'm gonna pee in the bed. You think you can pee in the bed? You pee in the bed. Swish, I pee. I have never met and I don't know about y'all ladies, but I just ain't never met a man that couldn't hold his pee and get up and go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2:I have never, at least pee before you go in the bed, like you know what I'm saying, but you so drunk you couldn't hold your liquor and that that honestly, to me that was a some baggage. Anyway, he used to watch the podcast all the time and I think after that episode I talked about the first time he was talking shit on Twitter. He was talking shit. He's going to probably talk shit again now that I talked about it again.
Speaker 4:He was known as Pissy McPister. I had to have a woman peed in my bed. She was the same shit, but the woman. I was pissed.
Speaker 2:That's why I said I'm not mad at it, because, men, if a woman did that to you too, I still would be pissed as a human, pissing in the mattress as a grown ass person, right unless you got medical conditions you say yes yeah, like eventually I kind of brought it up, but I kind of just faded out.
Speaker 4:It was like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:But after that, Like everything was nitpicking and I felt bad. But after that I just couldn't look at him to say like everything he did pissed me off. We just kept arguing, I started bringing up other shit and we ended up like breaking up, not talking. I couldn't admit the real reason was because you pissed at my bed, because I felt like a. I got a whole bunch of stories. I ain't even told a story about the Jamaican man that nigga still got me in a choco.
Speaker 2:Y'all remember that. Remember how the Bullseye Woods a couple months ago, that nigga got me in a choco for real. We love coming on your podcast. I'm glad it was a great experience. The studio was interesting and great.
Speaker 3:It's like a treehouse and colorful and fun. I know right colorful and fun.
Speaker 2:I know right, that's the best way I could describe it as going up the steps and stuff. It's like a tree house. It's so fun. I think the gamer in me. The secret gamer in me was like oh my god, this is just too cool.
Speaker 3:And so you remember I walked in, I was like oh yeah, that's playstation.
Speaker 2:I told you we were talking about that podcast like weeks after that. That's why we had to try to get you on here for the longest.
Speaker 3:I know it's been rough.
Speaker 2:Six months ago it was. It was quite some time. Yeah, I think it was January, so that was a while ago. So I'm so happy you got to join us tonight, me too.
Speaker 3:I enjoy y'all ladies.
Speaker 2:I'm so happy you got to go on here and hang out. Oh yeah, man is here because he just yeah you got I always like to see y'all go back and forth, because I feel like you would shut him down.
Speaker 4:Stories too, yeah, he's the original hope bus to life from 1900 so, oh, lord, shout out to ceo man.
Speaker 2:Yes, as we wrap this up, y'all, next thursday, no advisory podcast, the cookout edition off the grid, off the grill. We are in the studio, but we in the backyard with it. You know what I'm saying. It's old family time, feel? You know, black people, we're going to throw a cookout for no reason at all and we just decided to do a cookout, all right, shout out to Polo, the Incredible Polo. We're going to be back there. Donald Swish, y'all get to meet Trap City. Y'all get to meet me. Y'all get to meet CEO. You get to see Des. Sleeves will be there. All the people that you hear behind the scenes. We will be there. You know what I'm saying. You get booze with Des. We got food by Slim. You know what I'm saying. Slim's out there bringing food. We might have a hookah vendor. Come out there and join us. We got music. Girls are going to be ass-trucking. We're going to have midgets, clowns oh, you know I'm throwing ass, the midgets.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, she said it.
Speaker 2:She don't throw no ass. I am. That's her first part. That's not her first part. She's not going to throw no ass. She's going to have her boots on the ground on the ground next week. We're not doing that shit, I'm definitely bringing my fan?
Speaker 3:No, we're not bringing my fan too, girl. Yes, so listen, y'all come out, y'all join us.
Speaker 2:We is a family affair. We outside, we're going to do our topics, but we're just going to do them live with crowd interactions. You know what I'm saying. We just want to see y'all in person and appreciate y'all and celebrate with y'all and off and keep the summer off right. We're going to have some more events during the summer and hopefully this can be a regular thing, if it goes well.
Speaker 1:So you know we got the baddies and the niggas coming out. Baddies and the niggas. No, no, no the baddies. Oh I say, save me two niggas.
Speaker 2:So, ladies, this is a challenge for you. Every lady that comes out, bring two niggas with you. Alright, all you ladies, if you come out, bring two niggas with you, not the man in the side. Yeah, because it's a summertime terrace, want to be cooked up by the winter. So, with that being said, it's your girl terrace, aka tio mclean, it's your girl trap, see it it's your girl death and it's your girl dairy, and that's no advisory podcast.
Speaker 2:y'all's most dangerous podcast and we out peace. I'm mad, we all did and we out Peace, thank you.
